Grandparent wanna-be

[JazzysMom]

It would be easy for me to say that its solely your son & his GF decision, but realitically that is not true.

If you son starts getting very sick....his GF will need help. A support system is imperative when you have CF especially raising a child.

She has to be prepared to be a single Mom. Whether that be literal or not. When I found out I was pregnant that was the first thing I asked my hubby. HOWEVER I also didnt anticipate the emotional torment my daughter is going through as my CF progresses.

Granted not every child will have the same difficulties as my daughter and you probably cant plan for everything associated with CF.


There are some people that do not believe CFers should become parents. They believe its a selfish act (my Mom was one of them).

As you know relationships, parenthood & life are difficult. Now throw in CF & then add CF with parenthood & it makes for a interesting combo.

There are a ton of us who are parents. Julie from here has a huge website about how her & her hubby who has CF made it to be parents of beautiful triplets.

I dont discourage it. I just ask that everyone REALLY understand the "what ifs".

 

[JazzysMom]

It would be easy for me to say that its solely your son & his GF decision, but realitically that is not true.

If you son starts getting very sick....his GF will need help. A support system is imperative when you have CF especially raising a child.

She has to be prepared to be a single Mom. Whether that be literal or not. When I found out I was pregnant that was the first thing I asked my hubby. HOWEVER I also didnt anticipate the emotional torment my daughter is going through as my CF progresses.

Granted not every child will have the same difficulties as my daughter and you probably cant plan for everything associated with CF.


There are some people that do not believe CFers should become parents. They believe its a selfish act (my Mom was one of them).

As you know relationships, parenthood & life are difficult. Now throw in CF & then add CF with parenthood & it makes for a interesting combo.

There are a ton of us who are parents. Julie from here has a huge website about how her & her hubby who has CF made it to be parents of beautiful triplets.

I dont discourage it. I just ask that everyone REALLY understand the "what ifs".

 

[JazzysMom]

It would be easy for me to say that its solely your son & his GF decision, but realitically that is not true.

If you son starts getting very sick....his GF will need help. A support system is imperative when you have CF especially raising a child.

She has to be prepared to be a single Mom. Whether that be literal or not. When I found out I was pregnant that was the first thing I asked my hubby. HOWEVER I also didnt anticipate the emotional torment my daughter is going through as my CF progresses.

Granted not every child will have the same difficulties as my daughter and you probably cant plan for everything associated with CF.


There are some people that do not believe CFers should become parents. They believe its a selfish act (my Mom was one of them).

As you know relationships, parenthood & life are difficult. Now throw in CF & then add CF with parenthood & it makes for a interesting combo.

There are a ton of us who are parents. Julie from here has a huge website about how her & her hubby who has CF made it to be parents of beautiful triplets.

I dont discourage it. I just ask that everyone REALLY understand the "what ifs".

 

[JazzysMom]

It would be easy for me to say that its solely your son & his GF decision, but realitically that is not true.

If you son starts getting very sick....his GF will need help. A support system is imperative when you have CF especially raising a child.

She has to be prepared to be a single Mom. Whether that be literal or not. When I found out I was pregnant that was the first thing I asked my hubby. HOWEVER I also didnt anticipate the emotional torment my daughter is going through as my CF progresses.

Granted not every child will have the same difficulties as my daughter and you probably cant plan for everything associated with CF.


There are some people that do not believe CFers should become parents. They believe its a selfish act (my Mom was one of them).

As you know relationships, parenthood & life are difficult. Now throw in CF & then add CF with parenthood & it makes for a interesting combo.

There are a ton of us who are parents. Julie from here has a huge website about how her & her hubby who has CF made it to be parents of beautiful triplets.

I dont discourage it. I just ask that everyone REALLY understand the "what ifs".

 

[JazzysMom]

It would be easy for me to say that its solely your son & his GF decision, but realitically that is not true.
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<br />If you son starts getting very sick....his GF will need help. A support system is imperative when you have CF especially raising a child.
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<br />She has to be prepared to be a single Mom. Whether that be literal or not. When I found out I was pregnant that was the first thing I asked my hubby. HOWEVER I also didnt anticipate the emotional torment my daughter is going through as my CF progresses.
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<br />Granted not every child will have the same difficulties as my daughter and you probably cant plan for everything associated with CF.
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<br />There are some people that do not believe CFers should become parents. They believe its a selfish act (my Mom was one of them).
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<br />As you know relationships, parenthood & life are difficult. Now throw in CF & then add CF with parenthood & it makes for a interesting combo.
<br />
<br />There are a ton of us who are parents. Julie from here has a huge website about how her & her hubby who has CF made it to be parents of beautiful triplets.
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<br />I dont discourage it. I just ask that everyone REALLY understand the "what ifs".

 

[jlmortenson]

Thank you all.. one of my son's doctors once told me that he thinks CFers have an extra compassion gene... I have always believed it! Any children my son might father will be so very lucky to have him. I know what you mean about being prepared. We are a very close family. He would have a great deal of support, and I don't think anyone would tell him he shouldn't have kids. But of course it is something I think about (and grieve) and wish that he was able to have a regular non-CF life. But of course, he would be a different person, and I can't imagine him not being exactly who he is!!

 

[jlmortenson]

Thank you all.. one of my son's doctors once told me that he thinks CFers have an extra compassion gene... I have always believed it! Any children my son might father will be so very lucky to have him. I know what you mean about being prepared. We are a very close family. He would have a great deal of support, and I don't think anyone would tell him he shouldn't have kids. But of course it is something I think about (and grieve) and wish that he was able to have a regular non-CF life. But of course, he would be a different person, and I can't imagine him not being exactly who he is!!

 

[jlmortenson]

Thank you all.. one of my son's doctors once told me that he thinks CFers have an extra compassion gene... I have always believed it! Any children my son might father will be so very lucky to have him. I know what you mean about being prepared. We are a very close family. He would have a great deal of support, and I don't think anyone would tell him he shouldn't have kids. But of course it is something I think about (and grieve) and wish that he was able to have a regular non-CF life. But of course, he would be a different person, and I can't imagine him not being exactly who he is!!

 

[jlmortenson]

Thank you all.. one of my son's doctors once told me that he thinks CFers have an extra compassion gene... I have always believed it! Any children my son might father will be so very lucky to have him. I know what you mean about being prepared. We are a very close family. He would have a great deal of support, and I don't think anyone would tell him he shouldn't have kids. But of course it is something I think about (and grieve) and wish that he was able to have a regular non-CF life. But of course, he would be a different person, and I can't imagine him not being exactly who he is!!

 

[jlmortenson]

Thank you all.. one of my son's doctors once told me that he thinks CFers have an extra compassion gene... I have always believed it! Any children my son might father will be so very lucky to have him. I know what you mean about being prepared. We are a very close family. He would have a great deal of support, and I don't think anyone would tell him he shouldn't have kids. But of course it is something I think about (and grieve) and wish that he was able to have a regular non-CF life. But of course, he would be a different person, and I can't imagine him not being exactly who he is!!

 

[Transplantmommy]

Well, I am a woman with CF and have a son. I think that being able to get pregnant and being a Mommy is the most wonderful thing (besides the Tx) that could have ever happened to me. If something happens to me, then I know that Brady has his Daddy and many other family members to take care of him. I'm sure that they will also tell Brady how much I loved him and how much I did for him. I totally think that it is your sons choice and he will make the right decision. There are many children who only have one parent because the other has passed and they do fine. My Dad has not passed, but he may as well have since he abandoned my Mom with 4 kids in 1986. He has never been in my life, has never done anything for me, and my Mom has done an excellent job. I know that's not really the same, but I think that if your son really wants children, he will be a much better father than mine ever was. Also, people with CF are living a lot longer these days!

 

[Transplantmommy]

Well, I am a woman with CF and have a son. I think that being able to get pregnant and being a Mommy is the most wonderful thing (besides the Tx) that could have ever happened to me. If something happens to me, then I know that Brady has his Daddy and many other family members to take care of him. I'm sure that they will also tell Brady how much I loved him and how much I did for him. I totally think that it is your sons choice and he will make the right decision. There are many children who only have one parent because the other has passed and they do fine. My Dad has not passed, but he may as well have since he abandoned my Mom with 4 kids in 1986. He has never been in my life, has never done anything for me, and my Mom has done an excellent job. I know that's not really the same, but I think that if your son really wants children, he will be a much better father than mine ever was. Also, people with CF are living a lot longer these days!

 

[Transplantmommy]

Well, I am a woman with CF and have a son. I think that being able to get pregnant and being a Mommy is the most wonderful thing (besides the Tx) that could have ever happened to me. If something happens to me, then I know that Brady has his Daddy and many other family members to take care of him. I'm sure that they will also tell Brady how much I loved him and how much I did for him. I totally think that it is your sons choice and he will make the right decision. There are many children who only have one parent because the other has passed and they do fine. My Dad has not passed, but he may as well have since he abandoned my Mom with 4 kids in 1986. He has never been in my life, has never done anything for me, and my Mom has done an excellent job. I know that's not really the same, but I think that if your son really wants children, he will be a much better father than mine ever was. Also, people with CF are living a lot longer these days!

 

[Transplantmommy]

Well, I am a woman with CF and have a son. I think that being able to get pregnant and being a Mommy is the most wonderful thing (besides the Tx) that could have ever happened to me. If something happens to me, then I know that Brady has his Daddy and many other family members to take care of him. I'm sure that they will also tell Brady how much I loved him and how much I did for him. I totally think that it is your sons choice and he will make the right decision. There are many children who only have one parent because the other has passed and they do fine. My Dad has not passed, but he may as well have since he abandoned my Mom with 4 kids in 1986. He has never been in my life, has never done anything for me, and my Mom has done an excellent job. I know that's not really the same, but I think that if your son really wants children, he will be a much better father than mine ever was. Also, people with CF are living a lot longer these days!

 

[Transplantmommy]

Well, I am a woman with CF and have a son. I think that being able to get pregnant and being a Mommy is the most wonderful thing (besides the Tx) that could have ever happened to me. If something happens to me, then I know that Brady has his Daddy and many other family members to take care of him. I'm sure that they will also tell Brady how much I loved him and how much I did for him. I totally think that it is your sons choice and he will make the right decision. There are many children who only have one parent because the other has passed and they do fine. My Dad has not passed, but he may as well have since he abandoned my Mom with 4 kids in 1986. He has never been in my life, has never done anything for me, and my Mom has done an excellent job. I know that's not really the same, but I think that if your son really wants children, he will be a much better father than mine ever was. Also, people with CF are living a lot longer these days!

 

[cottontop]

I am a 26 year old male with CF and I actually just went through with our (my Wife and I's) first Insemination and we are hoping to become parents! We did this yesterday and I can't imagine anyone saying that people with CF shouldn't be allowed to be parents, it actually makes me very very sad, I have wanted to be a father since I was a teenager and never thought I could and hearing about IUI made me soooo happy! I have friends who only have one parent as the other parent is absent and a dead-beat. I may only live to see my child live to be a year old but I would like to think it would give my family and Wife something to focus on besides the loss of me, that would be a worse case scenario! Like someone else said, we CF'ers are living a lot longer and I have found there are 2 types of people with CF!
The first is the person who blames everyone and wants to feel sorry for themselves and self loathing. I think they are too self involved to be parents, however the second I have encountered is the type who have such a positive outlook on life! Many of these types of CF'ers put a positive spin on everything (we had to in order to fight the good fight) and we tend to love with all our heart, help strangers, and just be so overwhelmingly charismatic and loving that people love to be around us and often comment that we are inspirational! (SORRY, not trying to come off with an ego, just relaying what I have been told)
So, if your son is the second type I think whether he is a father for just the brief time the baby is the womb or as long as the entire life of his child, I say follow your heart and have children if you want them! Can you imagine your life without your Son in your life? What if someone told you before he was born he had CF and may not live past 5 years old or younger! Would you second guess even having him born? If you think about it that way and think about how much love you have shared with him and how many lives he has probably changed just by living his life its amazing and the thought of him not being around is probably unbearable.
I am trying to have a child because I want people to have something to remember me by, because I want to share my love with a child, I want to be a father, I want to be a role-model, and because I don't live my life as if I have a disability, I see CF as just another reason to try harder to make a difference in this world and I would never give up on having a family! If I listened to people who said I shouldn't do things because of CF, I would have never graduated college, gotten married, or even lived much past the age of 13, I am now 26 so try and remember CF is just an obstacle its not a limitation!

 

[cottontop]

I am a 26 year old male with CF and I actually just went through with our (my Wife and I's) first Insemination and we are hoping to become parents! We did this yesterday and I can't imagine anyone saying that people with CF shouldn't be allowed to be parents, it actually makes me very very sad, I have wanted to be a father since I was a teenager and never thought I could and hearing about IUI made me soooo happy! I have friends who only have one parent as the other parent is absent and a dead-beat. I may only live to see my child live to be a year old but I would like to think it would give my family and Wife something to focus on besides the loss of me, that would be a worse case scenario! Like someone else said, we CF'ers are living a lot longer and I have found there are 2 types of people with CF!
The first is the person who blames everyone and wants to feel sorry for themselves and self loathing. I think they are too self involved to be parents, however the second I have encountered is the type who have such a positive outlook on life! Many of these types of CF'ers put a positive spin on everything (we had to in order to fight the good fight) and we tend to love with all our heart, help strangers, and just be so overwhelmingly charismatic and loving that people love to be around us and often comment that we are inspirational! (SORRY, not trying to come off with an ego, just relaying what I have been told)
So, if your son is the second type I think whether he is a father for just the brief time the baby is the womb or as long as the entire life of his child, I say follow your heart and have children if you want them! Can you imagine your life without your Son in your life? What if someone told you before he was born he had CF and may not live past 5 years old or younger! Would you second guess even having him born? If you think about it that way and think about how much love you have shared with him and how many lives he has probably changed just by living his life its amazing and the thought of him not being around is probably unbearable.
I am trying to have a child because I want people to have something to remember me by, because I want to share my love with a child, I want to be a father, I want to be a role-model, and because I don't live my life as if I have a disability, I see CF as just another reason to try harder to make a difference in this world and I would never give up on having a family! If I listened to people who said I shouldn't do things because of CF, I would have never graduated college, gotten married, or even lived much past the age of 13, I am now 26 so try and remember CF is just an obstacle its not a limitation!

 

[cottontop]

I am a 26 year old male with CF and I actually just went through with our (my Wife and I's) first Insemination and we are hoping to become parents! We did this yesterday and I can't imagine anyone saying that people with CF shouldn't be allowed to be parents, it actually makes me very very sad, I have wanted to be a father since I was a teenager and never thought I could and hearing about IUI made me soooo happy! I have friends who only have one parent as the other parent is absent and a dead-beat. I may only live to see my child live to be a year old but I would like to think it would give my family and Wife something to focus on besides the loss of me, that would be a worse case scenario! Like someone else said, we CF'ers are living a lot longer and I have found there are 2 types of people with CF!
The first is the person who blames everyone and wants to feel sorry for themselves and self loathing. I think they are too self involved to be parents, however the second I have encountered is the type who have such a positive outlook on life! Many of these types of CF'ers put a positive spin on everything (we had to in order to fight the good fight) and we tend to love with all our heart, help strangers, and just be so overwhelmingly charismatic and loving that people love to be around us and often comment that we are inspirational! (SORRY, not trying to come off with an ego, just relaying what I have been told)
So, if your son is the second type I think whether he is a father for just the brief time the baby is the womb or as long as the entire life of his child, I say follow your heart and have children if you want them! Can you imagine your life without your Son in your life? What if someone told you before he was born he had CF and may not live past 5 years old or younger! Would you second guess even having him born? If you think about it that way and think about how much love you have shared with him and how many lives he has probably changed just by living his life its amazing and the thought of him not being around is probably unbearable.
I am trying to have a child because I want people to have something to remember me by, because I want to share my love with a child, I want to be a father, I want to be a role-model, and because I don't live my life as if I have a disability, I see CF as just another reason to try harder to make a difference in this world and I would never give up on having a family! If I listened to people who said I shouldn't do things because of CF, I would have never graduated college, gotten married, or even lived much past the age of 13, I am now 26 so try and remember CF is just an obstacle its not a limitation!

 

[cottontop]

I am a 26 year old male with CF and I actually just went through with our (my Wife and I's) first Insemination and we are hoping to become parents! We did this yesterday and I can't imagine anyone saying that people with CF shouldn't be allowed to be parents, it actually makes me very very sad, I have wanted to be a father since I was a teenager and never thought I could and hearing about IUI made me soooo happy! I have friends who only have one parent as the other parent is absent and a dead-beat. I may only live to see my child live to be a year old but I would like to think it would give my family and Wife something to focus on besides the loss of me, that would be a worse case scenario! Like someone else said, we CF'ers are living a lot longer and I have found there are 2 types of people with CF!
The first is the person who blames everyone and wants to feel sorry for themselves and self loathing. I think they are too self involved to be parents, however the second I have encountered is the type who have such a positive outlook on life! Many of these types of CF'ers put a positive spin on everything (we had to in order to fight the good fight) and we tend to love with all our heart, help strangers, and just be so overwhelmingly charismatic and loving that people love to be around us and often comment that we are inspirational! (SORRY, not trying to come off with an ego, just relaying what I have been told)
So, if your son is the second type I think whether he is a father for just the brief time the baby is the womb or as long as the entire life of his child, I say follow your heart and have children if you want them! Can you imagine your life without your Son in your life? What if someone told you before he was born he had CF and may not live past 5 years old or younger! Would you second guess even having him born? If you think about it that way and think about how much love you have shared with him and how many lives he has probably changed just by living his life its amazing and the thought of him not being around is probably unbearable.
I am trying to have a child because I want people to have something to remember me by, because I want to share my love with a child, I want to be a father, I want to be a role-model, and because I don't live my life as if I have a disability, I see CF as just another reason to try harder to make a difference in this world and I would never give up on having a family! If I listened to people who said I shouldn't do things because of CF, I would have never graduated college, gotten married, or even lived much past the age of 13, I am now 26 so try and remember CF is just an obstacle its not a limitation!

 

[cottontop]

I am a 26 year old male with CF and I actually just went through with our (my Wife and I's) first Insemination and we are hoping to become parents! We did this yesterday and I can't imagine anyone saying that people with CF shouldn't be allowed to be parents, it actually makes me very very sad, I have wanted to be a father since I was a teenager and never thought I could and hearing about IUI made me soooo happy! I have friends who only have one parent as the other parent is absent and a dead-beat. I may only live to see my child live to be a year old but I would like to think it would give my family and Wife something to focus on besides the loss of me, that would be a worse case scenario! Like someone else said, we CF'ers are living a lot longer and I have found there are 2 types of people with CF!
<br /> The first is the person who blames everyone and wants to feel sorry for themselves and self loathing. I think they are too self involved to be parents, however the second I have encountered is the type who have such a positive outlook on life! Many of these types of CF'ers put a positive spin on everything (we had to in order to fight the good fight) and we tend to love with all our heart, help strangers, and just be so overwhelmingly charismatic and loving that people love to be around us and often comment that we are inspirational! (SORRY, not trying to come off with an ego, just relaying what I have been told)
<br /> So, if your son is the second type I think whether he is a father for just the brief time the baby is the womb or as long as the entire life of his child, I say follow your heart and have children if you want them! Can you imagine your life without your Son in your life? What if someone told you before he was born he had CF and may not live past 5 years old or younger! Would you second guess even having him born? If you think about it that way and think about how much love you have shared with him and how many lives he has probably changed just by living his life its amazing and the thought of him not being around is probably unbearable.
<br /> I am trying to have a child because I want people to have something to remember me by, because I want to share my love with a child, I want to be a father, I want to be a role-model, and because I don't live my life as if I have a disability, I see CF as just another reason to try harder to make a difference in this world and I would never give up on having a family! If I listened to people who said I shouldn't do things because of CF, I would have never graduated college, gotten married, or even lived much past the age of 13, I am now 26 so try and remember CF is just an obstacle its not a limitation!