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Help me am i making the right decision?
- Thread starter Vampy
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Vampy, I just read through this thread and my heart goes out to you. While there is a lot of chaos in your life, it seems there is some good too. I'm glad your mom is there for you.
You did the right thing by asking for advice. Unfortunately, you also opened up a can of worms. Please read the advice and think about the suggestions without being angry. Everyone comes from a different place, but we are all sending love and hope for the best for you and Lucas (whatever you decide it to be).
Don't let this stop you from sharing with us. I'm sure some of the good advice will help out.
You did the right thing by asking for advice. Unfortunately, you also opened up a can of worms. Please read the advice and think about the suggestions without being angry. Everyone comes from a different place, but we are all sending love and hope for the best for you and Lucas (whatever you decide it to be).
Don't let this stop you from sharing with us. I'm sure some of the good advice will help out.
Vampy, I just read through this thread and my heart goes out to you. While there is a lot of chaos in your life, it seems there is some good too. I'm glad your mom is there for you.
You did the right thing by asking for advice. Unfortunately, you also opened up a can of worms. Please read the advice and think about the suggestions without being angry. Everyone comes from a different place, but we are all sending love and hope for the best for you and Lucas (whatever you decide it to be).
Don't let this stop you from sharing with us. I'm sure some of the good advice will help out.
You did the right thing by asking for advice. Unfortunately, you also opened up a can of worms. Please read the advice and think about the suggestions without being angry. Everyone comes from a different place, but we are all sending love and hope for the best for you and Lucas (whatever you decide it to be).
Don't let this stop you from sharing with us. I'm sure some of the good advice will help out.
Vampy, I just read through this thread and my heart goes out to you. While there is a lot of chaos in your life, it seems there is some good too. I'm glad your mom is there for you.
You did the right thing by asking for advice. Unfortunately, you also opened up a can of worms. Please read the advice and think about the suggestions without being angry. Everyone comes from a different place, but we are all sending love and hope for the best for you and Lucas (whatever you decide it to be).
Don't let this stop you from sharing with us. I'm sure some of the good advice will help out.
You did the right thing by asking for advice. Unfortunately, you also opened up a can of worms. Please read the advice and think about the suggestions without being angry. Everyone comes from a different place, but we are all sending love and hope for the best for you and Lucas (whatever you decide it to be).
Don't let this stop you from sharing with us. I'm sure some of the good advice will help out.
kayleesgrandma
New member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>EnergyGal</b></i>
Terri
You are a wonderful Grandma to us all. Thank you for helping Vampy. I am sure she will keep you close to heart and your words will resonate with her for the rest of her life.</end quote></div>
OMG--now I feel like the old lady of the village!!! Wait a minute--I dropped my cane!
<img src="http://i136.photobucket.com/albums/q194/laytbug1/maxinesitting.jpg">
Terri
You are a wonderful Grandma to us all. Thank you for helping Vampy. I am sure she will keep you close to heart and your words will resonate with her for the rest of her life.</end quote></div>
OMG--now I feel like the old lady of the village!!! Wait a minute--I dropped my cane!
<img src="http://i136.photobucket.com/albums/q194/laytbug1/maxinesitting.jpg">
kayleesgrandma
New member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>EnergyGal</b></i>
Terri
You are a wonderful Grandma to us all. Thank you for helping Vampy. I am sure she will keep you close to heart and your words will resonate with her for the rest of her life.</end quote></div>
OMG--now I feel like the old lady of the village!!! Wait a minute--I dropped my cane!
<img src="http://i136.photobucket.com/albums/q194/laytbug1/maxinesitting.jpg">
Terri
You are a wonderful Grandma to us all. Thank you for helping Vampy. I am sure she will keep you close to heart and your words will resonate with her for the rest of her life.</end quote></div>
OMG--now I feel like the old lady of the village!!! Wait a minute--I dropped my cane!
<img src="http://i136.photobucket.com/albums/q194/laytbug1/maxinesitting.jpg">
kayleesgrandma
New member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>EnergyGal</b></i>
Terri
You are a wonderful Grandma to us all. Thank you for helping Vampy. I am sure she will keep you close to heart and your words will resonate with her for the rest of her life.</end quote></div>
OMG--now I feel like the old lady of the village!!! Wait a minute--I dropped my cane!
<img src="http://i136.photobucket.com/albums/q194/laytbug1/maxinesitting.jpg">
Terri
You are a wonderful Grandma to us all. Thank you for helping Vampy. I am sure she will keep you close to heart and your words will resonate with her for the rest of her life.</end quote></div>
OMG--now I feel like the old lady of the village!!! Wait a minute--I dropped my cane!
<img src="http://i136.photobucket.com/albums/q194/laytbug1/maxinesitting.jpg">
lol kayleesgrandma hun u crack me up.
to jane
thank you for replying to the post and i try not to get mad at some of the replys that come back but its just so hard to stay calm when ya are trying to be a good mommy and do whats right for your son and then no matter what you do someone always has something against me like i cant do anything right. i put up with that with my husband i never can do anything right but everything i do is wrong. ya know?
on a lighter side of things, my middle name is jane..so is my mothers, grandmothers and greatgrandmothers. <img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
oo gotta grab my stuff for my treatments <img src="i/expressions/neb.gif" border="0"><img src="i/expressions/vest.gif" border="0">
to jane
thank you for replying to the post and i try not to get mad at some of the replys that come back but its just so hard to stay calm when ya are trying to be a good mommy and do whats right for your son and then no matter what you do someone always has something against me like i cant do anything right. i put up with that with my husband i never can do anything right but everything i do is wrong. ya know?
on a lighter side of things, my middle name is jane..so is my mothers, grandmothers and greatgrandmothers. <img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
oo gotta grab my stuff for my treatments <img src="i/expressions/neb.gif" border="0"><img src="i/expressions/vest.gif" border="0">
lol kayleesgrandma hun u crack me up.
to jane
thank you for replying to the post and i try not to get mad at some of the replys that come back but its just so hard to stay calm when ya are trying to be a good mommy and do whats right for your son and then no matter what you do someone always has something against me like i cant do anything right. i put up with that with my husband i never can do anything right but everything i do is wrong. ya know?
on a lighter side of things, my middle name is jane..so is my mothers, grandmothers and greatgrandmothers. <img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
oo gotta grab my stuff for my treatments <img src="i/expressions/neb.gif" border="0"><img src="i/expressions/vest.gif" border="0">
to jane
thank you for replying to the post and i try not to get mad at some of the replys that come back but its just so hard to stay calm when ya are trying to be a good mommy and do whats right for your son and then no matter what you do someone always has something against me like i cant do anything right. i put up with that with my husband i never can do anything right but everything i do is wrong. ya know?
on a lighter side of things, my middle name is jane..so is my mothers, grandmothers and greatgrandmothers. <img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
oo gotta grab my stuff for my treatments <img src="i/expressions/neb.gif" border="0"><img src="i/expressions/vest.gif" border="0">
lol kayleesgrandma hun u crack me up.
to jane
thank you for replying to the post and i try not to get mad at some of the replys that come back but its just so hard to stay calm when ya are trying to be a good mommy and do whats right for your son and then no matter what you do someone always has something against me like i cant do anything right. i put up with that with my husband i never can do anything right but everything i do is wrong. ya know?
on a lighter side of things, my middle name is jane..so is my mothers, grandmothers and greatgrandmothers. <img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
oo gotta grab my stuff for my treatments <img src="i/expressions/neb.gif" border="0"><img src="i/expressions/vest.gif" border="0">
to jane
thank you for replying to the post and i try not to get mad at some of the replys that come back but its just so hard to stay calm when ya are trying to be a good mommy and do whats right for your son and then no matter what you do someone always has something against me like i cant do anything right. i put up with that with my husband i never can do anything right but everything i do is wrong. ya know?
on a lighter side of things, my middle name is jane..so is my mothers, grandmothers and greatgrandmothers. <img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
oo gotta grab my stuff for my treatments <img src="i/expressions/neb.gif" border="0"><img src="i/expressions/vest.gif" border="0">
M
MCGrad2006
Guest
Vampy, my heart goes out to you. You are doing the right thing by getting out of your relationship. Please PM if you would like to chat, I would love to get to know you better! Your new pic in your sig is absolutely adorable. I am praying for everyone! Love you all!
M
MCGrad2006
Guest
Vampy, my heart goes out to you. You are doing the right thing by getting out of your relationship. Please PM if you would like to chat, I would love to get to know you better! Your new pic in your sig is absolutely adorable. I am praying for everyone! Love you all!
M
MCGrad2006
Guest
Vampy, my heart goes out to you. You are doing the right thing by getting out of your relationship. Please PM if you would like to chat, I would love to get to know you better! Your new pic in your sig is absolutely adorable. I am praying for everyone! Love you all!
mom2lillian
New member
Vampy-I want to give you advice on one thing you mentioned. You said that your son comes first and you and your treatments 2nd. As a new mom myself I must tell you that we haev to reconsider this. Putting ourselves 2nd, or more commonly last is something many many mothers in this country do and we all must stop! Other mothers may have the freedom to make this mistake and they will pay the price later but we as mothers with CF cannot afford to make this mistake.
You must learn to put yoruself first. Children are resilient ad will do just fine if they are not put 1st for the entire day. Think of it as being on an airplane. When you are in an emergency situation on an airplane you must put oxygen on yourself before the child becase you are the one that needs to be 'well' enough to take care of everything. Life is this way too. Take care of yourself first, if you dont unfortunately as a CF mom you wont be aroudn long enough to take care of him.
It is hard for me but I do this. I make time every day to do my treatments religiously and work out. My husband is usually home to help take up the slack but when he isnt she plays with one of her toys next to me and if she is cryign I try to make her happy but I dont stop the treatment because even if she cries for a while she will be fine (I make sure she has been fed and burped and such before I start). Please Vampy consider this way of thinking--tak care of yourself, make yourself a priority in all aspects of yoru life not jsut your treatments.
You must learn to put yoruself first. Children are resilient ad will do just fine if they are not put 1st for the entire day. Think of it as being on an airplane. When you are in an emergency situation on an airplane you must put oxygen on yourself before the child becase you are the one that needs to be 'well' enough to take care of everything. Life is this way too. Take care of yourself first, if you dont unfortunately as a CF mom you wont be aroudn long enough to take care of him.
It is hard for me but I do this. I make time every day to do my treatments religiously and work out. My husband is usually home to help take up the slack but when he isnt she plays with one of her toys next to me and if she is cryign I try to make her happy but I dont stop the treatment because even if she cries for a while she will be fine (I make sure she has been fed and burped and such before I start). Please Vampy consider this way of thinking--tak care of yourself, make yourself a priority in all aspects of yoru life not jsut your treatments.
mom2lillian
New member
Vampy-I want to give you advice on one thing you mentioned. You said that your son comes first and you and your treatments 2nd. As a new mom myself I must tell you that we haev to reconsider this. Putting ourselves 2nd, or more commonly last is something many many mothers in this country do and we all must stop! Other mothers may have the freedom to make this mistake and they will pay the price later but we as mothers with CF cannot afford to make this mistake.
You must learn to put yoruself first. Children are resilient ad will do just fine if they are not put 1st for the entire day. Think of it as being on an airplane. When you are in an emergency situation on an airplane you must put oxygen on yourself before the child becase you are the one that needs to be 'well' enough to take care of everything. Life is this way too. Take care of yourself first, if you dont unfortunately as a CF mom you wont be aroudn long enough to take care of him.
It is hard for me but I do this. I make time every day to do my treatments religiously and work out. My husband is usually home to help take up the slack but when he isnt she plays with one of her toys next to me and if she is cryign I try to make her happy but I dont stop the treatment because even if she cries for a while she will be fine (I make sure she has been fed and burped and such before I start). Please Vampy consider this way of thinking--tak care of yourself, make yourself a priority in all aspects of yoru life not jsut your treatments.
You must learn to put yoruself first. Children are resilient ad will do just fine if they are not put 1st for the entire day. Think of it as being on an airplane. When you are in an emergency situation on an airplane you must put oxygen on yourself before the child becase you are the one that needs to be 'well' enough to take care of everything. Life is this way too. Take care of yourself first, if you dont unfortunately as a CF mom you wont be aroudn long enough to take care of him.
It is hard for me but I do this. I make time every day to do my treatments religiously and work out. My husband is usually home to help take up the slack but when he isnt she plays with one of her toys next to me and if she is cryign I try to make her happy but I dont stop the treatment because even if she cries for a while she will be fine (I make sure she has been fed and burped and such before I start). Please Vampy consider this way of thinking--tak care of yourself, make yourself a priority in all aspects of yoru life not jsut your treatments.