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fondreflections

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LOL! Now I'm the certified representative for the unborn child. That was quite the opposite of what I thought would happen. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">

If you want me to type up a letter just let me know. I will share it with you prior so you know exactly what it will say. I will be tactful and keep it clean, I promise.

Writing has always been one of my strongest points; however, I have to always watch how strongly I present my views on issues. Sometimes my strong personal feelings get in the way of my effective writing...I'm getting much better now with age and maturity!

My Mom smoked before she was pregnant with me, actually. She minute she found out she was pregnant, she quit cold turkey. My Dad BEGGED her to quit for nearly a year, but it wasn't until she became pregnant that she decided to quit. My parents had no idea that I was going to have CF at that time either. Thank God, she quit when she did...<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

My parents gave Jess and I the best possible care throughout the years. If it wasn't for their care, neither of us would be here today! I thank my parents every, single day for taking care of us!!! <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
 
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fondreflections

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LOL! Now I'm the certified representative for the unborn child. That was quite the opposite of what I thought would happen. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">

If you want me to type up a letter just let me know. I will share it with you prior so you know exactly what it will say. I will be tactful and keep it clean, I promise.

Writing has always been one of my strongest points; however, I have to always watch how strongly I present my views on issues. Sometimes my strong personal feelings get in the way of my effective writing...I'm getting much better now with age and maturity!

My Mom smoked before she was pregnant with me, actually. She minute she found out she was pregnant, she quit cold turkey. My Dad BEGGED her to quit for nearly a year, but it wasn't until she became pregnant that she decided to quit. My parents had no idea that I was going to have CF at that time either. Thank God, she quit when she did...<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

My parents gave Jess and I the best possible care throughout the years. If it wasn't for their care, neither of us would be here today! I thank my parents every, single day for taking care of us!!! <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
 
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fondreflections

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LOL! Now I'm the certified representative for the unborn child. That was quite the opposite of what I thought would happen. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">

If you want me to type up a letter just let me know. I will share it with you prior so you know exactly what it will say. I will be tactful and keep it clean, I promise.

Writing has always been one of my strongest points; however, I have to always watch how strongly I present my views on issues. Sometimes my strong personal feelings get in the way of my effective writing...I'm getting much better now with age and maturity!

My Mom smoked before she was pregnant with me, actually. She minute she found out she was pregnant, she quit cold turkey. My Dad BEGGED her to quit for nearly a year, but it wasn't until she became pregnant that she decided to quit. My parents had no idea that I was going to have CF at that time either. Thank God, she quit when she did...<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

My parents gave Jess and I the best possible care throughout the years. If it wasn't for their care, neither of us would be here today! I thank my parents every, single day for taking care of us!!! <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
 
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fondreflections

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LOL! Now I'm the certified representative for the unborn child. That was quite the opposite of what I thought would happen. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">

If you want me to type up a letter just let me know. I will share it with you prior so you know exactly what it will say. I will be tactful and keep it clean, I promise.

Writing has always been one of my strongest points; however, I have to always watch how strongly I present my views on issues. Sometimes my strong personal feelings get in the way of my effective writing...I'm getting much better now with age and maturity!

My Mom smoked before she was pregnant with me, actually. She minute she found out she was pregnant, she quit cold turkey. My Dad BEGGED her to quit for nearly a year, but it wasn't until she became pregnant that she decided to quit. My parents had no idea that I was going to have CF at that time either. Thank God, she quit when she did...<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

My parents gave Jess and I the best possible care throughout the years. If it wasn't for their care, neither of us would be here today! I thank my parents every, single day for taking care of us!!! <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
 
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fondreflections

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LOL! Now I'm the certified representative for the unborn child. That was quite the opposite of what I thought would happen. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">
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<br />If you want me to type up a letter just let me know. I will share it with you prior so you know exactly what it will say. I will be tactful and keep it clean, I promise.
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<br />Writing has always been one of my strongest points; however, I have to always watch how strongly I present my views on issues. Sometimes my strong personal feelings get in the way of my effective writing...I'm getting much better now with age and maturity!
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<br />My Mom smoked before she was pregnant with me, actually. She minute she found out she was pregnant, she quit cold turkey. My Dad BEGGED her to quit for nearly a year, but it wasn't until she became pregnant that she decided to quit. My parents had no idea that I was going to have CF at that time either. Thank God, she quit when she did...<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
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<br />My parents gave Jess and I the best possible care throughout the years. If it wasn't for their care, neither of us would be here today! I thank my parents every, single day for taking care of us!!! <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
 
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fondreflections

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I just wanted to add that that is why I am so irate about this issue. My Mom could do it in 1981! She ultimately did a complete turnaround. This issue effects me personally, and I do believe that anyone can change if he/she wants to. The questions really is do they want to change???
 
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fondreflections

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I just wanted to add that that is why I am so irate about this issue. My Mom could do it in 1981! She ultimately did a complete turnaround. This issue effects me personally, and I do believe that anyone can change if he/she wants to. The questions really is do they want to change???
 
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fondreflections

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I just wanted to add that that is why I am so irate about this issue. My Mom could do it in 1981! She ultimately did a complete turnaround. This issue effects me personally, and I do believe that anyone can change if he/she wants to. The questions really is do they want to change???
 
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fondreflections

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I just wanted to add that that is why I am so irate about this issue. My Mom could do it in 1981! She ultimately did a complete turnaround. This issue effects me personally, and I do believe that anyone can change if he/she wants to. The questions really is do they want to change???
 
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fondreflections

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I just wanted to add that that is why I am so irate about this issue. My Mom could do it in 1981! She ultimately did a complete turnaround. This issue effects me personally, and I do believe that anyone can change if he/she wants to. The questions really is do they want to change???
 
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GordonsGirl

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Okay... Here's an update.
Talked to my friend today (I haven't even met this other woman, so I feel bad judging her so harshly... but I also know that in this case she is wrong no matter what).

I guess the woman "wants to quit" but "can't do it cold turkey." From what my friend sees when they are together, however, she doesn't even seem to be cutting back. My mom also quit smoking as soon as she knew she was pregnant. She started again after, but I don't have CF, and my lungs are strong. LIke Jenny said, that was in 1982 that MY mom quit, so I don't see how someone could do that to her unborn child with what we know now.

Apparently the woman's doctor knows VERY LITTLE about CF and referred her to the specialist in our area (the only specialist, so it was my husband's doctor). She left that meeting feeling reassured, my friend says. I have a feeling she didn't tell him that she smokes... Just a guess, but I can't imagine her not being totally ready for a change of lifestyle after talking to a CF specialist. He probably didn't want to scare her though, and told her about the many CF children who grow into healthy adults... I, on the other hand, want to give my mother-in-law her phone number so she can describe the short and struggle-filled life of my husband's sister who passed away when she was 13 and had two parents who did EVERYTHING to keep her healthy.

It's just so frustrating. My friend said it's obvious this woman has not learned enough about CF. When asked what she's doing about it, her reply was, "I'm doing the CF walk next month."

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I think I might just ask if my friend can arrange for her to sit down to dinner with my husband and I and he can give his own experiences as someone with CF who is healthy, share what his sister went through, as someone who struggled from the beginning and just couldn't make it, and talk about how she can prepare for this baby who WILL have needs she is clearly not preparing for. UGH!!!

Also, I want to tell on her to our doctor... But that seems so childish. Maybe he even knows. I can't imagine a CF doctor who helps so many children letting a pregnant mother who smokes out of his office. He should have had her hospitalized. I am being ridiculous, but it's infuriating.
 
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GordonsGirl

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Okay... Here's an update.
Talked to my friend today (I haven't even met this other woman, so I feel bad judging her so harshly... but I also know that in this case she is wrong no matter what).

I guess the woman "wants to quit" but "can't do it cold turkey." From what my friend sees when they are together, however, she doesn't even seem to be cutting back. My mom also quit smoking as soon as she knew she was pregnant. She started again after, but I don't have CF, and my lungs are strong. LIke Jenny said, that was in 1982 that MY mom quit, so I don't see how someone could do that to her unborn child with what we know now.

Apparently the woman's doctor knows VERY LITTLE about CF and referred her to the specialist in our area (the only specialist, so it was my husband's doctor). She left that meeting feeling reassured, my friend says. I have a feeling she didn't tell him that she smokes... Just a guess, but I can't imagine her not being totally ready for a change of lifestyle after talking to a CF specialist. He probably didn't want to scare her though, and told her about the many CF children who grow into healthy adults... I, on the other hand, want to give my mother-in-law her phone number so she can describe the short and struggle-filled life of my husband's sister who passed away when she was 13 and had two parents who did EVERYTHING to keep her healthy.

It's just so frustrating. My friend said it's obvious this woman has not learned enough about CF. When asked what she's doing about it, her reply was, "I'm doing the CF walk next month."

.......

I think I might just ask if my friend can arrange for her to sit down to dinner with my husband and I and he can give his own experiences as someone with CF who is healthy, share what his sister went through, as someone who struggled from the beginning and just couldn't make it, and talk about how she can prepare for this baby who WILL have needs she is clearly not preparing for. UGH!!!

Also, I want to tell on her to our doctor... But that seems so childish. Maybe he even knows. I can't imagine a CF doctor who helps so many children letting a pregnant mother who smokes out of his office. He should have had her hospitalized. I am being ridiculous, but it's infuriating.
 
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GordonsGirl

New member
Okay... Here's an update.
Talked to my friend today (I haven't even met this other woman, so I feel bad judging her so harshly... but I also know that in this case she is wrong no matter what).

I guess the woman "wants to quit" but "can't do it cold turkey." From what my friend sees when they are together, however, she doesn't even seem to be cutting back. My mom also quit smoking as soon as she knew she was pregnant. She started again after, but I don't have CF, and my lungs are strong. LIke Jenny said, that was in 1982 that MY mom quit, so I don't see how someone could do that to her unborn child with what we know now.

Apparently the woman's doctor knows VERY LITTLE about CF and referred her to the specialist in our area (the only specialist, so it was my husband's doctor). She left that meeting feeling reassured, my friend says. I have a feeling she didn't tell him that she smokes... Just a guess, but I can't imagine her not being totally ready for a change of lifestyle after talking to a CF specialist. He probably didn't want to scare her though, and told her about the many CF children who grow into healthy adults... I, on the other hand, want to give my mother-in-law her phone number so she can describe the short and struggle-filled life of my husband's sister who passed away when she was 13 and had two parents who did EVERYTHING to keep her healthy.

It's just so frustrating. My friend said it's obvious this woman has not learned enough about CF. When asked what she's doing about it, her reply was, "I'm doing the CF walk next month."

.......

I think I might just ask if my friend can arrange for her to sit down to dinner with my husband and I and he can give his own experiences as someone with CF who is healthy, share what his sister went through, as someone who struggled from the beginning and just couldn't make it, and talk about how she can prepare for this baby who WILL have needs she is clearly not preparing for. UGH!!!

Also, I want to tell on her to our doctor... But that seems so childish. Maybe he even knows. I can't imagine a CF doctor who helps so many children letting a pregnant mother who smokes out of his office. He should have had her hospitalized. I am being ridiculous, but it's infuriating.
 
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GordonsGirl

New member
Okay... Here's an update.
Talked to my friend today (I haven't even met this other woman, so I feel bad judging her so harshly... but I also know that in this case she is wrong no matter what).

I guess the woman "wants to quit" but "can't do it cold turkey." From what my friend sees when they are together, however, she doesn't even seem to be cutting back. My mom also quit smoking as soon as she knew she was pregnant. She started again after, but I don't have CF, and my lungs are strong. LIke Jenny said, that was in 1982 that MY mom quit, so I don't see how someone could do that to her unborn child with what we know now.

Apparently the woman's doctor knows VERY LITTLE about CF and referred her to the specialist in our area (the only specialist, so it was my husband's doctor). She left that meeting feeling reassured, my friend says. I have a feeling she didn't tell him that she smokes... Just a guess, but I can't imagine her not being totally ready for a change of lifestyle after talking to a CF specialist. He probably didn't want to scare her though, and told her about the many CF children who grow into healthy adults... I, on the other hand, want to give my mother-in-law her phone number so she can describe the short and struggle-filled life of my husband's sister who passed away when she was 13 and had two parents who did EVERYTHING to keep her healthy.

It's just so frustrating. My friend said it's obvious this woman has not learned enough about CF. When asked what she's doing about it, her reply was, "I'm doing the CF walk next month."

.......

I think I might just ask if my friend can arrange for her to sit down to dinner with my husband and I and he can give his own experiences as someone with CF who is healthy, share what his sister went through, as someone who struggled from the beginning and just couldn't make it, and talk about how she can prepare for this baby who WILL have needs she is clearly not preparing for. UGH!!!

Also, I want to tell on her to our doctor... But that seems so childish. Maybe he even knows. I can't imagine a CF doctor who helps so many children letting a pregnant mother who smokes out of his office. He should have had her hospitalized. I am being ridiculous, but it's infuriating.
 
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GordonsGirl

New member
Okay... Here's an update.
<br />Talked to my friend today (I haven't even met this other woman, so I feel bad judging her so harshly... but I also know that in this case she is wrong no matter what).
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<br />I guess the woman "wants to quit" but "can't do it cold turkey." From what my friend sees when they are together, however, she doesn't even seem to be cutting back. My mom also quit smoking as soon as she knew she was pregnant. She started again after, but I don't have CF, and my lungs are strong. LIke Jenny said, that was in 1982 that MY mom quit, so I don't see how someone could do that to her unborn child with what we know now.
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<br />Apparently the woman's doctor knows VERY LITTLE about CF and referred her to the specialist in our area (the only specialist, so it was my husband's doctor). She left that meeting feeling reassured, my friend says. I have a feeling she didn't tell him that she smokes... Just a guess, but I can't imagine her not being totally ready for a change of lifestyle after talking to a CF specialist. He probably didn't want to scare her though, and told her about the many CF children who grow into healthy adults... I, on the other hand, want to give my mother-in-law her phone number so she can describe the short and struggle-filled life of my husband's sister who passed away when she was 13 and had two parents who did EVERYTHING to keep her healthy.
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<br />It's just so frustrating. My friend said it's obvious this woman has not learned enough about CF. When asked what she's doing about it, her reply was, "I'm doing the CF walk next month."
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<br />.......
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<br />I think I might just ask if my friend can arrange for her to sit down to dinner with my husband and I and he can give his own experiences as someone with CF who is healthy, share what his sister went through, as someone who struggled from the beginning and just couldn't make it, and talk about how she can prepare for this baby who WILL have needs she is clearly not preparing for. UGH!!!
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<br />Also, I want to tell on her to our doctor... But that seems so childish. Maybe he even knows. I can't imagine a CF doctor who helps so many children letting a pregnant mother who smokes out of his office. He should have had her hospitalized. I am being ridiculous, but it's infuriating.
 
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mom2lillian

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why dont you offer to meet her at the CF walk. Unfortunately many people are truly ignorant. Cigarettes are also more addicting than cocaine. I am not excusing her horrible behavior but idiot+addiction gives you a pretty tough situation. I would try to offer to walk and meet up with her and talk to her there as a friendly gesture but then really talk to her about everything--its a long walk you will have time!
 
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mom2lillian

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why dont you offer to meet her at the CF walk. Unfortunately many people are truly ignorant. Cigarettes are also more addicting than cocaine. I am not excusing her horrible behavior but idiot+addiction gives you a pretty tough situation. I would try to offer to walk and meet up with her and talk to her there as a friendly gesture but then really talk to her about everything--its a long walk you will have time!
 
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mom2lillian

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why dont you offer to meet her at the CF walk. Unfortunately many people are truly ignorant. Cigarettes are also more addicting than cocaine. I am not excusing her horrible behavior but idiot+addiction gives you a pretty tough situation. I would try to offer to walk and meet up with her and talk to her there as a friendly gesture but then really talk to her about everything--its a long walk you will have time!
 
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mom2lillian

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why dont you offer to meet her at the CF walk. Unfortunately many people are truly ignorant. Cigarettes are also more addicting than cocaine. I am not excusing her horrible behavior but idiot+addiction gives you a pretty tough situation. I would try to offer to walk and meet up with her and talk to her there as a friendly gesture but then really talk to her about everything--its a long walk you will have time!
 
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mom2lillian

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why dont you offer to meet her at the CF walk. Unfortunately many people are truly ignorant. Cigarettes are also more addicting than cocaine. I am not excusing her horrible behavior but idiot+addiction gives you a pretty tough situation. I would try to offer to walk and meet up with her and talk to her there as a friendly gesture but then really talk to her about everything--its a long walk you will have time!
 
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