Marriage issues

[mamaScarlett]

To the original poster-I really hope that you can completely disregard the pathetic and wrong comments here and focus on the issue at hand, which is your marriage. 99% of the people that took the time to post to your thread do so out of care for another family that is affected by this lousy illness.
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<br />To James-if you'd like to continue your rant please start another thread an do so there. I hope that this thread isn't blocked due to YOU, bc this family needs help and support.
<br />Your comments have nothing to do with this thread.
<br />(It doesn't take Freud to figure out that you have some major issues stemming from your own battle with this illness/parents/family situation, whatever. You can deal with it in a healthy constructive way here, and if you can't do that-Then go to therapy and get help, like some of the rest of us have done.)
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<br />Regardless of how these children came into the world, whether their parents knew they'd have Cf or not-they are HERE now. And the best thing for them is to have a mom and dad working together, making it for their children.
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<br />My biological parents had severe drug issues which caused me to be put up for adoption. And yet they still had more children after that. That was irresponsible. WHY? Bc I had parents that DID NOT LOVE ME. It had (and has) nothing to do with 'was it fair or not fair for me to be born?' Coming from one of the worst starts a child could have in life and having personally lived it-I can't judge another family for having children with this illness. All I see is 2 parents that LOVE their children. And thats really all that a child needs.

 

[threebabies]

I hate that I have to explain myself but I will.... When I was pregnant with my daughter I found out that I was a carrier. My husband was tested and no mutations were found. When my daughter was born my mutation was passed on to her. She was sweated and it turned out she had cf. We were stunned. The docs told us not to read too much on the Internet, so we didn't. Her first 2 years of life was perfect. I got pregnant again when she was 11 months. She is 20 months older than the boys. 2 months after the boys were born is when all hell broke lose. Maybe I was naive but I have no regrets. I don't plan on having any more children. Cerulean I will be sure to ask the kids when they get older if they wish I never had them.

Gina
Mom to Sophia 3, Peter & Gavin 20 months df508 & ps849x

 

[threebabies]

I hate that I have to explain myself but I will.... When I was pregnant with my daughter I found out that I was a carrier. My husband was tested and no mutations were found. When my daughter was born my mutation was passed on to her. She was sweated and it turned out she had cf. We were stunned. The docs told us not to read too much on the Internet, so we didn't. Her first 2 years of life was perfect. I got pregnant again when she was 11 months. She is 20 months older than the boys. 2 months after the boys were born is when all hell broke lose. Maybe I was naive but I have no regrets. I don't plan on having any more children. Cerulean I will be sure to ask the kids when they get older if they wish I never had them.

Gina
Mom to Sophia 3, Peter & Gavin 20 months df508 & ps849x

 

[threebabies]

I hate that I have to explain myself but I will.... When I was pregnant with my daughter I found out that I was a carrier. My husband was tested and no mutations were found. When my daughter was born my mutation was passed on to her. She was sweated and it turned out she had cf. We were stunned. The docs told us not to read too much on the Internet, so we didn't. Her first 2 years of life was perfect. I got pregnant again when she was 11 months. She is 20 months older than the boys. 2 months after the boys were born is when all hell broke lose. Maybe I was naive but I have no regrets. I don't plan on having any more children. Cerulean I will be sure to ask the kids when they get older if they wish I never had them.
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<br />Gina
<br />Mom to Sophia 3, Peter & Gavin 20 months df508 & ps849x

 

[Cerulean]

I refer you to my original post before this threat devolved into what it is now. I do not support anyone who knowingly brings anymore children into this world after they have had a first child with CF. I stand by that. It is not a rant, it is very pertinent to this situation. If these parents did not knowingly do so, they have nothing to be concerned about my comment. Being passive about issues and not talking about these things is akin to giving up. Doing so will never bring attention to the wrongs done in society. This applies to my comment and a host of other issues that our society faces. It has nothing to do with your false perception of me having "major issues", it is the acceptance of reality and adherence to humanistic values. To ignore is to give strength to those who may or may not deserve.

 

[Cerulean]

I refer you to my original post before this threat devolved into what it is now. I do not support anyone who knowingly brings anymore children into this world after they have had a first child with CF. I stand by that. It is not a rant, it is very pertinent to this situation. If these parents did not knowingly do so, they have nothing to be concerned about my comment. Being passive about issues and not talking about these things is akin to giving up. Doing so will never bring attention to the wrongs done in society. This applies to my comment and a host of other issues that our society faces. It has nothing to do with your false perception of me having "major issues", it is the acceptance of reality and adherence to humanistic values. To ignore is to give strength to those who may or may not deserve.

 

[Cerulean]

I refer you to my original post before this threat devolved into what it is now. I do not support anyone who knowingly brings anymore children into this world after they have had a first child with CF. I stand by that. It is not a rant, it is very pertinent to this situation. If these parents did not knowingly do so, they have nothing to be concerned about my comment. Being passive about issues and not talking about these things is akin to giving up. Doing so will never bring attention to the wrongs done in society. This applies to my comment and a host of other issues that our society faces. It has nothing to do with your false perception of me having "major issues", it is the acceptance of reality and adherence to humanistic values. To ignore is to give strength to those who may or may not deserve.

 

[musclemania70]

James, its obvious there aren't many who agree with you.

Your skewed perception of 'humanistic values' is probably due to your anger at yourself and your existence.

It is not one shared by those on this site who have found value in their life and who are helping to bring each other through the chaos it brings.

Your condemnation stems from guilt that lies inside yourself. Free yourself and accept the reality that YOU CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN THE WORLD BY BRINGING HOPE, NOT JUDGEMENT.

 

[musclemania70]

James, its obvious there aren't many who agree with you.

Your skewed perception of 'humanistic values' is probably due to your anger at yourself and your existence.

It is not one shared by those on this site who have found value in their life and who are helping to bring each other through the chaos it brings.

Your condemnation stems from guilt that lies inside yourself. Free yourself and accept the reality that YOU CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN THE WORLD BY BRINGING HOPE, NOT JUDGEMENT.

 

[musclemania70]

James, its obvious there aren't many who agree with you.
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<br />Your skewed perception of 'humanistic values' is probably due to your anger at yourself and your existence.
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<br />It is not one shared by those on this site who have found value in their life and who are helping to bring each other through the chaos it brings.
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<br />Your condemnation stems from guilt that lies inside yourself. Free yourself and accept the reality that YOU CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN THE WORLD BY BRINGING HOPE, NOT JUDGEMENT.

 

[mamaScarlett]

Again James I ask you to continue your topic on another thread and to stop hijacking this one please. If people want to debate it on that thread they can do so there.
And really-"wrongs done in society". I don't say this often, but please, get a life.
Get a cause, get involved in some of the wrongs that are actually be committed in society. If you can't come up with any ideas, just check out CNN.

 

[mamaScarlett]

Again James I ask you to continue your topic on another thread and to stop hijacking this one please. If people want to debate it on that thread they can do so there.
And really-"wrongs done in society". I don't say this often, but please, get a life.
Get a cause, get involved in some of the wrongs that are actually be committed in society. If you can't come up with any ideas, just check out CNN.

 

[mamaScarlett]

Again James I ask you to continue your topic on another thread and to stop hijacking this one please. If people want to debate it on that thread they can do so there.
<br />And really-"wrongs done in society". I don't say this often, but please, get a life.
<br />Get a cause, get involved in some of the wrongs that are actually be committed in society. If you can't come up with any ideas, just check out CNN.

 

[Cerulean]

You are too funny Mama. You ask that I start another thread to stop this and accuse me of hijacking, yet you continue to highjack the thread and argue your point. Practice what you preach and drop it.

 

[Cerulean]

You are too funny Mama. You ask that I start another thread to stop this and accuse me of hijacking, yet you continue to highjack the thread and argue your point. Practice what you preach and drop it.

 

[Cerulean]

You are too funny Mama. You ask that I start another thread to stop this and accuse me of hijacking, yet you continue to highjack the thread and argue your point. Practice what you preach and drop it.

 

[julie]

Who the hell cares cerulean. That wasn't the question she asked. She didn't ask for your feedback about her choice to have children after she already had one with CF (and who's to say that they even had a diagnosis by the time she got pregnant again).

I'm so sick of people mouthing off on this forum about something they've got NO business mouthing off about, or in a location where it DOES NOT BELONG. If you can't
1. answer the question the initial poster asks OR
2. Can't provide something CONSTRUCTIVE to assist them,
then SHUT UP!

 

[julie]

Who the hell cares cerulean. That wasn't the question she asked. She didn't ask for your feedback about her choice to have children after she already had one with CF (and who's to say that they even had a diagnosis by the time she got pregnant again).

I'm so sick of people mouthing off on this forum about something they've got NO business mouthing off about, or in a location where it DOES NOT BELONG. If you can't
1. answer the question the initial poster asks OR
2. Can't provide something CONSTRUCTIVE to assist them,
then SHUT UP!

 

[julie]

Who the hell cares cerulean. That wasn't the question she asked. She didn't ask for your feedback about her choice to have children after she already had one with CF (and who's to say that they even had a diagnosis by the time she got pregnant again).
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<br />I'm so sick of people mouthing off on this forum about something they've got NO business mouthing off about, or in a location where it DOES NOT BELONG. If you can't
<br />1. answer the question the initial poster asks OR
<br />2. Can't provide something CONSTRUCTIVE to assist them,
<br />then SHUT UP!

 

[jenhum]

To the OP, it sounds like you have your hands full. I think it would be a great idea if your husband could go to therapy with you- it might take some outside perspective to realize that he isn't giving you the help and support you need to have a happy marriage. Hugs to you, and just hang in there. I have one toddler and she is more than enough for me to handle, I can't imagine three with cf. But like everything else in life, when you're presented with something difficult, you dig deep and find a way to do it. I hope your husband is able to do the same.

To Cerulean- I so rarely respond to negative comments but honestly your bitterness and ugly comments made me so sad for you. You must really hate your life to be so angry towards people that have multiple children with CF. I am personally a first child (I have two younger sisters w/out cf), but if my parents had chosen to have another child before me with cf, I would still be glad that I am here today. CF certainly presents challenges in my life and can be incredibly hard sometimes, but it's not the worst thing in the world.

And just b/c someone has more children doesn't mean that those children are guaranteed to have CF- it's a 25% chance, right? There is also a chance that you could have a child with Down's Syndrome, or Aspergers, or Spina Bifida. Or your child could be born fine and then get cancer or get in a horrible car accident. I mean come on- should no one ever have children b/c of what could possibly go wrong? I choose to live my life and be happy for what I am blessed with, and humbled by what I'm not.

If someone asks for opinions on whether or not they should have more children when they already have one with cf- then that is the appropriate time to share your opinion. Your post made you sound like a mean, immature jerk- I was shocked when I saw your age, b/c I was expecting a disillusioned 18 year old. If you don't mind sounding like a jerk, then fine- but realize that people are going to respond negatively to it. Some people think that they can be harsh and rude b/c this is the internet, but I feel like people deserve the same respect online as I would give them in person.