Scarlett81
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Things are going pretty good here with us. My MIL says they must be or I wouldn't even be considering a 2nd child. lol
Vienna is going to be 6 months this week! I want to cry....it goes so fast.
I'm finding myself already thinking about another one. Before I had my LO I had my 'plan'. Have her, and then next summer (summer of 08), get preg again with my next. Do it fast and while I'm young. My doc also says that if I do want more, to try to get it done quickly. I guess she feels that would be best for me.
Once she was born, I felt like...ok, I just want to enjoy her and not think of another one right now. My hubby was like-ok, lets go have the next!! We totally switched feelings. But he definitely would respect my or my docs feelings of not doing it if I can't. If it was up to him though, (regardless of health) we'd be getting preg today.
I guess I want to be the best I can for her. I'd LOVE more children. My feelings have always been to only do it if my health is as good as it was pre-Vienna. I've gotten my pfts back up-fev1 75 at preg, 45 halfway through and 68 right now. So I'm getting there.
So basically I feel torn right now. The thought of not being able to have another one pains me. But I want to be here for the child I have already. Time will tell. It may work out fine. Its still too soon to tell. I think that if I'm not 100% by summer, I'm not going to have another.
But, I can imagine that even if my pfts were amazing and doc said to go for it, to take that big leap would be scary!
So I wanted to start a discussion about having a 2nd baby. I think most of us mom cfers are so focused on the possibility and dream of having one child, that we don't think too much about the possibliity of having a second.
If you are about to have your 2nd, or already have more than one-please share your experience. Things like this:
How did you take that leap and decide to have more than one? How did your spouse/partner feel about having more than one? Were their feelings a big part of how you made your decision? How did your doctor feel about it? Did you have much of a plan with your doc, like I'm doing, or did you wing it?
What has been the biggest challenge of having more than one?-and the biggest reward?
If you have your first child, like me-how do you feel about having another?
Vienna is going to be 6 months this week! I want to cry....it goes so fast.
I'm finding myself already thinking about another one. Before I had my LO I had my 'plan'. Have her, and then next summer (summer of 08), get preg again with my next. Do it fast and while I'm young. My doc also says that if I do want more, to try to get it done quickly. I guess she feels that would be best for me.
Once she was born, I felt like...ok, I just want to enjoy her and not think of another one right now. My hubby was like-ok, lets go have the next!! We totally switched feelings. But he definitely would respect my or my docs feelings of not doing it if I can't. If it was up to him though, (regardless of health) we'd be getting preg today.
I guess I want to be the best I can for her. I'd LOVE more children. My feelings have always been to only do it if my health is as good as it was pre-Vienna. I've gotten my pfts back up-fev1 75 at preg, 45 halfway through and 68 right now. So I'm getting there.
So basically I feel torn right now. The thought of not being able to have another one pains me. But I want to be here for the child I have already. Time will tell. It may work out fine. Its still too soon to tell. I think that if I'm not 100% by summer, I'm not going to have another.
But, I can imagine that even if my pfts were amazing and doc said to go for it, to take that big leap would be scary!
So I wanted to start a discussion about having a 2nd baby. I think most of us mom cfers are so focused on the possibility and dream of having one child, that we don't think too much about the possibliity of having a second.
If you are about to have your 2nd, or already have more than one-please share your experience. Things like this:
How did you take that leap and decide to have more than one? How did your spouse/partner feel about having more than one? Were their feelings a big part of how you made your decision? How did your doctor feel about it? Did you have much of a plan with your doc, like I'm doing, or did you wing it?
What has been the biggest challenge of having more than one?-and the biggest reward?
If you have your first child, like me-how do you feel about having another?