BTW I talked to the SS and I can indeed get married and not worry about losing any of my benefits! I am on SSD (I think she corrected me when I said SSDI). She also said that if I were to go and work full time somewhere else and get off my payments/benefits, as long as I do it within 5 years they could expedite me back onto either my fathers or what I have accrued on my own, and whichever would be more, that's what I would get.
So basically good news all around. I will call back two or three more times, taking down names each time to document it, and asking those times as well just to make sure. But so far, great news for me!