We lost our first too... Also very early on. I tried to say that it happens and is very common, and I had a friend who got tough with me and said that no matter how common or early it was, I had EVERY RIGHT to feel the loss. I think I needed that at first, because I just kind of went into denial about the whole thing and felt so alone as I had only told a couple close friends.
The most important thing that someone told me was to remember that that child just wasn't our baby. It wasn't the baby we were meant to have. Now we are pregnant with a healthy little girl, and everything in my soul tells me that SHE is who we were supposed to have, so the baby we lost just wasn't ours.
I am so sorry for your loss.