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BigBee

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Sarah,

I am so sorry and sad for you. I had 3 miscarriages in between my daughter and my son. There really are no words to make things better right now. For me, it was the loss of hopes and dreams I had for each of them and for our family. Now, years later, I realize that if things had been different, I wouldn't have this fantastic little guy in my life. I will keep you in my prayers. Time has been a great healer for me. I hope that you will find that too.
 
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BigBee

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Sarah,

I am so sorry and sad for you. I had 3 miscarriages in between my daughter and my son. There really are no words to make things better right now. For me, it was the loss of hopes and dreams I had for each of them and for our family. Now, years later, I realize that if things had been different, I wouldn't have this fantastic little guy in my life. I will keep you in my prayers. Time has been a great healer for me. I hope that you will find that too.
 
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Scarlett81

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Oh Sarah,
I'm so sorry. I dont' have any words of wisdom or experience for you. My sister has been through many many miscarriages so I know from listening to her that this is a very difficult emotional time. Just take the time you need to heal emotionally and nurture yourself.
You'll be in my thoughts.
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Scarlett81

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Oh Sarah,
I'm so sorry. I dont' have any words of wisdom or experience for you. My sister has been through many many miscarriages so I know from listening to her that this is a very difficult emotional time. Just take the time you need to heal emotionally and nurture yourself.
You'll be in my thoughts.
<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
 
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Scarlett81

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Oh Sarah,
I'm so sorry. I dont' have any words of wisdom or experience for you. My sister has been through many many miscarriages so I know from listening to her that this is a very difficult emotional time. Just take the time you need to heal emotionally and nurture yourself.
You'll be in my thoughts.
<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
 
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debs2girls

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Sarah, I am so sorry to hear this...I can only imagine how you feel right now..I hope you both find some peace and comfort really soon.
 
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debs2girls

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Sarah, I am so sorry to hear this...I can only imagine how you feel right now..I hope you both find some peace and comfort really soon.
 
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debs2girls

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Sarah, I am so sorry to hear this...I can only imagine how you feel right now..I hope you both find some peace and comfort really soon.
 
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blindhearted

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Sarah, I am so sorry to hear this <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> My thoughts are with you and your family.
 
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blindhearted

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Sarah, I am so sorry to hear this <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> My thoughts are with you and your family.
 
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blindhearted

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Sarah, I am so sorry to hear this <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> My thoughts are with you and your family.
 
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Alyssa

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Hi Sarah,

I'm sorry to hear about this. I know it is a very hard thing to deal with.

My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage too. I was also told something very similar -- I had to have a D&C because my body did not move things out on it's own. They sent it to the lab and the doctor said that the baby never made it out of a cellular state - it wasn't growing or forming into a baby.

Logically this helped me somewhat, I guess just because I felt like it helped to know that it never had a chance of surviving, no matter what I did or didn't do -- also for some reason, when my sister in law pointed out it could have been something wrong with the sperm (and not just a problem with the egg or my body) I felt better -- less "responsible" somehow -- if that makes any sense. I don't know why it makes any difference but I think it did. It can't take away the pain of the loss of the baby & the pregnancy. It is only natural to morn the loss, regardless of the science behind the loss. The fact is you were pregnant, expecting a baby.... and now you are not -- that is going to hurt, it is heartbreaking.

It's been over 21 years for me. I do still think about how old that child would be from time to time. I can honestly say it does get easier with time. But right now, I know it hurts like crazy.

If you would like to know any more details, please send me a private message -- I'd be happy to help in any way.
 
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Alyssa

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Hi Sarah,

I'm sorry to hear about this. I know it is a very hard thing to deal with.

My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage too. I was also told something very similar -- I had to have a D&C because my body did not move things out on it's own. They sent it to the lab and the doctor said that the baby never made it out of a cellular state - it wasn't growing or forming into a baby.

Logically this helped me somewhat, I guess just because I felt like it helped to know that it never had a chance of surviving, no matter what I did or didn't do -- also for some reason, when my sister in law pointed out it could have been something wrong with the sperm (and not just a problem with the egg or my body) I felt better -- less "responsible" somehow -- if that makes any sense. I don't know why it makes any difference but I think it did. It can't take away the pain of the loss of the baby & the pregnancy. It is only natural to morn the loss, regardless of the science behind the loss. The fact is you were pregnant, expecting a baby.... and now you are not -- that is going to hurt, it is heartbreaking.

It's been over 21 years for me. I do still think about how old that child would be from time to time. I can honestly say it does get easier with time. But right now, I know it hurts like crazy.

If you would like to know any more details, please send me a private message -- I'd be happy to help in any way.
 
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Alyssa

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Hi Sarah,

I'm sorry to hear about this. I know it is a very hard thing to deal with.

My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage too. I was also told something very similar -- I had to have a D&C because my body did not move things out on it's own. They sent it to the lab and the doctor said that the baby never made it out of a cellular state - it wasn't growing or forming into a baby.

Logically this helped me somewhat, I guess just because I felt like it helped to know that it never had a chance of surviving, no matter what I did or didn't do -- also for some reason, when my sister in law pointed out it could have been something wrong with the sperm (and not just a problem with the egg or my body) I felt better -- less "responsible" somehow -- if that makes any sense. I don't know why it makes any difference but I think it did. It can't take away the pain of the loss of the baby & the pregnancy. It is only natural to morn the loss, regardless of the science behind the loss. The fact is you were pregnant, expecting a baby.... and now you are not -- that is going to hurt, it is heartbreaking.

It's been over 21 years for me. I do still think about how old that child would be from time to time. I can honestly say it does get easier with time. But right now, I know it hurts like crazy.

If you would like to know any more details, please send me a private message -- I'd be happy to help in any way.
 
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