Scared to have another baby

[MargaritaChic]

Only you can make the decision that is right for you and your family.

My husband and I have 1 child and she has CF. We have chosen not to have any more children.

It is financially difficult to raise a child with CF.

Children with CF take alot of extra time and care.

We don't want to roll the dice and take the chance of having another child with CF.

If the other child did not have CF: We feel that Emma's care would take away from time spent with another child. And we also don't want Emma to grow up wondering why her sibling is healthy and she is not.

But all of these are our PERSON feelings. It does not mean they are right or wrong. It is just the choice that is best for us.

 

[MargaritaChic]

Only you can make the decision that is right for you and your family.

My husband and I have 1 child and she has CF. We have chosen not to have any more children.

It is financially difficult to raise a child with CF.

Children with CF take alot of extra time and care.

We don't want to roll the dice and take the chance of having another child with CF.

If the other child did not have CF: We feel that Emma's care would take away from time spent with another child. And we also don't want Emma to grow up wondering why her sibling is healthy and she is not.

But all of these are our PERSON feelings. It does not mean they are right or wrong. It is just the choice that is best for us.

 

[MargaritaChic]

Only you can make the decision that is right for you and your family.

My husband and I have 1 child and she has CF. We have chosen not to have any more children.

It is financially difficult to raise a child with CF.

Children with CF take alot of extra time and care.

We don't want to roll the dice and take the chance of having another child with CF.

If the other child did not have CF: We feel that Emma's care would take away from time spent with another child. And we also don't want Emma to grow up wondering why her sibling is healthy and she is not.

But all of these are our PERSON feelings. It does not mean they are right or wrong. It is just the choice that is best for us.

 

[MargaritaChic]

Only you can make the decision that is right for you and your family.

My husband and I have 1 child and she has CF. We have chosen not to have any more children.

It is financially difficult to raise a child with CF.

Children with CF take alot of extra time and care.

We don't want to roll the dice and take the chance of having another child with CF.

If the other child did not have CF: We feel that Emma's care would take away from time spent with another child. And we also don't want Emma to grow up wondering why her sibling is healthy and she is not.

But all of these are our PERSON feelings. It does not mean they are right or wrong. It is just the choice that is best for us.

 

[MargaritaChic]

Only you can make the decision that is right for you and your family.
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<br />My husband and I have 1 child and she has CF. We have chosen not to have any more children.
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<br />It is financially difficult to raise a child with CF.
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<br />Children with CF take alot of extra time and care.
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<br />We don't want to roll the dice and take the chance of having another child with CF.
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<br />If the other child did not have CF: We feel that Emma's care would take away from time spent with another child. And we also don't want Emma to grow up wondering why her sibling is healthy and she is not.
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<br />But all of these are our PERSON feelings. It does not mean they are right or wrong. It is just the choice that is best for us.

 

[grassisgreener]

I remember struggling with this so much a few years ago after we found out that our only child has CF. It is such a personal decision. Here is what Dr. Warwick (some consider him to be an expert on CF) says about this topic:

WHAT ABOUT HAVING ANOTHER CHILD NOW THAT WE HAVE A CHILD WITH CYSTIC FIBROSIS?

All young parents face this problem when their baby has this diagnosis. They face no shortage of unsolicited advice about what ought to be a family question and decision.

This advice I have given for over 40 years. I developed it for parents to make a completely defendable decision regardless of their decision:
1. Because your child has CF, I recommend that you put your plans for another child aside for two years.
2. After two years caring for your child with CF, ask yourselves, "Can we take care of two children with CF?
3. If the answer is "No", then you may decide not to risk another pregnancy or to try another year or two of care for your child and ask yourselves that question again.
4. If the answer is "Yes", then go to my second question: Would you want to take care of a second child with CF?
5. If your answer is "No", then perhaps, you will need another year or two of care of your child and then ask again.
6. If you answer both questions "Yes", then go ahead with your family and be certain that emotionally and morally you are on solid ground. You have proven you know how to care for a child with CF, and you know that you can take care of two children with CF, and you plan to love and care and love your next child whether or not he or she has CF.

 

[grassisgreener]

I remember struggling with this so much a few years ago after we found out that our only child has CF. It is such a personal decision. Here is what Dr. Warwick (some consider him to be an expert on CF) says about this topic:

WHAT ABOUT HAVING ANOTHER CHILD NOW THAT WE HAVE A CHILD WITH CYSTIC FIBROSIS?

All young parents face this problem when their baby has this diagnosis. They face no shortage of unsolicited advice about what ought to be a family question and decision.

This advice I have given for over 40 years. I developed it for parents to make a completely defendable decision regardless of their decision:
1. Because your child has CF, I recommend that you put your plans for another child aside for two years.
2. After two years caring for your child with CF, ask yourselves, "Can we take care of two children with CF?
3. If the answer is "No", then you may decide not to risk another pregnancy or to try another year or two of care for your child and ask yourselves that question again.
4. If the answer is "Yes", then go to my second question: Would you want to take care of a second child with CF?
5. If your answer is "No", then perhaps, you will need another year or two of care of your child and then ask again.
6. If you answer both questions "Yes", then go ahead with your family and be certain that emotionally and morally you are on solid ground. You have proven you know how to care for a child with CF, and you know that you can take care of two children with CF, and you plan to love and care and love your next child whether or not he or she has CF.

 

[grassisgreener]

I remember struggling with this so much a few years ago after we found out that our only child has CF. It is such a personal decision. Here is what Dr. Warwick (some consider him to be an expert on CF) says about this topic:

WHAT ABOUT HAVING ANOTHER CHILD NOW THAT WE HAVE A CHILD WITH CYSTIC FIBROSIS?

All young parents face this problem when their baby has this diagnosis. They face no shortage of unsolicited advice about what ought to be a family question and decision.

This advice I have given for over 40 years. I developed it for parents to make a completely defendable decision regardless of their decision:
1. Because your child has CF, I recommend that you put your plans for another child aside for two years.
2. After two years caring for your child with CF, ask yourselves, "Can we take care of two children with CF?
3. If the answer is "No", then you may decide not to risk another pregnancy or to try another year or two of care for your child and ask yourselves that question again.
4. If the answer is "Yes", then go to my second question: Would you want to take care of a second child with CF?
5. If your answer is "No", then perhaps, you will need another year or two of care of your child and then ask again.
6. If you answer both questions "Yes", then go ahead with your family and be certain that emotionally and morally you are on solid ground. You have proven you know how to care for a child with CF, and you know that you can take care of two children with CF, and you plan to love and care and love your next child whether or not he or she has CF.

 

[grassisgreener]

I remember struggling with this so much a few years ago after we found out that our only child has CF. It is such a personal decision. Here is what Dr. Warwick (some consider him to be an expert on CF) says about this topic:

WHAT ABOUT HAVING ANOTHER CHILD NOW THAT WE HAVE A CHILD WITH CYSTIC FIBROSIS?

All young parents face this problem when their baby has this diagnosis. They face no shortage of unsolicited advice about what ought to be a family question and decision.

This advice I have given for over 40 years. I developed it for parents to make a completely defendable decision regardless of their decision:
1. Because your child has CF, I recommend that you put your plans for another child aside for two years.
2. After two years caring for your child with CF, ask yourselves, "Can we take care of two children with CF?
3. If the answer is "No", then you may decide not to risk another pregnancy or to try another year or two of care for your child and ask yourselves that question again.
4. If the answer is "Yes", then go to my second question: Would you want to take care of a second child with CF?
5. If your answer is "No", then perhaps, you will need another year or two of care of your child and then ask again.
6. If you answer both questions "Yes", then go ahead with your family and be certain that emotionally and morally you are on solid ground. You have proven you know how to care for a child with CF, and you know that you can take care of two children with CF, and you plan to love and care and love your next child whether or not he or she has CF.

 

[grassisgreener]

I remember struggling with this so much a few years ago after we found out that our only child has CF. It is such a personal decision. Here is what Dr. Warwick (some consider him to be an expert on CF) says about this topic:
<br />
<br />WHAT ABOUT HAVING ANOTHER CHILD NOW THAT WE HAVE A CHILD WITH CYSTIC FIBROSIS?
<br />
<br />All young parents face this problem when their baby has this diagnosis. They face no shortage of unsolicited advice about what ought to be a family question and decision.
<br />
<br />This advice I have given for over 40 years. I developed it for parents to make a completely defendable decision regardless of their decision:
<br />1. Because your child has CF, I recommend that you put your plans for another child aside for two years.
<br />2. After two years caring for your child with CF, ask yourselves, "Can we take care of two children with CF?
<br />3. If the answer is "No", then you may decide not to risk another pregnancy or to try another year or two of care for your child and ask yourselves that question again.
<br />4. If the answer is "Yes", then go to my second question: Would you want to take care of a second child with CF?
<br />5. If your answer is "No", then perhaps, you will need another year or two of care of your child and then ask again.
<br />6. If you answer both questions "Yes", then go ahead with your family and be certain that emotionally and morally you are on solid ground. You have proven you know how to care for a child with CF, and you know that you can take care of two children with CF, and you plan to love and care and love your next child whether or not he or she has CF.
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[truckin4tucker]

Tough question. There is no right or wrong answer as far as I am concerned.

My husband and I struggled with this decision a couple of years ago. We decided to try "one more time" and leave it in God's hands. But for us, we had a test done during the pregnancy to see if the baby had CF or not. We chose to do this so we could emotionally prepare ourselves for possbily having another child with CF before the baby arrived. Well, fortunately she did not have CF, she was just a carrier of the gene. But unfortunately, I ended up getting an infection from the test they performed, which attacked my placenta and caused me to miscarry our daughter, Rylie Marie, when I was 20 weeks pregnant. We were completely devestated.

After that we decided to look into adoption. Yes, it is expensive, but in some states you can get a significant adoption tax credit, so the cost wasn't so bad after all. We got our daughter when she was only 6 days old. We have a full, complete medical history on both of her birthparents and on their parents and grandparents. I would highly recommend adoption. It is as awesome of an event as giving birth to your own biological child is.

So, good luck with your decision. And remember, there is no right or wrong answer to your question. Take care and God bless.

 

[truckin4tucker]

Tough question. There is no right or wrong answer as far as I am concerned.

My husband and I struggled with this decision a couple of years ago. We decided to try "one more time" and leave it in God's hands. But for us, we had a test done during the pregnancy to see if the baby had CF or not. We chose to do this so we could emotionally prepare ourselves for possbily having another child with CF before the baby arrived. Well, fortunately she did not have CF, she was just a carrier of the gene. But unfortunately, I ended up getting an infection from the test they performed, which attacked my placenta and caused me to miscarry our daughter, Rylie Marie, when I was 20 weeks pregnant. We were completely devestated.

After that we decided to look into adoption. Yes, it is expensive, but in some states you can get a significant adoption tax credit, so the cost wasn't so bad after all. We got our daughter when she was only 6 days old. We have a full, complete medical history on both of her birthparents and on their parents and grandparents. I would highly recommend adoption. It is as awesome of an event as giving birth to your own biological child is.

So, good luck with your decision. And remember, there is no right or wrong answer to your question. Take care and God bless.

 

[truckin4tucker]

Tough question. There is no right or wrong answer as far as I am concerned.

My husband and I struggled with this decision a couple of years ago. We decided to try "one more time" and leave it in God's hands. But for us, we had a test done during the pregnancy to see if the baby had CF or not. We chose to do this so we could emotionally prepare ourselves for possbily having another child with CF before the baby arrived. Well, fortunately she did not have CF, she was just a carrier of the gene. But unfortunately, I ended up getting an infection from the test they performed, which attacked my placenta and caused me to miscarry our daughter, Rylie Marie, when I was 20 weeks pregnant. We were completely devestated.

After that we decided to look into adoption. Yes, it is expensive, but in some states you can get a significant adoption tax credit, so the cost wasn't so bad after all. We got our daughter when she was only 6 days old. We have a full, complete medical history on both of her birthparents and on their parents and grandparents. I would highly recommend adoption. It is as awesome of an event as giving birth to your own biological child is.

So, good luck with your decision. And remember, there is no right or wrong answer to your question. Take care and God bless.

 

[truckin4tucker]

Tough question. There is no right or wrong answer as far as I am concerned.

My husband and I struggled with this decision a couple of years ago. We decided to try "one more time" and leave it in God's hands. But for us, we had a test done during the pregnancy to see if the baby had CF or not. We chose to do this so we could emotionally prepare ourselves for possbily having another child with CF before the baby arrived. Well, fortunately she did not have CF, she was just a carrier of the gene. But unfortunately, I ended up getting an infection from the test they performed, which attacked my placenta and caused me to miscarry our daughter, Rylie Marie, when I was 20 weeks pregnant. We were completely devestated.

After that we decided to look into adoption. Yes, it is expensive, but in some states you can get a significant adoption tax credit, so the cost wasn't so bad after all. We got our daughter when she was only 6 days old. We have a full, complete medical history on both of her birthparents and on their parents and grandparents. I would highly recommend adoption. It is as awesome of an event as giving birth to your own biological child is.

So, good luck with your decision. And remember, there is no right or wrong answer to your question. Take care and God bless.

 

[truckin4tucker]

Tough question. There is no right or wrong answer as far as I am concerned.

My husband and I struggled with this decision a couple of years ago. We decided to try "one more time" and leave it in God's hands. But for us, we had a test done during the pregnancy to see if the baby had CF or not. We chose to do this so we could emotionally prepare ourselves for possbily having another child with CF before the baby arrived. Well, fortunately she did not have CF, she was just a carrier of the gene. But unfortunately, I ended up getting an infection from the test they performed, which attacked my placenta and caused me to miscarry our daughter, Rylie Marie, when I was 20 weeks pregnant. We were completely devestated.

After that we decided to look into adoption. Yes, it is expensive, but in some states you can get a significant adoption tax credit, so the cost wasn't so bad after all. We got our daughter when she was only 6 days old. We have a full, complete medical history on both of her birthparents and on their parents and grandparents. I would highly recommend adoption. It is as awesome of an event as giving birth to your own biological child is.

So, good luck with your decision. And remember, there is no right or wrong answer to your question. Take care and God bless.

 

[carrierae21]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>TobysMom</b></i>
I know there are ways to get around it w/IVF, but if I am going to spend that kind of $ on something, I would rather spend it to adopt a child that needs a home. But, I would do that if it came down to me not being able to have another child, which at this point of time isn't know to be the case.

My OB has told me that there much less expensive ways to go about it... You can get donor sperm and it's an in office procedure ~about $200. Not that I am going to do this, but she did mention it to me so I thought I would let you know there are other options out there.

 

[carrierae21]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>TobysMom</b></i>
I know there are ways to get around it w/IVF, but if I am going to spend that kind of $ on something, I would rather spend it to adopt a child that needs a home. But, I would do that if it came down to me not being able to have another child, which at this point of time isn't know to be the case.

My OB has told me that there much less expensive ways to go about it... You can get donor sperm and it's an in office procedure ~about $200. Not that I am going to do this, but she did mention it to me so I thought I would let you know there are other options out there.

 

[carrierae21]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>TobysMom</b></i>
I know there are ways to get around it w/IVF, but if I am going to spend that kind of $ on something, I would rather spend it to adopt a child that needs a home. But, I would do that if it came down to me not being able to have another child, which at this point of time isn't know to be the case.

My OB has told me that there much less expensive ways to go about it... You can get donor sperm and it's an in office procedure ~about $200. Not that I am going to do this, but she did mention it to me so I thought I would let you know there are other options out there.

 

[carrierae21]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>TobysMom</b></i>
I know there are ways to get around it w/IVF, but if I am going to spend that kind of $ on something, I would rather spend it to adopt a child that needs a home. But, I would do that if it came down to me not being able to have another child, which at this point of time isn't know to be the case.

My OB has told me that there much less expensive ways to go about it... You can get donor sperm and it's an in office procedure ~about $200. Not that I am going to do this, but she did mention it to me so I thought I would let you know there are other options out there.

 

[carrierae21]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>TobysMom</b></i>
<br />I know there are ways to get around it w/IVF, but if I am going to spend that kind of $ on something, I would rather spend it to adopt a child that needs a home. But, I would do that if it came down to me not being able to have another child, which at this point of time isn't know to be the case.
<br />
<br />My OB has told me that there much less expensive ways to go about it... You can get donor sperm and it's an in office procedure ~about $200. Not that I am going to do this, but she did mention it to me so I thought I would let you know there are other options out there.