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hopesiris
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This is on my mind a lot too. Amelia turned 3 months yesterday. To start with, I wanted to have two children before I found out I had CF this year. Now that I have been diagnosed, there are two important considerations.
1. My health is great still, I have zero lung damage and my PFT's are in the 80's. My doctor made it clear that I need to stay this way for as long as possible. Another pregnancy is not likely to do any damage to my health but the stress of caring for two children might.
2. We have a 50% chance of conceiving a CF baby so we want to do IVF and PGD. These procedures have risks, are very expensive and require some time where DH would have to miss work (not always possible).
So it comes down to the amount of work involved in raising children and having enough money. Right now I am struggling with one, so I'm feeling insecure about my ability to handle two. My heart wants Amelia to have a sibling and my husband to have a son, but I am very concerned that it may be too much for me to handle. I'm really torn and don't know what the right decision is. I worry that it would be unfair to Amelia to have to share my attention, especially if my health takes a turn for the worse and I require more treatment.
I'm glad you posted about this, I am so confused.
1. My health is great still, I have zero lung damage and my PFT's are in the 80's. My doctor made it clear that I need to stay this way for as long as possible. Another pregnancy is not likely to do any damage to my health but the stress of caring for two children might.
2. We have a 50% chance of conceiving a CF baby so we want to do IVF and PGD. These procedures have risks, are very expensive and require some time where DH would have to miss work (not always possible).
So it comes down to the amount of work involved in raising children and having enough money. Right now I am struggling with one, so I'm feeling insecure about my ability to handle two. My heart wants Amelia to have a sibling and my husband to have a son, but I am very concerned that it may be too much for me to handle. I'm really torn and don't know what the right decision is. I worry that it would be unfair to Amelia to have to share my attention, especially if my health takes a turn for the worse and I require more treatment.
I'm glad you posted about this, I am so confused.