What do we say when asked about children

[Jennifer1981]

My husband (who doesn't have CF) says to other people that, "We are practicing". But we have been 'practicing' for 1.5 years...

He still says it, but for me it's more like, "We are unlikely able to have children naturally. We are looking into adoption in the near future." That shuts them up AND IS TRUE!!!

I know that people just don't understand, but it does get nerve-racking. As soon as you are married and in your mid-20s, you are EXPECTED to have children. Then since I look healthy, people don't have the slightest idea that I have CF.

 

[Jennifer1981]

My husband (who doesn't have CF) says to other people that, "We are practicing". But we have been 'practicing' for 1.5 years...

He still says it, but for me it's more like, "We are unlikely able to have children naturally. We are looking into adoption in the near future." That shuts them up AND IS TRUE!!!

I know that people just don't understand, but it does get nerve-racking. As soon as you are married and in your mid-20s, you are EXPECTED to have children. Then since I look healthy, people don't have the slightest idea that I have CF.

 

[Jennifer1981]

My husband (who doesn't have CF) says to other people that, "We are practicing". But we have been 'practicing' for 1.5 years...

He still says it, but for me it's more like, "We are unlikely able to have children naturally. We are looking into adoption in the near future." That shuts them up AND IS TRUE!!!

I know that people just don't understand, but it does get nerve-racking. As soon as you are married and in your mid-20s, you are EXPECTED to have children. Then since I look healthy, people don't have the slightest idea that I have CF.

 

[Jennifer1981]

My husband (who doesn't have CF) says to other people that, "We are practicing". But we have been 'practicing' for 1.5 years...

He still says it, but for me it's more like, "We are unlikely able to have children naturally. We are looking into adoption in the near future." That shuts them up AND IS TRUE!!!

I know that people just don't understand, but it does get nerve-racking. As soon as you are married and in your mid-20s, you are EXPECTED to have children. Then since I look healthy, people don't have the slightest idea that I have CF.

 

[Jennifer1981]

My husband (who doesn't have CF) says to other people that, "We are practicing". But we have been 'practicing' for 1.5 years...

He still says it, but for me it's more like, "We are unlikely able to have children naturally. We are looking into adoption in the near future." That shuts them up AND IS TRUE!!!

I know that people just don't understand, but it does get nerve-racking. As soon as you are married and in your mid-20s, you are EXPECTED to have children. Then since I look healthy, people don't have the slightest idea that I have CF.

 

[Jennifer1981]

My husband (who doesn't have CF) says to other people that, "We are practicing". But we have been 'practicing' for 1.5 years...

He still says it, but for me it's more like, "We are unlikely able to have children naturally. We are looking into adoption in the near future." That shuts them up AND IS TRUE!!!

I know that people just don't understand, but it does get nerve-racking. As soon as you are married and in your mid-20s, you are EXPECTED to have children. Then since I look healthy, people don't have the slightest idea that I have CF.

 

[Ratatosk]

I understand about the people who don't know about CF, and I'm willing to educate. I usually say, we've just decided one child is enough, especially because there's a good chance any other children we'd have would have cf also.

The people who've made comments to us or our 4-year old son know darned well and I'm flabbergasted that they would bring it up. It's almost spiteful, but I'm sure I'm just being overly sensitive about a few busy-bodies.

 

[Ratatosk]

I understand about the people who don't know about CF, and I'm willing to educate. I usually say, we've just decided one child is enough, especially because there's a good chance any other children we'd have would have cf also.

The people who've made comments to us or our 4-year old son know darned well and I'm flabbergasted that they would bring it up. It's almost spiteful, but I'm sure I'm just being overly sensitive about a few busy-bodies.

 

[Ratatosk]

I understand about the people who don't know about CF, and I'm willing to educate. I usually say, we've just decided one child is enough, especially because there's a good chance any other children we'd have would have cf also.

The people who've made comments to us or our 4-year old son know darned well and I'm flabbergasted that they would bring it up. It's almost spiteful, but I'm sure I'm just being overly sensitive about a few busy-bodies.

 

[Ratatosk]

I understand about the people who don't know about CF, and I'm willing to educate. I usually say, we've just decided one child is enough, especially because there's a good chance any other children we'd have would have cf also.

The people who've made comments to us or our 4-year old son know darned well and I'm flabbergasted that they would bring it up. It's almost spiteful, but I'm sure I'm just being overly sensitive about a few busy-bodies.

 

[Ratatosk]

I understand about the people who don't know about CF, and I'm willing to educate. I usually say, we've just decided one child is enough, especially because there's a good chance any other children we'd have would have cf also.

The people who've made comments to us or our 4-year old son know darned well and I'm flabbergasted that they would bring it up. It's almost spiteful, but I'm sure I'm just being overly sensitive about a few busy-bodies.

 

[Ratatosk]

I understand about the people who don't know about CF, and I'm willing to educate. I usually say, we've just decided one child is enough, especially because there's a good chance any other children we'd have would have cf also.

The people who've made comments to us or our 4-year old son know darned well and I'm flabbergasted that they would bring it up. It's almost spiteful, but I'm sure I'm just being overly sensitive about a few busy-bodies.

 

[AnD]

No, you're not being overly sensitive- it's the people who know who do that who are being overly <i>in</i>sensitive. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> I think that for those relatives, I would tell them that was inappropriate, your child has a very serious genetic condition, whether he looks like it or not, and if they have a comment about siblings for your child, please direct them to you, not him..

I told someone I didn't know (in reply to the stranger's question of "Are you going to have another one?") once that it took us 11 years of trying to have her- we're tired! LOL <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">

Kinda gives them the hint that they shouldn't pursue the question, and lets 'em laugh off any embarassment they may (and should!) have <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .

I have also said (to the same question) "Doesn't look like it." That shuts 'em up too. It's kind of an open to interpretation answer...

 

[AnD]

No, you're not being overly sensitive- it's the people who know who do that who are being overly <i>in</i>sensitive. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> I think that for those relatives, I would tell them that was inappropriate, your child has a very serious genetic condition, whether he looks like it or not, and if they have a comment about siblings for your child, please direct them to you, not him..

I told someone I didn't know (in reply to the stranger's question of "Are you going to have another one?") once that it took us 11 years of trying to have her- we're tired! LOL <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">

Kinda gives them the hint that they shouldn't pursue the question, and lets 'em laugh off any embarassment they may (and should!) have <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .

I have also said (to the same question) "Doesn't look like it." That shuts 'em up too. It's kind of an open to interpretation answer...

 

[AnD]

No, you're not being overly sensitive- it's the people who know who do that who are being overly <i>in</i>sensitive. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> I think that for those relatives, I would tell them that was inappropriate, your child has a very serious genetic condition, whether he looks like it or not, and if they have a comment about siblings for your child, please direct them to you, not him..

I told someone I didn't know (in reply to the stranger's question of "Are you going to have another one?") once that it took us 11 years of trying to have her- we're tired! LOL <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">

Kinda gives them the hint that they shouldn't pursue the question, and lets 'em laugh off any embarassment they may (and should!) have <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .

I have also said (to the same question) "Doesn't look like it." That shuts 'em up too. It's kind of an open to interpretation answer...

 

[AnD]

No, you're not being overly sensitive- it's the people who know who do that who are being overly <i>in</i>sensitive. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> I think that for those relatives, I would tell them that was inappropriate, your child has a very serious genetic condition, whether he looks like it or not, and if they have a comment about siblings for your child, please direct them to you, not him..

I told someone I didn't know (in reply to the stranger's question of "Are you going to have another one?") once that it took us 11 years of trying to have her- we're tired! LOL <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">

Kinda gives them the hint that they shouldn't pursue the question, and lets 'em laugh off any embarassment they may (and should!) have <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .

I have also said (to the same question) "Doesn't look like it." That shuts 'em up too. It's kind of an open to interpretation answer...

 

[AnD]

No, you're not being overly sensitive- it's the people who know who do that who are being overly <i>in</i>sensitive. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> I think that for those relatives, I would tell them that was inappropriate, your child has a very serious genetic condition, whether he looks like it or not, and if they have a comment about siblings for your child, please direct them to you, not him..

I told someone I didn't know (in reply to the stranger's question of "Are you going to have another one?") once that it took us 11 years of trying to have her- we're tired! LOL <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">

Kinda gives them the hint that they shouldn't pursue the question, and lets 'em laugh off any embarassment they may (and should!) have <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .

I have also said (to the same question) "Doesn't look like it." That shuts 'em up too. It's kind of an open to interpretation answer...

 

[AnD]

No, you're not being overly sensitive- it's the people who know who do that who are being overly <i>in</i>sensitive. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> I think that for those relatives, I would tell them that was inappropriate, your child has a very serious genetic condition, whether he looks like it or not, and if they have a comment about siblings for your child, please direct them to you, not him..

I told someone I didn't know (in reply to the stranger's question of "Are you going to have another one?") once that it took us 11 years of trying to have her- we're tired! LOL <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">

Kinda gives them the hint that they shouldn't pursue the question, and lets 'em laugh off any embarassment they may (and should!) have <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .

I have also said (to the same question) "Doesn't look like it." That shuts 'em up too. It's kind of an open to interpretation answer...