Sibling issues

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ashton2005

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I have a question! How many people on here are experiencing emotional problems with siblings of the kiddo with CF?? My soon to be 8 year old has became very emotional over the last few years since her brother was born? Im having a hard time dealing with it! Like this morning she called me crying bad saying that she missed me and that she didnt know why she was crying.. shes also going through the my tummy hurts stage to get out of things? Now her brother is getting ready to have surgery on Tuesday so maybe thats why it is getting worse right now but im at a loss of what to do. Her teacher emailed me one day saying that she had a rough morning and was crying for me!!! UGH SHES IN 2nd GRADE i would think she would be over this HELP!!!! Thank you in advance!
 
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ashton2005

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I have a question! How many people on here are experiencing emotional problems with siblings of the kiddo with CF?? My soon to be 8 year old has became very emotional over the last few years since her brother was born? Im having a hard time dealing with it! Like this morning she called me crying bad saying that she missed me and that she didnt know why she was crying.. shes also going through the my tummy hurts stage to get out of things? Now her brother is getting ready to have surgery on Tuesday so maybe thats why it is getting worse right now but im at a loss of what to do. Her teacher emailed me one day saying that she had a rough morning and was crying for me!!! UGH SHES IN 2nd GRADE i would think she would be over this HELP!!!! Thank you in advance!
 
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ashton2005

New member
I have a question! How many people on here are experiencing emotional problems with siblings of the kiddo with CF?? My soon to be 8 year old has became very emotional over the last few years since her brother was born? Im having a hard time dealing with it! Like this morning she called me crying bad saying that she missed me and that she didnt know why she was crying.. shes also going through the my tummy hurts stage to get out of things? Now her brother is getting ready to have surgery on Tuesday so maybe thats why it is getting worse right now but im at a loss of what to do. Her teacher emailed me one day saying that she had a rough morning and was crying for me!!! UGH SHES IN 2nd GRADE i would think she would be over this HELP!!!! Thank you in advance!
 
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ashton2005

New member
I have a question! How many people on here are experiencing emotional problems with siblings of the kiddo with CF?? My soon to be 8 year old has became very emotional over the last few years since her brother was born? Im having a hard time dealing with it! Like this morning she called me crying bad saying that she missed me and that she didnt know why she was crying.. shes also going through the my tummy hurts stage to get out of things? Now her brother is getting ready to have surgery on Tuesday so maybe thats why it is getting worse right now but im at a loss of what to do. Her teacher emailed me one day saying that she had a rough morning and was crying for me!!! UGH SHES IN 2nd GRADE i would think she would be over this HELP!!!! Thank you in advance!
 
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ashton2005

New member
I have a question! How many people on here are experiencing emotional problems with siblings of the kiddo with CF?? My soon to be 8 year old has became very emotional over the last few years since her brother was born? Im having a hard time dealing with it! Like this morning she called me crying bad saying that she missed me and that she didnt know why she was crying.. shes also going through the my tummy hurts stage to get out of things? Now her brother is getting ready to have surgery on Tuesday so maybe thats why it is getting worse right now but im at a loss of what to do. Her teacher emailed me one day saying that she had a rough morning and was crying for me!!! UGH SHES IN 2nd GRADE i would think she would be over this HELP!!!! Thank you in advance!
 
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JazzysMom

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OMG this is like reliving Jazmine's last 2 years. Granted its not because of her siblings, but most definitely because of CF.

So far this year things have been better, BUT she missed TONS of school last year when I was having such health problems. 99% of it was from belly aches. I didnt question that she had a belly ache, but it wasnt a medical problem that could be fixed.

It was all emotional/mental and it took a lot of torture on my end to try & keep things normal & force her into a regular routine. The guilt was awful, but many times once she was out to school she was ok. Once in awhile I would get a call to come get her. When it started really interferring with her school grades we panicked!

We learned that talking with her, getting her thoughts out & addressing them was the key for us. We didnt necessarily sugar coat it, but just talking instead of letting it build up (for both of us LOL) was a big help.

Its difficult so here is a HUG to help <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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JazzysMom

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OMG this is like reliving Jazmine's last 2 years. Granted its not because of her siblings, but most definitely because of CF.

So far this year things have been better, BUT she missed TONS of school last year when I was having such health problems. 99% of it was from belly aches. I didnt question that she had a belly ache, but it wasnt a medical problem that could be fixed.

It was all emotional/mental and it took a lot of torture on my end to try & keep things normal & force her into a regular routine. The guilt was awful, but many times once she was out to school she was ok. Once in awhile I would get a call to come get her. When it started really interferring with her school grades we panicked!

We learned that talking with her, getting her thoughts out & addressing them was the key for us. We didnt necessarily sugar coat it, but just talking instead of letting it build up (for both of us LOL) was a big help.

Its difficult so here is a HUG to help <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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JazzysMom

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OMG this is like reliving Jazmine's last 2 years. Granted its not because of her siblings, but most definitely because of CF.

So far this year things have been better, BUT she missed TONS of school last year when I was having such health problems. 99% of it was from belly aches. I didnt question that she had a belly ache, but it wasnt a medical problem that could be fixed.

It was all emotional/mental and it took a lot of torture on my end to try & keep things normal & force her into a regular routine. The guilt was awful, but many times once she was out to school she was ok. Once in awhile I would get a call to come get her. When it started really interferring with her school grades we panicked!

We learned that talking with her, getting her thoughts out & addressing them was the key for us. We didnt necessarily sugar coat it, but just talking instead of letting it build up (for both of us LOL) was a big help.

Its difficult so here is a HUG to help <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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JazzysMom

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OMG this is like reliving Jazmine's last 2 years. Granted its not because of her siblings, but most definitely because of CF.

So far this year things have been better, BUT she missed TONS of school last year when I was having such health problems. 99% of it was from belly aches. I didnt question that she had a belly ache, but it wasnt a medical problem that could be fixed.

It was all emotional/mental and it took a lot of torture on my end to try & keep things normal & force her into a regular routine. The guilt was awful, but many times once she was out to school she was ok. Once in awhile I would get a call to come get her. When it started really interferring with her school grades we panicked!

We learned that talking with her, getting her thoughts out & addressing them was the key for us. We didnt necessarily sugar coat it, but just talking instead of letting it build up (for both of us LOL) was a big help.

Its difficult so here is a HUG to help <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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JazzysMom

New member
OMG this is like reliving Jazmine's last 2 years. Granted its not because of her siblings, but most definitely because of CF.
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<br />So far this year things have been better, BUT she missed TONS of school last year when I was having such health problems. 99% of it was from belly aches. I didnt question that she had a belly ache, but it wasnt a medical problem that could be fixed.
<br />
<br />It was all emotional/mental and it took a lot of torture on my end to try & keep things normal & force her into a regular routine. The guilt was awful, but many times once she was out to school she was ok. Once in awhile I would get a call to come get her. When it started really interferring with her school grades we panicked!
<br />
<br />We learned that talking with her, getting her thoughts out & addressing them was the key for us. We didnt necessarily sugar coat it, but just talking instead of letting it build up (for both of us LOL) was a big help.
<br />
<br />Its difficult so here is a HUG to help <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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LisaGreene

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Hi Christi,
This is so common for families dealing with any kind of special needs. The key here is how you respond to her because if you respond with too much SYMPATHY then you will validate her upset. But if you respnd to her with empathy, then you will empower her to cope with the situation.

Over-reassurance can also validate her upset. So the best thing to do is give her empathy and then help her figure out ways to cope with her feelings. See the 2 new articles about sibling issues we just posted on our website. They will give you more specific ideas about "what to do." Here are the links:

<a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.parentingchildrenwithhealthissues.citymax.com/BlogTalkArticle.html
">http://www.parentingchildrenwi.../BlogTalkArticle.html
</a>
and: <a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.parentingchildrenwithhealthissues.citymax.com/QuestionWeek.html
">http://www.parentingchildrenwi...com/QuestionWeek.html
</a>
Take care and hang in there!
Hugs,
Lisa G
 
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LisaGreene

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Hi Christi,
This is so common for families dealing with any kind of special needs. The key here is how you respond to her because if you respond with too much SYMPATHY then you will validate her upset. But if you respnd to her with empathy, then you will empower her to cope with the situation.

Over-reassurance can also validate her upset. So the best thing to do is give her empathy and then help her figure out ways to cope with her feelings. See the 2 new articles about sibling issues we just posted on our website. They will give you more specific ideas about "what to do." Here are the links:

<a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.parentingchildrenwithhealthissues.citymax.com/BlogTalkArticle.html
">http://www.parentingchildrenwi.../BlogTalkArticle.html
</a>
and: <a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.parentingchildrenwithhealthissues.citymax.com/QuestionWeek.html
">http://www.parentingchildrenwi...com/QuestionWeek.html
</a>
Take care and hang in there!
Hugs,
Lisa G
 
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LisaGreene

New member
Hi Christi,
This is so common for families dealing with any kind of special needs. The key here is how you respond to her because if you respond with too much SYMPATHY then you will validate her upset. But if you respnd to her with empathy, then you will empower her to cope with the situation.

Over-reassurance can also validate her upset. So the best thing to do is give her empathy and then help her figure out ways to cope with her feelings. See the 2 new articles about sibling issues we just posted on our website. They will give you more specific ideas about "what to do." Here are the links:

<a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.parentingchildrenwithhealthissues.citymax.com/BlogTalkArticle.html
">http://www.parentingchildrenwi.../BlogTalkArticle.html
</a>
and: <a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.parentingchildrenwithhealthissues.citymax.com/QuestionWeek.html
">http://www.parentingchildrenwi...com/QuestionWeek.html
</a>
Take care and hang in there!
Hugs,
Lisa G
 
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LisaGreene

New member
Hi Christi,
This is so common for families dealing with any kind of special needs. The key here is how you respond to her because if you respond with too much SYMPATHY then you will validate her upset. But if you respnd to her with empathy, then you will empower her to cope with the situation.

Over-reassurance can also validate her upset. So the best thing to do is give her empathy and then help her figure out ways to cope with her feelings. See the 2 new articles about sibling issues we just posted on our website. They will give you more specific ideas about "what to do." Here are the links:

<a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.parentingchildrenwithhealthissues.citymax.com/BlogTalkArticle.html
">http://www.parentingchildrenwi.../BlogTalkArticle.html
</a>
and: <a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.parentingchildrenwithhealthissues.citymax.com/QuestionWeek.html
">http://www.parentingchildrenwi...com/QuestionWeek.html
</a>
Take care and hang in there!
Hugs,
Lisa G
 
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LisaGreene

New member
Hi Christi,
<br />This is so common for families dealing with any kind of special needs. The key here is how you respond to her because if you respond with too much SYMPATHY then you will validate her upset. But if you respnd to her with empathy, then you will empower her to cope with the situation.
<br />
<br />Over-reassurance can also validate her upset. So the best thing to do is give her empathy and then help her figure out ways to cope with her feelings. See the 2 new articles about sibling issues we just posted on our website. They will give you more specific ideas about "what to do." Here are the links:
<br />
<br /><a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.parentingchildrenwithhealthissues.citymax.com/BlogTalkArticle.html
">http://www.parentingchildrenwi.../BlogTalkArticle.html
</a><br />
<br />and: <a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.parentingchildrenwithhealthissues.citymax.com/QuestionWeek.html
">http://www.parentingchildrenwi...com/QuestionWeek.html
</a><br />
<br />Take care and hang in there!
<br />Hugs,
<br />Lisa G
<br />
<br />
 
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ashton2005

New member
Thank you both again for your replies! The websites lisa are wonderful! i printed them out to share with my husband. we actually already are planning our night out with my daughter to go see high school musical 3 and dinner so that will be good for her i would hope! we did also let her start gymnastics! a little tough on th epocket book but hoping that it is something that she feels is all about her! Thank you again!
 
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ashton2005

New member
Thank you both again for your replies! The websites lisa are wonderful! i printed them out to share with my husband. we actually already are planning our night out with my daughter to go see high school musical 3 and dinner so that will be good for her i would hope! we did also let her start gymnastics! a little tough on th epocket book but hoping that it is something that she feels is all about her! Thank you again!
 
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ashton2005

New member
Thank you both again for your replies! The websites lisa are wonderful! i printed them out to share with my husband. we actually already are planning our night out with my daughter to go see high school musical 3 and dinner so that will be good for her i would hope! we did also let her start gymnastics! a little tough on th epocket book but hoping that it is something that she feels is all about her! Thank you again!
 
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ashton2005

New member
Thank you both again for your replies! The websites lisa are wonderful! i printed them out to share with my husband. we actually already are planning our night out with my daughter to go see high school musical 3 and dinner so that will be good for her i would hope! we did also let her start gymnastics! a little tough on th epocket book but hoping that it is something that she feels is all about her! Thank you again!
 
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ashton2005

New member
Thank you both again for your replies! The websites lisa are wonderful! i printed them out to share with my husband. we actually already are planning our night out with my daughter to go see high school musical 3 and dinner so that will be good for her i would hope! we did also let her start gymnastics! a little tough on th epocket book but hoping that it is something that she feels is all about her! Thank you again!
 
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