Insensitive people!

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Brad

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What I think is Insensitive
is people trying to shove death down our throats......

We all F ing know what the end result will be.

You know,sometimes I feel as if people
think bad things about me because
I have lived as long as I have with Cf.

I met some one who said to me, don't you all die in
your 20's or 30's........
 
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Brad

New member
What I think is Insensitive
is people trying to shove death down our throats......

We all F ing know what the end result will be.

You know,sometimes I feel as if people
think bad things about me because
I have lived as long as I have with Cf.

I met some one who said to me, don't you all die in
your 20's or 30's........
 
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charl72

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You're problem was definitely solved. I feel said that you lived all those years worrying - what wasted time! I think CF makes you tough and helps you not to take any sh*t from anyone. There's not one day that goes by when I don't worry, I try hard not to but just can't help it. It's so exhausting when the next day comes and you realise that there was no need to worry. Maybe it will get better. I just don't know. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-confused.gif" border="0">
 
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charl72

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You're problem was definitely solved. I feel said that you lived all those years worrying - what wasted time! I think CF makes you tough and helps you not to take any sh*t from anyone. There's not one day that goes by when I don't worry, I try hard not to but just can't help it. It's so exhausting when the next day comes and you realise that there was no need to worry. Maybe it will get better. I just don't know. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-confused.gif" border="0">
 
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charl72

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You're problem was definitely solved. I feel said that you lived all those years worrying - what wasted time! I think CF makes you tough and helps you not to take any sh*t from anyone. There's not one day that goes by when I don't worry, I try hard not to but just can't help it. It's so exhausting when the next day comes and you realise that there was no need to worry. Maybe it will get better. I just don't know. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-confused.gif" border="0">
 
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charl72

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Brad</b></i>

What I think is Insensitive

is people trying to shove death down our throats......



We all F ing know what the end result will be.



You know,sometimes I feel as if people

think bad things about me because

I have lived as long as I have with Cf.



I met some who said to me, don't you all die in

your 20's or 30's........</end quote></div>


People are just ignorant
 
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charl72

New member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Brad</b></i>

What I think is Insensitive

is people trying to shove death down our throats......



We all F ing know what the end result will be.



You know,sometimes I feel as if people

think bad things about me because

I have lived as long as I have with Cf.



I met some who said to me, don't you all die in

your 20's or 30's........</end quote></div>


People are just ignorant
 
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charl72

New member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Brad</b></i>

What I think is Insensitive

is people trying to shove death down our throats......



We all F ing know what the end result will be.



You know,sometimes I feel as if people

think bad things about me because

I have lived as long as I have with Cf.



I met some who said to me, don't you all die in

your 20's or 30's........</end quote></div>


People are just ignorant
 
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JazzysMom

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Allie</b></i>

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>Just because a person knows someone that had CF who passed doesnt mean they are obligated to pass on the bad news. </end quote></div>



I guess I'll have to start introducing myself in Cf situations as "Allie, 33, and I can't mention my link to CF because it would be insensitive." In fact, why mention him at all if it might upset someone? Then, Ahava should never speak his name either. And he can become a whispered, forgotten memory of the past, like most dead people because our culture is more comfortable talking about sex, drugs, and gossip than death. And when the rest of us die, our children will not mention our names to others either, for fear of being insensitive.



Ignore me, I'll just go back to my hole.</end quote></div>

TALK ABOUT TAKING THINGS TO THE EXTREME ALLIE!! IMHO there is quite a difference between you speaking of Ry or Lisa speaking of RIP or MomofJosh speaking of Josh and a man doing an interview speaking of someone who died of CF that he may or may not have had a close connection with. Given the circumstances I dont see why he felt it necessary unless it applied to the interview itself or she inquired. Not to mention that I never said anything about not speaking of or about a person again. I am an advocate of keeping someones memory alive. We have had chats about this. I dont see this any different then pointing out something else in life that doesnt seem necessary at the time. As I pointed out in my original post.....people feel "obligated" to update me on my ex husband. Is it necessary? Did I ask? Just like people telling others of those who have had problems with Diabetes or death from Cancer & CF. I just dont see why its a must to do so. I am not saying there arent times & places or that it shouldnt be discussed. Death is as much a part of life as birth. It just amazes me how people are drawn to the negative aspect of things so much easier then the positive. Look at all these responses & different situations in which that thought applies! Its safe to come out of your hole now!
 
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JazzysMom

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Allie</b></i>

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>Just because a person knows someone that had CF who passed doesnt mean they are obligated to pass on the bad news. </end quote></div>



I guess I'll have to start introducing myself in Cf situations as "Allie, 33, and I can't mention my link to CF because it would be insensitive." In fact, why mention him at all if it might upset someone? Then, Ahava should never speak his name either. And he can become a whispered, forgotten memory of the past, like most dead people because our culture is more comfortable talking about sex, drugs, and gossip than death. And when the rest of us die, our children will not mention our names to others either, for fear of being insensitive.



Ignore me, I'll just go back to my hole.</end quote></div>

TALK ABOUT TAKING THINGS TO THE EXTREME ALLIE!! IMHO there is quite a difference between you speaking of Ry or Lisa speaking of RIP or MomofJosh speaking of Josh and a man doing an interview speaking of someone who died of CF that he may or may not have had a close connection with. Given the circumstances I dont see why he felt it necessary unless it applied to the interview itself or she inquired. Not to mention that I never said anything about not speaking of or about a person again. I am an advocate of keeping someones memory alive. We have had chats about this. I dont see this any different then pointing out something else in life that doesnt seem necessary at the time. As I pointed out in my original post.....people feel "obligated" to update me on my ex husband. Is it necessary? Did I ask? Just like people telling others of those who have had problems with Diabetes or death from Cancer & CF. I just dont see why its a must to do so. I am not saying there arent times & places or that it shouldnt be discussed. Death is as much a part of life as birth. It just amazes me how people are drawn to the negative aspect of things so much easier then the positive. Look at all these responses & different situations in which that thought applies! Its safe to come out of your hole now!
 
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JazzysMom

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Allie</b></i>

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>Just because a person knows someone that had CF who passed doesnt mean they are obligated to pass on the bad news. </end quote></div>



I guess I'll have to start introducing myself in Cf situations as "Allie, 33, and I can't mention my link to CF because it would be insensitive." In fact, why mention him at all if it might upset someone? Then, Ahava should never speak his name either. And he can become a whispered, forgotten memory of the past, like most dead people because our culture is more comfortable talking about sex, drugs, and gossip than death. And when the rest of us die, our children will not mention our names to others either, for fear of being insensitive.



Ignore me, I'll just go back to my hole.</end quote></div>

TALK ABOUT TAKING THINGS TO THE EXTREME ALLIE!! IMHO there is quite a difference between you speaking of Ry or Lisa speaking of RIP or MomofJosh speaking of Josh and a man doing an interview speaking of someone who died of CF that he may or may not have had a close connection with. Given the circumstances I dont see why he felt it necessary unless it applied to the interview itself or she inquired. Not to mention that I never said anything about not speaking of or about a person again. I am an advocate of keeping someones memory alive. We have had chats about this. I dont see this any different then pointing out something else in life that doesnt seem necessary at the time. As I pointed out in my original post.....people feel "obligated" to update me on my ex husband. Is it necessary? Did I ask? Just like people telling others of those who have had problems with Diabetes or death from Cancer & CF. I just dont see why its a must to do so. I am not saying there arent times & places or that it shouldnt be discussed. Death is as much a part of life as birth. It just amazes me how people are drawn to the negative aspect of things so much easier then the positive. Look at all these responses & different situations in which that thought applies! Its safe to come out of your hole now!
 
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65rosessamurai

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This reminds me of a Mel Brooks movie, "Men in Tights", in which the Sherriff was explaining to the king about the bad news in regards to Robin Hood being back, but because the king hated bad news, the sherrif tried to tell the king the bad news in the form of good news. So, as the sherriff was laughing during his explanation that Robin Hood was back, and was gonna kick thier @'s, the king yells back, "why are you laughing, that's terrible news!".

So, I guess the moral to this is that even though something true may be hard to hear, there is no better way to say it. Of course, there are sensitive, and insensitive ways of saying it, such as perhaps adding statements like "I don't mean to be insensitive, but..."


...Just my perspective...
 
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65rosessamurai

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This reminds me of a Mel Brooks movie, "Men in Tights", in which the Sherriff was explaining to the king about the bad news in regards to Robin Hood being back, but because the king hated bad news, the sherrif tried to tell the king the bad news in the form of good news. So, as the sherriff was laughing during his explanation that Robin Hood was back, and was gonna kick thier @'s, the king yells back, "why are you laughing, that's terrible news!".

So, I guess the moral to this is that even though something true may be hard to hear, there is no better way to say it. Of course, there are sensitive, and insensitive ways of saying it, such as perhaps adding statements like "I don't mean to be insensitive, but..."


...Just my perspective...
 
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65rosessamurai

Guest
This reminds me of a Mel Brooks movie, "Men in Tights", in which the Sherriff was explaining to the king about the bad news in regards to Robin Hood being back, but because the king hated bad news, the sherrif tried to tell the king the bad news in the form of good news. So, as the sherriff was laughing during his explanation that Robin Hood was back, and was gonna kick thier @'s, the king yells back, "why are you laughing, that's terrible news!".

So, I guess the moral to this is that even though something true may be hard to hear, there is no better way to say it. Of course, there are sensitive, and insensitive ways of saying it, such as perhaps adding statements like "I don't mean to be insensitive, but..."


...Just my perspective...
 
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NoExcuses

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Allie</b></i>

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>Just because a person knows someone that had CF who passed doesnt mean they are obligated to pass on the bad news. </end quote></div>





I guess I'll have to start introducing myself in Cf situations as "Allie, 33, and I can't mention my link to CF because it would be insensitive." In fact, why mention him at all if it might upset someone? Then, Ahava should never speak his name either. And he can become a whispered, forgotten memory of the past, like most dead people because our culture is more comfortable talking about sex, drugs, and gossip than death. And when the rest of us die, our children will not mention our names to others either, for fear of being insensitive.



Ignore me, I'll just go back to my hole.</end quote></div>

once again, allie, wonderfully put. this is why you are so valuable to this board! your perspective is terrific!
 
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NoExcuses

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Allie</b></i>

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>Just because a person knows someone that had CF who passed doesnt mean they are obligated to pass on the bad news. </end quote></div>





I guess I'll have to start introducing myself in Cf situations as "Allie, 33, and I can't mention my link to CF because it would be insensitive." In fact, why mention him at all if it might upset someone? Then, Ahava should never speak his name either. And he can become a whispered, forgotten memory of the past, like most dead people because our culture is more comfortable talking about sex, drugs, and gossip than death. And when the rest of us die, our children will not mention our names to others either, for fear of being insensitive.



Ignore me, I'll just go back to my hole.</end quote></div>

once again, allie, wonderfully put. this is why you are so valuable to this board! your perspective is terrific!
 
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NoExcuses

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Allie</b></i>

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>Just because a person knows someone that had CF who passed doesnt mean they are obligated to pass on the bad news. </end quote></div>





I guess I'll have to start introducing myself in Cf situations as "Allie, 33, and I can't mention my link to CF because it would be insensitive." In fact, why mention him at all if it might upset someone? Then, Ahava should never speak his name either. And he can become a whispered, forgotten memory of the past, like most dead people because our culture is more comfortable talking about sex, drugs, and gossip than death. And when the rest of us die, our children will not mention our names to others either, for fear of being insensitive.



Ignore me, I'll just go back to my hole.</end quote></div>

once again, allie, wonderfully put. this is why you are so valuable to this board! your perspective is terrific!
 
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