Okies here the deal. me and my husband clint got into it bad a few days ago. And it hasnt been getting any better since the last post i wrote about this. He wont keep a job because hes to lazy to get up on time and actually go. I know hes gonna loose this job. And its always mine and the babies fault he lost the job. I found a place for 325 all utilities paid. I want out of here so bad and i am taking lucas to because hes not responsable or mature enough for a child. some of you all known this from past postings. Should i leave? help me. im afraid to get on my own with a 2 months old and me having cf? I need so much help. hes trying to controll me and crap. he wont let me do what i want. i want to get my tongue peirced or soemthing and its a NO I DONT LIKE THEM and etc. I am not appreciated for cooking cleaning. lucas has a HORRIBLE diaper rash from where clint doesnt change the diaper right and i keep putting diaper rash creme on him to heal it. i need lots of help. I called about the place and it was a answering machine. At the moment i just want out of here. two days ago i tried to leave and he said "im not letting you leave here" what do i do?? <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0">
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Okies here the deal. me and my husband clint got into it bad a few days ago. And it hasnt been getting any better since the last post i wrote about this. He wont keep a job because hes to lazy to get up on time and actually go. I know hes gonna loose this job. And its always mine and the babies fault he lost the job. I found a place for 325 all utilities paid. I want out of here so bad and i am taking lucas to because hes not responsable or mature enough for a child. some of you all known this from past postings. Should i leave? help me. im afraid to get on my own with a 2 months old and me having cf? I need so much help. hes trying to controll me and crap. he wont let me do what i want. i want to get my tongue peirced or soemthing and its a NO I DONT LIKE THEM and etc. I am not appreciated for cooking cleaning. lucas has a HORRIBLE diaper rash from where clint doesnt change the diaper right and i keep putting diaper rash creme on him to heal it. i need lots of help. I called about the place and it was a answering machine. At the moment i just want out of here. two days ago i tried to leave and he said "im not letting you leave here" what do i do?? <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0">
Okies here the deal. me and my husband clint got into it bad a few days ago. And it hasnt been getting any better since the last post i wrote about this. He wont keep a job because hes to lazy to get up on time and actually go. I know hes gonna loose this job. And its always mine and the babies fault he lost the job. I found a place for 325 all utilities paid. I want out of here so bad and i am taking lucas to because hes not responsable or mature enough for a child. some of you all known this from past postings. Should i leave? help me. im afraid to get on my own with a 2 months old and me having cf? I need so much help. hes trying to controll me and crap. he wont let me do what i want. i want to get my tongue peirced or soemthing and its a NO I DONT LIKE THEM and etc. I am not appreciated for cooking cleaning. lucas has a HORRIBLE diaper rash from where clint doesnt change the diaper right and i keep putting diaper rash creme on him to heal it. i need lots of help. I called about the place and it was a answering machine. At the moment i just want out of here. two days ago i tried to leave and he said "im not letting you leave here" what do i do?? <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0">
kayleesgrandma
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I think you know what you have to do, kiddo. You need to do what is best for you and your baby. If you don't have a job , I don't know how your can pay your rent. You will have to go on some kind of welfare untill you can get on your feet, and you need ADC, since you won't get anything for your husband. Are you able to get some $$ from relatives to get appt, on condition you leave your husband? Because I'm sure they don't want to give you money to let him live with you and not support you and the baby. It's a choice that you knew you were going to have to make sooner or later--its too bad you have a baby to worry about besides your cf, even though I know he is you speicial blessing.
May I make a suggestion? Ask Ennio for a blog--this is something that you should put in a blog--plus that way we can read back without searching for your story. I would live to see your blog, with pictures. Good luck.
May I make a suggestion? Ask Ennio for a blog--this is something that you should put in a blog--plus that way we can read back without searching for your story. I would live to see your blog, with pictures. Good luck.
kayleesgrandma
New member
I think you know what you have to do, kiddo. You need to do what is best for you and your baby. If you don't have a job , I don't know how your can pay your rent. You will have to go on some kind of welfare untill you can get on your feet, and you need ADC, since you won't get anything for your husband. Are you able to get some $$ from relatives to get appt, on condition you leave your husband? Because I'm sure they don't want to give you money to let him live with you and not support you and the baby. It's a choice that you knew you were going to have to make sooner or later--its too bad you have a baby to worry about besides your cf, even though I know he is you speicial blessing.
May I make a suggestion? Ask Ennio for a blog--this is something that you should put in a blog--plus that way we can read back without searching for your story. I would live to see your blog, with pictures. Good luck.
May I make a suggestion? Ask Ennio for a blog--this is something that you should put in a blog--plus that way we can read back without searching for your story. I would live to see your blog, with pictures. Good luck.
kayleesgrandma
New member
I think you know what you have to do, kiddo. You need to do what is best for you and your baby. If you don't have a job , I don't know how your can pay your rent. You will have to go on some kind of welfare untill you can get on your feet, and you need ADC, since you won't get anything for your husband. Are you able to get some $$ from relatives to get appt, on condition you leave your husband? Because I'm sure they don't want to give you money to let him live with you and not support you and the baby. It's a choice that you knew you were going to have to make sooner or later--its too bad you have a baby to worry about besides your cf, even though I know he is you speicial blessing.
May I make a suggestion? Ask Ennio for a blog--this is something that you should put in a blog--plus that way we can read back without searching for your story. I would live to see your blog, with pictures. Good luck.
May I make a suggestion? Ask Ennio for a blog--this is something that you should put in a blog--plus that way we can read back without searching for your story. I would live to see your blog, with pictures. Good luck.
mom2lillian
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you have to do what is best for your child now. If the situation isnot going to change i/e/ he is not going to hold donw a job or try to imrpove your situation then you are in a hard spot. Having a child will put you ina good spot to get financial aid. Perhaps you can get some assistance and go to classes at a local community college for a short 1-2year rpogram? This woudl allow you a dependable job with good benefits. Somehting like medical transcription would allow you flexibility with upcoming health issues. Whatever you do once you make the leave if you make the leave you have to be committed to the choice no 'back and forthesees' as that is too hard on both of you. If there is violence in the picture or the possibility you need to contact an assualt shelther for advice asap and threatening to not allow you to leave constitutes this btw. WHatver you do dont forget to put your health first even if that means letting the little one cry while you do your treatments, assuming he is fed, burped, diapered etc he will be fine to cry for a bit but he wont be fine if you are not taking care of yourself.
mom2lillian
New member
you have to do what is best for your child now. If the situation isnot going to change i/e/ he is not going to hold donw a job or try to imrpove your situation then you are in a hard spot. Having a child will put you ina good spot to get financial aid. Perhaps you can get some assistance and go to classes at a local community college for a short 1-2year rpogram? This woudl allow you a dependable job with good benefits. Somehting like medical transcription would allow you flexibility with upcoming health issues. Whatever you do once you make the leave if you make the leave you have to be committed to the choice no 'back and forthesees' as that is too hard on both of you. If there is violence in the picture or the possibility you need to contact an assualt shelther for advice asap and threatening to not allow you to leave constitutes this btw. WHatver you do dont forget to put your health first even if that means letting the little one cry while you do your treatments, assuming he is fed, burped, diapered etc he will be fine to cry for a bit but he wont be fine if you are not taking care of yourself.
mom2lillian
New member
you have to do what is best for your child now. If the situation isnot going to change i/e/ he is not going to hold donw a job or try to imrpove your situation then you are in a hard spot. Having a child will put you ina good spot to get financial aid. Perhaps you can get some assistance and go to classes at a local community college for a short 1-2year rpogram? This woudl allow you a dependable job with good benefits. Somehting like medical transcription would allow you flexibility with upcoming health issues. Whatever you do once you make the leave if you make the leave you have to be committed to the choice no 'back and forthesees' as that is too hard on both of you. If there is violence in the picture or the possibility you need to contact an assualt shelther for advice asap and threatening to not allow you to leave constitutes this btw. WHatver you do dont forget to put your health first even if that means letting the little one cry while you do your treatments, assuming he is fed, burped, diapered etc he will be fine to cry for a bit but he wont be fine if you are not taking care of yourself.
What about giving the baby up for adoption to a two parent family?
I'm sure this sounds horrifying, but if you truely love the little guy you'll want what's best for him - to have the best chance at a great life. A two parent family with a stable household would be an ideal situation.
Give it some thought.
I'm sure this sounds horrifying, but if you truely love the little guy you'll want what's best for him - to have the best chance at a great life. A two parent family with a stable household would be an ideal situation.
Give it some thought.
What about giving the baby up for adoption to a two parent family?
I'm sure this sounds horrifying, but if you truely love the little guy you'll want what's best for him - to have the best chance at a great life. A two parent family with a stable household would be an ideal situation.
Give it some thought.
I'm sure this sounds horrifying, but if you truely love the little guy you'll want what's best for him - to have the best chance at a great life. A two parent family with a stable household would be an ideal situation.
Give it some thought.
What about giving the baby up for adoption to a two parent family?
I'm sure this sounds horrifying, but if you truely love the little guy you'll want what's best for him - to have the best chance at a great life. A two parent family with a stable household would be an ideal situation.
Give it some thought.
I'm sure this sounds horrifying, but if you truely love the little guy you'll want what's best for him - to have the best chance at a great life. A two parent family with a stable household would be an ideal situation.
Give it some thought.
I second the women's shelter idea. Contact Laura (or me) by PM if you don't know of one off hand and she'll help you find one.
Years and years ago I rented a room to a young woman and her son in much the same situation that you are in (but no CF) . It was a stopgap measure for her. After a few months she did go into the shelter near me and they worked with her and helped her set up everything she needed for her and her baby. It really worked out well for them. (She eventually found a good guy and got married again, but that's another story)
Years and years ago I rented a room to a young woman and her son in much the same situation that you are in (but no CF) . It was a stopgap measure for her. After a few months she did go into the shelter near me and they worked with her and helped her set up everything she needed for her and her baby. It really worked out well for them. (She eventually found a good guy and got married again, but that's another story)
I second the women's shelter idea. Contact Laura (or me) by PM if you don't know of one off hand and she'll help you find one.
Years and years ago I rented a room to a young woman and her son in much the same situation that you are in (but no CF) . It was a stopgap measure for her. After a few months she did go into the shelter near me and they worked with her and helped her set up everything she needed for her and her baby. It really worked out well for them. (She eventually found a good guy and got married again, but that's another story)
Years and years ago I rented a room to a young woman and her son in much the same situation that you are in (but no CF) . It was a stopgap measure for her. After a few months she did go into the shelter near me and they worked with her and helped her set up everything she needed for her and her baby. It really worked out well for them. (She eventually found a good guy and got married again, but that's another story)
I second the women's shelter idea. Contact Laura (or me) by PM if you don't know of one off hand and she'll help you find one.
Years and years ago I rented a room to a young woman and her son in much the same situation that you are in (but no CF) . It was a stopgap measure for her. After a few months she did go into the shelter near me and they worked with her and helped her set up everything she needed for her and her baby. It really worked out well for them. (She eventually found a good guy and got married again, but that's another story)
Years and years ago I rented a room to a young woman and her son in much the same situation that you are in (but no CF) . It was a stopgap measure for her. After a few months she did go into the shelter near me and they worked with her and helped her set up everything she needed for her and her baby. It really worked out well for them. (She eventually found a good guy and got married again, but that's another story)
The shelter was what popped into my mind, too after reading your post. You would be safe incase he doesn't take your leaving with the baby well, and they will be able to guide you in what you need to do next, for your well being and your baby's. When you leave, please do it when he is not there, just in case. I will pray for you.
The shelter was what popped into my mind, too after reading your post. You would be safe incase he doesn't take your leaving with the baby well, and they will be able to guide you in what you need to do next, for your well being and your baby's. When you leave, please do it when he is not there, just in case. I will pray for you.