repeated cold replies to cf posts-why?

AnD · Jul 15, 2007

I have to say, this is a personal issue between you and "this person"- did you mean for this to be a pm?

It is much more suited for a pm, than a thread on the forums. Just because you don't like a person's "style" doesn't mean that they aren't trying to help.

And if you determine that they aren't trying to help, but have some other motive, ignore them. And if you still have an issue with them, either try to work it out through the private messaging option (or, as was suggested, put your issues in a blog), and then you can block their answers, but I think you are doing a disservice to yourself when you do. You never know who has the info you need, whether you like them or not. If it is really bad, personal attacks that are defaming, a moderator can help.

Not everyone here is going to get along personally- but we all need all the experience and advice we can get, and, I dare say, we all care when someone is down and needs us. I think (and would certainly hope <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> ) that if our "worst enemy" on here needed information we have, we would chime in in a heartbeat.

The enemy is cf, not each other. Take what you will here, and leave the rest.

AnD · Jul 15, 2007

I have to say, this is a personal issue between you and "this person"- did you mean for this to be a pm?

It is much more suited for a pm, than a thread on the forums. Just because you don't like a person's "style" doesn't mean that they aren't trying to help.

And if you determine that they aren't trying to help, but have some other motive, ignore them. And if you still have an issue with them, either try to work it out through the private messaging option (or, as was suggested, put your issues in a blog), and then you can block their answers, but I think you are doing a disservice to yourself when you do. You never know who has the info you need, whether you like them or not. If it is really bad, personal attacks that are defaming, a moderator can help.

Not everyone here is going to get along personally- but we all need all the experience and advice we can get, and, I dare say, we all care when someone is down and needs us. I think (and would certainly hope <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> ) that if our "worst enemy" on here needed information we have, we would chime in in a heartbeat.

The enemy is cf, not each other. Take what you will here, and leave the rest.

haleysmom90 · Jul 15, 2007

The reason i posted this was to express my feelings in hope that this person would see that the way she responds hurt people and puts them off, diluting any value in what info she might want to share.

Regarding Maya Angelous quote there is a parallel there because what i am trying to point out is this persons style of reply leaves a negative feeling on its receiver. My response to her actions is in the hopes that she will realize that her delivery is hurtful. Advice and or support there is no reason for coldness on this type of site, especially if we are all fighting the same/but different battles. As I said before, Ive grown to expect that in a cold medical environment, but not from fellow cf-ers.

haleysmom90 · Jul 15, 2007

The reason i posted this was to express my feelings in hope that this person would see that the way she responds hurt people and puts them off, diluting any value in what info she might want to share.

Regarding Maya Angelous quote there is a parallel there because what i am trying to point out is this persons style of reply leaves a negative feeling on its receiver. My response to her actions is in the hopes that she will realize that her delivery is hurtful. Advice and or support there is no reason for coldness on this type of site, especially if we are all fighting the same/but different battles. As I said before, Ive grown to expect that in a cold medical environment, but not from fellow cf-ers.

haleysmom90 · Jul 15, 2007

The reason i posted this was to express my feelings in hope that this person would see that the way she responds hurt people and puts them off, diluting any value in what info she might want to share.

Regarding Maya Angelous quote there is a parallel there because what i am trying to point out is this persons style of reply leaves a negative feeling on its receiver. My response to her actions is in the hopes that she will realize that her delivery is hurtful. Advice and or support there is no reason for coldness on this type of site, especially if we are all fighting the same/but different battles. As I said before, Ive grown to expect that in a cold medical environment, but not from fellow cf-ers.

haleysmom90 · Jul 15, 2007

The reason i posted this was to express my feelings in hope that this person would see that the way she responds hurt people and puts them off, diluting any value in what info she might want to share.

Regarding Maya Angelous quote there is a parallel there because what i am trying to point out is this persons style of reply leaves a negative feeling on its receiver. My response to her actions is in the hopes that she will realize that her delivery is hurtful. Advice and or support there is no reason for coldness on this type of site, especially if we are all fighting the same/but different battles. As I said before, Ive grown to expect that in a cold medical environment, but not from fellow cf-ers.

haleysmom90 · Jul 15, 2007

The reason i posted this was to express my feelings in hope that this person would see that the way she responds hurt people and puts them off, diluting any value in what info she might want to share.

Regarding Maya Angelous quote there is a parallel there because what i am trying to point out is this persons style of reply leaves a negative feeling on its receiver. My response to her actions is in the hopes that she will realize that her delivery is hurtful. Advice and or support there is no reason for coldness on this type of site, especially if we are all fighting the same/but different battles. As I said before, Ive grown to expect that in a cold medical environment, but not from fellow cf-ers.

haleysmom90 · Jul 15, 2007

The reason i posted this was to express my feelings in hope that this person would see that the way she responds hurt people and puts them off, diluting any value in what info she might want to share.

Regarding Maya Angelous quote there is a parallel there because what i am trying to point out is this persons style of reply leaves a negative feeling on its receiver. My response to her actions is in the hopes that she will realize that her delivery is hurtful. Advice and or support there is no reason for coldness on this type of site, especially if we are all fighting the same/but different battles. As I said before, Ive grown to expect that in a cold medical environment, but not from fellow cf-ers.

shamrock · Jul 15, 2007

Lay off the original poster; she is doing what we all do: AIRING OUR VIEWS.

When I first came here 3 years ago, it was a much different place then it is now. I'm all for change, and we used to have BIG arguments back then too, but there are a few people here now who are just rude. Intelligent people but rude. And people accept it because ''He/she is always like that'' or 'they'll never change'.

Heck, I used to think Emily65roses was a bit short a lot of the time (as in no cares, just said it) but I was wrong. Maybe she doesn't sugar coat things, never hides what she's thinking, but I respect her because you don't get the feeling she's putting you down.

shamrock · Jul 15, 2007

Lay off the original poster; she is doing what we all do: AIRING OUR VIEWS.

When I first came here 3 years ago, it was a much different place then it is now. I'm all for change, and we used to have BIG arguments back then too, but there are a few people here now who are just rude. Intelligent people but rude. And people accept it because ''He/she is always like that'' or 'they'll never change'.

Heck, I used to think Emily65roses was a bit short a lot of the time (as in no cares, just said it) but I was wrong. Maybe she doesn't sugar coat things, never hides what she's thinking, but I respect her because you don't get the feeling she's putting you down.

shamrock · Jul 15, 2007

Lay off the original poster; she is doing what we all do: AIRING OUR VIEWS.

When I first came here 3 years ago, it was a much different place then it is now. I'm all for change, and we used to have BIG arguments back then too, but there are a few people here now who are just rude. Intelligent people but rude. And people accept it because ''He/she is always like that'' or 'they'll never change'.

Heck, I used to think Emily65roses was a bit short a lot of the time (as in no cares, just said it) but I was wrong. Maybe she doesn't sugar coat things, never hides what she's thinking, but I respect her because you don't get the feeling she's putting you down.

shamrock · Jul 15, 2007

Lay off the original poster; she is doing what we all do: AIRING OUR VIEWS.

When I first came here 3 years ago, it was a much different place then it is now. I'm all for change, and we used to have BIG arguments back then too, but there are a few people here now who are just rude. Intelligent people but rude. And people accept it because ''He/she is always like that'' or 'they'll never change'.

Heck, I used to think Emily65roses was a bit short a lot of the time (as in no cares, just said it) but I was wrong. Maybe she doesn't sugar coat things, never hides what she's thinking, but I respect her because you don't get the feeling she's putting you down.

shamrock · Jul 15, 2007

Lay off the original poster; she is doing what we all do: AIRING OUR VIEWS.

When I first came here 3 years ago, it was a much different place then it is now. I'm all for change, and we used to have BIG arguments back then too, but there are a few people here now who are just rude. Intelligent people but rude. And people accept it because ''He/she is always like that'' or 'they'll never change'.

Heck, I used to think Emily65roses was a bit short a lot of the time (as in no cares, just said it) but I was wrong. Maybe she doesn't sugar coat things, never hides what she's thinking, but I respect her because you don't get the feeling she's putting you down.

shamrock · Jul 15, 2007

Lay off the original poster; she is doing what we all do: AIRING OUR VIEWS.

When I first came here 3 years ago, it was a much different place then it is now. I'm all for change, and we used to have BIG arguments back then too, but there are a few people here now who are just rude. Intelligent people but rude. And people accept it because ''He/she is always like that'' or 'they'll never change'.

Heck, I used to think Emily65roses was a bit short a lot of the time (as in no cares, just said it) but I was wrong. Maybe she doesn't sugar coat things, never hides what she's thinking, but I respect her because you don't get the feeling she's putting you down.

Diane · Jul 15, 2007