Having children

AnD

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I really wasn't planning to chime in here (my first thought was "oh no, not again..."), but, I'll just tell you a bit of our story.

We started trying to get pregnant in '93 or '94, because my dr told us that if I wanted to see my child graduate, I had better start now. I was about 23.

Fast forward to 2003. I'm 33. Still no baby, several IUI's and infertility shots, tests, etc. I finally said (in a nutshell) "Okay God; If this would be a bad thing for us, or a bad thing for our child, then okay, I don't like it, but you know better than I do- but what am I supposed to do with my life, if not be a mom?" Which, btw, was one of the hardest prayers I've prayed, because it took so long to <i>mean</i> it <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .

And then I kept seeing commercials for adult reading tutors needed, and it was appealling (I was going to be a teacher for the first 2 years of college). So I signed up for that, and sewing classes <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">. We did one more round of IUI (we had discussed it, and were both feeling like it should be our last try), and low and behold, she is now 3 1/2 years old.

So I think that it is a <i>very</i> personal subject, and best evaluated on a personal, individual level, with a lot of thought, research and prayer.
 

AnD

New member
I really wasn't planning to chime in here (my first thought was "oh no, not again..."), but, I'll just tell you a bit of our story.

We started trying to get pregnant in '93 or '94, because my dr told us that if I wanted to see my child graduate, I had better start now. I was about 23.

Fast forward to 2003. I'm 33. Still no baby, several IUI's and infertility shots, tests, etc. I finally said (in a nutshell) "Okay God; If this would be a bad thing for us, or a bad thing for our child, then okay, I don't like it, but you know better than I do- but what am I supposed to do with my life, if not be a mom?" Which, btw, was one of the hardest prayers I've prayed, because it took so long to <i>mean</i> it <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .

And then I kept seeing commercials for adult reading tutors needed, and it was appealling (I was going to be a teacher for the first 2 years of college). So I signed up for that, and sewing classes <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">. We did one more round of IUI (we had discussed it, and were both feeling like it should be our last try), and low and behold, she is now 3 1/2 years old.

So I think that it is a <i>very</i> personal subject, and best evaluated on a personal, individual level, with a lot of thought, research and prayer.
 

AnD

New member
I really wasn't planning to chime in here (my first thought was "oh no, not again..."), but, I'll just tell you a bit of our story.

We started trying to get pregnant in '93 or '94, because my dr told us that if I wanted to see my child graduate, I had better start now. I was about 23.

Fast forward to 2003. I'm 33. Still no baby, several IUI's and infertility shots, tests, etc. I finally said (in a nutshell) "Okay God; If this would be a bad thing for us, or a bad thing for our child, then okay, I don't like it, but you know better than I do- but what am I supposed to do with my life, if not be a mom?" Which, btw, was one of the hardest prayers I've prayed, because it took so long to <i>mean</i> it <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .

And then I kept seeing commercials for adult reading tutors needed, and it was appealling (I was going to be a teacher for the first 2 years of college). So I signed up for that, and sewing classes <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">. We did one more round of IUI (we had discussed it, and were both feeling like it should be our last try), and low and behold, she is now 3 1/2 years old.

So I think that it is a <i>very</i> personal subject, and best evaluated on a personal, individual level, with a lot of thought, research and prayer.
 

AnD

New member
I really wasn't planning to chime in here (my first thought was "oh no, not again..."), but, I'll just tell you a bit of our story.

We started trying to get pregnant in '93 or '94, because my dr told us that if I wanted to see my child graduate, I had better start now. I was about 23.

Fast forward to 2003. I'm 33. Still no baby, several IUI's and infertility shots, tests, etc. I finally said (in a nutshell) "Okay God; If this would be a bad thing for us, or a bad thing for our child, then okay, I don't like it, but you know better than I do- but what am I supposed to do with my life, if not be a mom?" Which, btw, was one of the hardest prayers I've prayed, because it took so long to <i>mean</i> it <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .

And then I kept seeing commercials for adult reading tutors needed, and it was appealling (I was going to be a teacher for the first 2 years of college). So I signed up for that, and sewing classes <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">. We did one more round of IUI (we had discussed it, and were both feeling like it should be our last try), and low and behold, she is now 3 1/2 years old.

So I think that it is a <i>very</i> personal subject, and best evaluated on a personal, individual level, with a lot of thought, research and prayer.
 

AnD

New member
I really wasn't planning to chime in here (my first thought was "oh no, not again..."), but, I'll just tell you a bit of our story.

We started trying to get pregnant in '93 or '94, because my dr told us that if I wanted to see my child graduate, I had better start now. I was about 23.

Fast forward to 2003. I'm 33. Still no baby, several IUI's and infertility shots, tests, etc. I finally said (in a nutshell) "Okay God; If this would be a bad thing for us, or a bad thing for our child, then okay, I don't like it, but you know better than I do- but what am I supposed to do with my life, if not be a mom?" Which, btw, was one of the hardest prayers I've prayed, because it took so long to <i>mean</i> it <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .

And then I kept seeing commercials for adult reading tutors needed, and it was appealling (I was going to be a teacher for the first 2 years of college). So I signed up for that, and sewing classes <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">. We did one more round of IUI (we had discussed it, and were both feeling like it should be our last try), and low and behold, she is now 3 1/2 years old.

So I think that it is a <i>very</i> personal subject, and best evaluated on a personal, individual level, with a lot of thought, research and prayer.
 

AnD

New member
I really wasn't planning to chime in here (my first thought was "oh no, not again..."), but, I'll just tell you a bit of our story.

We started trying to get pregnant in '93 or '94, because my dr told us that if I wanted to see my child graduate, I had better start now. I was about 23.

Fast forward to 2003. I'm 33. Still no baby, several IUI's and infertility shots, tests, etc. I finally said (in a nutshell) "Okay God; If this would be a bad thing for us, or a bad thing for our child, then okay, I don't like it, but you know better than I do- but what am I supposed to do with my life, if not be a mom?" Which, btw, was one of the hardest prayers I've prayed, because it took so long to <i>mean</i> it <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .

And then I kept seeing commercials for adult reading tutors needed, and it was appealling (I was going to be a teacher for the first 2 years of college). So I signed up for that, and sewing classes <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">. We did one more round of IUI (we had discussed it, and were both feeling like it should be our last try), and low and behold, she is now 3 1/2 years old.

So I think that it is a <i>very</i> personal subject, and best evaluated on a personal, individual level, with a lot of thought, research and prayer.
 

karismom

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<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-disgusted.gif" border="0">

This subject guys, is like politics and religion.

BEST JUST NOT TO GO THERE!

bEST OF LUCK TO YOU WHO "GO THERE"!!! My grand daughter will be left by her mother who has spent MOST of her life in the hospital. IT is going to DEVASTATE her!!!!! my heart is already breaking just thinking about it...............................

peace.


lisa<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
 

karismom

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<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-disgusted.gif" border="0">

This subject guys, is like politics and religion.

BEST JUST NOT TO GO THERE!

bEST OF LUCK TO YOU WHO "GO THERE"!!! My grand daughter will be left by her mother who has spent MOST of her life in the hospital. IT is going to DEVASTATE her!!!!! my heart is already breaking just thinking about it...............................

peace.


lisa<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
 

karismom

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<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-disgusted.gif" border="0">

This subject guys, is like politics and religion.

BEST JUST NOT TO GO THERE!

bEST OF LUCK TO YOU WHO "GO THERE"!!! My grand daughter will be left by her mother who has spent MOST of her life in the hospital. IT is going to DEVASTATE her!!!!! my heart is already breaking just thinking about it...............................

peace.


lisa<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
 

karismom

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<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-disgusted.gif" border="0">

This subject guys, is like politics and religion.

BEST JUST NOT TO GO THERE!

bEST OF LUCK TO YOU WHO "GO THERE"!!! My grand daughter will be left by her mother who has spent MOST of her life in the hospital. IT is going to DEVASTATE her!!!!! my heart is already breaking just thinking about it...............................

peace.


lisa<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
 

karismom

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<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-disgusted.gif" border="0">

This subject guys, is like politics and religion.

BEST JUST NOT TO GO THERE!

bEST OF LUCK TO YOU WHO "GO THERE"!!! My grand daughter will be left by her mother who has spent MOST of her life in the hospital. IT is going to DEVASTATE her!!!!! my heart is already breaking just thinking about it...............................

peace.


lisa<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
 

karismom

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<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-disgusted.gif" border="0">

This subject guys, is like politics and religion.

BEST JUST NOT TO GO THERE!

bEST OF LUCK TO YOU WHO "GO THERE"!!! My grand daughter will be left by her mother who has spent MOST of her life in the hospital. IT is going to DEVASTATE her!!!!! my heart is already breaking just thinking about it...............................

peace.


lisa<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
 

karismom

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<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-disgusted.gif" border="0">

This subject guys, is like politics and religion.

BEST JUST NOT TO GO THERE!

BEST OF LUCK TO YOU WHO "GO THERE"!!! My grand daughter will be left by her mother who has spent MOST of her life in the hospital. IT is going to DEVASTATE her!!!!! my heart is already breaking just thinking about it...............................

peace.


lisa<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
 

karismom

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<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-disgusted.gif" border="0">

This subject guys, is like politics and religion.

BEST JUST NOT TO GO THERE!

BEST OF LUCK TO YOU WHO "GO THERE"!!! My grand daughter will be left by her mother who has spent MOST of her life in the hospital. IT is going to DEVASTATE her!!!!! my heart is already breaking just thinking about it...............................

peace.


lisa<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
 

karismom

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<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-disgusted.gif" border="0">

This subject guys, is like politics and religion.

BEST JUST NOT TO GO THERE!

BEST OF LUCK TO YOU WHO "GO THERE"!!! My grand daughter will be left by her mother who has spent MOST of her life in the hospital. IT is going to DEVASTATE her!!!!! my heart is already breaking just thinking about it...............................

peace.


lisa<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
 

karismom

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<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-disgusted.gif" border="0">

This subject guys, is like politics and religion.

BEST JUST NOT TO GO THERE!

BEST OF LUCK TO YOU WHO "GO THERE"!!! My grand daughter will be left by her mother who has spent MOST of her life in the hospital. IT is going to DEVASTATE her!!!!! my heart is already breaking just thinking about it...............................

peace.


lisa<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
 

karismom

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<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-disgusted.gif" border="0">

This subject guys, is like politics and religion.

BEST JUST NOT TO GO THERE!

BEST OF LUCK TO YOU WHO "GO THERE"!!! My grand daughter will be left by her mother who has spent MOST of her life in the hospital. IT is going to DEVASTATE her!!!!! my heart is already breaking just thinking about it...............................

peace.


lisa<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
 

karismom

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<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-disgusted.gif" border="0">

This subject guys, is like politics and religion.

BEST JUST NOT TO GO THERE!

BEST OF LUCK TO YOU WHO "GO THERE"!!! My grand daughter will be left by her mother who has spent MOST of her life in the hospital. IT is going to DEVASTATE her!!!!! my heart is already breaking just thinking about it...............................

peace.


lisa<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
 

lightNlife

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Putting a whole different spin on things after reading this <div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Pete</b></i>

Choosing to have a child is not ALWAYS a decision made for the purpose of creating some sort of happiness in yourself...or filling a void of some sort...I believe that's what you're getting at.

Some do it for money.

Some do it by instinct.

Some do it even though it will make their lives a financial struggle.

Some do it for the pursuit of mending relationships.

Some do it out of loneliness...yadda yadda yadda

There is no simple one post definition of the reasons behind having children.

</end quote></div>

And some give a child life even if that child was conceived as the result of a violent crime. I know that's the minority, but people seem to forget that there are 3 "types" of pregnancy 1) planned 2) unplanned 3) crisis

Almost all of the responses to this thread are discussing the pros/cons/considerations of procreating. There's a huge difference between procreating, and parenting.

No matter how you feel on the subject of "having kids" you better be darn certain that you can parent them if you've got them or are going to be having them. It's highly irresponsible and immature for people to procreate if they are unwilling or unable (for ANY reason) to parent.

In a perfect world we wouldn't have child protective services. There wouldn't be illegitimate children or abandoned babies. There wouldn't be custody battles or foster homes. We wouldn't have dead-beat dads or absentee moms. We wouldn't have kids of divorced parents being nothing more than weekend guests in their parent's house. We wouldn't have children raising children thanks to teen pregnancy and irresponsibility.

And while I'm dreaming of a perfect world, there would be no CF and no reason to have this particular topic thread.
 

lightNlife

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Putting a whole different spin on things after reading this <div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Pete</b></i>

Choosing to have a child is not ALWAYS a decision made for the purpose of creating some sort of happiness in yourself...or filling a void of some sort...I believe that's what you're getting at.

Some do it for money.

Some do it by instinct.

Some do it even though it will make their lives a financial struggle.

Some do it for the pursuit of mending relationships.

Some do it out of loneliness...yadda yadda yadda

There is no simple one post definition of the reasons behind having children.

</end quote></div>

And some give a child life even if that child was conceived as the result of a violent crime. I know that's the minority, but people seem to forget that there are 3 "types" of pregnancy 1) planned 2) unplanned 3) crisis

Almost all of the responses to this thread are discussing the pros/cons/considerations of procreating. There's a huge difference between procreating, and parenting.

No matter how you feel on the subject of "having kids" you better be darn certain that you can parent them if you've got them or are going to be having them. It's highly irresponsible and immature for people to procreate if they are unwilling or unable (for ANY reason) to parent.

In a perfect world we wouldn't have child protective services. There wouldn't be illegitimate children or abandoned babies. There wouldn't be custody battles or foster homes. We wouldn't have dead-beat dads or absentee moms. We wouldn't have kids of divorced parents being nothing more than weekend guests in their parent's house. We wouldn't have children raising children thanks to teen pregnancy and irresponsibility.

And while I'm dreaming of a perfect world, there would be no CF and no reason to have this particular topic thread.
 
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