YEAH !!! For you...Tami had very good advice for you, having it legal would be helpful in the long run... document everything... set amounts through the court are best, so if he stops paying, he will have to make up for it sooner or later (speaking from exper. ) I'm so happy to hear you have all these plans for you and Lucas... You can do it !!! You are both in my thoughts and prayers... P.S. dont forget to take good care of yourself, that little guy is counting on you...stay well....Joni 55 y/o fw c/f