They just don't get it...

[MargaritaChic]

I got an email from a family member today that has me sitting here bawling.

While I was pregnant with Emma my cousin made a mural for my daughter on her bedroom wall. In the middle of this 'present' she asked me to promise that I would bring Emma to see our Grandma once a month for a year as 'payment' for the mural. She already had the mural half way done, so I agreed... what harm would it do? It would be good for my daughter to spend time with her Great-Grandma!


Then enters CF.


I did not take Emma out of the house much at all during the first few months of her life. I lived in alot of fear. And unfortunately we only made it over there once since Emma was born. We scheduled other time, but Grandma had colds etc. So it was not just my fault. But either way... I did not keep up my end of the bargain.

So my cousin sends me an email out of the blue about how I have not followed through. She says: "So - it's about who you want to be and what you want for your daughter and the planet. So - if you want to be someone who keeps her word, and if you want your daughter to know her great grandmother, then call the woman."

WTH? She has no idea what we are going through. I am doing the best I can each day for my daughter and to keep from losing my mind. It is not like I just decided I did not feel like visiting. I thought I was protecting my daughter.

Of course I know she can go out. I have started taking her out more and do plan on taking her to see Grandma more. I just needed some time.

Am I such a horrible person? <img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0">

 

[MargaritaChic]

I got an email from a family member today that has me sitting here bawling.

While I was pregnant with Emma my cousin made a mural for my daughter on her bedroom wall. In the middle of this 'present' she asked me to promise that I would bring Emma to see our Grandma once a month for a year as 'payment' for the mural. She already had the mural half way done, so I agreed... what harm would it do? It would be good for my daughter to spend time with her Great-Grandma!


Then enters CF.


I did not take Emma out of the house much at all during the first few months of her life. I lived in alot of fear. And unfortunately we only made it over there once since Emma was born. We scheduled other time, but Grandma had colds etc. So it was not just my fault. But either way... I did not keep up my end of the bargain.

So my cousin sends me an email out of the blue about how I have not followed through. She says: "So - it's about who you want to be and what you want for your daughter and the planet. So - if you want to be someone who keeps her word, and if you want your daughter to know her great grandmother, then call the woman."

WTH? She has no idea what we are going through. I am doing the best I can each day for my daughter and to keep from losing my mind. It is not like I just decided I did not feel like visiting. I thought I was protecting my daughter.

Of course I know she can go out. I have started taking her out more and do plan on taking her to see Grandma more. I just needed some time.

Am I such a horrible person? <img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0">

 

[MargaritaChic]

I got an email from a family member today that has me sitting here bawling.

While I was pregnant with Emma my cousin made a mural for my daughter on her bedroom wall. In the middle of this 'present' she asked me to promise that I would bring Emma to see our Grandma once a month for a year as 'payment' for the mural. She already had the mural half way done, so I agreed... what harm would it do? It would be good for my daughter to spend time with her Great-Grandma!


Then enters CF.


I did not take Emma out of the house much at all during the first few months of her life. I lived in alot of fear. And unfortunately we only made it over there once since Emma was born. We scheduled other time, but Grandma had colds etc. So it was not just my fault. But either way... I did not keep up my end of the bargain.

So my cousin sends me an email out of the blue about how I have not followed through. She says: "So - it's about who you want to be and what you want for your daughter and the planet. So - if you want to be someone who keeps her word, and if you want your daughter to know her great grandmother, then call the woman."

WTH? She has no idea what we are going through. I am doing the best I can each day for my daughter and to keep from losing my mind. It is not like I just decided I did not feel like visiting. I thought I was protecting my daughter.

Of course I know she can go out. I have started taking her out more and do plan on taking her to see Grandma more. I just needed some time.

Am I such a horrible person? <img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0">

 

[MargaritaChic]

I got an email from a family member today that has me sitting here bawling.

While I was pregnant with Emma my cousin made a mural for my daughter on her bedroom wall. In the middle of this 'present' she asked me to promise that I would bring Emma to see our Grandma once a month for a year as 'payment' for the mural. She already had the mural half way done, so I agreed... what harm would it do? It would be good for my daughter to spend time with her Great-Grandma!


Then enters CF.


I did not take Emma out of the house much at all during the first few months of her life. I lived in alot of fear. And unfortunately we only made it over there once since Emma was born. We scheduled other time, but Grandma had colds etc. So it was not just my fault. But either way... I did not keep up my end of the bargain.

So my cousin sends me an email out of the blue about how I have not followed through. She says: "So - it's about who you want to be and what you want for your daughter and the planet. So - if you want to be someone who keeps her word, and if you want your daughter to know her great grandmother, then call the woman."

WTH? She has no idea what we are going through. I am doing the best I can each day for my daughter and to keep from losing my mind. It is not like I just decided I did not feel like visiting. I thought I was protecting my daughter.

Of course I know she can go out. I have started taking her out more and do plan on taking her to see Grandma more. I just needed some time.

Am I such a horrible person? <img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0">

 

[MargaritaChic]

I got an email from a family member today that has me sitting here bawling.
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<br />While I was pregnant with Emma my cousin made a mural for my daughter on her bedroom wall. In the middle of this 'present' she asked me to promise that I would bring Emma to see our Grandma once a month for a year as 'payment' for the mural. She already had the mural half way done, so I agreed... what harm would it do? It would be good for my daughter to spend time with her Great-Grandma!
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<br />Then enters CF.
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<br />I did not take Emma out of the house much at all during the first few months of her life. I lived in alot of fear. And unfortunately we only made it over there once since Emma was born. We scheduled other time, but Grandma had colds etc. So it was not just my fault. But either way... I did not keep up my end of the bargain.
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<br />So my cousin sends me an email out of the blue about how I have not followed through. She says: "So - it's about who you want to be and what you want for your daughter and the planet. So - if you want to be someone who keeps her word, and if you want your daughter to know her great grandmother, then call the woman."
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<br />WTH? She has no idea what we are going through. I am doing the best I can each day for my daughter and to keep from losing my mind. It is not like I just decided I did not feel like visiting. I thought I was protecting my daughter.
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<br />Of course I know she can go out. I have started taking her out more and do plan on taking her to see Grandma more. I just needed some time.
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<br />Am I such a horrible person? <img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0">
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[ktsmom]

No, unless they have faced a challenge like CF in their lives, many people will not get it. We have some family members that don't get it, either. We endure snide comments and lots of attitude that is based on THEIR wants and needs, with NO IDEA what we go through on a daily basis.

I would say at about 6 months into this journey, you are doing so well, being extremely proactive about your daughter's health, gathering facts, etc. You are a very caring parent. Your family might not ever get on board with it. Has this particular cousin been over to see a day in the life (treatments, etc.)? Might be an eye-opener. Hugs!

 

[ktsmom]

No, unless they have faced a challenge like CF in their lives, many people will not get it. We have some family members that don't get it, either. We endure snide comments and lots of attitude that is based on THEIR wants and needs, with NO IDEA what we go through on a daily basis.

I would say at about 6 months into this journey, you are doing so well, being extremely proactive about your daughter's health, gathering facts, etc. You are a very caring parent. Your family might not ever get on board with it. Has this particular cousin been over to see a day in the life (treatments, etc.)? Might be an eye-opener. Hugs!

 

[ktsmom]

No, unless they have faced a challenge like CF in their lives, many people will not get it. We have some family members that don't get it, either. We endure snide comments and lots of attitude that is based on THEIR wants and needs, with NO IDEA what we go through on a daily basis.

I would say at about 6 months into this journey, you are doing so well, being extremely proactive about your daughter's health, gathering facts, etc. You are a very caring parent. Your family might not ever get on board with it. Has this particular cousin been over to see a day in the life (treatments, etc.)? Might be an eye-opener. Hugs!

 

[ktsmom]

No, unless they have faced a challenge like CF in their lives, many people will not get it. We have some family members that don't get it, either. We endure snide comments and lots of attitude that is based on THEIR wants and needs, with NO IDEA what we go through on a daily basis.

I would say at about 6 months into this journey, you are doing so well, being extremely proactive about your daughter's health, gathering facts, etc. You are a very caring parent. Your family might not ever get on board with it. Has this particular cousin been over to see a day in the life (treatments, etc.)? Might be an eye-opener. Hugs!

 

[ktsmom]

No, unless they have faced a challenge like CF in their lives, many people will not get it. We have some family members that don't get it, either. We endure snide comments and lots of attitude that is based on THEIR wants and needs, with NO IDEA what we go through on a daily basis.
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<br />I would say at about 6 months into this journey, you are doing so well, being extremely proactive about your daughter's health, gathering facts, etc. You are a very caring parent. Your family might not ever get on board with it. Has this particular cousin been over to see a day in the life (treatments, etc.)? Might be an eye-opener. Hugs!

 

[sdelorenzo]

Sometinmes unfortunately people just don't understand. Have you explained to her how and why you are trying to portect her?

Perhaps the cousin could babysit your daughter one evening and do cpt, etc. When we leave our kids with their grandparents for the weekend we usually get comments about they forget how time consuming their care is. They say it is a good reminder when they care for them about how hard it is to fit everything in.

Sharon, mom of Sophia, 6 and Jack, 4 both with cf

 

[sdelorenzo]

Sometinmes unfortunately people just don't understand. Have you explained to her how and why you are trying to portect her?

Perhaps the cousin could babysit your daughter one evening and do cpt, etc. When we leave our kids with their grandparents for the weekend we usually get comments about they forget how time consuming their care is. They say it is a good reminder when they care for them about how hard it is to fit everything in.

Sharon, mom of Sophia, 6 and Jack, 4 both with cf

 

[sdelorenzo]

Sometinmes unfortunately people just don't understand. Have you explained to her how and why you are trying to portect her?

Perhaps the cousin could babysit your daughter one evening and do cpt, etc. When we leave our kids with their grandparents for the weekend we usually get comments about they forget how time consuming their care is. They say it is a good reminder when they care for them about how hard it is to fit everything in.

Sharon, mom of Sophia, 6 and Jack, 4 both with cf

 

[sdelorenzo]

Sometinmes unfortunately people just don't understand. Have you explained to her how and why you are trying to portect her?

Perhaps the cousin could babysit your daughter one evening and do cpt, etc. When we leave our kids with their grandparents for the weekend we usually get comments about they forget how time consuming their care is. They say it is a good reminder when they care for them about how hard it is to fit everything in.

Sharon, mom of Sophia, 6 and Jack, 4 both with cf

 

[sdelorenzo]

Sometinmes unfortunately people just don't understand. Have you explained to her how and why you are trying to portect her?
<br />
<br />Perhaps the cousin could babysit your daughter one evening and do cpt, etc. When we leave our kids with their grandparents for the weekend we usually get comments about they forget how time consuming their care is. They say it is a good reminder when they care for them about how hard it is to fit everything in.
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<br />Sharon, mom of Sophia, 6 and Jack, 4 both with cf

 

[JazzysMom]

Sweety!

HUGS

She really has no idea what you are dealing with so its so easy for her to think you just backed out of your agreement. Good intentions happen a lot & then life gets in the way.

Do what you can when you can & no sooner just to please someone else. Everything falls into your lap...good & bad so dont worry...you are doing fine!

 

[JazzysMom]

Sweety!

HUGS

She really has no idea what you are dealing with so its so easy for her to think you just backed out of your agreement. Good intentions happen a lot & then life gets in the way.

Do what you can when you can & no sooner just to please someone else. Everything falls into your lap...good & bad so dont worry...you are doing fine!

 

[JazzysMom]

Sweety!

HUGS

She really has no idea what you are dealing with so its so easy for her to think you just backed out of your agreement. Good intentions happen a lot & then life gets in the way.

Do what you can when you can & no sooner just to please someone else. Everything falls into your lap...good & bad so dont worry...you are doing fine!

 

[JazzysMom]

Sweety!

HUGS

She really has no idea what you are dealing with so its so easy for her to think you just backed out of your agreement. Good intentions happen a lot & then life gets in the way.

Do what you can when you can & no sooner just to please someone else. Everything falls into your lap...good & bad so dont worry...you are doing fine!

 

[JazzysMom]

Sweety!
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<br />HUGS
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<br />She really has no idea what you are dealing with so its so easy for her to think you just backed out of your agreement. Good intentions happen a lot & then life gets in the way.
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<br />Do what you can when you can & no sooner just to please someone else. Everything falls into your lap...good & bad so dont worry...you are doing fine!