Feeling guilty

shimmereestar · Jun 19, 2008

My little one is turning 7 months old tomorrow (I can't believe how fast it's going by). Things are starting to seem "normal" I'm actually going back to work in August as a teacher. I'm starting to feel really guilty about it. I really want to go back to teaching, I miss it so much, but I know how much I'll miss Ellie too. I'm so confused. Financially I need to go back to work and I really looked at night jobs and part time jobs. Turns out I can make more money teaching and giving half my salary to a nanny (who is my best friend mom) than working part time or at nights (not a whole lot of options where I live). Have any of you had to go back to work? I feel like I should always be with Ellie, but I feel like I need to get back to a life of my own but then I feel so guilty about wanting that. I know Ellie will be in great hands but this is eating me. Has anyone else ever felt like this? In ya'lls opinion is it okay to go back to a "normal" life? Has anyone else gone through this?

shimmereestar · Jun 19, 2008

My little one is turning 7 months old tomorrow (I can't believe how fast it's going by). Things are starting to seem "normal" I'm actually going back to work in August as a teacher. I'm starting to feel really guilty about it. I really want to go back to teaching, I miss it so much, but I know how much I'll miss Ellie too. I'm so confused. Financially I need to go back to work and I really looked at night jobs and part time jobs. Turns out I can make more money teaching and giving half my salary to a nanny (who is my best friend mom) than working part time or at nights (not a whole lot of options where I live). Have any of you had to go back to work? I feel like I should always be with Ellie, but I feel like I need to get back to a life of my own but then I feel so guilty about wanting that. I know Ellie will be in great hands but this is eating me. Has anyone else ever felt like this? In ya'lls opinion is it okay to go back to a "normal" life? Has anyone else gone through this?

shimmereestar · Jun 19, 2008

My little one is turning 7 months old tomorrow (I can't believe how fast it's going by). Things are starting to seem "normal" I'm actually going back to work in August as a teacher. I'm starting to feel really guilty about it. I really want to go back to teaching, I miss it so much, but I know how much I'll miss Ellie too. I'm so confused. Financially I need to go back to work and I really looked at night jobs and part time jobs. Turns out I can make more money teaching and giving half my salary to a nanny (who is my best friend mom) than working part time or at nights (not a whole lot of options where I live). Have any of you had to go back to work? I feel like I should always be with Ellie, but I feel like I need to get back to a life of my own but then I feel so guilty about wanting that. I know Ellie will be in great hands but this is eating me. Has anyone else ever felt like this? In ya'lls opinion is it okay to go back to a "normal" life? Has anyone else gone through this?

shimmereestar · Jun 19, 2008

My little one is turning 7 months old tomorrow (I can't believe how fast it's going by). Things are starting to seem "normal" I'm actually going back to work in August as a teacher. I'm starting to feel really guilty about it. I really want to go back to teaching, I miss it so much, but I know how much I'll miss Ellie too. I'm so confused. Financially I need to go back to work and I really looked at night jobs and part time jobs. Turns out I can make more money teaching and giving half my salary to a nanny (who is my best friend mom) than working part time or at nights (not a whole lot of options where I live). Have any of you had to go back to work? I feel like I should always be with Ellie, but I feel like I need to get back to a life of my own but then I feel so guilty about wanting that. I know Ellie will be in great hands but this is eating me. Has anyone else ever felt like this? In ya'lls opinion is it okay to go back to a "normal" life? Has anyone else gone through this?

shimmereestar · Jun 19, 2008

My little one is turning 7 months old tomorrow (I can't believe how fast it's going by). Things are starting to seem "normal" I'm actually going back to work in August as a teacher. I'm starting to feel really guilty about it. I really want to go back to teaching, I miss it so much, but I know how much I'll miss Ellie too. I'm so confused. Financially I need to go back to work and I really looked at night jobs and part time jobs. Turns out I can make more money teaching and giving half my salary to a nanny (who is my best friend mom) than working part time or at nights (not a whole lot of options where I live). Have any of you had to go back to work? I feel like I should always be with Ellie, but I feel like I need to get back to a life of my own but then I feel so guilty about wanting that. I know Ellie will be in great hands but this is eating me. Has anyone else ever felt like this? In ya'lls opinion is it okay to go back to a "normal" life? Has anyone else gone through this?

JazzysMom · Jun 19, 2008

I returned to work when my daughter was 5 months old. She doesnt have CF, I do so maybe that will make a difference.

It was the hardest thing I had to do. Her personality was really developing & all that fun started.

I missed work terribly tho. It ended up working out well. When I had a bad day at work, I couldnt wait to pick her up from the daycare. When she was teething or cranking I was glad to get a break by going to work.

It was difficult to balance both, but great until it took its toll on my health. That was actually after my husband changed jobs so he wasnt around alot.

There are people that have stern thoughts on how a Mom should stay home, but I feel what makes you happy......makes you a better Mom in the long run.

You seem to have some benefits with daycare set up already.

Good Luck~

JazzysMom · Jun 19, 2008

I returned to work when my daughter was 5 months old. She doesnt have CF, I do so maybe that will make a difference.

It was the hardest thing I had to do. Her personality was really developing & all that fun started.

I missed work terribly tho. It ended up working out well. When I had a bad day at work, I couldnt wait to pick her up from the daycare. When she was teething or cranking I was glad to get a break by going to work.

It was difficult to balance both, but great until it took its toll on my health. That was actually after my husband changed jobs so he wasnt around alot.

There are people that have stern thoughts on how a Mom should stay home, but I feel what makes you happy......makes you a better Mom in the long run.

You seem to have some benefits with daycare set up already.

Good Luck~

JazzysMom · Jun 19, 2008

I returned to work when my daughter was 5 months old. She doesnt have CF, I do so maybe that will make a difference.

It was the hardest thing I had to do. Her personality was really developing & all that fun started.

I missed work terribly tho. It ended up working out well. When I had a bad day at work, I couldnt wait to pick her up from the daycare. When she was teething or cranking I was glad to get a break by going to work.

It was difficult to balance both, but great until it took its toll on my health. That was actually after my husband changed jobs so he wasnt around alot.

There are people that have stern thoughts on how a Mom should stay home, but I feel what makes you happy......makes you a better Mom in the long run.

You seem to have some benefits with daycare set up already.

Good Luck~

JazzysMom · Jun 19, 2008

I returned to work when my daughter was 5 months old. She doesnt have CF, I do so maybe that will make a difference.

It was the hardest thing I had to do. Her personality was really developing & all that fun started.

I missed work terribly tho. It ended up working out well. When I had a bad day at work, I couldnt wait to pick her up from the daycare. When she was teething or cranking I was glad to get a break by going to work.

It was difficult to balance both, but great until it took its toll on my health. That was actually after my husband changed jobs so he wasnt around alot.

There are people that have stern thoughts on how a Mom should stay home, but I feel what makes you happy......makes you a better Mom in the long run.

You seem to have some benefits with daycare set up already.

Good Luck~

JazzysMom · Jun 19, 2008

I returned to work when my daughter was 5 months old. She doesnt have CF, I do so maybe that will make a difference.
 
 It was the hardest thing I had to do. Her personality was really developing & all that fun started.
 
 I missed work terribly tho. It ended up working out well. When I had a bad day at work, I couldnt wait to pick her up from the daycare. When she was teething or cranking I was glad to get a break by going to work.
 
 It was difficult to balance both, but great until it took its toll on my health. That was actually after my husband changed jobs so he wasnt around alot.
 
 There are people that have stern thoughts on how a Mom should stay home, but I feel what makes you happy......makes you a better Mom in the long run.
 
 You seem to have some benefits with daycare set up already.
 
 Good Luck~

Ratatosk · Jun 19, 2008

I cried the whole way to daycare the morning I went back to work. He was in good hands. When he was home with us, I'd sometimes stress because he was a terrible eater and he probably picked up on some of that tension 'cuz he ate well, slept well for them. I too missed work, interacting with grown-ups. I love my son, love spending time with him but felt as long as he thrived and did well in that environment, I could continue to make good money and set some aside for someday for his future, possible future health issues.

Knowing that he was most likely going to be an only child, we also felt that it was important that he get some socialization, interact with others his age, learn how to share.

It's really hard to just put down all our reasons in a quick post. We didn't take my decision to go back to work lightly, thought long and hard about it and weighed our options, spoke with his doctor....

Ratatosk · Jun 19, 2008

I cried the whole way to daycare the morning I went back to work. He was in good hands. When he was home with us, I'd sometimes stress because he was a terrible eater and he probably picked up on some of that tension 'cuz he ate well, slept well for them. I too missed work, interacting with grown-ups. I love my son, love spending time with him but felt as long as he thrived and did well in that environment, I could continue to make good money and set some aside for someday for his future, possible future health issues.

Knowing that he was most likely going to be an only child, we also felt that it was important that he get some socialization, interact with others his age, learn how to share.

It's really hard to just put down all our reasons in a quick post. We didn't take my decision to go back to work lightly, thought long and hard about it and weighed our options, spoke with his doctor....

Ratatosk · Jun 19, 2008

I cried the whole way to daycare the morning I went back to work. He was in good hands. When he was home with us, I'd sometimes stress because he was a terrible eater and he probably picked up on some of that tension 'cuz he ate well, slept well for them. I too missed work, interacting with grown-ups. I love my son, love spending time with him but felt as long as he thrived and did well in that environment, I could continue to make good money and set some aside for someday for his future, possible future health issues.

Knowing that he was most likely going to be an only child, we also felt that it was important that he get some socialization, interact with others his age, learn how to share.

It's really hard to just put down all our reasons in a quick post. We didn't take my decision to go back to work lightly, thought long and hard about it and weighed our options, spoke with his doctor....

Ratatosk · Jun 19, 2008

I cried the whole way to daycare the morning I went back to work. He was in good hands. When he was home with us, I'd sometimes stress because he was a terrible eater and he probably picked up on some of that tension 'cuz he ate well, slept well for them. I too missed work, interacting with grown-ups. I love my son, love spending time with him but felt as long as he thrived and did well in that environment, I could continue to make good money and set some aside for someday for his future, possible future health issues.

Knowing that he was most likely going to be an only child, we also felt that it was important that he get some socialization, interact with others his age, learn how to share.

It's really hard to just put down all our reasons in a quick post. We didn't take my decision to go back to work lightly, thought long and hard about it and weighed our options, spoke with his doctor....

Ratatosk · Jun 19, 2008

I cried the whole way to daycare the morning I went back to work. He was in good hands. When he was home with us, I'd sometimes stress because he was a terrible eater and he probably picked up on some of that tension 'cuz he ate well, slept well for them. I too missed work, interacting with grown-ups. I love my son, love spending time with him but felt as long as he thrived and did well in that environment, I could continue to make good money and set some aside for someday for his future, possible future health issues.
 
 Knowing that he was most likely going to be an only child, we also felt that it was important that he get some socialization, interact with others his age, learn how to share.
 
 It's really hard to just put down all our reasons in a quick post. We didn't take my decision to go back to work lightly, thought long and hard about it and weighed our options, spoke with his doctor....

kaylasdad · Jun 20, 2008

I think it would be good for you to get a little time to your self doing what you love to do. My wife wants to go back to work but we don't want to put Kayla in day care because all the health problems shes had.If we had someone we trust like you do I think she would go back.But not without guilt . I think a lot of mothers with healthy kids have guilt going back to work and leaving there kids with someone for hours out of the day. Its a natural response for a mother to feel that way. But it sure don't make you a bad mom, you'll have more money to bye her stuff(lol)<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">

kaylasdad · Jun 20, 2008

I think it would be good for you to get a little time to your self doing what you love to do. My wife wants to go back to work but we don't want to put Kayla in day care because all the health problems shes had.If we had someone we trust like you do I think she would go back.But not without guilt . I think a lot of mothers with healthy kids have guilt going back to work and leaving there kids with someone for hours out of the day. Its a natural response for a mother to feel that way. But it sure don't make you a bad mom, you'll have more money to bye her stuff(lol)<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">

kaylasdad · Jun 20, 2008

I think it would be good for you to get a little time to your self doing what you love to do. My wife wants to go back to work but we don't want to put Kayla in day care because all the health problems shes had.If we had someone we trust like you do I think she would go back.But not without guilt . I think a lot of mothers with healthy kids have guilt going back to work and leaving there kids with someone for hours out of the day. Its a natural response for a mother to feel that way. But it sure don't make you a bad mom, you'll have more money to bye her stuff(lol)<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">

kaylasdad · Jun 20, 2008

I think it would be good for you to get a little time to your self doing what you love to do. My wife wants to go back to work but we don't want to put Kayla in day care because all the health problems shes had.If we had someone we trust like you do I think she would go back.But not without guilt . I think a lot of mothers with healthy kids have guilt going back to work and leaving there kids with someone for hours out of the day. Its a natural response for a mother to feel that way. But it sure don't make you a bad mom, you'll have more money to bye her stuff(lol)<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">

kaylasdad · Jun 20, 2008

I think it would be good for you to get a little time to your self doing what you love to do. My wife wants to go back to work but we don't want to put Kayla in day care because all the health problems shes had.If we had someone we trust like you do I think she would go back.But not without guilt . I think a lot of mothers with healthy kids have guilt going back to work and leaving there kids with someone for hours out of the day. Its a natural response for a mother to feel that way. But it sure don't make you a bad mom, you'll have more money to bye her stuff(lol)<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">

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