what do you do? step daughter visitations

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JazzysMom

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Although I do see both sides this is MY opinion.

Evidentally the woman has no desire to work with you. SO instead of stressing over what she will/wont do, casting blame, pointing out faults.....take the issue as it is & make it work.

It might not be ideal all around, but if the woman wasnt around & you had custody of her full time, what would you do? Make it work, right?

Your SD might miss out on time with her Dad if you have her a weekend that the baby is in the hospital, but she just needs to know that. Let her know that since visitation cant be rearranged (dont cast the blame on her Mom even if that is the reason) that she has to accept how things are. You cant make Grayson's CF go away.

I hope for everyone's sake that you find the avenue to take & the strength to walk it....

HUGS
 
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JazzysMom

New member
Although I do see both sides this is MY opinion.

Evidentally the woman has no desire to work with you. SO instead of stressing over what she will/wont do, casting blame, pointing out faults.....take the issue as it is & make it work.

It might not be ideal all around, but if the woman wasnt around & you had custody of her full time, what would you do? Make it work, right?

Your SD might miss out on time with her Dad if you have her a weekend that the baby is in the hospital, but she just needs to know that. Let her know that since visitation cant be rearranged (dont cast the blame on her Mom even if that is the reason) that she has to accept how things are. You cant make Grayson's CF go away.

I hope for everyone's sake that you find the avenue to take & the strength to walk it....

HUGS
 
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JazzysMom

New member
Although I do see both sides this is MY opinion.

Evidentally the woman has no desire to work with you. SO instead of stressing over what she will/wont do, casting blame, pointing out faults.....take the issue as it is & make it work.

It might not be ideal all around, but if the woman wasnt around & you had custody of her full time, what would you do? Make it work, right?

Your SD might miss out on time with her Dad if you have her a weekend that the baby is in the hospital, but she just needs to know that. Let her know that since visitation cant be rearranged (dont cast the blame on her Mom even if that is the reason) that she has to accept how things are. You cant make Grayson's CF go away.

I hope for everyone's sake that you find the avenue to take & the strength to walk it....

HUGS
 
J

JazzysMom

New member
Although I do see both sides this is MY opinion.

Evidentally the woman has no desire to work with you. SO instead of stressing over what she will/wont do, casting blame, pointing out faults.....take the issue as it is & make it work.

It might not be ideal all around, but if the woman wasnt around & you had custody of her full time, what would you do? Make it work, right?

Your SD might miss out on time with her Dad if you have her a weekend that the baby is in the hospital, but she just needs to know that. Let her know that since visitation cant be rearranged (dont cast the blame on her Mom even if that is the reason) that she has to accept how things are. You cant make Grayson's CF go away.

I hope for everyone's sake that you find the avenue to take & the strength to walk it....

HUGS
 
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JazzysMom

New member
Although I do see both sides this is MY opinion.
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<br />Evidentally the woman has no desire to work with you. SO instead of stressing over what she will/wont do, casting blame, pointing out faults.....take the issue as it is & make it work.
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<br />It might not be ideal all around, but if the woman wasnt around & you had custody of her full time, what would you do? Make it work, right?
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<br />Your SD might miss out on time with her Dad if you have her a weekend that the baby is in the hospital, but she just needs to know that. Let her know that since visitation cant be rearranged (dont cast the blame on her Mom even if that is the reason) that she has to accept how things are. You cant make Grayson's CF go away.
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<br />I hope for everyone's sake that you find the avenue to take & the strength to walk it....
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<br />HUGS
 
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chrissyd

New member
It sounds like she refuses to put anyone before herself. Wow...I though my daughters BM was bad. But she left about 6 years ago, we haven't seen her since. Barely get child support but at least she isn't making our lives so stressful...I'm sorry.

I wish I had a magic answer...

<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
 
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chrissyd

New member
It sounds like she refuses to put anyone before herself. Wow...I though my daughters BM was bad. But she left about 6 years ago, we haven't seen her since. Barely get child support but at least she isn't making our lives so stressful...I'm sorry.

I wish I had a magic answer...

<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
 
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chrissyd

New member
It sounds like she refuses to put anyone before herself. Wow...I though my daughters BM was bad. But she left about 6 years ago, we haven't seen her since. Barely get child support but at least she isn't making our lives so stressful...I'm sorry.

I wish I had a magic answer...

<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
 
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chrissyd

New member
It sounds like she refuses to put anyone before herself. Wow...I though my daughters BM was bad. But she left about 6 years ago, we haven't seen her since. Barely get child support but at least she isn't making our lives so stressful...I'm sorry.

I wish I had a magic answer...

<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
 
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chrissyd

New member
It sounds like she refuses to put anyone before herself. Wow...I though my daughters BM was bad. But she left about 6 years ago, we haven't seen her since. Barely get child support but at least she isn't making our lives so stressful...I'm sorry.
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<br />I wish I had a magic answer...
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<br /><img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
 
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2sickkids

Guest
Well look at it this way the mom isn't gonna change. So take it as the girl is another full time household member. Meaning that sometimes you or the other kiddos get sick and just have to deal.

And you really lucked out on the twins dad. My ex is a pain. He has used every excuse there is as to why he can't take them. Ex- I took to0 many xanax, forgot I was poss to get em left work early and now I'm drunk, I wont get up that early, getting my house remodled, and most recently I don't have a car(he has three)lent em to friends.
 
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2sickkids

Guest
Well look at it this way the mom isn't gonna change. So take it as the girl is another full time household member. Meaning that sometimes you or the other kiddos get sick and just have to deal.

And you really lucked out on the twins dad. My ex is a pain. He has used every excuse there is as to why he can't take them. Ex- I took to0 many xanax, forgot I was poss to get em left work early and now I'm drunk, I wont get up that early, getting my house remodled, and most recently I don't have a car(he has three)lent em to friends.
 
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2sickkids

Guest
Well look at it this way the mom isn't gonna change. So take it as the girl is another full time household member. Meaning that sometimes you or the other kiddos get sick and just have to deal.

And you really lucked out on the twins dad. My ex is a pain. He has used every excuse there is as to why he can't take them. Ex- I took to0 many xanax, forgot I was poss to get em left work early and now I'm drunk, I wont get up that early, getting my house remodled, and most recently I don't have a car(he has three)lent em to friends.
 
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2sickkids

Guest
Well look at it this way the mom isn't gonna change. So take it as the girl is another full time household member. Meaning that sometimes you or the other kiddos get sick and just have to deal.

And you really lucked out on the twins dad. My ex is a pain. He has used every excuse there is as to why he can't take them. Ex- I took to0 many xanax, forgot I was poss to get em left work early and now I'm drunk, I wont get up that early, getting my house remodled, and most recently I don't have a car(he has three)lent em to friends.
 
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2sickkids

Guest
Well look at it this way the mom isn't gonna change. So take it as the girl is another full time household member. Meaning that sometimes you or the other kiddos get sick and just have to deal.
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<br /> And you really lucked out on the twins dad. My ex is a pain. He has used every excuse there is as to why he can't take them. Ex- I took to0 many xanax, forgot I was poss to get em left work early and now I'm drunk, I wont get up that early, getting my house remodled, and most recently I don't have a car(he has three)lent em to friends.
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