I always wanted to have a baby but didn't dwell too much on it because I didn't know if my health would be able to handle it and if it would be possible to get pregnant. My first priority though was to marry my love of my life and be a good, healthy wife to him. He opted not to get carrier tested before we married and he knew that I strongly disagreed with conceiving a child with cf knowingly. When we discovered he wasn't a carrier I began dreaming of being a mom one day. Even then though I didn't dwell on it or think it would really happen because I didn't think I'd get pregnant and we had discussed not being interested in intervening with God's work.
When I became pregnant fast after beginning to TTC (first month) and had a very uneventful pregnancy the thought began to cross my mind of baby #2. In fact, I felt so good during pregnancy being a surregate the remainder of my life crossed my mind multiple times.
Dh also spoke of #2. Then came the genetic cf diagnosis of Isaac. We stopped discussing baby #2 and haven't really had too serious of a talk about it. We are in a **wait and see** approach for at least the first year. I am happy with what I've got but if after a year, Isaac still shows no signs of cf we might just go for it. I never would have thought I'd be one of "them" to roll the dice but I guess when you wear the person's shoes you see things a different way...or whatever the saying is.
One of my reasons for having a #2 is so that Isaac has a sibling when I die. Plus I feel being an only child is sort of a sad existance. There's no promises how long either Dh or I will be alive. The thought of leaving my sweet son by his lonesome makes me incredibly sad.
I don't have any interest in adopting. Even less since having a child of my own. I think it's great just not for me. Also for me it's not the pregnancy that is hard it's the motherhood as I believe most cf women find. My lung function actually went up while I was pregnant! I worry that I would adopt a child with a weak immune system and he/she would be sick often and I worry I wouldn't want to care for him/her because of risk of getting sick myself. As sick as that sounds it's a thought I've had so I don't think adoption is for me. I'm amazed I don't have this for my son - not really though since I don't have the feeling for my husband either so I guess love superceeds fear. I could see not bonding with an adopted child. So not cool for a LO.
I took a lot of medicines while pregnant and continue to take even more while breastfeeding. I study each drug I'm taking and don't have any regrets about it. Even if my DH had some lasting effects from it, I'd feel bad but more so I'd feel it was his "battle wound" of having a cf mom. It's part of life for us. I'm prepared to deal with the reprecussions just as I am with doing a delayed vaccine schedule. If I began to slip health wise requiring often IV antis or medicines with known problems for pregnancy or breastfeeding I would likely not have a 2nd. Breastfeeding my 2nd is very important to me.
If we have a second we will be TTC between 7/08-7/09. If it doesn't happen by then we'll adopt more dogs
I want to be around as long as possible for my boys.
I have come to realize that I will need to not work outside the home if I am to maintain my health if it gets much worse. Being a progressive disease I feel that I can't get prego with #2 until I've sealed the deal as a stay at home mom. I'm having a difficult time with the idea of giving up my salary. My dh is supportive of me being a SAHM but I have to access what that is going to do to our standard of living. We will be moving this spring. After we get settled I'm sure I'll have more thoughts on this subject.
After culturing mrsa for the first time this fall I experienced dropped lung function without being overtly sick. It was a wake up call about my cf and also seconded the fact that I don't want to go the hospital for anything unnecessary. Who knows maybe I picked it up while in the hospital for my many OB check ups or my two day stay for delivery. It is for this reason that I would not choose to be followed by MFM again.
When I became pregnant fast after beginning to TTC (first month) and had a very uneventful pregnancy the thought began to cross my mind of baby #2. In fact, I felt so good during pregnancy being a surregate the remainder of my life crossed my mind multiple times.
Dh also spoke of #2. Then came the genetic cf diagnosis of Isaac. We stopped discussing baby #2 and haven't really had too serious of a talk about it. We are in a **wait and see** approach for at least the first year. I am happy with what I've got but if after a year, Isaac still shows no signs of cf we might just go for it. I never would have thought I'd be one of "them" to roll the dice but I guess when you wear the person's shoes you see things a different way...or whatever the saying is.
One of my reasons for having a #2 is so that Isaac has a sibling when I die. Plus I feel being an only child is sort of a sad existance. There's no promises how long either Dh or I will be alive. The thought of leaving my sweet son by his lonesome makes me incredibly sad.
I don't have any interest in adopting. Even less since having a child of my own. I think it's great just not for me. Also for me it's not the pregnancy that is hard it's the motherhood as I believe most cf women find. My lung function actually went up while I was pregnant! I worry that I would adopt a child with a weak immune system and he/she would be sick often and I worry I wouldn't want to care for him/her because of risk of getting sick myself. As sick as that sounds it's a thought I've had so I don't think adoption is for me. I'm amazed I don't have this for my son - not really though since I don't have the feeling for my husband either so I guess love superceeds fear. I could see not bonding with an adopted child. So not cool for a LO.
I took a lot of medicines while pregnant and continue to take even more while breastfeeding. I study each drug I'm taking and don't have any regrets about it. Even if my DH had some lasting effects from it, I'd feel bad but more so I'd feel it was his "battle wound" of having a cf mom. It's part of life for us. I'm prepared to deal with the reprecussions just as I am with doing a delayed vaccine schedule. If I began to slip health wise requiring often IV antis or medicines with known problems for pregnancy or breastfeeding I would likely not have a 2nd. Breastfeeding my 2nd is very important to me.
If we have a second we will be TTC between 7/08-7/09. If it doesn't happen by then we'll adopt more dogs
I want to be around as long as possible for my boys. I have come to realize that I will need to not work outside the home if I am to maintain my health if it gets much worse. Being a progressive disease I feel that I can't get prego with #2 until I've sealed the deal as a stay at home mom. I'm having a difficult time with the idea of giving up my salary. My dh is supportive of me being a SAHM but I have to access what that is going to do to our standard of living. We will be moving this spring. After we get settled I'm sure I'll have more thoughts on this subject.
After culturing mrsa for the first time this fall I experienced dropped lung function without being overtly sick. It was a wake up call about my cf and also seconded the fact that I don't want to go the hospital for anything unnecessary. Who knows maybe I picked it up while in the hospital for my many OB check ups or my two day stay for delivery. It is for this reason that I would not choose to be followed by MFM again.