The shelter was what popped into my mind, too after reading your post. You would be safe incase he doesn't take your leaving with the baby well, and they will be able to guide you in what you need to do next, for your well being and your baby's. When you leave, please do it when he is not there, just in case. I will pray for you.
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Help me am i making the right decision?
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damiensmom
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Get on a waiting list for income based apartments. clint could not live there . these apartments are for single mothers the disabled and the elderly. It took me 6 months to get mine. I am a single mother of 2. My baby has c.f. also look up houses and urban development. HUD housing and apply and get on that waiting list do you get SSI or disability? these almost always make you eligable. Do not waste your time. You can find all the info on the HUD website. Do not put him on your application. It isnt always the person that is so hard to leave. It is the hopes the dreams and the plans one makes and not being in denial that they will never be.
damiensmom
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Get on a waiting list for income based apartments. clint could not live there . these apartments are for single mothers the disabled and the elderly. It took me 6 months to get mine. I am a single mother of 2. My baby has c.f. also look up houses and urban development. HUD housing and apply and get on that waiting list do you get SSI or disability? these almost always make you eligable. Do not waste your time. You can find all the info on the HUD website. Do not put him on your application. It isnt always the person that is so hard to leave. It is the hopes the dreams and the plans one makes and not being in denial that they will never be.
damiensmom
New member
Get on a waiting list for income based apartments. clint could not live there . these apartments are for single mothers the disabled and the elderly. It took me 6 months to get mine. I am a single mother of 2. My baby has c.f. also look up houses and urban development. HUD housing and apply and get on that waiting list do you get SSI or disability? these almost always make you eligable. Do not waste your time. You can find all the info on the HUD website. Do not put him on your application. It isnt always the person that is so hard to leave. It is the hopes the dreams and the plans one makes and not being in denial that they will never be.
rotandroll
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Woah, sakasuka, that's an incredibly insensitive thing to suggest at this time. I know plenty of successful adults who were raised by single parents, as well as a lot of single parents who became successful even after a terrible struggle. To assume that the best decision for her to make is to give up her child for adoption is an overstep of your boundries seeing as she never mentioned it herself. I don't know how involved with or friendly you are with Vampy, but I find your suggestion overtly rude.
rotandroll
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Woah, sakasuka, that's an incredibly insensitive thing to suggest at this time. I know plenty of successful adults who were raised by single parents, as well as a lot of single parents who became successful even after a terrible struggle. To assume that the best decision for her to make is to give up her child for adoption is an overstep of your boundries seeing as she never mentioned it herself. I don't know how involved with or friendly you are with Vampy, but I find your suggestion overtly rude.
rotandroll
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Woah, sakasuka, that's an incredibly insensitive thing to suggest at this time. I know plenty of successful adults who were raised by single parents, as well as a lot of single parents who became successful even after a terrible struggle. To assume that the best decision for her to make is to give up her child for adoption is an overstep of your boundries seeing as she never mentioned it herself. I don't know how involved with or friendly you are with Vampy, but I find your suggestion overtly rude.
Emily65Roses
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While it may not have been the most desirable suggestion, it was one meant well. And I might add, it's not the worst suggestion in the world. Sometimes people can't handle that type of situation very well. And I'm not saying Vampy is or isn't one of those type of people. But there was no harm in mentioning adoption as a viable option. Amy didn't say "Do it, you horrible mother!" She just asked that Vampy consider the idea. And I think anyone in a tough situation should consider ALL possible solutions, difficult ones included.
Having said that... Vampy, assuming you're not keen on the adoption idea, your next best bet is, as many others have mentioned, a shelter. If your husband is a useless and/or abusive bum, get out. Period.
Having said that... Vampy, assuming you're not keen on the adoption idea, your next best bet is, as many others have mentioned, a shelter. If your husband is a useless and/or abusive bum, get out. Period.
Emily65Roses
New member
While it may not have been the most desirable suggestion, it was one meant well. And I might add, it's not the worst suggestion in the world. Sometimes people can't handle that type of situation very well. And I'm not saying Vampy is or isn't one of those type of people. But there was no harm in mentioning adoption as a viable option. Amy didn't say "Do it, you horrible mother!" She just asked that Vampy consider the idea. And I think anyone in a tough situation should consider ALL possible solutions, difficult ones included.
Having said that... Vampy, assuming you're not keen on the adoption idea, your next best bet is, as many others have mentioned, a shelter. If your husband is a useless and/or abusive bum, get out. Period.
Having said that... Vampy, assuming you're not keen on the adoption idea, your next best bet is, as many others have mentioned, a shelter. If your husband is a useless and/or abusive bum, get out. Period.
Emily65Roses
New member
While it may not have been the most desirable suggestion, it was one meant well. And I might add, it's not the worst suggestion in the world. Sometimes people can't handle that type of situation very well. And I'm not saying Vampy is or isn't one of those type of people. But there was no harm in mentioning adoption as a viable option. Amy didn't say "Do it, you horrible mother!" She just asked that Vampy consider the idea. And I think anyone in a tough situation should consider ALL possible solutions, difficult ones included.
Having said that... Vampy, assuming you're not keen on the adoption idea, your next best bet is, as many others have mentioned, a shelter. If your husband is a useless and/or abusive bum, get out. Period.
Having said that... Vampy, assuming you're not keen on the adoption idea, your next best bet is, as many others have mentioned, a shelter. If your husband is a useless and/or abusive bum, get out. Period.
i think amys idea is a great one. people here are forgetting vampys previous posts and are being too soft. i could see this happening a long time ago. vampy, get out of there and go to a shelter. if you pussyfoot around and stay with this guy, you are no better than him. i do NOT want to come on here and find another post by you saying that you have stayed with him.
i think amys idea is a great one. people here are forgetting vampys previous posts and are being too soft. i could see this happening a long time ago. vampy, get out of there and go to a shelter. if you pussyfoot around and stay with this guy, you are no better than him. i do NOT want to come on here and find another post by you saying that you have stayed with him.
i think amys idea is a great one. people here are forgetting vampys previous posts and are being too soft. i could see this happening a long time ago. vampy, get out of there and go to a shelter. if you pussyfoot around and stay with this guy, you are no better than him. i do NOT want to come on here and find another post by you saying that you have stayed with him.
I remember some of your posts about your husband and the problems you had with him, and i have to agree, you need to make a move and make it soon. Things will not change, he will not straighten up until he's good and ready ( which may be never). It sounds like he has gotten away with his bad behavior for such a long time he probably sees no reason to change. Do you have family you can stay with till you can get on your feet? I know breaking up isnt easy, but in your case you wont realize it was the right move till you are on your own and happy and looking back. PLease keep us updated <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
I remember some of your posts about your husband and the problems you had with him, and i have to agree, you need to make a move and make it soon. Things will not change, he will not straighten up until he's good and ready ( which may be never). It sounds like he has gotten away with his bad behavior for such a long time he probably sees no reason to change. Do you have family you can stay with till you can get on your feet? I know breaking up isnt easy, but in your case you wont realize it was the right move till you are on your own and happy and looking back. PLease keep us updated <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
I remember some of your posts about your husband and the problems you had with him, and i have to agree, you need to make a move and make it soon. Things will not change, he will not straighten up until he's good and ready ( which may be never). It sounds like he has gotten away with his bad behavior for such a long time he probably sees no reason to change. Do you have family you can stay with till you can get on your feet? I know breaking up isnt easy, but in your case you wont realize it was the right move till you are on your own and happy and looking back. PLease keep us updated <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
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Shoshanna
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Hi Vampy,
I don't know you very well, but I can't imagine what you are going through. I have CF (it's pretty severe) and a toddler and could never manage without my husband, a full-time nanny, tons of family/friends, and financial security. That being said, single moms survive and make a life for their children all the time. My mother raised 3 children on her own, 2 with CF, started her own business (which is now worth millions) and watched her 3 kids become successful adults.
I think you need to reach out to your family (whatever ones you have) or call any local community resources and sit down with a counselor who can advise you. You are so young and you need help to make the right decisions, whatever they may be.
I don't know you very well, but I can't imagine what you are going through. I have CF (it's pretty severe) and a toddler and could never manage without my husband, a full-time nanny, tons of family/friends, and financial security. That being said, single moms survive and make a life for their children all the time. My mother raised 3 children on her own, 2 with CF, started her own business (which is now worth millions) and watched her 3 kids become successful adults.
I think you need to reach out to your family (whatever ones you have) or call any local community resources and sit down with a counselor who can advise you. You are so young and you need help to make the right decisions, whatever they may be.