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Mockingbird

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We are all different people with different opinions and passions and everything else, which is great, but sometimes it can turn this support group into more of a debate group, which can beeven more harmful to a person who is already wounded. I am wondering if it would be beneficial for us to create lists for the private topic category. That way, when someone needs support on a controversial issue they can start a private topic and cut and paste the apprpriate list. Or, if a new member unintentionally hits a hot button, one of the more seasoned members can instruct them on how to create a private topic, or better yet, create a private topic for them.

This is something we can do ourselves without increasing the workload of the moderators and web designers, and it won't create even more categories which no one is going to use. Of course, if the moderators or web designers want to help, they are more than welcome.

One person will have to be in charge of keeping and updating the lists, which I am more than willing to do. What I would need is suggestions for topics which should be included along with short descriptions of how they are meant to be used. Then, people will tell me which lists they would like to be on and I will add them.

Obviously, we would have to use the honor system as far as people asking to be on a list simply to make problems. Since I don't have the ability to do background checks or anything like that, I would be adding names to the lists indiscriminately. However, these sort of problems would hopefully be few and far between, and even when they do happen it is just as easy to take someone off a list as it is to put someone on.

So, if you think this is a good idea, let me know and give any suggestions you might have. If no interest is shown, I will simply abandon the project. Here are some examples of topics:

Abortion: A list of people who will support others regarding an abortion, or want to have a discussion on abortion without starting a right-to-life argument

CF Related Pregnancy: A list of people who will support Cfers or carriers who are pregnant or want to become pregnant (discussion on abortion or adoption not allowed)

Recreational Drug Use: A list of people who are willing to have a discussion on recreational drug use without getting into issues of morality

Hopes for a Cure: A list of people who want to discuss the possibility of a cure in the future without skepticism or negativity

Realistically Speaking: A list of people who want to talk about reality without hearing others whine about negativity


Obviously, I don't agree with some of these veiwpoints, but I was trying to be balanced. Anyway, the more ideas the better, so don't be shy. Unlike the categories, it does not matter if a list is never going to be used, since they will not be cluttering up the forum, but will be available in an inconspicuous off-site location to be used should the need ever arise.
 
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Mockingbird

New member
We are all different people with different opinions and passions and everything else, which is great, but sometimes it can turn this support group into more of a debate group, which can beeven more harmful to a person who is already wounded. I am wondering if it would be beneficial for us to create lists for the private topic category. That way, when someone needs support on a controversial issue they can start a private topic and cut and paste the apprpriate list. Or, if a new member unintentionally hits a hot button, one of the more seasoned members can instruct them on how to create a private topic, or better yet, create a private topic for them.

This is something we can do ourselves without increasing the workload of the moderators and web designers, and it won't create even more categories which no one is going to use. Of course, if the moderators or web designers want to help, they are more than welcome.

One person will have to be in charge of keeping and updating the lists, which I am more than willing to do. What I would need is suggestions for topics which should be included along with short descriptions of how they are meant to be used. Then, people will tell me which lists they would like to be on and I will add them.

Obviously, we would have to use the honor system as far as people asking to be on a list simply to make problems. Since I don't have the ability to do background checks or anything like that, I would be adding names to the lists indiscriminately. However, these sort of problems would hopefully be few and far between, and even when they do happen it is just as easy to take someone off a list as it is to put someone on.

So, if you think this is a good idea, let me know and give any suggestions you might have. If no interest is shown, I will simply abandon the project. Here are some examples of topics:

Abortion: A list of people who will support others regarding an abortion, or want to have a discussion on abortion without starting a right-to-life argument

CF Related Pregnancy: A list of people who will support Cfers or carriers who are pregnant or want to become pregnant (discussion on abortion or adoption not allowed)

Recreational Drug Use: A list of people who are willing to have a discussion on recreational drug use without getting into issues of morality

Hopes for a Cure: A list of people who want to discuss the possibility of a cure in the future without skepticism or negativity

Realistically Speaking: A list of people who want to talk about reality without hearing others whine about negativity


Obviously, I don't agree with some of these veiwpoints, but I was trying to be balanced. Anyway, the more ideas the better, so don't be shy. Unlike the categories, it does not matter if a list is never going to be used, since they will not be cluttering up the forum, but will be available in an inconspicuous off-site location to be used should the need ever arise.
 
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Mockingbird

New member
We are all different people with different opinions and passions and everything else, which is great, but sometimes it can turn this support group into more of a debate group, which can beeven more harmful to a person who is already wounded. I am wondering if it would be beneficial for us to create lists for the private topic category. That way, when someone needs support on a controversial issue they can start a private topic and cut and paste the apprpriate list. Or, if a new member unintentionally hits a hot button, one of the more seasoned members can instruct them on how to create a private topic, or better yet, create a private topic for them.

This is something we can do ourselves without increasing the workload of the moderators and web designers, and it won't create even more categories which no one is going to use. Of course, if the moderators or web designers want to help, they are more than welcome.

One person will have to be in charge of keeping and updating the lists, which I am more than willing to do. What I would need is suggestions for topics which should be included along with short descriptions of how they are meant to be used. Then, people will tell me which lists they would like to be on and I will add them.

Obviously, we would have to use the honor system as far as people asking to be on a list simply to make problems. Since I don't have the ability to do background checks or anything like that, I would be adding names to the lists indiscriminately. However, these sort of problems would hopefully be few and far between, and even when they do happen it is just as easy to take someone off a list as it is to put someone on.

So, if you think this is a good idea, let me know and give any suggestions you might have. If no interest is shown, I will simply abandon the project. Here are some examples of topics:

Abortion: A list of people who will support others regarding an abortion, or want to have a discussion on abortion without starting a right-to-life argument

CF Related Pregnancy: A list of people who will support Cfers or carriers who are pregnant or want to become pregnant (discussion on abortion or adoption not allowed)

Recreational Drug Use: A list of people who are willing to have a discussion on recreational drug use without getting into issues of morality

Hopes for a Cure: A list of people who want to discuss the possibility of a cure in the future without skepticism or negativity

Realistically Speaking: A list of people who want to talk about reality without hearing others whine about negativity


Obviously, I don't agree with some of these veiwpoints, but I was trying to be balanced. Anyway, the more ideas the better, so don't be shy. Unlike the categories, it does not matter if a list is never going to be used, since they will not be cluttering up the forum, but will be available in an inconspicuous off-site location to be used should the need ever arise.
 
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kayleesgrandma

New member
I appreciate the idea, but I personally like a "hot" topic. It gets the juices flowing (though I know it can get venomous sometimes). This is not just my opinion (since I don't have cf), but also some others I've talked to. Sometimes it gets boring bringing up the same questions on some of the posts--brought by people who are new to something that is occuring. Please don't take that to mean that ii is not relevant or important, because it is . . . that's why we are a "support" community. Also that is what this "adult" forum is for--asking questions.

That said, I think a "hot" topic gets people to examining their feelings and what they really believe. I don't want any more places to have to go to in this site--we already have many that people don't visit, which results in them having to post a question here that should be in another section sometimes. Sometimes the best topics are "off-topics", and shouldn't be here, but as I said before, would never be commented on.

Thats just my opinion, thanks for bringing up the idea--food for thought!
 
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kayleesgrandma

New member
I appreciate the idea, but I personally like a "hot" topic. It gets the juices flowing (though I know it can get venomous sometimes). This is not just my opinion (since I don't have cf), but also some others I've talked to. Sometimes it gets boring bringing up the same questions on some of the posts--brought by people who are new to something that is occuring. Please don't take that to mean that ii is not relevant or important, because it is . . . that's why we are a "support" community. Also that is what this "adult" forum is for--asking questions.

That said, I think a "hot" topic gets people to examining their feelings and what they really believe. I don't want any more places to have to go to in this site--we already have many that people don't visit, which results in them having to post a question here that should be in another section sometimes. Sometimes the best topics are "off-topics", and shouldn't be here, but as I said before, would never be commented on.

Thats just my opinion, thanks for bringing up the idea--food for thought!
 
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kayleesgrandma

New member
I appreciate the idea, but I personally like a "hot" topic. It gets the juices flowing (though I know it can get venomous sometimes). This is not just my opinion (since I don't have cf), but also some others I've talked to. Sometimes it gets boring bringing up the same questions on some of the posts--brought by people who are new to something that is occuring. Please don't take that to mean that ii is not relevant or important, because it is . . . that's why we are a "support" community. Also that is what this "adult" forum is for--asking questions.

That said, I think a "hot" topic gets people to examining their feelings and what they really believe. I don't want any more places to have to go to in this site--we already have many that people don't visit, which results in them having to post a question here that should be in another section sometimes. Sometimes the best topics are "off-topics", and shouldn't be here, but as I said before, would never be commented on.

Thats just my opinion, thanks for bringing up the idea--food for thought!
 
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Lilith

New member
And then we could have a category for those that are vegetarians, so they don't get offended by someone saying that they like cheeseburgers...I don't think I need to elaborate further.

Mockingbird, while I think your heart is in the right place, where would it end? I go on the internet to get AWAY from having to be politically correct 24/7. And as Terri said, sometimes people need to hear the other side of an argument, whether they like it or not. A child doesn't like being scolded for doing something bad, but its important for them to understand why its bad, correct? Same principle here. I'm not saying we're children, but a little "wake-up call" is needed for adults sometimes, too.

I say what I've always said; to hell with being politically correct, say what's on your mind. If people don't like it, they don't have to read/listen to it. But good grief, don't start censoring this place because (gasp) someone might get offended. That's life, welcome to it. I get enough of censoring through the FCC, thanks very much. Another analogy; when you buy a cable package for your T.V., you get channels with it you don't like. And I'll bet you don't watch them. Same idea needs to be applied here. I stay away from the pregnancy and religious sections because I know I'm going to get heated in those topics, and I try to avoid them on the main forum as well. Its not that difficult.

Besides, what's so wrong about debating? Yeah, it can turn into a spitting match every once in a while, but in the end, I find it enjoyable to hear both sides of an issue. Makes me a more well-informed individual, I think.

Okay, I'm going to shut up now...
 
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Lilith

New member
And then we could have a category for those that are vegetarians, so they don't get offended by someone saying that they like cheeseburgers...I don't think I need to elaborate further.

Mockingbird, while I think your heart is in the right place, where would it end? I go on the internet to get AWAY from having to be politically correct 24/7. And as Terri said, sometimes people need to hear the other side of an argument, whether they like it or not. A child doesn't like being scolded for doing something bad, but its important for them to understand why its bad, correct? Same principle here. I'm not saying we're children, but a little "wake-up call" is needed for adults sometimes, too.

I say what I've always said; to hell with being politically correct, say what's on your mind. If people don't like it, they don't have to read/listen to it. But good grief, don't start censoring this place because (gasp) someone might get offended. That's life, welcome to it. I get enough of censoring through the FCC, thanks very much. Another analogy; when you buy a cable package for your T.V., you get channels with it you don't like. And I'll bet you don't watch them. Same idea needs to be applied here. I stay away from the pregnancy and religious sections because I know I'm going to get heated in those topics, and I try to avoid them on the main forum as well. Its not that difficult.

Besides, what's so wrong about debating? Yeah, it can turn into a spitting match every once in a while, but in the end, I find it enjoyable to hear both sides of an issue. Makes me a more well-informed individual, I think.

Okay, I'm going to shut up now...
 
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Lilith

New member
And then we could have a category for those that are vegetarians, so they don't get offended by someone saying that they like cheeseburgers...I don't think I need to elaborate further.

Mockingbird, while I think your heart is in the right place, where would it end? I go on the internet to get AWAY from having to be politically correct 24/7. And as Terri said, sometimes people need to hear the other side of an argument, whether they like it or not. A child doesn't like being scolded for doing something bad, but its important for them to understand why its bad, correct? Same principle here. I'm not saying we're children, but a little "wake-up call" is needed for adults sometimes, too.

I say what I've always said; to hell with being politically correct, say what's on your mind. If people don't like it, they don't have to read/listen to it. But good grief, don't start censoring this place because (gasp) someone might get offended. That's life, welcome to it. I get enough of censoring through the FCC, thanks very much. Another analogy; when you buy a cable package for your T.V., you get channels with it you don't like. And I'll bet you don't watch them. Same idea needs to be applied here. I stay away from the pregnancy and religious sections because I know I'm going to get heated in those topics, and I try to avoid them on the main forum as well. Its not that difficult.

Besides, what's so wrong about debating? Yeah, it can turn into a spitting match every once in a while, but in the end, I find it enjoyable to hear both sides of an issue. Makes me a more well-informed individual, I think.

Okay, I'm going to shut up now...
 
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Pete

New member
Lilith

I would HATE to be surrounded by people I only agree with...how could you possibly grow as an individual.

Well said.
 
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Pete

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Lilith

I would HATE to be surrounded by people I only agree with...how could you possibly grow as an individual.

Well said.
 
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Pete

New member
Lilith

I would HATE to be surrounded by people I only agree with...how could you possibly grow as an individual.

Well said.
 
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beyerdug

New member
How much growth have you accomplished when your first reaction is to lash out against the person who has a different opinion than you? Discussion and debate are great but one must keep their responses respectful to be taken seriously. Anybody can call names and pass judgment but your opinion must have reason behind it to be valid. The reason can then be further debated. What happens in most of these so called discussions is that people tend to hurt people they don't agree with by calling them names and the discussion turns into a fight. There is a wide line between a discussion and fighting.
 
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beyerdug

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How much growth have you accomplished when your first reaction is to lash out against the person who has a different opinion than you? Discussion and debate are great but one must keep their responses respectful to be taken seriously. Anybody can call names and pass judgment but your opinion must have reason behind it to be valid. The reason can then be further debated. What happens in most of these so called discussions is that people tend to hurt people they don't agree with by calling them names and the discussion turns into a fight. There is a wide line between a discussion and fighting.
 
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