Tessalonikki
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I am finding myself in bit of a dilemma. I have 2 kids w/cf 3 and 14 months and a step daughter that just turned 10. She however, doesn't have any of the children's vaccinations and her mother will not even consider it. When my son was born 3 years ago we were told not to let her into his living environment as it will be way too dangerous for him. Especially since she had just started school and could potentionally carry all kinds of germs into our house.
I have kept Nikki away from her especially during the winter and cold seasons and if we did meet it was out in the open. When he turned 2, I loosened up a bit and made en effort to get the kids together even though the doc's are still saying I am crazy. Now my daughter is 14 months and the kids spent the summer together. I took care of her during the summer vacation, and then also when school started again, because their were no more state sponsored after school programs offered.
During this time both of my kids have gotten sick 3 times. Every time it came from something that my stepdaughter brought into the house and the failure of her mother telling me, that she was coming down with something. Her mom always seems to have an excuse like..." oh it's just allergies or she did not get enough sleep or it is our dog etc....)
Right before christmas when the school went on vacation and she was with us all day she came in with a cold, that both of my kids got immediately. This time it was so bad that I thought I was going to loose my little girl. (she just could't breathe and I was so scared and felt so helpless). It is now February and Nikki still has a "surface" cough, (thankfully it is not in the lungs) and he is still stuffed up all the time even though I do not think it is a persistent cold.
I did finally make up my mind and will not have her in the house, or around my children (for the time being, or at least until the cold and flu season is over)
But whenever we talk to my stepdaughter and I see how much Nicky misses her I feel horribly guitly for keeping them apart. But I feel that I cannot trust her mother not to bring her to us, or inform me when she comes down with something. Am I crazy and unreasonable for keeping the kids apart.
I really do want to protect them and until I had her around her siblings they were totally healthy. Since she has been with us they were sick 3 times and are now on Tobi cause they tested positiv for Pseudo. Am I just crazy or do I have a point... I could really use some advise in how to handle this situation and also my own guilt for keeping them apart.
Tanja (Mom of Nicky 3w/cf and Tessa 14 months w/cf)
I have kept Nikki away from her especially during the winter and cold seasons and if we did meet it was out in the open. When he turned 2, I loosened up a bit and made en effort to get the kids together even though the doc's are still saying I am crazy. Now my daughter is 14 months and the kids spent the summer together. I took care of her during the summer vacation, and then also when school started again, because their were no more state sponsored after school programs offered.
During this time both of my kids have gotten sick 3 times. Every time it came from something that my stepdaughter brought into the house and the failure of her mother telling me, that she was coming down with something. Her mom always seems to have an excuse like..." oh it's just allergies or she did not get enough sleep or it is our dog etc....)
Right before christmas when the school went on vacation and she was with us all day she came in with a cold, that both of my kids got immediately. This time it was so bad that I thought I was going to loose my little girl. (she just could't breathe and I was so scared and felt so helpless). It is now February and Nikki still has a "surface" cough, (thankfully it is not in the lungs) and he is still stuffed up all the time even though I do not think it is a persistent cold.
I did finally make up my mind and will not have her in the house, or around my children (for the time being, or at least until the cold and flu season is over)
But whenever we talk to my stepdaughter and I see how much Nicky misses her I feel horribly guitly for keeping them apart. But I feel that I cannot trust her mother not to bring her to us, or inform me when she comes down with something. Am I crazy and unreasonable for keeping the kids apart.
I really do want to protect them and until I had her around her siblings they were totally healthy. Since she has been with us they were sick 3 times and are now on Tobi cause they tested positiv for Pseudo. Am I just crazy or do I have a point... I could really use some advise in how to handle this situation and also my own guilt for keeping them apart.
Tanja (Mom of Nicky 3w/cf and Tessa 14 months w/cf)