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I know you didn't actually say that she should be admitted w/o Hannah but you did say "a break for mommy is going to be good" which leaves one with the impression that you were suggesting she consider not taking the baby. IMO there is a huge difference between an exclusively nursing 6 week old baby and a 7 month old. Also a difference in hormones w/ the mother - at 6 weeks breastfeeding is still being established and the hormones are still fresh. I would have been a complete emotional wreck if I had been separated from my young infant - which would have made my exacerbation way worse. (emotional stress is not good for healing the body)
I also think temperament and personality of the children matter. Even with my son being 3 years old there is no way unless I'm extremely ill (ie can't function) that I would even consider being separated from my son. He's an extremely intense and high needs child who NEEDS his mommy. Thankfully as he matures he's building a very strong bond with his father and other family members. He is my only experience w/ babies/toddlers. When my SIL had her baby 2 months ago, our MIL watched her son for 2 days and nights and he did completely fine. But he is sooo different from my son. NO way would Logan have gone for that w/o exhibiting major behavioral changes. Neither is better or worse, just different and you have to take all of that into consideration.
I'm glad we have different opinions and voices on this board. Because I would never suggest to a mother that she consider not taking her baby (if she says that is something she wants to do that is different - but you would never hear it as a suggestion from me). But I know several others would. Its a good balance and all sides need to be weighed.
I know you didn't actually say that she should be admitted w/o Hannah but you did say "a break for mommy is going to be good" which leaves one with the impression that you were suggesting she consider not taking the baby. IMO there is a huge difference between an exclusively nursing 6 week old baby and a 7 month old. Also a difference in hormones w/ the mother - at 6 weeks breastfeeding is still being established and the hormones are still fresh. I would have been a complete emotional wreck if I had been separated from my young infant - which would have made my exacerbation way worse. (emotional stress is not good for healing the body)
I also think temperament and personality of the children matter. Even with my son being 3 years old there is no way unless I'm extremely ill (ie can't function) that I would even consider being separated from my son. He's an extremely intense and high needs child who NEEDS his mommy. Thankfully as he matures he's building a very strong bond with his father and other family members. He is my only experience w/ babies/toddlers. When my SIL had her baby 2 months ago, our MIL watched her son for 2 days and nights and he did completely fine. But he is sooo different from my son. NO way would Logan have gone for that w/o exhibiting major behavioral changes. Neither is better or worse, just different and you have to take all of that into consideration.
I'm glad we have different opinions and voices on this board. Because I would never suggest to a mother that she consider not taking her baby (if she says that is something she wants to do that is different - but you would never hear it as a suggestion from me). But I know several others would. Its a good balance and all sides need to be weighed.