Scared to have another baby

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Mommafirst

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This is such an amazingly personal decision. For me and my husband, its the end of the road. We do not wish to bring another child with Cf into this world. But we already have three kids and only one with CF, so its pretty easy for us to make that decision. You will have to look into your heart. Just keep in mind two contradictory things: 1. medical advances continue to come available and our children will have better and better opportunities over time but 2. every CF case is different and they are all eventually progressive, so making a decision based on a mild 2, 4, 6 or 8 year old isn't really a very informed decision.

Good luck in making your decision. It is deeply personal and only you and your family can make it.
 
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Mommafirst

Guest
This is such an amazingly personal decision. For me and my husband, its the end of the road. We do not wish to bring another child with Cf into this world. But we already have three kids and only one with CF, so its pretty easy for us to make that decision. You will have to look into your heart. Just keep in mind two contradictory things: 1. medical advances continue to come available and our children will have better and better opportunities over time but 2. every CF case is different and they are all eventually progressive, so making a decision based on a mild 2, 4, 6 or 8 year old isn't really a very informed decision.

Good luck in making your decision. It is deeply personal and only you and your family can make it.
 
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Mommafirst

Guest
This is such an amazingly personal decision. For me and my husband, its the end of the road. We do not wish to bring another child with Cf into this world. But we already have three kids and only one with CF, so its pretty easy for us to make that decision. You will have to look into your heart. Just keep in mind two contradictory things: 1. medical advances continue to come available and our children will have better and better opportunities over time but 2. every CF case is different and they are all eventually progressive, so making a decision based on a mild 2, 4, 6 or 8 year old isn't really a very informed decision.

Good luck in making your decision. It is deeply personal and only you and your family can make it.
 
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Mommafirst

Guest
This is such an amazingly personal decision. For me and my husband, its the end of the road. We do not wish to bring another child with Cf into this world. But we already have three kids and only one with CF, so its pretty easy for us to make that decision. You will have to look into your heart. Just keep in mind two contradictory things: 1. medical advances continue to come available and our children will have better and better opportunities over time but 2. every CF case is different and they are all eventually progressive, so making a decision based on a mild 2, 4, 6 or 8 year old isn't really a very informed decision.

Good luck in making your decision. It is deeply personal and only you and your family can make it.
 
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Mommafirst

Guest
This is such an amazingly personal decision. For me and my husband, its the end of the road. We do not wish to bring another child with Cf into this world. But we already have three kids and only one with CF, so its pretty easy for us to make that decision. You will have to look into your heart. Just keep in mind two contradictory things: 1. medical advances continue to come available and our children will have better and better opportunities over time but 2. every CF case is different and they are all eventually progressive, so making a decision based on a mild 2, 4, 6 or 8 year old isn't really a very informed decision.
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<br />Good luck in making your decision. It is deeply personal and only you and your family can make it.
 
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brewz2

Guest
Definitely a very personal decision, however, when my husband and I planned for number two, we both just knew we were ready and left it in God's hands. Unfortunately our son also has CF, but I'll tell you one thing for sure, he's the best gift I could've ever been given. He makes us laugh every day, he's such a character! I'll never for one second regret our decision. I just have to assume God has a bigger plan for both of my children. My daughter thinks the world of her brother, and is such a mother hen to him. She always makes sure he sanitizes, takes his meds the right way, and she has someone to do her vest with her. Ultimately, a big decision with or without CF, but somehow you just figure it out. Hope it helps, now I've got to tend to my little man...<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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brewz2

Guest
Definitely a very personal decision, however, when my husband and I planned for number two, we both just knew we were ready and left it in God's hands. Unfortunately our son also has CF, but I'll tell you one thing for sure, he's the best gift I could've ever been given. He makes us laugh every day, he's such a character! I'll never for one second regret our decision. I just have to assume God has a bigger plan for both of my children. My daughter thinks the world of her brother, and is such a mother hen to him. She always makes sure he sanitizes, takes his meds the right way, and she has someone to do her vest with her. Ultimately, a big decision with or without CF, but somehow you just figure it out. Hope it helps, now I've got to tend to my little man...<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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brewz2

Guest
Definitely a very personal decision, however, when my husband and I planned for number two, we both just knew we were ready and left it in God's hands. Unfortunately our son also has CF, but I'll tell you one thing for sure, he's the best gift I could've ever been given. He makes us laugh every day, he's such a character! I'll never for one second regret our decision. I just have to assume God has a bigger plan for both of my children. My daughter thinks the world of her brother, and is such a mother hen to him. She always makes sure he sanitizes, takes his meds the right way, and she has someone to do her vest with her. Ultimately, a big decision with or without CF, but somehow you just figure it out. Hope it helps, now I've got to tend to my little man...<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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brewz2

Guest
Definitely a very personal decision, however, when my husband and I planned for number two, we both just knew we were ready and left it in God's hands. Unfortunately our son also has CF, but I'll tell you one thing for sure, he's the best gift I could've ever been given. He makes us laugh every day, he's such a character! I'll never for one second regret our decision. I just have to assume God has a bigger plan for both of my children. My daughter thinks the world of her brother, and is such a mother hen to him. She always makes sure he sanitizes, takes his meds the right way, and she has someone to do her vest with her. Ultimately, a big decision with or without CF, but somehow you just figure it out. Hope it helps, now I've got to tend to my little man...<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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brewz2

Guest
Definitely a very personal decision, however, when my husband and I planned for number two, we both just knew we were ready and left it in God's hands. Unfortunately our son also has CF, but I'll tell you one thing for sure, he's the best gift I could've ever been given. He makes us laugh every day, he's such a character! I'll never for one second regret our decision. I just have to assume God has a bigger plan for both of my children. My daughter thinks the world of her brother, and is such a mother hen to him. She always makes sure he sanitizes, takes his meds the right way, and she has someone to do her vest with her. Ultimately, a big decision with or without CF, but somehow you just figure it out. Hope it helps, now I've got to tend to my little man...<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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mneville

Guest
Tough decision for all of us couples faced with the 1 in 4 chance. We decided to give IVF/PGD a try. It worked and we have a second child who is healthy. I can certainly give you more info if you so wish. Enjoy your baby, they grow so fast!

Megan,mom to Aidan 3 with CF and Gavin,1, no CF
 
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mneville

Guest
Tough decision for all of us couples faced with the 1 in 4 chance. We decided to give IVF/PGD a try. It worked and we have a second child who is healthy. I can certainly give you more info if you so wish. Enjoy your baby, they grow so fast!

Megan,mom to Aidan 3 with CF and Gavin,1, no CF
 
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mneville

Guest
Tough decision for all of us couples faced with the 1 in 4 chance. We decided to give IVF/PGD a try. It worked and we have a second child who is healthy. I can certainly give you more info if you so wish. Enjoy your baby, they grow so fast!

Megan,mom to Aidan 3 with CF and Gavin,1, no CF
 
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mneville

Guest
Tough decision for all of us couples faced with the 1 in 4 chance. We decided to give IVF/PGD a try. It worked and we have a second child who is healthy. I can certainly give you more info if you so wish. Enjoy your baby, they grow so fast!

Megan,mom to Aidan 3 with CF and Gavin,1, no CF
 
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mneville

Guest
Tough decision for all of us couples faced with the 1 in 4 chance. We decided to give IVF/PGD a try. It worked and we have a second child who is healthy. I can certainly give you more info if you so wish. Enjoy your baby, they grow so fast!
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<br />Megan,mom to Aidan 3 with CF and Gavin,1, no CF
 
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PlumPerfect

New member
We were lucky to have our healty girl first and now our son with cf. For us it was a no brainer that if we felt we needed more we would adopt a child in need. but we are people who would adopt. There can be a very selfish part of us all who want more of our own but to me I couldn't explain to a child that I knowingly made them sick. I feel like yes I make that commetment to care for them for the next 18 years or so but at a certain point they will be an adult and have to live with it forever. On the other hand I really believe that God guides us where we need to be and if you just know in your heart that there has to be another then you know. I ( before even knowing) had on the middle of my pg with my son decided I was okay with being done, when I had started out wanting 5. I think God was preparing me and my husband to be done.
 
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PlumPerfect

New member
We were lucky to have our healty girl first and now our son with cf. For us it was a no brainer that if we felt we needed more we would adopt a child in need. but we are people who would adopt. There can be a very selfish part of us all who want more of our own but to me I couldn't explain to a child that I knowingly made them sick. I feel like yes I make that commetment to care for them for the next 18 years or so but at a certain point they will be an adult and have to live with it forever. On the other hand I really believe that God guides us where we need to be and if you just know in your heart that there has to be another then you know. I ( before even knowing) had on the middle of my pg with my son decided I was okay with being done, when I had started out wanting 5. I think God was preparing me and my husband to be done.
 
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PlumPerfect

New member
We were lucky to have our healty girl first and now our son with cf. For us it was a no brainer that if we felt we needed more we would adopt a child in need. but we are people who would adopt. There can be a very selfish part of us all who want more of our own but to me I couldn't explain to a child that I knowingly made them sick. I feel like yes I make that commetment to care for them for the next 18 years or so but at a certain point they will be an adult and have to live with it forever. On the other hand I really believe that God guides us where we need to be and if you just know in your heart that there has to be another then you know. I ( before even knowing) had on the middle of my pg with my son decided I was okay with being done, when I had started out wanting 5. I think God was preparing me and my husband to be done.
 
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PlumPerfect

New member
We were lucky to have our healty girl first and now our son with cf. For us it was a no brainer that if we felt we needed more we would adopt a child in need. but we are people who would adopt. There can be a very selfish part of us all who want more of our own but to me I couldn't explain to a child that I knowingly made them sick. I feel like yes I make that commetment to care for them for the next 18 years or so but at a certain point they will be an adult and have to live with it forever. On the other hand I really believe that God guides us where we need to be and if you just know in your heart that there has to be another then you know. I ( before even knowing) had on the middle of my pg with my son decided I was okay with being done, when I had started out wanting 5. I think God was preparing me and my husband to be done.
 
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PlumPerfect

New member
We were lucky to have our healty girl first and now our son with cf. For us it was a no brainer that if we felt we needed more we would adopt a child in need. but we are people who would adopt. There can be a very selfish part of us all who want more of our own but to me I couldn't explain to a child that I knowingly made them sick. I feel like yes I make that commetment to care for them for the next 18 years or so but at a certain point they will be an adult and have to live with it forever. On the other hand I really believe that God guides us where we need to be and if you just know in your heart that there has to be another then you know. I ( before even knowing) had on the middle of my pg with my son decided I was okay with being done, when I had started out wanting 5. I think God was preparing me and my husband to be done.
 
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