Hi there! My name is Natalie and I live in Toronto, Canada. I've got a lot I need to discuss and I hope you guys can perhaps give me some advice.
My boyfriend has CF and was diagnosed with it around 13 years of age. He had it since he was a baby, but the doctors didn't perform the necessary tests at the time to diagnose it. We've been dating for about 3 years. I know I'm still young (only 21) but I am scared about our future together. We've discussed marriage and living together, but I'm scared because I will have to be the main provider. He does not work and is on disability because of his condition. He is also sick quite frequently. I'm finishing university and have led a fairly comfortable life. I care about him and love him, but sometimes I feel that I am doing everything and will end up doing everything down the road. Working and making money, paying for bills and insurance, renovating, moving, and many other things. It's so much responsibility. I also have dreams of worldwide travel and he is not fit enough to travel out of Canada. I do love him and care for him, but I don't want to sacrifice my dreams for a decision I may regret later on.
I'm wondering if there are any others on this forum who are married to an unemployed CF patient. How are your standards of living? Is it difficult? Did you have to give up your dreams? I want to marry for love but I don't want to live a strickened life.
Any advice would be helpful at this time.
Love,
Natalie
My boyfriend has CF and was diagnosed with it around 13 years of age. He had it since he was a baby, but the doctors didn't perform the necessary tests at the time to diagnose it. We've been dating for about 3 years. I know I'm still young (only 21) but I am scared about our future together. We've discussed marriage and living together, but I'm scared because I will have to be the main provider. He does not work and is on disability because of his condition. He is also sick quite frequently. I'm finishing university and have led a fairly comfortable life. I care about him and love him, but sometimes I feel that I am doing everything and will end up doing everything down the road. Working and making money, paying for bills and insurance, renovating, moving, and many other things. It's so much responsibility. I also have dreams of worldwide travel and he is not fit enough to travel out of Canada. I do love him and care for him, but I don't want to sacrifice my dreams for a decision I may regret later on.
I'm wondering if there are any others on this forum who are married to an unemployed CF patient. How are your standards of living? Is it difficult? Did you have to give up your dreams? I want to marry for love but I don't want to live a strickened life.
Any advice would be helpful at this time.
Love,
Natalie