Feeling guilty

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MargaritaChic

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shimmereestar,

I think what you are feeling is normal whether your child has CF or not.

I went back to work when Emma was 2 months old. My husband is a SAHD and I work full-time to support our family. It is hard to go back. I do miss her. But I also know that she is safe at home with daddy.

Only you can decide what you will feel comfortable with. Many people cannot afford to be a one income family. It is difficult, but we are making it work, because neither of us trusted anyone else enough to take care of her the way we would.

Message me if you want to talk more.
 
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MargaritaChic

New member
shimmereestar,

I think what you are feeling is normal whether your child has CF or not.

I went back to work when Emma was 2 months old. My husband is a SAHD and I work full-time to support our family. It is hard to go back. I do miss her. But I also know that she is safe at home with daddy.

Only you can decide what you will feel comfortable with. Many people cannot afford to be a one income family. It is difficult, but we are making it work, because neither of us trusted anyone else enough to take care of her the way we would.

Message me if you want to talk more.
 
M

MargaritaChic

New member
shimmereestar,

I think what you are feeling is normal whether your child has CF or not.

I went back to work when Emma was 2 months old. My husband is a SAHD and I work full-time to support our family. It is hard to go back. I do miss her. But I also know that she is safe at home with daddy.

Only you can decide what you will feel comfortable with. Many people cannot afford to be a one income family. It is difficult, but we are making it work, because neither of us trusted anyone else enough to take care of her the way we would.

Message me if you want to talk more.
 
M

MargaritaChic

New member
shimmereestar,

I think what you are feeling is normal whether your child has CF or not.

I went back to work when Emma was 2 months old. My husband is a SAHD and I work full-time to support our family. It is hard to go back. I do miss her. But I also know that she is safe at home with daddy.

Only you can decide what you will feel comfortable with. Many people cannot afford to be a one income family. It is difficult, but we are making it work, because neither of us trusted anyone else enough to take care of her the way we would.

Message me if you want to talk more.
 
M

MargaritaChic

New member
shimmereestar,
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<br />I think what you are feeling is normal whether your child has CF or not.
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<br />I went back to work when Emma was 2 months old. My husband is a SAHD and I work full-time to support our family. It is hard to go back. I do miss her. But I also know that she is safe at home with daddy.
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<br />Only you can decide what you will feel comfortable with. Many people cannot afford to be a one income family. It is difficult, but we are making it work, because neither of us trusted anyone else enough to take care of her the way we would.
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<br />Message me if you want to talk more.
 
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JORDYSMOM

New member
Sarah, a lot of mom's go through this. There is absolutely no reason for you to feel guilty about it. You will be leaving your child with a trusted family friend. You will be providing income to your family. You will be doing something very rewarding and satisfying for yourself and the children you teach. I could go on and on. It really is okay to want this for yourself and your family.

Have you ever heard the old saying It takes a villiage to raise a child? Well, that's how it used to be. Family, friends and neighbors all helped each other out with raising the kids. You are NOT allowing someone else to raise your child. You ARE allowing someone else to help care for your child, and THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT!!

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Stacey
 
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JORDYSMOM

New member
Sarah, a lot of mom's go through this. There is absolutely no reason for you to feel guilty about it. You will be leaving your child with a trusted family friend. You will be providing income to your family. You will be doing something very rewarding and satisfying for yourself and the children you teach. I could go on and on. It really is okay to want this for yourself and your family.

Have you ever heard the old saying It takes a villiage to raise a child? Well, that's how it used to be. Family, friends and neighbors all helped each other out with raising the kids. You are NOT allowing someone else to raise your child. You ARE allowing someone else to help care for your child, and THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT!!

<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

Stacey
 
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JORDYSMOM

New member
Sarah, a lot of mom's go through this. There is absolutely no reason for you to feel guilty about it. You will be leaving your child with a trusted family friend. You will be providing income to your family. You will be doing something very rewarding and satisfying for yourself and the children you teach. I could go on and on. It really is okay to want this for yourself and your family.

Have you ever heard the old saying It takes a villiage to raise a child? Well, that's how it used to be. Family, friends and neighbors all helped each other out with raising the kids. You are NOT allowing someone else to raise your child. You ARE allowing someone else to help care for your child, and THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT!!

<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

Stacey
 
J

JORDYSMOM

New member
Sarah, a lot of mom's go through this. There is absolutely no reason for you to feel guilty about it. You will be leaving your child with a trusted family friend. You will be providing income to your family. You will be doing something very rewarding and satisfying for yourself and the children you teach. I could go on and on. It really is okay to want this for yourself and your family.

Have you ever heard the old saying It takes a villiage to raise a child? Well, that's how it used to be. Family, friends and neighbors all helped each other out with raising the kids. You are NOT allowing someone else to raise your child. You ARE allowing someone else to help care for your child, and THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT!!

<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

Stacey
 
J

JORDYSMOM

New member
Sarah, a lot of mom's go through this. There is absolutely no reason for you to feel guilty about it. You will be leaving your child with a trusted family friend. You will be providing income to your family. You will be doing something very rewarding and satisfying for yourself and the children you teach. I could go on and on. It really is okay to want this for yourself and your family.
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<br />Have you ever heard the old saying It takes a villiage to raise a child? Well, that's how it used to be. Family, friends and neighbors all helped each other out with raising the kids. You are NOT allowing someone else to raise your child. You ARE allowing someone else to help care for your child, and THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT!!
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<br />Stacey
 
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valigirl21

Guest
I have to agree with Sheridan that No Excuses post was nasty. I'd also like to add a bit immature. What we are losing sight of is that you want your child to be able to be a child, with minimal risk to health. It sounds like it will be an in-home setting with minimal possibility for communal colds like you get in child care centers. I have a child who went to daycare his whole life, had terrible lung infections, and we were still told by our specialist that it was better that he build up his tolerance instead of keeping him in an isolated, lonely world. He has now been mostly symptom free for going on 6 years. The dicision is always the parents, of course, but CF is what she has, you don't want it to be who she is. A life lived in fear is a life half-lived. (That's a famous quote, but I can't remember who said it! HEEHEE!)
 
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valigirl21

Guest
I have to agree with Sheridan that No Excuses post was nasty. I'd also like to add a bit immature. What we are losing sight of is that you want your child to be able to be a child, with minimal risk to health. It sounds like it will be an in-home setting with minimal possibility for communal colds like you get in child care centers. I have a child who went to daycare his whole life, had terrible lung infections, and we were still told by our specialist that it was better that he build up his tolerance instead of keeping him in an isolated, lonely world. He has now been mostly symptom free for going on 6 years. The dicision is always the parents, of course, but CF is what she has, you don't want it to be who she is. A life lived in fear is a life half-lived. (That's a famous quote, but I can't remember who said it! HEEHEE!)
 
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valigirl21

Guest
I have to agree with Sheridan that No Excuses post was nasty. I'd also like to add a bit immature. What we are losing sight of is that you want your child to be able to be a child, with minimal risk to health. It sounds like it will be an in-home setting with minimal possibility for communal colds like you get in child care centers. I have a child who went to daycare his whole life, had terrible lung infections, and we were still told by our specialist that it was better that he build up his tolerance instead of keeping him in an isolated, lonely world. He has now been mostly symptom free for going on 6 years. The dicision is always the parents, of course, but CF is what she has, you don't want it to be who she is. A life lived in fear is a life half-lived. (That's a famous quote, but I can't remember who said it! HEEHEE!)
 
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valigirl21

Guest
I have to agree with Sheridan that No Excuses post was nasty. I'd also like to add a bit immature. What we are losing sight of is that you want your child to be able to be a child, with minimal risk to health. It sounds like it will be an in-home setting with minimal possibility for communal colds like you get in child care centers. I have a child who went to daycare his whole life, had terrible lung infections, and we were still told by our specialist that it was better that he build up his tolerance instead of keeping him in an isolated, lonely world. He has now been mostly symptom free for going on 6 years. The dicision is always the parents, of course, but CF is what she has, you don't want it to be who she is. A life lived in fear is a life half-lived. (That's a famous quote, but I can't remember who said it! HEEHEE!)
 
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valigirl21

Guest
I have to agree with Sheridan that No Excuses post was nasty. I'd also like to add a bit immature. What we are losing sight of is that you want your child to be able to be a child, with minimal risk to health. It sounds like it will be an in-home setting with minimal possibility for communal colds like you get in child care centers. I have a child who went to daycare his whole life, had terrible lung infections, and we were still told by our specialist that it was better that he build up his tolerance instead of keeping him in an isolated, lonely world. He has now been mostly symptom free for going on 6 years. The dicision is always the parents, of course, but CF is what she has, you don't want it to be who she is. A life lived in fear is a life half-lived. (That's a famous quote, but I can't remember who said it! HEEHEE!)
 
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zoeg

New member
I have to agree with others that the previous No Excuses post was not very nice. It sure is easy to pass judgement on how to raise children before you actually have them.....

I too, am a teacher and did not have the financial choice of not going back to work. I was lucky in Kate's first years to have family watching her but this past year as she turned 2 we did a part time preschool/daycare situation. She loves it and I think it is great for her social development as well. She has caught some colds, along with the lovely hand, foot, mouth disease but overall things haven't been to bad. Next year she is even going to preschool full time! Like Liza said, she too wouldn't nap at home- sleeps great there. It has also been a blessing for me to be back at work and not be so obsessed with CF. Kate's doctor once told me to get off the internet and just live our life. Not to worry so much about the unknowns. It was good advice for me to hear, and I think my child is better off not having a crazy mom that doesn't want to take her places for fear of germs. (Now I do carry my antibacterial wipes everywhere still though!) <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

Being a teacher you are also lucky to have such nice breaks. I pack our summers with fun activities and the pool- so you will get more time with her than the average working mom. Try not to feel so guilty- she will do great!

Zoe, mom to Kate wCF and Ava
 
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zoeg

New member
I have to agree with others that the previous No Excuses post was not very nice. It sure is easy to pass judgement on how to raise children before you actually have them.....

I too, am a teacher and did not have the financial choice of not going back to work. I was lucky in Kate's first years to have family watching her but this past year as she turned 2 we did a part time preschool/daycare situation. She loves it and I think it is great for her social development as well. She has caught some colds, along with the lovely hand, foot, mouth disease but overall things haven't been to bad. Next year she is even going to preschool full time! Like Liza said, she too wouldn't nap at home- sleeps great there. It has also been a blessing for me to be back at work and not be so obsessed with CF. Kate's doctor once told me to get off the internet and just live our life. Not to worry so much about the unknowns. It was good advice for me to hear, and I think my child is better off not having a crazy mom that doesn't want to take her places for fear of germs. (Now I do carry my antibacterial wipes everywhere still though!) <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

Being a teacher you are also lucky to have such nice breaks. I pack our summers with fun activities and the pool- so you will get more time with her than the average working mom. Try not to feel so guilty- she will do great!

Zoe, mom to Kate wCF and Ava
 
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zoeg

New member
I have to agree with others that the previous No Excuses post was not very nice. It sure is easy to pass judgement on how to raise children before you actually have them.....

I too, am a teacher and did not have the financial choice of not going back to work. I was lucky in Kate's first years to have family watching her but this past year as she turned 2 we did a part time preschool/daycare situation. She loves it and I think it is great for her social development as well. She has caught some colds, along with the lovely hand, foot, mouth disease but overall things haven't been to bad. Next year she is even going to preschool full time! Like Liza said, she too wouldn't nap at home- sleeps great there. It has also been a blessing for me to be back at work and not be so obsessed with CF. Kate's doctor once told me to get off the internet and just live our life. Not to worry so much about the unknowns. It was good advice for me to hear, and I think my child is better off not having a crazy mom that doesn't want to take her places for fear of germs. (Now I do carry my antibacterial wipes everywhere still though!) <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

Being a teacher you are also lucky to have such nice breaks. I pack our summers with fun activities and the pool- so you will get more time with her than the average working mom. Try not to feel so guilty- she will do great!

Zoe, mom to Kate wCF and Ava
 
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zoeg

New member
I have to agree with others that the previous No Excuses post was not very nice. It sure is easy to pass judgement on how to raise children before you actually have them.....

I too, am a teacher and did not have the financial choice of not going back to work. I was lucky in Kate's first years to have family watching her but this past year as she turned 2 we did a part time preschool/daycare situation. She loves it and I think it is great for her social development as well. She has caught some colds, along with the lovely hand, foot, mouth disease but overall things haven't been to bad. Next year she is even going to preschool full time! Like Liza said, she too wouldn't nap at home- sleeps great there. It has also been a blessing for me to be back at work and not be so obsessed with CF. Kate's doctor once told me to get off the internet and just live our life. Not to worry so much about the unknowns. It was good advice for me to hear, and I think my child is better off not having a crazy mom that doesn't want to take her places for fear of germs. (Now I do carry my antibacterial wipes everywhere still though!) <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

Being a teacher you are also lucky to have such nice breaks. I pack our summers with fun activities and the pool- so you will get more time with her than the average working mom. Try not to feel so guilty- she will do great!

Zoe, mom to Kate wCF and Ava
 
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zoeg

New member
I have to agree with others that the previous No Excuses post was not very nice. It sure is easy to pass judgement on how to raise children before you actually have them.....
<br />
<br />I too, am a teacher and did not have the financial choice of not going back to work. I was lucky in Kate's first years to have family watching her but this past year as she turned 2 we did a part time preschool/daycare situation. She loves it and I think it is great for her social development as well. She has caught some colds, along with the lovely hand, foot, mouth disease but overall things haven't been to bad. Next year she is even going to preschool full time! Like Liza said, she too wouldn't nap at home- sleeps great there. It has also been a blessing for me to be back at work and not be so obsessed with CF. Kate's doctor once told me to get off the internet and just live our life. Not to worry so much about the unknowns. It was good advice for me to hear, and I think my child is better off not having a crazy mom that doesn't want to take her places for fear of germs. (Now I do carry my antibacterial wipes everywhere still though!) <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
<br />
<br />Being a teacher you are also lucky to have such nice breaks. I pack our summers with fun activities and the pool- so you will get more time with her than the average working mom. Try not to feel so guilty- she will do great!
<br />
<br />Zoe, mom to Kate wCF and Ava
 
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