<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>LisaV</b></i>
You want to decide based on "the best interest of the child" not based on your own need alone.
But it's equally obvious that its in the best interest of the child to be born in the first place.
Tough individual choice.
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I find myself thinking of Christopher Reed, his wife who just recently passed away and their 11 year old son. I can't believe all this happened to that family. It's aweful for the little boy! Cf wasn't an issue for them, but other illnesses/disabilities were. This is an example of anything being possible, at any given time for anyone. The only difference with the Reeds and us CFers having kids is that we are aware of our more limited time here, they were not. I wouldn't think that Christopher Reed and his wife would have rather not had their sone at all if they knew they were going to die when he turned 11. Ignorance is bliss I guess. I mean that in a very nice way, no disrespect to the Reeds.
But once a life is made and family life is nurturing, I doubt any one would have rather not been born just because of tragic circumstances like the death of 1 or 2 parents. I'm pro-choice by the way, just wanted to add that. So it's an intangeable thought, but even when Cfers pass away and a child is left without a parent, I don't believe that automatically means that having had that child was the worst choice ever made. This is the part that makes me think about the issue in circles b/c evnthough life would suck without a parent you love, you are also alive and will always have the love, the guidance (maybe limited but still), the connection to another who would have given their life for yours if at all possible. You can't really test this hypothesis out, which is too bad. We just have to go with our gut and what we believe deep down to be the best choice for each of us.
The world will never agree 100% on choices and it should never be that way anyways.....that would be bad bad! I think we just have to respect everyone's opinions on such a controversial topic and know that everyone (especially on this site!) wants to do the best they know how to do and be the best person they know how to be.
Reproducing can be looked at as selfish in and of itself, even for healthy people, b/c some could argue the world is a negative place to bring another person into, too much violence, drugs, evil people, abuse, manipulation, etc. The next person could argue that NOT having kids is selfish b/c you aren't allowing someone to experience this life. It's a tough one. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
You want to decide based on "the best interest of the child" not based on your own need alone.
But it's equally obvious that its in the best interest of the child to be born in the first place.
Tough individual choice.
</end quote></div>
I find myself thinking of Christopher Reed, his wife who just recently passed away and their 11 year old son. I can't believe all this happened to that family. It's aweful for the little boy! Cf wasn't an issue for them, but other illnesses/disabilities were. This is an example of anything being possible, at any given time for anyone. The only difference with the Reeds and us CFers having kids is that we are aware of our more limited time here, they were not. I wouldn't think that Christopher Reed and his wife would have rather not had their sone at all if they knew they were going to die when he turned 11. Ignorance is bliss I guess. I mean that in a very nice way, no disrespect to the Reeds.
But once a life is made and family life is nurturing, I doubt any one would have rather not been born just because of tragic circumstances like the death of 1 or 2 parents. I'm pro-choice by the way, just wanted to add that. So it's an intangeable thought, but even when Cfers pass away and a child is left without a parent, I don't believe that automatically means that having had that child was the worst choice ever made. This is the part that makes me think about the issue in circles b/c evnthough life would suck without a parent you love, you are also alive and will always have the love, the guidance (maybe limited but still), the connection to another who would have given their life for yours if at all possible. You can't really test this hypothesis out, which is too bad. We just have to go with our gut and what we believe deep down to be the best choice for each of us.
The world will never agree 100% on choices and it should never be that way anyways.....that would be bad bad! I think we just have to respect everyone's opinions on such a controversial topic and know that everyone (especially on this site!) wants to do the best they know how to do and be the best person they know how to be.
Reproducing can be looked at as selfish in and of itself, even for healthy people, b/c some could argue the world is a negative place to bring another person into, too much violence, drugs, evil people, abuse, manipulation, etc. The next person could argue that NOT having kids is selfish b/c you aren't allowing someone to experience this life. It's a tough one. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">