everyone in my family smokes

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justdance

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Hey guys,

I got thinking about this while reading the (very funny) thread about what bugs us about non-cfers. Can I say what bugs me most? I live with my parents, brother and sister (none of whom have cf, thank God). They all smoke <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> In fairness it's never in the house, they stand at the back door. I worry a lot hearing my dad cough so badly evey morning. He's had pneumonia twice and is ofetn on antibiotics from his doc. It particularly bugs me when I come home from a run/ gym and see one of them in the back garden smoking. Especially my sister- she's a few years younger than me and we look quite alike so I always kinda saw her as "me minus the cf"...now she's throwing her healthy lungs in my face. Do I sound bitter about this? I guess I really am.

But I can't talk about it to them as they just shy away from the conversation. Literally my dad will leave the room. He is so, so addicted and I know that is a massive problem for him. I just don't get it, they are really supportive of me in all other ways. But I bust my ass day in, day out to stay on top and still won't have what they naturally have. But they don't seem to give a crap about preserving their health, or how much it hurts me.

Am I being self-righteous? It is their life, their choice. And, like my sister rather hurtfully said to me, "hey I'm not the one with cf"...what would you guys do?
 
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justdance

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Hey guys,

I got thinking about this while reading the (very funny) thread about what bugs us about non-cfers. Can I say what bugs me most? I live with my parents, brother and sister (none of whom have cf, thank God). They all smoke <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> In fairness it's never in the house, they stand at the back door. I worry a lot hearing my dad cough so badly evey morning. He's had pneumonia twice and is ofetn on antibiotics from his doc. It particularly bugs me when I come home from a run/ gym and see one of them in the back garden smoking. Especially my sister- she's a few years younger than me and we look quite alike so I always kinda saw her as "me minus the cf"...now she's throwing her healthy lungs in my face. Do I sound bitter about this? I guess I really am.

But I can't talk about it to them as they just shy away from the conversation. Literally my dad will leave the room. He is so, so addicted and I know that is a massive problem for him. I just don't get it, they are really supportive of me in all other ways. But I bust my ass day in, day out to stay on top and still won't have what they naturally have. But they don't seem to give a crap about preserving their health, or how much it hurts me.

Am I being self-righteous? It is their life, their choice. And, like my sister rather hurtfully said to me, "hey I'm not the one with cf"...what would you guys do?
 
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justdance

New member
Hey guys,
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<br />I got thinking about this while reading the (very funny) thread about what bugs us about non-cfers. Can I say what bugs me most? I live with my parents, brother and sister (none of whom have cf, thank God). They all smoke <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> In fairness it's never in the house, they stand at the back door. I worry a lot hearing my dad cough so badly evey morning. He's had pneumonia twice and is ofetn on antibiotics from his doc. It particularly bugs me when I come home from a run/ gym and see one of them in the back garden smoking. Especially my sister- she's a few years younger than me and we look quite alike so I always kinda saw her as "me minus the cf"...now she's throwing her healthy lungs in my face. Do I sound bitter about this? I guess I really am.
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<br />But I can't talk about it to them as they just shy away from the conversation. Literally my dad will leave the room. He is so, so addicted and I know that is a massive problem for him. I just don't get it, they are really supportive of me in all other ways. But I bust my ass day in, day out to stay on top and still won't have what they naturally have. But they don't seem to give a crap about preserving their health, or how much it hurts me.
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<br />Am I being self-righteous? It is their life, their choice. And, like my sister rather hurtfully said to me, "hey I'm not the one with cf"...what would you guys do?
 
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Transplantmommy

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You definitely have the right to feel annoyed. When I was in 9th grade, I was living in an apartment with my Mom, siblings, and 6 other people, and my younger sister and I are the only ones who didn't smoke. That leaves 9 people who smoked, and yes, they smoked in the house!!! My Mom and older siblings still smoke and it annoys the hell out of me. They don't smoke inside anymore or anywhere near me when I'm at any of their houses, so that's good, but I would really rather have them quit all together.
 
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Transplantmommy

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You definitely have the right to feel annoyed. When I was in 9th grade, I was living in an apartment with my Mom, siblings, and 6 other people, and my younger sister and I are the only ones who didn't smoke. That leaves 9 people who smoked, and yes, they smoked in the house!!! My Mom and older siblings still smoke and it annoys the hell out of me. They don't smoke inside anymore or anywhere near me when I'm at any of their houses, so that's good, but I would really rather have them quit all together.
 
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Transplantmommy

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You definitely have the right to feel annoyed. When I was in 9th grade, I was living in an apartment with my Mom, siblings, and 6 other people, and my younger sister and I are the only ones who didn't smoke. That leaves 9 people who smoked, and yes, they smoked in the house!!! My Mom and older siblings still smoke and it annoys the hell out of me. They don't smoke inside anymore or anywhere near me when I'm at any of their houses, so that's good, but I would really rather have them quit all together.
 
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mjp317

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I hate smoking...not the people who smoke, just the act itself and the companies that think its OK to continue to make it when its health hazards are known. Both my parents smoked and I was only diagnosed a month ago (at age 39) and looking back, the smoke always bothered me and was always in my face. I visited for the holiday and they smoked outside but the smell carries on them. YES - its ok to be annoyed by SMOKE. Its to bad that they can't kick the habit because its effects on you are obvious. Can I say it again...I HATE SMOKING!
 
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mjp317

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I hate smoking...not the people who smoke, just the act itself and the companies that think its OK to continue to make it when its health hazards are known. Both my parents smoked and I was only diagnosed a month ago (at age 39) and looking back, the smoke always bothered me and was always in my face. I visited for the holiday and they smoked outside but the smell carries on them. YES - its ok to be annoyed by SMOKE. Its to bad that they can't kick the habit because its effects on you are obvious. Can I say it again...I HATE SMOKING!
 
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mjp317

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I hate smoking...not the people who smoke, just the act itself and the companies that think its OK to continue to make it when its health hazards are known. Both my parents smoked and I was only diagnosed a month ago (at age 39) and looking back, the smoke always bothered me and was always in my face. I visited for the holiday and they smoked outside but the smell carries on them. YES - its ok to be annoyed by SMOKE. Its to bad that they can't kick the habit because its effects on you are obvious. Can I say it again...I HATE SMOKING!
 
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MCGrad2006

Guest
YES you have a right to be upset.

I do not have any immediate family that smokes, thank god...but a cousin does. One year at Thanksgiving at the kid table...haha...I was probably 22. Anyway, it was all of my cousins and I and we are all pretty much adults at the time 18 years and older. I don't know how it came up, but I said something to my cousin to try and talk sense into him. I said "Well you are lucky you have good lungs, I don't" or something along those lines....and all of my cousins LAUGHED at that, like it was meant to be funny.

I was (and still sort of am) livid. I mean seriously??? At 18 years old this kid started smoking...haven't you been educated about the dangers? Don't you know what smoking does to a person? It does not bother me as much when I see older people smoking because (giving them the benefit of the doubt) they were unaware of the dangers and are addicted. I get that its hard to stop now. But when I see young people smoking it gets to me!!! I mean we have all been educated against smoking and we have learned the dangers and yet some are still starting...

I am sorry that your family smokes. I wish there was an easy way to help them, but unfortunately (as you know I am sure) it is very difficult. I would be upset if I were you.
 
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MCGrad2006

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YES you have a right to be upset.

I do not have any immediate family that smokes, thank god...but a cousin does. One year at Thanksgiving at the kid table...haha...I was probably 22. Anyway, it was all of my cousins and I and we are all pretty much adults at the time 18 years and older. I don't know how it came up, but I said something to my cousin to try and talk sense into him. I said "Well you are lucky you have good lungs, I don't" or something along those lines....and all of my cousins LAUGHED at that, like it was meant to be funny.

I was (and still sort of am) livid. I mean seriously??? At 18 years old this kid started smoking...haven't you been educated about the dangers? Don't you know what smoking does to a person? It does not bother me as much when I see older people smoking because (giving them the benefit of the doubt) they were unaware of the dangers and are addicted. I get that its hard to stop now. But when I see young people smoking it gets to me!!! I mean we have all been educated against smoking and we have learned the dangers and yet some are still starting...

I am sorry that your family smokes. I wish there was an easy way to help them, but unfortunately (as you know I am sure) it is very difficult. I would be upset if I were you.
 
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MCGrad2006

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YES you have a right to be upset.
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<br />I do not have any immediate family that smokes, thank god...but a cousin does. One year at Thanksgiving at the kid table...haha...I was probably 22. Anyway, it was all of my cousins and I and we are all pretty much adults at the time 18 years and older. I don't know how it came up, but I said something to my cousin to try and talk sense into him. I said "Well you are lucky you have good lungs, I don't" or something along those lines....and all of my cousins LAUGHED at that, like it was meant to be funny.
<br />
<br />I was (and still sort of am) livid. I mean seriously??? At 18 years old this kid started smoking...haven't you been educated about the dangers? Don't you know what smoking does to a person? It does not bother me as much when I see older people smoking because (giving them the benefit of the doubt) they were unaware of the dangers and are addicted. I get that its hard to stop now. But when I see young people smoking it gets to me!!! I mean we have all been educated against smoking and we have learned the dangers and yet some are still starting...
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<br />I am sorry that your family smokes. I wish there was an easy way to help them, but unfortunately (as you know I am sure) it is very difficult. I would be upset if I were you.
 
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just1more

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Yes you are right to be hurt, frankly you have every right to be irate.

I can't tell you what to do; though for your health is there anyway you could possibly move out of home? I know it may not be possible but it sounds like they don't intend to stop and as you get older it is going to become more of an issue for your CF.

As a father of a CF'r, I know it happens but I can't imagine making the decision that my habit was more important than my child. Yes quitting can be hard, especially for older adults, but I'd give my life for my kids...I don't understand how I quitting could be any harder than that.

When I see younger (ie 20's) people smoking I want to just smack them. There is NO way they don't know what they are doing and it makes me want to puke that they are destroying a perfectly good pair of lungs because they can!
 
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just1more

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Yes you are right to be hurt, frankly you have every right to be irate.

I can't tell you what to do; though for your health is there anyway you could possibly move out of home? I know it may not be possible but it sounds like they don't intend to stop and as you get older it is going to become more of an issue for your CF.

As a father of a CF'r, I know it happens but I can't imagine making the decision that my habit was more important than my child. Yes quitting can be hard, especially for older adults, but I'd give my life for my kids...I don't understand how I quitting could be any harder than that.

When I see younger (ie 20's) people smoking I want to just smack them. There is NO way they don't know what they are doing and it makes me want to puke that they are destroying a perfectly good pair of lungs because they can!
 
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just1more

New member
Yes you are right to be hurt, frankly you have every right to be irate.
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<br />I can't tell you what to do; though for your health is there anyway you could possibly move out of home? I know it may not be possible but it sounds like they don't intend to stop and as you get older it is going to become more of an issue for your CF.
<br />
<br />As a father of a CF'r, I know it happens but I can't imagine making the decision that my habit was more important than my child. Yes quitting can be hard, especially for older adults, but I'd give my life for my kids...I don't understand how I quitting could be any harder than that.
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<br />When I see younger (ie 20's) people smoking I want to just smack them. There is NO way they don't know what they are doing and it makes me want to puke that they are destroying a perfectly good pair of lungs because they can!
 
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sarabeth87

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You have every right to be annoyed and mad about it. My mom or dad neither one smokes, but nearly every single one of my husband's family smokes that we are around. My husband even smokes and to be honest, it hurts me that he won't even try to give it up knowing what it does to me. No one smokes in my house though or in their own houses when I'm over there, but it doesn't matter because their house still smells like an ashtray. Me, my mom, and my brother all work for the family business and most of my uncles smoke and they smoke around my brother, even in the truck with him. I really don't think they understand the seriousness of it.
 
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sarabeth87

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You have every right to be annoyed and mad about it. My mom or dad neither one smokes, but nearly every single one of my husband's family smokes that we are around. My husband even smokes and to be honest, it hurts me that he won't even try to give it up knowing what it does to me. No one smokes in my house though or in their own houses when I'm over there, but it doesn't matter because their house still smells like an ashtray. Me, my mom, and my brother all work for the family business and most of my uncles smoke and they smoke around my brother, even in the truck with him. I really don't think they understand the seriousness of it.
 
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sarabeth87

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You have every right to be annoyed and mad about it. My mom or dad neither one smokes, but nearly every single one of my husband's family smokes that we are around. My husband even smokes and to be honest, it hurts me that he won't even try to give it up knowing what it does to me. No one smokes in my house though or in their own houses when I'm over there, but it doesn't matter because their house still smells like an ashtray. Me, my mom, and my brother all work for the family business and most of my uncles smoke and they smoke around my brother, even in the truck with him. I really don't think they understand the seriousness of it.
 
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Proxy

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I think its something that bugs us all to some extent, it used to annoy me something awful but realised that they need to decide to stop smoking for themselves, not because I guilted them into it so I try not to dwell on it to much, I know there not doing it to spite me.
 
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Proxy

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I think its something that bugs us all to some extent, it used to annoy me something awful but realised that they need to decide to stop smoking for themselves, not because I guilted them into it so I try not to dwell on it to much, I know there not doing it to spite me.
 
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