OK, i know im going to get a ton of different views from here. It is a battle this winter staying healthy. Graycie in hospital first 6 months of life, then 5 weeks after she out she gets sick again and back in hospital for 2 weeks. Then just resently she was in again for 2 more days for fluids. Not only has it been rough on her, our whole family was sick like every other week. So my real question is, when we are sick or when my step dd is ill we fight awful with her mom about visitations. We ask if she is feverish or have flu that we need to change visitations. OR, if we are sick we tell her mom so she might not want to send her. OK, the problem is, the mom don't care that we are sick or if she is sick. She says that she has plans and we need to find someone else to watch my step dd since its our visitation. So we ask an aunt to watch her for the weekend cuz we don't want to argue with the mom. It's just hard to find someone to take a sick kid if she's sick. Lately we have had a bad year. I have a great ex husband. Go figure, you never would believe it. He takes our twins whenever we need help. My ex and bf are buds. Its kinda weird, but the kids do better this way. The "ex" understands graycie's cf and helps all he can. He says our twins our his resposibility so he watches them as much as needed. So back to the other "ex" she makes comments about graycie everytime they disagree. I get very upset and mama bear digs her claws in. She says she will get us for contempt of court if we don't do what the visitation papers say. Oh, BTW, me and my ex never do what our papers say. He gets them everother weekend and 1 day during the week. We work out all holidays. Dont get me started what we "have" to do over the holidays for his dd. Its just sad.
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what do you do? step daughter visitations
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OK, i know im going to get a ton of different views from here. It is a battle this winter staying healthy. Graycie in hospital first 6 months of life, then 5 weeks after she out she gets sick again and back in hospital for 2 weeks. Then just resently she was in again for 2 more days for fluids. Not only has it been rough on her, our whole family was sick like every other week. So my real question is, when we are sick or when my step dd is ill we fight awful with her mom about visitations. We ask if she is feverish or have flu that we need to change visitations. OR, if we are sick we tell her mom so she might not want to send her. OK, the problem is, the mom don't care that we are sick or if she is sick. She says that she has plans and we need to find someone else to watch my step dd since its our visitation. So we ask an aunt to watch her for the weekend cuz we don't want to argue with the mom. It's just hard to find someone to take a sick kid if she's sick. Lately we have had a bad year. I have a great ex husband. Go figure, you never would believe it. He takes our twins whenever we need help. My ex and bf are buds. Its kinda weird, but the kids do better this way. The "ex" understands graycie's cf and helps all he can. He says our twins our his resposibility so he watches them as much as needed. So back to the other "ex" she makes comments about graycie everytime they disagree. I get very upset and mama bear digs her claws in. She says she will get us for contempt of court if we don't do what the visitation papers say. Oh, BTW, me and my ex never do what our papers say. He gets them everother weekend and 1 day during the week. We work out all holidays. Dont get me started what we "have" to do over the holidays for his dd. Its just sad.
OK, i know im going to get a ton of different views from here. It is a battle this winter staying healthy. Graycie in hospital first 6 months of life, then 5 weeks after she out she gets sick again and back in hospital for 2 weeks. Then just resently she was in again for 2 more days for fluids. Not only has it been rough on her, our whole family was sick like every other week. So my real question is, when we are sick or when my step dd is ill we fight awful with her mom about visitations. We ask if she is feverish or have flu that we need to change visitations. OR, if we are sick we tell her mom so she might not want to send her. OK, the problem is, the mom don't care that we are sick or if she is sick. She says that she has plans and we need to find someone else to watch my step dd since its our visitation. So we ask an aunt to watch her for the weekend cuz we don't want to argue with the mom. It's just hard to find someone to take a sick kid if she's sick. Lately we have had a bad year. I have a great ex husband. Go figure, you never would believe it. He takes our twins whenever we need help. My ex and bf are buds. Its kinda weird, but the kids do better this way. The "ex" understands graycie's cf and helps all he can. He says our twins our his resposibility so he watches them as much as needed. So back to the other "ex" she makes comments about graycie everytime they disagree. I get very upset and mama bear digs her claws in. She says she will get us for contempt of court if we don't do what the visitation papers say. Oh, BTW, me and my ex never do what our papers say. He gets them everother weekend and 1 day during the week. We work out all holidays. Dont get me started what we "have" to do over the holidays for his dd. Its just sad.
OK, i know im going to get a ton of different views from here. It is a battle this winter staying healthy. Graycie in hospital first 6 months of life, then 5 weeks after she out she gets sick again and back in hospital for 2 weeks. Then just resently she was in again for 2 more days for fluids. Not only has it been rough on her, our whole family was sick like every other week. So my real question is, when we are sick or when my step dd is ill we fight awful with her mom about visitations. We ask if she is feverish or have flu that we need to change visitations. OR, if we are sick we tell her mom so she might not want to send her. OK, the problem is, the mom don't care that we are sick or if she is sick. She says that she has plans and we need to find someone else to watch my step dd since its our visitation. So we ask an aunt to watch her for the weekend cuz we don't want to argue with the mom. It's just hard to find someone to take a sick kid if she's sick. Lately we have had a bad year. I have a great ex husband. Go figure, you never would believe it. He takes our twins whenever we need help. My ex and bf are buds. Its kinda weird, but the kids do better this way. The "ex" understands graycie's cf and helps all he can. He says our twins our his resposibility so he watches them as much as needed. So back to the other "ex" she makes comments about graycie everytime they disagree. I get very upset and mama bear digs her claws in. She says she will get us for contempt of court if we don't do what the visitation papers say. Oh, BTW, me and my ex never do what our papers say. He gets them everother weekend and 1 day during the week. We work out all holidays. Dont get me started what we "have" to do over the holidays for his dd. Its just sad.
OK, i know im going to get a ton of different views from here. It is a battle this winter staying healthy. Graycie in hospital first 6 months of life, then 5 weeks after she out she gets sick again and back in hospital for 2 weeks. Then just resently she was in again for 2 more days for fluids. Not only has it been rough on her, our whole family was sick like every other week. So my real question is, when we are sick or when my step dd is ill we fight awful with her mom about visitations. We ask if she is feverish or have flu that we need to change visitations. OR, if we are sick we tell her mom so she might not want to send her. OK, the problem is, the mom don't care that we are sick or if she is sick. She says that she has plans and we need to find someone else to watch my step dd since its our visitation. So we ask an aunt to watch her for the weekend cuz we don't want to argue with the mom. It's just hard to find someone to take a sick kid if she's sick. Lately we have had a bad year. I have a great ex husband. Go figure, you never would believe it. He takes our twins whenever we need help. My ex and bf are buds. Its kinda weird, but the kids do better this way. The "ex" understands graycie's cf and helps all he can. He says our twins our his resposibility so he watches them as much as needed. So back to the other "ex" she makes comments about graycie everytime they disagree. I get very upset and mama bear digs her claws in. She says she will get us for contempt of court if we don't do what the visitation papers say. Oh, BTW, me and my ex never do what our papers say. He gets them everother weekend and 1 day during the week. We work out all holidays. Dont get me started what we "have" to do over the holidays for his dd. Its just sad.
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Mommafirst
Guest
I'm sorry its so hard -- blending families can be really difficult if everyone isn't willing to work together.
I do everything I can to keep sick people away from my CF child, in fact we cancelled our holiday meal today because my mom is sick and didn't want to spread it to her. However, if my boys are sick and Alyssa is not, I don't plan on sending them off to some other place. Sick kiddos need their mom (or dad) and I would never put my daughter's needs ahead of my sons -- it has to balance everyones needs, if you know what I mean.
Ideally, it would be terrific if your step daughter's mom would want to be with her own kid while she is sick. But if she refuses to give up her own time for her daughter, then the next person in-line is the daddy. Maybe you and your husband could work out a way that if the SD is ill he will be in charge and keep her busy and tended to seperately, so that Grayson doesn't get too much contact.
I do everything I can to keep sick people away from my CF child, in fact we cancelled our holiday meal today because my mom is sick and didn't want to spread it to her. However, if my boys are sick and Alyssa is not, I don't plan on sending them off to some other place. Sick kiddos need their mom (or dad) and I would never put my daughter's needs ahead of my sons -- it has to balance everyones needs, if you know what I mean.
Ideally, it would be terrific if your step daughter's mom would want to be with her own kid while she is sick. But if she refuses to give up her own time for her daughter, then the next person in-line is the daddy. Maybe you and your husband could work out a way that if the SD is ill he will be in charge and keep her busy and tended to seperately, so that Grayson doesn't get too much contact.
M
Mommafirst
Guest
I'm sorry its so hard -- blending families can be really difficult if everyone isn't willing to work together.
I do everything I can to keep sick people away from my CF child, in fact we cancelled our holiday meal today because my mom is sick and didn't want to spread it to her. However, if my boys are sick and Alyssa is not, I don't plan on sending them off to some other place. Sick kiddos need their mom (or dad) and I would never put my daughter's needs ahead of my sons -- it has to balance everyones needs, if you know what I mean.
Ideally, it would be terrific if your step daughter's mom would want to be with her own kid while she is sick. But if she refuses to give up her own time for her daughter, then the next person in-line is the daddy. Maybe you and your husband could work out a way that if the SD is ill he will be in charge and keep her busy and tended to seperately, so that Grayson doesn't get too much contact.
I do everything I can to keep sick people away from my CF child, in fact we cancelled our holiday meal today because my mom is sick and didn't want to spread it to her. However, if my boys are sick and Alyssa is not, I don't plan on sending them off to some other place. Sick kiddos need their mom (or dad) and I would never put my daughter's needs ahead of my sons -- it has to balance everyones needs, if you know what I mean.
Ideally, it would be terrific if your step daughter's mom would want to be with her own kid while she is sick. But if she refuses to give up her own time for her daughter, then the next person in-line is the daddy. Maybe you and your husband could work out a way that if the SD is ill he will be in charge and keep her busy and tended to seperately, so that Grayson doesn't get too much contact.
M
Mommafirst
Guest
I'm sorry its so hard -- blending families can be really difficult if everyone isn't willing to work together.
I do everything I can to keep sick people away from my CF child, in fact we cancelled our holiday meal today because my mom is sick and didn't want to spread it to her. However, if my boys are sick and Alyssa is not, I don't plan on sending them off to some other place. Sick kiddos need their mom (or dad) and I would never put my daughter's needs ahead of my sons -- it has to balance everyones needs, if you know what I mean.
Ideally, it would be terrific if your step daughter's mom would want to be with her own kid while she is sick. But if she refuses to give up her own time for her daughter, then the next person in-line is the daddy. Maybe you and your husband could work out a way that if the SD is ill he will be in charge and keep her busy and tended to seperately, so that Grayson doesn't get too much contact.
I do everything I can to keep sick people away from my CF child, in fact we cancelled our holiday meal today because my mom is sick and didn't want to spread it to her. However, if my boys are sick and Alyssa is not, I don't plan on sending them off to some other place. Sick kiddos need their mom (or dad) and I would never put my daughter's needs ahead of my sons -- it has to balance everyones needs, if you know what I mean.
Ideally, it would be terrific if your step daughter's mom would want to be with her own kid while she is sick. But if she refuses to give up her own time for her daughter, then the next person in-line is the daddy. Maybe you and your husband could work out a way that if the SD is ill he will be in charge and keep her busy and tended to seperately, so that Grayson doesn't get too much contact.
M
Mommafirst
Guest
I'm sorry its so hard -- blending families can be really difficult if everyone isn't willing to work together.
I do everything I can to keep sick people away from my CF child, in fact we cancelled our holiday meal today because my mom is sick and didn't want to spread it to her. However, if my boys are sick and Alyssa is not, I don't plan on sending them off to some other place. Sick kiddos need their mom (or dad) and I would never put my daughter's needs ahead of my sons -- it has to balance everyones needs, if you know what I mean.
Ideally, it would be terrific if your step daughter's mom would want to be with her own kid while she is sick. But if she refuses to give up her own time for her daughter, then the next person in-line is the daddy. Maybe you and your husband could work out a way that if the SD is ill he will be in charge and keep her busy and tended to seperately, so that Grayson doesn't get too much contact.
I do everything I can to keep sick people away from my CF child, in fact we cancelled our holiday meal today because my mom is sick and didn't want to spread it to her. However, if my boys are sick and Alyssa is not, I don't plan on sending them off to some other place. Sick kiddos need their mom (or dad) and I would never put my daughter's needs ahead of my sons -- it has to balance everyones needs, if you know what I mean.
Ideally, it would be terrific if your step daughter's mom would want to be with her own kid while she is sick. But if she refuses to give up her own time for her daughter, then the next person in-line is the daddy. Maybe you and your husband could work out a way that if the SD is ill he will be in charge and keep her busy and tended to seperately, so that Grayson doesn't get too much contact.
M
Mommafirst
Guest
I'm sorry its so hard -- blending families can be really difficult if everyone isn't willing to work together.
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<br />I do everything I can to keep sick people away from my CF child, in fact we cancelled our holiday meal today because my mom is sick and didn't want to spread it to her. However, if my boys are sick and Alyssa is not, I don't plan on sending them off to some other place. Sick kiddos need their mom (or dad) and I would never put my daughter's needs ahead of my sons -- it has to balance everyones needs, if you know what I mean.
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<br />Ideally, it would be terrific if your step daughter's mom would want to be with her own kid while she is sick. But if she refuses to give up her own time for her daughter, then the next person in-line is the daddy. Maybe you and your husband could work out a way that if the SD is ill he will be in charge and keep her busy and tended to seperately, so that Grayson doesn't get too much contact.
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<br />I do everything I can to keep sick people away from my CF child, in fact we cancelled our holiday meal today because my mom is sick and didn't want to spread it to her. However, if my boys are sick and Alyssa is not, I don't plan on sending them off to some other place. Sick kiddos need their mom (or dad) and I would never put my daughter's needs ahead of my sons -- it has to balance everyones needs, if you know what I mean.
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<br />Ideally, it would be terrific if your step daughter's mom would want to be with her own kid while she is sick. But if she refuses to give up her own time for her daughter, then the next person in-line is the daddy. Maybe you and your husband could work out a way that if the SD is ill he will be in charge and keep her busy and tended to seperately, so that Grayson doesn't get too much contact.
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The mom says it don't matter if we are sick at our house or if she is sick. It is our weekend/holiday and we HAVE to take her. She yells and screams saying he is being a bad dad for not spending time with his daughter. Then we say we will take her every other week (like the papers do say) so she can have a "break" and she responds "over my dead body." His dd wants to be full time with her mom. But ever since she went full time she has to remind us she has her "all the time". And tries to use the single mother card on us. Which she isn't a single mother and has never lived on her own and supported her self alone. I for one have and it's a very hard thing to do. But i never threw it in my ex's face that i always have my kids. I wanted them with me full time. IDK, at times its very hard to deal with it. I don't need more stress as it is. I should do a post on the last one and half years of my life. Lots have changed.
The mom says it don't matter if we are sick at our house or if she is sick. It is our weekend/holiday and we HAVE to take her. She yells and screams saying he is being a bad dad for not spending time with his daughter. Then we say we will take her every other week (like the papers do say) so she can have a "break" and she responds "over my dead body." His dd wants to be full time with her mom. But ever since she went full time she has to remind us she has her "all the time". And tries to use the single mother card on us. Which she isn't a single mother and has never lived on her own and supported her self alone. I for one have and it's a very hard thing to do. But i never threw it in my ex's face that i always have my kids. I wanted them with me full time. IDK, at times its very hard to deal with it. I don't need more stress as it is. I should do a post on the last one and half years of my life. Lots have changed.
The mom says it don't matter if we are sick at our house or if she is sick. It is our weekend/holiday and we HAVE to take her. She yells and screams saying he is being a bad dad for not spending time with his daughter. Then we say we will take her every other week (like the papers do say) so she can have a "break" and she responds "over my dead body." His dd wants to be full time with her mom. But ever since she went full time she has to remind us she has her "all the time". And tries to use the single mother card on us. Which she isn't a single mother and has never lived on her own and supported her self alone. I for one have and it's a very hard thing to do. But i never threw it in my ex's face that i always have my kids. I wanted them with me full time. IDK, at times its very hard to deal with it. I don't need more stress as it is. I should do a post on the last one and half years of my life. Lots have changed.
The mom says it don't matter if we are sick at our house or if she is sick. It is our weekend/holiday and we HAVE to take her. She yells and screams saying he is being a bad dad for not spending time with his daughter. Then we say we will take her every other week (like the papers do say) so she can have a "break" and she responds "over my dead body." His dd wants to be full time with her mom. But ever since she went full time she has to remind us she has her "all the time". And tries to use the single mother card on us. Which she isn't a single mother and has never lived on her own and supported her self alone. I for one have and it's a very hard thing to do. But i never threw it in my ex's face that i always have my kids. I wanted them with me full time. IDK, at times its very hard to deal with it. I don't need more stress as it is. I should do a post on the last one and half years of my life. Lots have changed.
The mom says it don't matter if we are sick at our house or if she is sick. It is our weekend/holiday and we HAVE to take her. She yells and screams saying he is being a bad dad for not spending time with his daughter. Then we say we will take her every other week (like the papers do say) so she can have a "break" and she responds "over my dead body." His dd wants to be full time with her mom. But ever since she went full time she has to remind us she has her "all the time". And tries to use the single mother card on us. Which she isn't a single mother and has never lived on her own and supported her self alone. I for one have and it's a very hard thing to do. But i never threw it in my ex's face that i always have my kids. I wanted them with me full time. IDK, at times its very hard to deal with it. I don't need more stress as it is. I should do a post on the last one and half years of my life. Lots have changed.
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NanaOf8GirlsAndCounting
Guest
Well, I wasn't going to make a comment but I will anyway. I have met this woman and she is a selfish NUT. So having said that, Grayson's health comes first....Sorry if anyone disagrees with that but that is how it is. If the twins have to be away from their mommy when Grayson is in the hospital then his EX will just have to go along with changing the dates due to hospital admittance or illness. If she doesn't that is her tough luck. We are all affected by CF and she is whether she wants to be or not. When Lainey had pnemonia she stayed at Nana's and Pappy's because of our concern for Grayson. All the sister's are equal and our main concern is for all the children to feel loved and wanted. But, CF has changed all of OUR lives. For her to not want to change weekends for no other reason then the papers say so is just plan selfish. So, take her for 2 or more in a row. If you don't bend, you will break. Grayson has spent more then half her life in the hospital and sorry but we all have to do what we can to keep her healthly. I don't know what else to say about her. Grow Up!! If it was your child with CF you would do the same.
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NanaOf8GirlsAndCounting
Guest
Well, I wasn't going to make a comment but I will anyway. I have met this woman and she is a selfish NUT. So having said that, Grayson's health comes first....Sorry if anyone disagrees with that but that is how it is. If the twins have to be away from their mommy when Grayson is in the hospital then his EX will just have to go along with changing the dates due to hospital admittance or illness. If she doesn't that is her tough luck. We are all affected by CF and she is whether she wants to be or not. When Lainey had pnemonia she stayed at Nana's and Pappy's because of our concern for Grayson. All the sister's are equal and our main concern is for all the children to feel loved and wanted. But, CF has changed all of OUR lives. For her to not want to change weekends for no other reason then the papers say so is just plan selfish. So, take her for 2 or more in a row. If you don't bend, you will break. Grayson has spent more then half her life in the hospital and sorry but we all have to do what we can to keep her healthly. I don't know what else to say about her. Grow Up!! If it was your child with CF you would do the same.
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NanaOf8GirlsAndCounting
Guest
Well, I wasn't going to make a comment but I will anyway. I have met this woman and she is a selfish NUT. So having said that, Grayson's health comes first....Sorry if anyone disagrees with that but that is how it is. If the twins have to be away from their mommy when Grayson is in the hospital then his EX will just have to go along with changing the dates due to hospital admittance or illness. If she doesn't that is her tough luck. We are all affected by CF and she is whether she wants to be or not. When Lainey had pnemonia she stayed at Nana's and Pappy's because of our concern for Grayson. All the sister's are equal and our main concern is for all the children to feel loved and wanted. But, CF has changed all of OUR lives. For her to not want to change weekends for no other reason then the papers say so is just plan selfish. So, take her for 2 or more in a row. If you don't bend, you will break. Grayson has spent more then half her life in the hospital and sorry but we all have to do what we can to keep her healthly. I don't know what else to say about her. Grow Up!! If it was your child with CF you would do the same.
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NanaOf8GirlsAndCounting
Guest
Well, I wasn't going to make a comment but I will anyway. I have met this woman and she is a selfish NUT. So having said that, Grayson's health comes first....Sorry if anyone disagrees with that but that is how it is. If the twins have to be away from their mommy when Grayson is in the hospital then his EX will just have to go along with changing the dates due to hospital admittance or illness. If she doesn't that is her tough luck. We are all affected by CF and she is whether she wants to be or not. When Lainey had pnemonia she stayed at Nana's and Pappy's because of our concern for Grayson. All the sister's are equal and our main concern is for all the children to feel loved and wanted. But, CF has changed all of OUR lives. For her to not want to change weekends for no other reason then the papers say so is just plan selfish. So, take her for 2 or more in a row. If you don't bend, you will break. Grayson has spent more then half her life in the hospital and sorry but we all have to do what we can to keep her healthly. I don't know what else to say about her. Grow Up!! If it was your child with CF you would do the same.
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NanaOf8GirlsAndCounting
Guest
Well, I wasn't going to make a comment but I will anyway. I have met this woman and she is a selfish NUT. So having said that, Grayson's health comes first....Sorry if anyone disagrees with that but that is how it is. If the twins have to be away from their mommy when Grayson is in the hospital then his EX will just have to go along with changing the dates due to hospital admittance or illness. If she doesn't that is her tough luck. We are all affected by CF and she is whether she wants to be or not. When Lainey had pnemonia she stayed at Nana's and Pappy's because of our concern for Grayson. All the sister's are equal and our main concern is for all the children to feel loved and wanted. But, CF has changed all of OUR lives. For her to not want to change weekends for no other reason then the papers say so is just plan selfish. So, take her for 2 or more in a row. If you don't bend, you will break. Grayson has spent more then half her life in the hospital and sorry but we all have to do what we can to keep her healthly. I don't know what else to say about her. Grow Up!! If it was your child with CF you would do the same.