I guess in part i'm putting this one up to explain what i wrote previously in "When".
Someone once asked me (before i knew what C.F. was), if i knew the consequences for ALL my actions, would i still do it?
Eg. If i was to marry to this person and i knew the outcome of it, maybe divorce, tragedy whatever, would i still do it? (hypothetical)
The thing about being the partner of someone with C.F. is that you DO know the consequences or outcome of getting involved. You may not know exactly HOW or WHEN but you are aware of WHAT the outcome is. When they asked me that question i answered after some thought, yes i would still do it because for me the journey is what life is all about and now since that question is relevant to me more than ever, in a heartbeat my answer would still be yes.
I love and cherish my partner for all i'm worth but i do sometimes ponder the upcoming pain and anguish, her and i joke (i'm starting to "get" C.F. humour ) about it sometimes but the reality of the situation is still there...it's a dull ache thats hidden behind the love we share, i'm fortunate enough to be able to be totally open and honest to her about my fears and anguish, anything i write on the subject shes reads first and of course it goes without saying, she can be completely honest with me.
For me, the thing about diseases like C.F. is that it not only effects the lives of the people who have the disease but it ploughs through the lives of the people around the sufferers as well.
Would you volunteer for a life as a partner?
To me she's worth every single tear.
A moment of pain can feel like a lifetime, a lifetime of love can feel like a moment.........cherish it and embrace it while it's there.
Pete
Someone once asked me (before i knew what C.F. was), if i knew the consequences for ALL my actions, would i still do it?
Eg. If i was to marry to this person and i knew the outcome of it, maybe divorce, tragedy whatever, would i still do it? (hypothetical)
The thing about being the partner of someone with C.F. is that you DO know the consequences or outcome of getting involved. You may not know exactly HOW or WHEN but you are aware of WHAT the outcome is. When they asked me that question i answered after some thought, yes i would still do it because for me the journey is what life is all about and now since that question is relevant to me more than ever, in a heartbeat my answer would still be yes.
I love and cherish my partner for all i'm worth but i do sometimes ponder the upcoming pain and anguish, her and i joke (i'm starting to "get" C.F. humour ) about it sometimes but the reality of the situation is still there...it's a dull ache thats hidden behind the love we share, i'm fortunate enough to be able to be totally open and honest to her about my fears and anguish, anything i write on the subject shes reads first and of course it goes without saying, she can be completely honest with me.
For me, the thing about diseases like C.F. is that it not only effects the lives of the people who have the disease but it ploughs through the lives of the people around the sufferers as well.
Would you volunteer for a life as a partner?
To me she's worth every single tear.
A moment of pain can feel like a lifetime, a lifetime of love can feel like a moment.........cherish it and embrace it while it's there.
Pete