Advice Please

[HollyCatheryn]

I just wanted to correct this post that ovulation is not based on 2 weeks after first day of your period. It occurs 2 weeks BEFORE the first day of your next period. Common misconception, because if you're on a 4 week cycle it works out the same, but if your cycles are shorter or longer it can make a big difference.

 

[HollyCatheryn]

I just wanted to correct this post that ovulation is not based on 2 weeks after first day of your period. It occurs 2 weeks BEFORE the first day of your next period. Common misconception, because if you're on a 4 week cycle it works out the same, but if your cycles are shorter or longer it can make a big difference.

 

[Emily65Roses]

Just wanted to say. Abstinence is not right for everyone... But there are always ways to make sex safer. Try to use two forms of protection. Always use a condom... and a form of birth control at the same time, and you're pretty safe.

 

[Emily65Roses]

Just wanted to say. Abstinence is not right for everyone... But there are always ways to make sex safer. Try to use two forms of protection. Always use a condom... and a form of birth control at the same time, and you're pretty safe.

 

[johngwisc]

My first reaction is to suggest that if your bf has cf, perhaps he should get a sperm count done to get a concrete determination. Nothing like science to ease one's mind. Good luck.

 

[johngwisc]

My first reaction is to suggest that if your bf has cf, perhaps he should get a sperm count done to get a concrete determination. Nothing like science to ease one's mind. Good luck.

 

[anonymous]

did someone honestly just try to suggest that the girl practice abstinence? she came to this board for advice not preaching!

 

[anonymous]

did someone honestly just try to suggest that the girl practice abstinence? she came to this board for advice not preaching!

 

[cfgirl38]

Your going to say that she's being preached to but the girl is telling the entire forum that she took a pill to make sure she's not pregnant when she didn't even know for sure in the first place. They are just letting her know there are other ways to not have children other than taking a morning after pill when there are so many CF'ers trying for kids. How insensitive. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-shocked.gif" border="0">

 

[cfgirl38]

Your going to say that she's being preached to but the girl is telling the entire forum that she took a pill to make sure she's not pregnant when she didn't even know for sure in the first place. They are just letting her know there are other ways to not have children other than taking a morning after pill when there are so many CF'ers trying for kids. How insensitive. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-shocked.gif" border="0">

 

[Emily65Roses]

Either way, she came on for advice, not preaching. You said something about taking the morning after pill without even knowing if she was pregnant in the first place... that's the point of the morning after pill. You never know for sure if you're pregnant when you take it, it's to prevent a possible pregnancy. I understand there are many adults here trying to become parents, but she has every right to come and ask about her problem without being told she's being insensitive or awful. The morning after pill, though some people see it as very negative, is legal and therefore taking it is her choice.

As a quick example that's a bit extreme and not really related... I heard a story about a girl who was raped, and got a script for the morning after pill. She took it to her pharmacy, and her pharmacist refused to fill it for her, telling her she was a baby killer. This was not only NOT his decision to make, but it was entirely illegal for him to refuse to fill it on any grounds. But he refused because he thought it was "wrong."

I don't know why I wanted to share that except to back up my point basically that it's legal and each individual woman's choice. I understand a lot of people here are trying to have kids and are having a hard time at it. When it comes to having kids myself, it'll have to be adoption or surrogacy or something as I do not have the parts anymore. I fully understand the idea of having trouble conceiving. I think about it regularly, trying to figure out what the best way will be for myself when I'm ready. But there's nothing wrong with coming here and trying to prevent a possible unwanted pregnancy, one that would result in a child that was not planned. She's being responsible instead of waiting until it's too late, or ignoring the problem altogether.

Wow, that turned into quite a rant. I don't think it was even deserved by anyone's responses here. I just started typing and all that junk came out. Heh. Don't anyone take this personally, I'm just running my mouth about my personal opinions on the subject.

 

[Emily65Roses]

Either way, she came on for advice, not preaching. You said something about taking the morning after pill without even knowing if she was pregnant in the first place... that's the point of the morning after pill. You never know for sure if you're pregnant when you take it, it's to prevent a possible pregnancy. I understand there are many adults here trying to become parents, but she has every right to come and ask about her problem without being told she's being insensitive or awful. The morning after pill, though some people see it as very negative, is legal and therefore taking it is her choice.

As a quick example that's a bit extreme and not really related... I heard a story about a girl who was raped, and got a script for the morning after pill. She took it to her pharmacy, and her pharmacist refused to fill it for her, telling her she was a baby killer. This was not only NOT his decision to make, but it was entirely illegal for him to refuse to fill it on any grounds. But he refused because he thought it was "wrong."

I don't know why I wanted to share that except to back up my point basically that it's legal and each individual woman's choice. I understand a lot of people here are trying to have kids and are having a hard time at it. When it comes to having kids myself, it'll have to be adoption or surrogacy or something as I do not have the parts anymore. I fully understand the idea of having trouble conceiving. I think about it regularly, trying to figure out what the best way will be for myself when I'm ready. But there's nothing wrong with coming here and trying to prevent a possible unwanted pregnancy, one that would result in a child that was not planned. She's being responsible instead of waiting until it's too late, or ignoring the problem altogether.

Wow, that turned into quite a rant. I don't think it was even deserved by anyone's responses here. I just started typing and all that junk came out. Heh. Don't anyone take this personally, I'm just running my mouth about my personal opinions on the subject.

 

[anonymous]

So it's OK to come on here & share about pre marital sex, but not OK to be "preached" to? Isn't that a double standard?
It cracks me up that it's ok to talk on these threads about sex with boyfriend, sex being a form of exercise, I'm moving in w/ my boyfriend, etc, etc and that's all peachy, but how dare people mention God or morals! If they do, then they are going to get attacked you can count on it.
And I think the poster that said "How insensitive" was referring to the post directly above hers, not to the original post.

 

[anonymous]

So it's OK to come on here & share about pre marital sex, but not OK to be "preached" to? Isn't that a double standard?
It cracks me up that it's ok to talk on these threads about sex with boyfriend, sex being a form of exercise, I'm moving in w/ my boyfriend, etc, etc and that's all peachy, but how dare people mention God or morals! If they do, then they are going to get attacked you can count on it.
And I think the poster that said "How insensitive" was referring to the post directly above hers, not to the original post.

 

[Emily65Roses]

Looking for advice and preaching are two different things. Morals are fine. Just don't expect everyone to agree with the "I believe in god and I'm holier than thou" crap. I certainly don't.

 

[Emily65Roses]

Looking for advice and preaching are two different things. Morals are fine. Just don't expect everyone to agree with the "I believe in god and I'm holier than thou" crap. I certainly don't.

 

[cfgirl38]

Your absolutely right . I was refering to the post above mine. I never act as though I'm holier than thou. I didn't say she didn't have the right to come here for advice. I have came here on many topics. But there's a point when there's to much info. "Ok crisis over I got the pill" I beleive we could have left it as advice and not know that she's all better now. I thought it was insensitive for someone to say Emily was preaching instead of giving advice. But after reading all the posts after that I'm thinking I shouldn't have defended her. I know what the pill is used for but give me a break. That was a little much wasn't it to say nobody get offended. There is such a thing as a delete key if you didn't want people offended you wouldn't have posted it. Don't get offended I'm just ranting as well. Eva

 

[cfgirl38]

Your absolutely right . I was refering to the post above mine. I never act as though I'm holier than thou. I didn't say she didn't have the right to come here for advice. I have came here on many topics. But there's a point when there's to much info. "Ok crisis over I got the pill" I beleive we could have left it as advice and not know that she's all better now. I thought it was insensitive for someone to say Emily was preaching instead of giving advice. But after reading all the posts after that I'm thinking I shouldn't have defended her. I know what the pill is used for but give me a break. That was a little much wasn't it to say nobody get offended. There is such a thing as a delete key if you didn't want people offended you wouldn't have posted it. Don't get offended I'm just ranting as well. Eva

 

[Emily65Roses]

I didn't specifically call you holier than thou, Eva. I was mostly referring to the anonymous post before mine. I wrote what I wrote because I believe in all of it, and I think I have reason to do so. Just as everyone everywhere has a right to their own individual opinion. I just know that some people take it the wrong way, and that's why I chose to say don't get offended.

 

[Emily65Roses]

I didn't specifically call you holier than thou, Eva. I was mostly referring to the anonymous post before mine. I wrote what I wrote because I believe in all of it, and I think I have reason to do so. Just as everyone everywhere has a right to their own individual opinion. I just know that some people take it the wrong way, and that's why I chose to say don't get offended.