Smoking relatives

[BabyBeauty]

I agree...stay at a hotel. I wouldn't chance a sick kid in the hospital! Think about the hospital bill compared to the hotel stay!

I am faced with the same situation in another week. We are going back home and my father has been a smoker for 35+ years. He hasn't smoked for 2 days now, but he is struggling. While I appreciate him quitting, if he smokes at all we are not going to stay with my family. My little girl's health is NUMBER 1, not my dads feelings.

 

[BabyBeauty]

I agree...stay at a hotel. I wouldn't chance a sick kid in the hospital! Think about the hospital bill compared to the hotel stay!

I am faced with the same situation in another week. We are going back home and my father has been a smoker for 35+ years. He hasn't smoked for 2 days now, but he is struggling. While I appreciate him quitting, if he smokes at all we are not going to stay with my family. My little girl's health is NUMBER 1, not my dads feelings.

 

[BabyBeauty]

I agree...stay at a hotel. I wouldn't chance a sick kid in the hospital! Think about the hospital bill compared to the hotel stay!

I am faced with the same situation in another week. We are going back home and my father has been a smoker for 35+ years. He hasn't smoked for 2 days now, but he is struggling. While I appreciate him quitting, if he smokes at all we are not going to stay with my family. My little girl's health is NUMBER 1, not my dads feelings.

 

[BabyBeauty]

I agree...stay at a hotel. I wouldn't chance a sick kid in the hospital! Think about the hospital bill compared to the hotel stay!

I am faced with the same situation in another week. We are going back home and my father has been a smoker for 35+ years. He hasn't smoked for 2 days now, but he is struggling. While I appreciate him quitting, if he smokes at all we are not going to stay with my family. My little girl's health is NUMBER 1, not my dads feelings.

 

[BabyBeauty]

I agree...stay at a hotel. I wouldn't chance a sick kid in the hospital! Think about the hospital bill compared to the hotel stay!
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<br />I am faced with the same situation in another week. We are going back home and my father has been a smoker for 35+ years. He hasn't smoked for 2 days now, but he is struggling. While I appreciate him quitting, if he smokes at all we are not going to stay with my family. My little girl's health is NUMBER 1, not my dads feelings.
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[TestifyToLove]

We went to a rodeo on Saturday and there were quite a few smokers present. I completely embarrassed Dh because I hunted down every single cigerette I smelled and politely asked the smokers to move far away from my kiddo. They all were more than willing to comply. But, there were at least 3 times I could smell cigarettes and could not identify where it was coming from.

Today is Monday evening and Micah is STILl rattling a big. Dh insistes it was probably the dust or maybe allergies. But, I disagree. I think it was the cigarettes. And, considering we JUST got him sprung from the hospital and had his cough under control, I am none to pleased that he's struggling to clear that stuff out still. I gave him extra vesting last night and its better today but still not where he was before the rodeo Saturday.

I would not find cigarette smoke to be at ALL acceptable to have my kiddo around. I've always hated it and tried to keep my kids protected from it. But, now that we have a child with CF, I'm rabid about it. I watched cigarette smoke nearly kill my brother when he was 7. He has severe asthma and spent days in the PICU on continous Albuterol after my dad thought a 'little' wouldn't hurt him.

Personally, I'd stay in a hotel and out of doors. If I were going to their house, I'd sit outside, and I'd definitely keep my kiddo outside. Or, I'd suggest we go to a state park or something to keep my kiddo away from the home. Even smokers who smoke outside have houses that reek of cigarette smoke. The smoking kills their sense of smell, and they are accustomed to the smell. I had 3 grandparents who smoked, and I loved each and every one of them. But, going to visit them was absolute torture. We had to re-wash all of our stuff when we got home. And, I learned at an early age to never take something really important to their houses, or I'd never get the smell out.

 

[TestifyToLove]

We went to a rodeo on Saturday and there were quite a few smokers present. I completely embarrassed Dh because I hunted down every single cigerette I smelled and politely asked the smokers to move far away from my kiddo. They all were more than willing to comply. But, there were at least 3 times I could smell cigarettes and could not identify where it was coming from.

Today is Monday evening and Micah is STILl rattling a big. Dh insistes it was probably the dust or maybe allergies. But, I disagree. I think it was the cigarettes. And, considering we JUST got him sprung from the hospital and had his cough under control, I am none to pleased that he's struggling to clear that stuff out still. I gave him extra vesting last night and its better today but still not where he was before the rodeo Saturday.

I would not find cigarette smoke to be at ALL acceptable to have my kiddo around. I've always hated it and tried to keep my kids protected from it. But, now that we have a child with CF, I'm rabid about it. I watched cigarette smoke nearly kill my brother when he was 7. He has severe asthma and spent days in the PICU on continous Albuterol after my dad thought a 'little' wouldn't hurt him.

Personally, I'd stay in a hotel and out of doors. If I were going to their house, I'd sit outside, and I'd definitely keep my kiddo outside. Or, I'd suggest we go to a state park or something to keep my kiddo away from the home. Even smokers who smoke outside have houses that reek of cigarette smoke. The smoking kills their sense of smell, and they are accustomed to the smell. I had 3 grandparents who smoked, and I loved each and every one of them. But, going to visit them was absolute torture. We had to re-wash all of our stuff when we got home. And, I learned at an early age to never take something really important to their houses, or I'd never get the smell out.

 

[TestifyToLove]

We went to a rodeo on Saturday and there were quite a few smokers present. I completely embarrassed Dh because I hunted down every single cigerette I smelled and politely asked the smokers to move far away from my kiddo. They all were more than willing to comply. But, there were at least 3 times I could smell cigarettes and could not identify where it was coming from.

Today is Monday evening and Micah is STILl rattling a big. Dh insistes it was probably the dust or maybe allergies. But, I disagree. I think it was the cigarettes. And, considering we JUST got him sprung from the hospital and had his cough under control, I am none to pleased that he's struggling to clear that stuff out still. I gave him extra vesting last night and its better today but still not where he was before the rodeo Saturday.

I would not find cigarette smoke to be at ALL acceptable to have my kiddo around. I've always hated it and tried to keep my kids protected from it. But, now that we have a child with CF, I'm rabid about it. I watched cigarette smoke nearly kill my brother when he was 7. He has severe asthma and spent days in the PICU on continous Albuterol after my dad thought a 'little' wouldn't hurt him.

Personally, I'd stay in a hotel and out of doors. If I were going to their house, I'd sit outside, and I'd definitely keep my kiddo outside. Or, I'd suggest we go to a state park or something to keep my kiddo away from the home. Even smokers who smoke outside have houses that reek of cigarette smoke. The smoking kills their sense of smell, and they are accustomed to the smell. I had 3 grandparents who smoked, and I loved each and every one of them. But, going to visit them was absolute torture. We had to re-wash all of our stuff when we got home. And, I learned at an early age to never take something really important to their houses, or I'd never get the smell out.

 

[TestifyToLove]

We went to a rodeo on Saturday and there were quite a few smokers present. I completely embarrassed Dh because I hunted down every single cigerette I smelled and politely asked the smokers to move far away from my kiddo. They all were more than willing to comply. But, there were at least 3 times I could smell cigarettes and could not identify where it was coming from.

Today is Monday evening and Micah is STILl rattling a big. Dh insistes it was probably the dust or maybe allergies. But, I disagree. I think it was the cigarettes. And, considering we JUST got him sprung from the hospital and had his cough under control, I am none to pleased that he's struggling to clear that stuff out still. I gave him extra vesting last night and its better today but still not where he was before the rodeo Saturday.

I would not find cigarette smoke to be at ALL acceptable to have my kiddo around. I've always hated it and tried to keep my kids protected from it. But, now that we have a child with CF, I'm rabid about it. I watched cigarette smoke nearly kill my brother when he was 7. He has severe asthma and spent days in the PICU on continous Albuterol after my dad thought a 'little' wouldn't hurt him.

Personally, I'd stay in a hotel and out of doors. If I were going to their house, I'd sit outside, and I'd definitely keep my kiddo outside. Or, I'd suggest we go to a state park or something to keep my kiddo away from the home. Even smokers who smoke outside have houses that reek of cigarette smoke. The smoking kills their sense of smell, and they are accustomed to the smell. I had 3 grandparents who smoked, and I loved each and every one of them. But, going to visit them was absolute torture. We had to re-wash all of our stuff when we got home. And, I learned at an early age to never take something really important to their houses, or I'd never get the smell out.

 

[TestifyToLove]

We went to a rodeo on Saturday and there were quite a few smokers present. I completely embarrassed Dh because I hunted down every single cigerette I smelled and politely asked the smokers to move far away from my kiddo. They all were more than willing to comply. But, there were at least 3 times I could smell cigarettes and could not identify where it was coming from.
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<br />Today is Monday evening and Micah is STILl rattling a big. Dh insistes it was probably the dust or maybe allergies. But, I disagree. I think it was the cigarettes. And, considering we JUST got him sprung from the hospital and had his cough under control, I am none to pleased that he's struggling to clear that stuff out still. I gave him extra vesting last night and its better today but still not where he was before the rodeo Saturday.
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<br />I would not find cigarette smoke to be at ALL acceptable to have my kiddo around. I've always hated it and tried to keep my kids protected from it. But, now that we have a child with CF, I'm rabid about it. I watched cigarette smoke nearly kill my brother when he was 7. He has severe asthma and spent days in the PICU on continous Albuterol after my dad thought a 'little' wouldn't hurt him.
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<br />Personally, I'd stay in a hotel and out of doors. If I were going to their house, I'd sit outside, and I'd definitely keep my kiddo outside. Or, I'd suggest we go to a state park or something to keep my kiddo away from the home. Even smokers who smoke outside have houses that reek of cigarette smoke. The smoking kills their sense of smell, and they are accustomed to the smell. I had 3 grandparents who smoked, and I loved each and every one of them. But, going to visit them was absolute torture. We had to re-wash all of our stuff when we got home. And, I learned at an early age to never take something really important to their houses, or I'd never get the smell out.

 

[fourkidsmom]

I agree stay in a hotel. My parents have both smoked for over 46 yrs and I lived with it all my life. I never knew how bad I smelled until I got out on my own. Now I can't stand to be around smoke. It gives me an instant headache and I feel really dirty. Yuck.... Anyways all of my family knows not to smoke around my son, but if you are staying at there house and they are not directly smoking in front of your child the smoke is still lingering. I am sure they will understand you staying in a hotel and like someone else posted your childs health is #1 not your families feelings.

Fourkidsmom

 

[fourkidsmom]

I agree stay in a hotel. My parents have both smoked for over 46 yrs and I lived with it all my life. I never knew how bad I smelled until I got out on my own. Now I can't stand to be around smoke. It gives me an instant headache and I feel really dirty. Yuck.... Anyways all of my family knows not to smoke around my son, but if you are staying at there house and they are not directly smoking in front of your child the smoke is still lingering. I am sure they will understand you staying in a hotel and like someone else posted your childs health is #1 not your families feelings.

Fourkidsmom

 

[fourkidsmom]

I agree stay in a hotel. My parents have both smoked for over 46 yrs and I lived with it all my life. I never knew how bad I smelled until I got out on my own. Now I can't stand to be around smoke. It gives me an instant headache and I feel really dirty. Yuck.... Anyways all of my family knows not to smoke around my son, but if you are staying at there house and they are not directly smoking in front of your child the smoke is still lingering. I am sure they will understand you staying in a hotel and like someone else posted your childs health is #1 not your families feelings.

Fourkidsmom

 

[fourkidsmom]

I agree stay in a hotel. My parents have both smoked for over 46 yrs and I lived with it all my life. I never knew how bad I smelled until I got out on my own. Now I can't stand to be around smoke. It gives me an instant headache and I feel really dirty. Yuck.... Anyways all of my family knows not to smoke around my son, but if you are staying at there house and they are not directly smoking in front of your child the smoke is still lingering. I am sure they will understand you staying in a hotel and like someone else posted your childs health is #1 not your families feelings.

Fourkidsmom

 

[fourkidsmom]

I agree stay in a hotel. My parents have both smoked for over 46 yrs and I lived with it all my life. I never knew how bad I smelled until I got out on my own. Now I can't stand to be around smoke. It gives me an instant headache and I feel really dirty. Yuck.... Anyways all of my family knows not to smoke around my son, but if you are staying at there house and they are not directly smoking in front of your child the smoke is still lingering. I am sure they will understand you staying in a hotel and like someone else posted your childs health is #1 not your families feelings.
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<br />Fourkidsmom

 

[LisaV]

This was a real source of difficulty in my late husband's family where some people smoked and some did not.

My take on it is a bit different than others. I looked into it and scientifically there is a real difference between smoke particles in the air that can actually hurt someone's lungs and the residual smell. I think it's best to draw the distinction yourself if you can. (I add if you can because some people who are anti-smoking cannot, any smell of smoke just causes them to freak out even if the smell itself is not harmful.)

The rule we found the most useful when a CFer (or anyone with a lung disease) was visiting the house of a smoker was NO (and I mean NO) smoking for 2 hours before someone with CF arrives in the house (and house aired out for that 2 hour period) and NO smoking in the house (anywhere) while the CFer is there. People can smoke outside far away from the house (where the smoke won't work its way back to the CFer) if they have too. This is also true for other things that cause smoke - like no lit fireplaces and barbecues (not anywhere the CFer will be breathing).

Insisting that the house not smell of any smoke at all is just asking for turmoil. There is no chance that a smoker's house will be odor free (just as there is no chance that the house of someone who eats boiled cabbage every day will be free of a cabage smell). Do your darndest to stay logical and scientific when you are making your requests. When you start complaining about odor rather than particles you come across as an overly emotional fanatic and the whole thing just becomes some darned control issue ("If you really loved the CFer you would quit smoking entirely) that is unnecessary if you are just trying to keep relationships between the CFer and smoking family members who do not see the CFer frequently at all.

Or, of course, you could just write off any family member who smokes and "divorce" your family from them.

 

[LisaV]

This was a real source of difficulty in my late husband's family where some people smoked and some did not.

My take on it is a bit different than others. I looked into it and scientifically there is a real difference between smoke particles in the air that can actually hurt someone's lungs and the residual smell. I think it's best to draw the distinction yourself if you can. (I add if you can because some people who are anti-smoking cannot, any smell of smoke just causes them to freak out even if the smell itself is not harmful.)

The rule we found the most useful when a CFer (or anyone with a lung disease) was visiting the house of a smoker was NO (and I mean NO) smoking for 2 hours before someone with CF arrives in the house (and house aired out for that 2 hour period) and NO smoking in the house (anywhere) while the CFer is there. People can smoke outside far away from the house (where the smoke won't work its way back to the CFer) if they have too. This is also true for other things that cause smoke - like no lit fireplaces and barbecues (not anywhere the CFer will be breathing).

Insisting that the house not smell of any smoke at all is just asking for turmoil. There is no chance that a smoker's house will be odor free (just as there is no chance that the house of someone who eats boiled cabbage every day will be free of a cabage smell). Do your darndest to stay logical and scientific when you are making your requests. When you start complaining about odor rather than particles you come across as an overly emotional fanatic and the whole thing just becomes some darned control issue ("If you really loved the CFer you would quit smoking entirely) that is unnecessary if you are just trying to keep relationships between the CFer and smoking family members who do not see the CFer frequently at all.

Or, of course, you could just write off any family member who smokes and "divorce" your family from them.

 

[LisaV]

This was a real source of difficulty in my late husband's family where some people smoked and some did not.

My take on it is a bit different than others. I looked into it and scientifically there is a real difference between smoke particles in the air that can actually hurt someone's lungs and the residual smell. I think it's best to draw the distinction yourself if you can. (I add if you can because some people who are anti-smoking cannot, any smell of smoke just causes them to freak out even if the smell itself is not harmful.)

The rule we found the most useful when a CFer (or anyone with a lung disease) was visiting the house of a smoker was NO (and I mean NO) smoking for 2 hours before someone with CF arrives in the house (and house aired out for that 2 hour period) and NO smoking in the house (anywhere) while the CFer is there. People can smoke outside far away from the house (where the smoke won't work its way back to the CFer) if they have too. This is also true for other things that cause smoke - like no lit fireplaces and barbecues (not anywhere the CFer will be breathing).

Insisting that the house not smell of any smoke at all is just asking for turmoil. There is no chance that a smoker's house will be odor free (just as there is no chance that the house of someone who eats boiled cabbage every day will be free of a cabage smell). Do your darndest to stay logical and scientific when you are making your requests. When you start complaining about odor rather than particles you come across as an overly emotional fanatic and the whole thing just becomes some darned control issue ("If you really loved the CFer you would quit smoking entirely) that is unnecessary if you are just trying to keep relationships between the CFer and smoking family members who do not see the CFer frequently at all.

Or, of course, you could just write off any family member who smokes and "divorce" your family from them.

 

[LisaV]

This was a real source of difficulty in my late husband's family where some people smoked and some did not.

My take on it is a bit different than others. I looked into it and scientifically there is a real difference between smoke particles in the air that can actually hurt someone's lungs and the residual smell. I think it's best to draw the distinction yourself if you can. (I add if you can because some people who are anti-smoking cannot, any smell of smoke just causes them to freak out even if the smell itself is not harmful.)

The rule we found the most useful when a CFer (or anyone with a lung disease) was visiting the house of a smoker was NO (and I mean NO) smoking for 2 hours before someone with CF arrives in the house (and house aired out for that 2 hour period) and NO smoking in the house (anywhere) while the CFer is there. People can smoke outside far away from the house (where the smoke won't work its way back to the CFer) if they have too. This is also true for other things that cause smoke - like no lit fireplaces and barbecues (not anywhere the CFer will be breathing).

Insisting that the house not smell of any smoke at all is just asking for turmoil. There is no chance that a smoker's house will be odor free (just as there is no chance that the house of someone who eats boiled cabbage every day will be free of a cabage smell). Do your darndest to stay logical and scientific when you are making your requests. When you start complaining about odor rather than particles you come across as an overly emotional fanatic and the whole thing just becomes some darned control issue ("If you really loved the CFer you would quit smoking entirely) that is unnecessary if you are just trying to keep relationships between the CFer and smoking family members who do not see the CFer frequently at all.

Or, of course, you could just write off any family member who smokes and "divorce" your family from them.

 

[LisaV]

This was a real source of difficulty in my late husband's family where some people smoked and some did not.
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<br />My take on it is a bit different than others. I looked into it and scientifically there is a real difference between smoke particles in the air that can actually hurt someone's lungs and the residual smell. I think it's best to draw the distinction yourself if you can. (I add if you can because some people who are anti-smoking cannot, any smell of smoke just causes them to freak out even if the smell itself is not harmful.)
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<br />The rule we found the most useful when a CFer (or anyone with a lung disease) was visiting the house of a smoker was NO (and I mean NO) smoking for 2 hours before someone with CF arrives in the house (and house aired out for that 2 hour period) and NO smoking in the house (anywhere) while the CFer is there. People can smoke outside far away from the house (where the smoke won't work its way back to the CFer) if they have too. This is also true for other things that cause smoke - like no lit fireplaces and barbecues (not anywhere the CFer will be breathing).
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<br />Insisting that the house not smell of any smoke at all is just asking for turmoil. There is no chance that a smoker's house will be odor free (just as there is no chance that the house of someone who eats boiled cabbage every day will be free of a cabage smell). Do your darndest to stay logical and scientific when you are making your requests. When you start complaining about odor rather than particles you come across as an overly emotional fanatic and the whole thing just becomes some darned control issue ("If you really loved the CFer you would quit smoking entirely) that is unnecessary if you are just trying to keep relationships between the CFer and smoking family members who do not see the CFer frequently at all.
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<br />Or, of course, you could just write off any family member who smokes and "divorce" your family from them.