THE CALL

fondreflections · Oct 13, 2008

We received a call last Tuesday for a 3 and 4 year old boys sibling group. We said, 'yes'.

Well, things are going absolutely terrible...They had previously been kicked out of 4 daycares so we knew beforehand that their behaviors surely weren't the best...

Well, the placement has been a nightmare...Neither listen at all for anything. My house has had more things broken in the past week then since the year we have been living here. Not to mention the fact, that the 3-year-old bits, kicks, and punches my everytime I try to place him in the corner for his misbehavior. It takes all my strength to get him in the corner...

So here I sit absolutely miserable...I have a fever of 101F along with a cough and major sore throat. I have also lost about 5 pounds because trying to eat is nearly impossible. Both my boxer and shih tzu are growling and ready to attack with either one of just upon entering the room because they are either tired of being chased or kicked...

This experience is a complete nightmare...I am crying all the time and completely overwhelmed. I also had 3 massive nosebleeds since last Wednesday...

All I ever wanted was to be a Mommy...Why is THAT so hard???

fondreflections · Oct 13, 2008

We received a call last Tuesday for a 3 and 4 year old boys sibling group. We said, 'yes'.

Well, things are going absolutely terrible...They had previously been kicked out of 4 daycares so we knew beforehand that their behaviors surely weren't the best...

Well, the placement has been a nightmare...Neither listen at all for anything. My house has had more things broken in the past week then since the year we have been living here. Not to mention the fact, that the 3-year-old bits, kicks, and punches my everytime I try to place him in the corner for his misbehavior. It takes all my strength to get him in the corner...

So here I sit absolutely miserable...I have a fever of 101F along with a cough and major sore throat. I have also lost about 5 pounds because trying to eat is nearly impossible. Both my boxer and shih tzu are growling and ready to attack with either one of just upon entering the room because they are either tired of being chased or kicked...

This experience is a complete nightmare...I am crying all the time and completely overwhelmed. I also had 3 massive nosebleeds since last Wednesday...

All I ever wanted was to be a Mommy...Why is THAT so hard???

fondreflections · Oct 13, 2008

We received a call last Tuesday for a 3 and 4 year old boys sibling group. We said, 'yes'.

Well, things are going absolutely terrible...They had previously been kicked out of 4 daycares so we knew beforehand that their behaviors surely weren't the best...

Well, the placement has been a nightmare...Neither listen at all for anything. My house has had more things broken in the past week then since the year we have been living here. Not to mention the fact, that the 3-year-old bits, kicks, and punches my everytime I try to place him in the corner for his misbehavior. It takes all my strength to get him in the corner...

So here I sit absolutely miserable...I have a fever of 101F along with a cough and major sore throat. I have also lost about 5 pounds because trying to eat is nearly impossible. Both my boxer and shih tzu are growling and ready to attack with either one of just upon entering the room because they are either tired of being chased or kicked...

This experience is a complete nightmare...I am crying all the time and completely overwhelmed. I also had 3 massive nosebleeds since last Wednesday...

All I ever wanted was to be a Mommy...Why is THAT so hard???

fondreflections · Oct 13, 2008

We received a call last Tuesday for a 3 and 4 year old boys sibling group. We said, 'yes'.

Well, things are going absolutely terrible...They had previously been kicked out of 4 daycares so we knew beforehand that their behaviors surely weren't the best...

Well, the placement has been a nightmare...Neither listen at all for anything. My house has had more things broken in the past week then since the year we have been living here. Not to mention the fact, that the 3-year-old bits, kicks, and punches my everytime I try to place him in the corner for his misbehavior. It takes all my strength to get him in the corner...

So here I sit absolutely miserable...I have a fever of 101F along with a cough and major sore throat. I have also lost about 5 pounds because trying to eat is nearly impossible. Both my boxer and shih tzu are growling and ready to attack with either one of just upon entering the room because they are either tired of being chased or kicked...

This experience is a complete nightmare...I am crying all the time and completely overwhelmed. I also had 3 massive nosebleeds since last Wednesday...

All I ever wanted was to be a Mommy...Why is THAT so hard???

fondreflections · Oct 13, 2008

We received a call last Tuesday for a 3 and 4 year old boys sibling group. We said, 'yes'.
 
 Well, things are going absolutely terrible...They had previously been kicked out of 4 daycares so we knew beforehand that their behaviors surely weren't the best...
 
 Well, the placement has been a nightmare...Neither listen at all for anything. My house has had more things broken in the past week then since the year we have been living here. Not to mention the fact, that the 3-year-old bits, kicks, and punches my everytime I try to place him in the corner for his misbehavior. It takes all my strength to get him in the corner...
 
 So here I sit absolutely miserable...I have a fever of 101F along with a cough and major sore throat. I have also lost about 5 pounds because trying to eat is nearly impossible. Both my boxer and shih tzu are growling and ready to attack with either one of just upon entering the room because they are either tired of being chased or kicked...
 
 This experience is a complete nightmare...I am crying all the time and completely overwhelmed. I also had 3 massive nosebleeds since last Wednesday...
 
 All I ever wanted was to be a Mommy...Why is THAT so hard???

JazzysMom · Oct 13, 2008

I AM SO SORRY!

Sadly there are many kids like this. You knew it wouldnt be easy at times, but this sounds like its out of your ability zone.

You wont be much use to ANY kids if you get so worn out from trying. Just because you got the placement doesnt mean its the right one for you!

HUGS

JazzysMom · Oct 13, 2008

I AM SO SORRY!

Sadly there are many kids like this. You knew it wouldnt be easy at times, but this sounds like its out of your ability zone.

You wont be much use to ANY kids if you get so worn out from trying. Just because you got the placement doesnt mean its the right one for you!

HUGS

JazzysMom · Oct 13, 2008

I AM SO SORRY!

Sadly there are many kids like this. You knew it wouldnt be easy at times, but this sounds like its out of your ability zone.

You wont be much use to ANY kids if you get so worn out from trying. Just because you got the placement doesnt mean its the right one for you!

HUGS

JazzysMom · Oct 13, 2008

I AM SO SORRY!

Sadly there are many kids like this. You knew it wouldnt be easy at times, but this sounds like its out of your ability zone.

You wont be much use to ANY kids if you get so worn out from trying. Just because you got the placement doesnt mean its the right one for you!

HUGS

JazzysMom · Oct 13, 2008

I AM SO SORRY!
 
 Sadly there are many kids like this. You knew it wouldnt be easy at times, but this sounds like its out of your ability zone.
 
 You wont be much use to ANY kids if you get so worn out from trying. Just because you got the placement doesnt mean its the right one for you!
 
 HUGS

just1more · Oct 13, 2008

I'm so sorry to hear this. <img src="i/expressions/hugging.gif" border="0">

There are some really screwed up kids out there, and it looks like your social worker took advantage of you. These two boys needed a home with exprience not only in parenting, but in older foster kids with behavioral issues. This is a unique skill-set that is hard to get 'on-the-job'.

This is not a reflection on you or your ability to parent; simply put these boys need more than you are able to give, there is no shame in that.

I know you don't want to hear this but you need to call the social worker and ask them to come get them. Your health and the wellbeing of your home/family is not worth the price. If God intends you to have a family, there is one out there for you, but from the sounds of it these 2 are not it. And, I doubt social worker will hold it against you since they are probably waiting for your call.

just1more · Oct 13, 2008

I'm so sorry to hear this. <img src="i/expressions/hugging.gif" border="0">

There are some really screwed up kids out there, and it looks like your social worker took advantage of you. These two boys needed a home with exprience not only in parenting, but in older foster kids with behavioral issues. This is a unique skill-set that is hard to get 'on-the-job'.

This is not a reflection on you or your ability to parent; simply put these boys need more than you are able to give, there is no shame in that.

I know you don't want to hear this but you need to call the social worker and ask them to come get them. Your health and the wellbeing of your home/family is not worth the price. If God intends you to have a family, there is one out there for you, but from the sounds of it these 2 are not it. And, I doubt social worker will hold it against you since they are probably waiting for your call.

just1more · Oct 13, 2008

I'm so sorry to hear this. <img src="i/expressions/hugging.gif" border="0">

There are some really screwed up kids out there, and it looks like your social worker took advantage of you. These two boys needed a home with exprience not only in parenting, but in older foster kids with behavioral issues. This is a unique skill-set that is hard to get 'on-the-job'.

This is not a reflection on you or your ability to parent; simply put these boys need more than you are able to give, there is no shame in that.

I know you don't want to hear this but you need to call the social worker and ask them to come get them. Your health and the wellbeing of your home/family is not worth the price. If God intends you to have a family, there is one out there for you, but from the sounds of it these 2 are not it. And, I doubt social worker will hold it against you since they are probably waiting for your call.

just1more · Oct 13, 2008

I'm so sorry to hear this. <img src="i/expressions/hugging.gif" border="0">

There are some really screwed up kids out there, and it looks like your social worker took advantage of you. These two boys needed a home with exprience not only in parenting, but in older foster kids with behavioral issues. This is a unique skill-set that is hard to get 'on-the-job'.

This is not a reflection on you or your ability to parent; simply put these boys need more than you are able to give, there is no shame in that.

I know you don't want to hear this but you need to call the social worker and ask them to come get them. Your health and the wellbeing of your home/family is not worth the price. If God intends you to have a family, there is one out there for you, but from the sounds of it these 2 are not it. And, I doubt social worker will hold it against you since they are probably waiting for your call.

just1more · Oct 13, 2008

I'm so sorry to hear this. <img src="i/expressions/hugging.gif" border="0">
 
 There are some really screwed up kids out there, and it looks like your social worker took advantage of you. These two boys needed a home with exprience not only in parenting, but in older foster kids with behavioral issues. This is a unique skill-set that is hard to get 'on-the-job'.
 
 This is not a reflection on you or your ability to parent; simply put these boys need more than you are able to give, there is no shame in that.
 
 I know you don't want to hear this but you need to call the social worker and ask them to come get them. Your health and the wellbeing of your home/family is not worth the price. If God intends you to have a family, there is one out there for you, but from the sounds of it these 2 are not it. And, I doubt social worker will hold it against you since they are probably waiting for your call.

beleache · Oct 13, 2008