I dont know if my story will help you at all with the present circumstances, but at least you know you arent alone.
I was diagnosed at 7. I grew up not being pushed to do my treatments etc because I was on "borrowed time". I was a wild child LOL! At age 15 I hooked up with an a guy 7 years older. I fell "in love" and we were going to get married. We partied & had a lot of sex. I got extremely sick during this 2 year period.
It tore my parents hearts. Between the worrying about the late nights, my health & just the general stuff it was rough. I remember at one point when my hemoptysis kicked in. It was after a night of partying with this guy. I was hugging our toilet coughing up blood & my Mother said....FINE. Marry the guy. I give you permission then this is all his problem. I felt devistated. That is when it kind of hit me that I was being stupid. It didnt hit me enough to stop seeing him tho.
Now my parents could have gotten him for statutory rape easily, but they were afraid of alienating me. Of course...looking back I wish they would have done so. It wasnt until my Dad had his massive stroke that I realized this had to stop.
I broke up with the guy (tho he "stalked" me still) and was hoping my Dad had enough wits to understand me when I told him about our split up while in the hospital. Dad died a few months later. This guy showed up the morning of his death to pay his respect. I literally attacked the guy.
I was so pissed at him for taking such precious time away from ME and my Dad. I still didnt do my treatments etc until AFTER my daughter was born. I did go to the hospital for admits then came home & continued doing my thing etc over the years.
During the time that I was seeing this guy & destroying my health.....I can say that the more my parents bitched or became strict regarding things. The more I rebelled which is why they eased up. As I said they didnt want to alienate me. BUT all they had to do was throw his a$$ in jail.
I do agree that much of what she is doing is to hurt YOU. If you can control your reactions, emotions etc then she is more likely to come around. Just present it that its HERSELF she is hurting. Say no more, no less!
Otherwise just pray. If you arent a one who prays then hope for the best.
Sadly it just comes down to that. If there is no recourse or legal action to force her to into help then I dont know what else to tell you except they call it "Tough Love" for a reason.
HUGS to you and we are here to listen!
I was diagnosed at 7. I grew up not being pushed to do my treatments etc because I was on "borrowed time". I was a wild child LOL! At age 15 I hooked up with an a guy 7 years older. I fell "in love" and we were going to get married. We partied & had a lot of sex. I got extremely sick during this 2 year period.
It tore my parents hearts. Between the worrying about the late nights, my health & just the general stuff it was rough. I remember at one point when my hemoptysis kicked in. It was after a night of partying with this guy. I was hugging our toilet coughing up blood & my Mother said....FINE. Marry the guy. I give you permission then this is all his problem. I felt devistated. That is when it kind of hit me that I was being stupid. It didnt hit me enough to stop seeing him tho.
Now my parents could have gotten him for statutory rape easily, but they were afraid of alienating me. Of course...looking back I wish they would have done so. It wasnt until my Dad had his massive stroke that I realized this had to stop.
I broke up with the guy (tho he "stalked" me still) and was hoping my Dad had enough wits to understand me when I told him about our split up while in the hospital. Dad died a few months later. This guy showed up the morning of his death to pay his respect. I literally attacked the guy.
I was so pissed at him for taking such precious time away from ME and my Dad. I still didnt do my treatments etc until AFTER my daughter was born. I did go to the hospital for admits then came home & continued doing my thing etc over the years.
During the time that I was seeing this guy & destroying my health.....I can say that the more my parents bitched or became strict regarding things. The more I rebelled which is why they eased up. As I said they didnt want to alienate me. BUT all they had to do was throw his a$$ in jail.
I do agree that much of what she is doing is to hurt YOU. If you can control your reactions, emotions etc then she is more likely to come around. Just present it that its HERSELF she is hurting. Say no more, no less!
Otherwise just pray. If you arent a one who prays then hope for the best.
Sadly it just comes down to that. If there is no recourse or legal action to force her to into help then I dont know what else to tell you except they call it "Tough Love" for a reason.
HUGS to you and we are here to listen!