Scared to have another baby

[shazie81]

My husband and I have a 5 month old boy with CF. I knew I always wanted more then one baby but now knowing that my husband and myself have the CF gene I am afraid to have another with the chance of them having CF. Any help on what to do or think.

 

[shazie81]

My husband and I have a 5 month old boy with CF. I knew I always wanted more then one baby but now knowing that my husband and myself have the CF gene I am afraid to have another with the chance of them having CF. Any help on what to do or think.

 

[shazie81]

My husband and I have a 5 month old boy with CF. I knew I always wanted more then one baby but now knowing that my husband and myself have the CF gene I am afraid to have another with the chance of them having CF. Any help on what to do or think.

 

[shazie81]

My husband and I have a 5 month old boy with CF. I knew I always wanted more then one baby but now knowing that my husband and myself have the CF gene I am afraid to have another with the chance of them having CF. Any help on what to do or think.

 

[shazie81]

My husband and I have a 5 month old boy with CF. I knew I always wanted more then one baby but now knowing that my husband and myself have the CF gene I am afraid to have another with the chance of them having CF. Any help on what to do or think.
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[cincycf]

we were the same way after our first was diagnosed at 8 weeks. once she was dx it got easier, but we still were hesitant. i was breastfeeding and on hormonal birth control, she was 9 months old and I got pregnant! I was actually relieved because I felt like it was no longer up to me to decide to have another or not. my husband was not he was actually quite upset by it. That only lasted a month or so. my cousin, a charismatic christian, came over the same day i did i found out i was pregnant, she said that God told her my daughter was going to be fine and not be sick. Of course, she had no idea I was expecting again. My 2nd daughter was born with no cf! And my first has been really healthy. All I know is that no matter how much I try to plan and control things around cf, I'm not the one in charge of it all. Anyway, I hope this helps.

 

[cincycf]

we were the same way after our first was diagnosed at 8 weeks. once she was dx it got easier, but we still were hesitant. i was breastfeeding and on hormonal birth control, she was 9 months old and I got pregnant! I was actually relieved because I felt like it was no longer up to me to decide to have another or not. my husband was not he was actually quite upset by it. That only lasted a month or so. my cousin, a charismatic christian, came over the same day i did i found out i was pregnant, she said that God told her my daughter was going to be fine and not be sick. Of course, she had no idea I was expecting again. My 2nd daughter was born with no cf! And my first has been really healthy. All I know is that no matter how much I try to plan and control things around cf, I'm not the one in charge of it all. Anyway, I hope this helps.

 

[cincycf]

we were the same way after our first was diagnosed at 8 weeks. once she was dx it got easier, but we still were hesitant. i was breastfeeding and on hormonal birth control, she was 9 months old and I got pregnant! I was actually relieved because I felt like it was no longer up to me to decide to have another or not. my husband was not he was actually quite upset by it. That only lasted a month or so. my cousin, a charismatic christian, came over the same day i did i found out i was pregnant, she said that God told her my daughter was going to be fine and not be sick. Of course, she had no idea I was expecting again. My 2nd daughter was born with no cf! And my first has been really healthy. All I know is that no matter how much I try to plan and control things around cf, I'm not the one in charge of it all. Anyway, I hope this helps.

 

[cincycf]

we were the same way after our first was diagnosed at 8 weeks. once she was dx it got easier, but we still were hesitant. i was breastfeeding and on hormonal birth control, she was 9 months old and I got pregnant! I was actually relieved because I felt like it was no longer up to me to decide to have another or not. my husband was not he was actually quite upset by it. That only lasted a month or so. my cousin, a charismatic christian, came over the same day i did i found out i was pregnant, she said that God told her my daughter was going to be fine and not be sick. Of course, she had no idea I was expecting again. My 2nd daughter was born with no cf! And my first has been really healthy. All I know is that no matter how much I try to plan and control things around cf, I'm not the one in charge of it all. Anyway, I hope this helps.

 

[cincycf]

we were the same way after our first was diagnosed at 8 weeks. once she was dx it got easier, but we still were hesitant. i was breastfeeding and on hormonal birth control, she was 9 months old and I got pregnant! I was actually relieved because I felt like it was no longer up to me to decide to have another or not. my husband was not he was actually quite upset by it. That only lasted a month or so. my cousin, a charismatic christian, came over the same day i did i found out i was pregnant, she said that God told her my daughter was going to be fine and not be sick. Of course, she had no idea I was expecting again. My 2nd daughter was born with no cf! And my first has been really healthy. All I know is that no matter how much I try to plan and control things around cf, I'm not the one in charge of it all. Anyway, I hope this helps.

 

[JennyCoulon]

I am in the same boat. I have an 8 year old who spend the first 2 1/2 months of his life in the hospital, had 2 bowel surgeries, etc. We now have a 3 year old so also has CF but didn't have any of the issues that my oldest had in the beginning. My youngest just started preschool today which makes me think that in about 2 years we would be ready if we wanted more.

My husband has decided that he doesn't want to have anymore. He said that we should just be happy and thankful with the two that we have. They both have mild lung disease so I don't want to push my luck. I wonder if I am selfish for wanting anymore. I guess I will just wait until the time comes. It is supposed to be a 1 out 4 chance and we are 2 for 2.

I would maybe wait a little bit and then revisit it in a year or so after you see how things go. Hope this helps.

 

[JennyCoulon]

I am in the same boat. I have an 8 year old who spend the first 2 1/2 months of his life in the hospital, had 2 bowel surgeries, etc. We now have a 3 year old so also has CF but didn't have any of the issues that my oldest had in the beginning. My youngest just started preschool today which makes me think that in about 2 years we would be ready if we wanted more.

My husband has decided that he doesn't want to have anymore. He said that we should just be happy and thankful with the two that we have. They both have mild lung disease so I don't want to push my luck. I wonder if I am selfish for wanting anymore. I guess I will just wait until the time comes. It is supposed to be a 1 out 4 chance and we are 2 for 2.

I would maybe wait a little bit and then revisit it in a year or so after you see how things go. Hope this helps.

 

[JennyCoulon]

I am in the same boat. I have an 8 year old who spend the first 2 1/2 months of his life in the hospital, had 2 bowel surgeries, etc. We now have a 3 year old so also has CF but didn't have any of the issues that my oldest had in the beginning. My youngest just started preschool today which makes me think that in about 2 years we would be ready if we wanted more.

My husband has decided that he doesn't want to have anymore. He said that we should just be happy and thankful with the two that we have. They both have mild lung disease so I don't want to push my luck. I wonder if I am selfish for wanting anymore. I guess I will just wait until the time comes. It is supposed to be a 1 out 4 chance and we are 2 for 2.

I would maybe wait a little bit and then revisit it in a year or so after you see how things go. Hope this helps.

 

[JennyCoulon]

I am in the same boat. I have an 8 year old who spend the first 2 1/2 months of his life in the hospital, had 2 bowel surgeries, etc. We now have a 3 year old so also has CF but didn't have any of the issues that my oldest had in the beginning. My youngest just started preschool today which makes me think that in about 2 years we would be ready if we wanted more.

My husband has decided that he doesn't want to have anymore. He said that we should just be happy and thankful with the two that we have. They both have mild lung disease so I don't want to push my luck. I wonder if I am selfish for wanting anymore. I guess I will just wait until the time comes. It is supposed to be a 1 out 4 chance and we are 2 for 2.

I would maybe wait a little bit and then revisit it in a year or so after you see how things go. Hope this helps.

 

[JennyCoulon]

I am in the same boat. I have an 8 year old who spend the first 2 1/2 months of his life in the hospital, had 2 bowel surgeries, etc. We now have a 3 year old so also has CF but didn't have any of the issues that my oldest had in the beginning. My youngest just started preschool today which makes me think that in about 2 years we would be ready if we wanted more.
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<br />My husband has decided that he doesn't want to have anymore. He said that we should just be happy and thankful with the two that we have. They both have mild lung disease so I don't want to push my luck. I wonder if I am selfish for wanting anymore. I guess I will just wait until the time comes. It is supposed to be a 1 out 4 chance and we are 2 for 2.
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<br />I would maybe wait a little bit and then revisit it in a year or so after you see how things go. Hope this helps.

 

[TobysMom]

I think a lot of us here in this forum are probably in or have been in this very situation.

My son is 3-1/2 months old and I KNOW I want another child. As devistating as CF is, I would rather leave having another child in God's hands. If he believes that I can handle another child w/CF, so be it. I love my son, and would love any other child just as much.

I know there are ways to get around it w/IVF, but if I am going to spend that kind of $ on something, I would rather spend it to adopt a child that needs a home. But, I would do that if it came down to me not being able to have another child, which at this point of time isn't know to be the case.

I also think of things in a different light than a lot of others do... CF is just ONE of MANY things that a baby/child could be born with or develop, so there is always a possibility that something else could happen, even if not CF. Which is why I am opting to put it in God's hands as to what kind of child I will get and if that child will have an obstacles like my DS has now w/CF.

Good luck!

 

[TobysMom]

I think a lot of us here in this forum are probably in or have been in this very situation.

My son is 3-1/2 months old and I KNOW I want another child. As devistating as CF is, I would rather leave having another child in God's hands. If he believes that I can handle another child w/CF, so be it. I love my son, and would love any other child just as much.

I know there are ways to get around it w/IVF, but if I am going to spend that kind of $ on something, I would rather spend it to adopt a child that needs a home. But, I would do that if it came down to me not being able to have another child, which at this point of time isn't know to be the case.

I also think of things in a different light than a lot of others do... CF is just ONE of MANY things that a baby/child could be born with or develop, so there is always a possibility that something else could happen, even if not CF. Which is why I am opting to put it in God's hands as to what kind of child I will get and if that child will have an obstacles like my DS has now w/CF.

Good luck!

 

[TobysMom]

I think a lot of us here in this forum are probably in or have been in this very situation.

My son is 3-1/2 months old and I KNOW I want another child. As devistating as CF is, I would rather leave having another child in God's hands. If he believes that I can handle another child w/CF, so be it. I love my son, and would love any other child just as much.

I know there are ways to get around it w/IVF, but if I am going to spend that kind of $ on something, I would rather spend it to adopt a child that needs a home. But, I would do that if it came down to me not being able to have another child, which at this point of time isn't know to be the case.

I also think of things in a different light than a lot of others do... CF is just ONE of MANY things that a baby/child could be born with or develop, so there is always a possibility that something else could happen, even if not CF. Which is why I am opting to put it in God's hands as to what kind of child I will get and if that child will have an obstacles like my DS has now w/CF.

Good luck!

 

[TobysMom]

I think a lot of us here in this forum are probably in or have been in this very situation.

My son is 3-1/2 months old and I KNOW I want another child. As devistating as CF is, I would rather leave having another child in God's hands. If he believes that I can handle another child w/CF, so be it. I love my son, and would love any other child just as much.

I know there are ways to get around it w/IVF, but if I am going to spend that kind of $ on something, I would rather spend it to adopt a child that needs a home. But, I would do that if it came down to me not being able to have another child, which at this point of time isn't know to be the case.

I also think of things in a different light than a lot of others do... CF is just ONE of MANY things that a baby/child could be born with or develop, so there is always a possibility that something else could happen, even if not CF. Which is why I am opting to put it in God's hands as to what kind of child I will get and if that child will have an obstacles like my DS has now w/CF.

Good luck!

 

[TobysMom]

I think a lot of us here in this forum are probably in or have been in this very situation.
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<br />My son is 3-1/2 months old and I KNOW I want another child. As devistating as CF is, I would rather leave having another child in God's hands. If he believes that I can handle another child w/CF, so be it. I love my son, and would love any other child just as much.
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<br />I know there are ways to get around it w/IVF, but if I am going to spend that kind of $ on something, I would rather spend it to adopt a child that needs a home. But, I would do that if it came down to me not being able to have another child, which at this point of time isn't know to be the case.
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<br />I also think of things in a different light than a lot of others do... CF is just ONE of MANY things that a baby/child could be born with or develop, so there is always a possibility that something else could happen, even if not CF. Which is why I am opting to put it in God's hands as to what kind of child I will get and if that child will have an obstacles like my DS has now w/CF.
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<br />Good luck!