Emily65Roses
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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Wheezie</b></i>
I agree with what you said about tx and it being a personal choice. But I also think that some of us DO want to fight as hard as we can and get that tx and go down fighting. And that too is a personal choice for which one should not be judged.</end quote>
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Emily65Roses</b></i>
I don't care what the decision is, as long as the individual who's dying is the one making it. As long as they make the decision themselves, and are not getting talked/guilted into one thing or another, then whatever the choice is... it's the right one.</end quote>
I agree. As long as it's their decision, WHATEVER IT IS, it's fine by me. I just hate when choices are ignored, changed, persuaded, etc etc.
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Wheezie</b></i>
What concerns me is a person who wants to go peacefully, but feels obligated to fight because family or friends or whoever thinks that's what they should do. And conversely, a person who wants to fight whose family feels like, "what's the point? she should just let go." In either case, it is frustrating when there is ever any kind of pressure at all.</end quote>
That's really what I was getting at. People doing things because other people think they should. We should do what we want, when we're at the end. If it means I want to fight tooth and nail to the last minute, as long as it's what I want, then that's what I should do. If I want to not get a tx, and spend my last weeks at home, as long as it's what I want, then that's what I should do.
The only reason I took that side of the stand on it is I see a lot more of that than of "Why is s/he still fighting? S/he should just go home and die." More often than not, if we see someone getting coerced into something they wouldn't have otherwise chosen, it's them "fighting" longer than they'd like to because other people tell them not to "give up," rather than going home sooner. You see what I mean? <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
I agree with what you said about tx and it being a personal choice. But I also think that some of us DO want to fight as hard as we can and get that tx and go down fighting. And that too is a personal choice for which one should not be judged.</end quote>
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Emily65Roses</b></i>
I don't care what the decision is, as long as the individual who's dying is the one making it. As long as they make the decision themselves, and are not getting talked/guilted into one thing or another, then whatever the choice is... it's the right one.</end quote>
I agree. As long as it's their decision, WHATEVER IT IS, it's fine by me. I just hate when choices are ignored, changed, persuaded, etc etc.
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Wheezie</b></i>
What concerns me is a person who wants to go peacefully, but feels obligated to fight because family or friends or whoever thinks that's what they should do. And conversely, a person who wants to fight whose family feels like, "what's the point? she should just let go." In either case, it is frustrating when there is ever any kind of pressure at all.</end quote>
That's really what I was getting at. People doing things because other people think they should. We should do what we want, when we're at the end. If it means I want to fight tooth and nail to the last minute, as long as it's what I want, then that's what I should do. If I want to not get a tx, and spend my last weeks at home, as long as it's what I want, then that's what I should do.
The only reason I took that side of the stand on it is I see a lot more of that than of "Why is s/he still fighting? S/he should just go home and die." More often than not, if we see someone getting coerced into something they wouldn't have otherwise chosen, it's them "fighting" longer than they'd like to because other people tell them not to "give up," rather than going home sooner. You see what I mean? <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">