Need Parents' Advice - HELP

TestifyToLove

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Okay, your signature is old, which makes a LOT more sense.

I have to say I'm firmly in the camp of believing that its okay to admit you made a mistake, set a boundary that isn't appropriate and change your mind as a parent. Not in a 'I'm going to contradict your father right in front of you' way, but in a 'your Dad and I talked and both agreed this is not the way we want to go with this'. Then again, I'm a firm believer in admitting to my kids when I make mistakes and apologizing for them, even when I believe I've made a mistake in my parenting.

It sounds like something positive came out of this. She had a fear and was able to get one-on-one time to talk about that fear and resolve it. I just think that could have been accomplished without taking away something far bigger than fit the behavior, time with extended family.
 

TestifyToLove

New member
Okay, your signature is old, which makes a LOT more sense.

I have to say I'm firmly in the camp of believing that its okay to admit you made a mistake, set a boundary that isn't appropriate and change your mind as a parent. Not in a 'I'm going to contradict your father right in front of you' way, but in a 'your Dad and I talked and both agreed this is not the way we want to go with this'. Then again, I'm a firm believer in admitting to my kids when I make mistakes and apologizing for them, even when I believe I've made a mistake in my parenting.

It sounds like something positive came out of this. She had a fear and was able to get one-on-one time to talk about that fear and resolve it. I just think that could have been accomplished without taking away something far bigger than fit the behavior, time with extended family.
 

TestifyToLove

New member
Okay, your signature is old, which makes a LOT more sense.

I have to say I'm firmly in the camp of believing that its okay to admit you made a mistake, set a boundary that isn't appropriate and change your mind as a parent. Not in a 'I'm going to contradict your father right in front of you' way, but in a 'your Dad and I talked and both agreed this is not the way we want to go with this'. Then again, I'm a firm believer in admitting to my kids when I make mistakes and apologizing for them, even when I believe I've made a mistake in my parenting.

It sounds like something positive came out of this. She had a fear and was able to get one-on-one time to talk about that fear and resolve it. I just think that could have been accomplished without taking away something far bigger than fit the behavior, time with extended family.
 

TestifyToLove

New member
Okay, your signature is old, which makes a LOT more sense.

I have to say I'm firmly in the camp of believing that its okay to admit you made a mistake, set a boundary that isn't appropriate and change your mind as a parent. Not in a 'I'm going to contradict your father right in front of you' way, but in a 'your Dad and I talked and both agreed this is not the way we want to go with this'. Then again, I'm a firm believer in admitting to my kids when I make mistakes and apologizing for them, even when I believe I've made a mistake in my parenting.

It sounds like something positive came out of this. She had a fear and was able to get one-on-one time to talk about that fear and resolve it. I just think that could have been accomplished without taking away something far bigger than fit the behavior, time with extended family.
 

TestifyToLove

New member
Okay, your signature is old, which makes a LOT more sense.
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<br />I have to say I'm firmly in the camp of believing that its okay to admit you made a mistake, set a boundary that isn't appropriate and change your mind as a parent. Not in a 'I'm going to contradict your father right in front of you' way, but in a 'your Dad and I talked and both agreed this is not the way we want to go with this'. Then again, I'm a firm believer in admitting to my kids when I make mistakes and apologizing for them, even when I believe I've made a mistake in my parenting.
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<br />It sounds like something positive came out of this. She had a fear and was able to get one-on-one time to talk about that fear and resolve it. I just think that could have been accomplished without taking away something far bigger than fit the behavior, time with extended family.
 
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