Single CF'rs

[EnergyGal]

When to tell is probably what goes through most of your minds when you want to tell someone you have cf. I remember just going with the flow and never planning what I would say.

If I was out on a date and had to take my enzymes. If they asked, I would tell them. If I started coughing and they asked, I would break the ice then.

I do not think I had a "let me tell you I have CF talk" I do remember saying to myself, let me see how much this person really likes me. That is when I gave them embrace me with cf or the cf shuffle talk. lol

It was sort of like giving them the stiff arm speech but with a gently push. If they wanted to learn more, they did and if they brushed it off and never asked me more about it, then it made me realize that either they were just interested in one thing and that this was not going to go anywhere. It all depends, everyone is so different.

Breaking the CF ice was sort of the best TEST. How many people walking this earth knows how someone will stay by their side through tough times. When you have an illness, your partner knows up front and if they choose you knowingly then that is a big thing and be grateful if you find your man.

I know a few women without CF who are either single or married with crappy relationships.

I think the CF test sort of picks the winners out of the crowd for you.

 

[EnergyGal]

When to tell is probably what goes through most of your minds when you want to tell someone you have cf. I remember just going with the flow and never planning what I would say.

If I was out on a date and had to take my enzymes. If they asked, I would tell them. If I started coughing and they asked, I would break the ice then.

I do not think I had a "let me tell you I have CF talk" I do remember saying to myself, let me see how much this person really likes me. That is when I gave them embrace me with cf or the cf shuffle talk. lol

It was sort of like giving them the stiff arm speech but with a gently push. If they wanted to learn more, they did and if they brushed it off and never asked me more about it, then it made me realize that either they were just interested in one thing and that this was not going to go anywhere. It all depends, everyone is so different.

Breaking the CF ice was sort of the best TEST. How many people walking this earth knows how someone will stay by their side through tough times. When you have an illness, your partner knows up front and if they choose you knowingly then that is a big thing and be grateful if you find your man.

I know a few women without CF who are either single or married with crappy relationships.

I think the CF test sort of picks the winners out of the crowd for you.

 

[EnergyGal]

When to tell is probably what goes through most of your minds when you want to tell someone you have cf. I remember just going with the flow and never planning what I would say.

If I was out on a date and had to take my enzymes. If they asked, I would tell them. If I started coughing and they asked, I would break the ice then.

I do not think I had a "let me tell you I have CF talk" I do remember saying to myself, let me see how much this person really likes me. That is when I gave them embrace me with cf or the cf shuffle talk. lol

It was sort of like giving them the stiff arm speech but with a gently push. If they wanted to learn more, they did and if they brushed it off and never asked me more about it, then it made me realize that either they were just interested in one thing and that this was not going to go anywhere. It all depends, everyone is so different.

Breaking the CF ice was sort of the best TEST. How many people walking this earth knows how someone will stay by their side through tough times. When you have an illness, your partner knows up front and if they choose you knowingly then that is a big thing and be grateful if you find your man.

I know a few women without CF who are either single or married with crappy relationships.

I think the CF test sort of picks the winners out of the crowd for you.

 

[EnergyGal]

When to tell is probably what goes through most of your minds when you want to tell someone you have cf. I remember just going with the flow and never planning what I would say.

If I was out on a date and had to take my enzymes. If they asked, I would tell them. If I started coughing and they asked, I would break the ice then.

I do not think I had a "let me tell you I have CF talk" I do remember saying to myself, let me see how much this person really likes me. That is when I gave them embrace me with cf or the cf shuffle talk. lol

It was sort of like giving them the stiff arm speech but with a gently push. If they wanted to learn more, they did and if they brushed it off and never asked me more about it, then it made me realize that either they were just interested in one thing and that this was not going to go anywhere. It all depends, everyone is so different.

Breaking the CF ice was sort of the best TEST. How many people walking this earth knows how someone will stay by their side through tough times. When you have an illness, your partner knows up front and if they choose you knowingly then that is a big thing and be grateful if you find your man.

I know a few women without CF who are either single or married with crappy relationships.

I think the CF test sort of picks the winners out of the crowd for you.

 

[EnergyGal]

When to tell is probably what goes through most of your minds when you want to tell someone you have cf. I remember just going with the flow and never planning what I would say.

If I was out on a date and had to take my enzymes. If they asked, I would tell them. If I started coughing and they asked, I would break the ice then.

I do not think I had a "let me tell you I have CF talk" I do remember saying to myself, let me see how much this person really likes me. That is when I gave them embrace me with cf or the cf shuffle talk. lol

It was sort of like giving them the stiff arm speech but with a gently push. If they wanted to learn more, they did and if they brushed it off and never asked me more about it, then it made me realize that either they were just interested in one thing and that this was not going to go anywhere. It all depends, everyone is so different.

Breaking the CF ice was sort of the best TEST. How many people walking this earth knows how someone will stay by their side through tough times. When you have an illness, your partner knows up front and if they choose you knowingly then that is a big thing and be grateful if you find your man.

I know a few women without CF who are either single or married with crappy relationships.

I think the CF test sort of picks the winners out of the crowd for you.

 

[Brian1986]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>bittyhorse23</b></i>

Hi



This is something I struggle with all the time. I used to wait a few weeks or even a month before saying anything. I wanted the guy to get to know ME before he found out about CF. Unfortunatley it never helped and I always ended up heartbroken. Well this last time I decided on our first date I would tell him and if he didn't want to keep seeing me then no big deal. Nothing lost. I got sick three days before our first date and ended up in the hospital. So I HAD to tell him and he has been by my side ever since. We are getting along GREAT and I couldn't be happier. I think it is a comfort level with you and him. It is alot to deal with but if they care about you and want to get to know you then it won't matter. Everyone used to tell me this all the time. I would just laugh and say whatever. But with Pat, he proved to me that it is true. Sorry if it sounds like I am gushing about him but I know where you are coming from and how depressed I felt that no one would ever want me, since I was not a whole person and can't offer all the things a healthy person can.



I have a few blogs written about this subject if you want to check them out. Also feel free to PM me <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">



Dating sucks and then we get to add CF into the mix...oh joy oh bliss!</end quote></div>

I'm the same way. It seems like if I tell some women that I have CF, they don't want to deal with it and they run away. However, the last woman I dated is now my best friend despite the fact that we are now living about 300 miles apart. She's been very understanding of me and it feels great to know that you can tell people that you have CF if you so choose. It's like a cloud of shame leaves you, at least for the time being. I feel the same way you felt about not being able to offer the things that a healthy person can. Sometimes I just don't want to burden anyone with the CF part of my life.

Could you send me a link to your blogs so I could read them please? It's very relieving that there are other people in the world who are in similar circumstances that I can relate to.

 

[Brian1986]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>bittyhorse23</b></i>

Hi



This is something I struggle with all the time. I used to wait a few weeks or even a month before saying anything. I wanted the guy to get to know ME before he found out about CF. Unfortunatley it never helped and I always ended up heartbroken. Well this last time I decided on our first date I would tell him and if he didn't want to keep seeing me then no big deal. Nothing lost. I got sick three days before our first date and ended up in the hospital. So I HAD to tell him and he has been by my side ever since. We are getting along GREAT and I couldn't be happier. I think it is a comfort level with you and him. It is alot to deal with but if they care about you and want to get to know you then it won't matter. Everyone used to tell me this all the time. I would just laugh and say whatever. But with Pat, he proved to me that it is true. Sorry if it sounds like I am gushing about him but I know where you are coming from and how depressed I felt that no one would ever want me, since I was not a whole person and can't offer all the things a healthy person can.



I have a few blogs written about this subject if you want to check them out. Also feel free to PM me <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">



Dating sucks and then we get to add CF into the mix...oh joy oh bliss!</end quote></div>

I'm the same way. It seems like if I tell some women that I have CF, they don't want to deal with it and they run away. However, the last woman I dated is now my best friend despite the fact that we are now living about 300 miles apart. She's been very understanding of me and it feels great to know that you can tell people that you have CF if you so choose. It's like a cloud of shame leaves you, at least for the time being. I feel the same way you felt about not being able to offer the things that a healthy person can. Sometimes I just don't want to burden anyone with the CF part of my life.

Could you send me a link to your blogs so I could read them please? It's very relieving that there are other people in the world who are in similar circumstances that I can relate to.

 

[Brian1986]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>bittyhorse23</b></i>

Hi



This is something I struggle with all the time. I used to wait a few weeks or even a month before saying anything. I wanted the guy to get to know ME before he found out about CF. Unfortunatley it never helped and I always ended up heartbroken. Well this last time I decided on our first date I would tell him and if he didn't want to keep seeing me then no big deal. Nothing lost. I got sick three days before our first date and ended up in the hospital. So I HAD to tell him and he has been by my side ever since. We are getting along GREAT and I couldn't be happier. I think it is a comfort level with you and him. It is alot to deal with but if they care about you and want to get to know you then it won't matter. Everyone used to tell me this all the time. I would just laugh and say whatever. But with Pat, he proved to me that it is true. Sorry if it sounds like I am gushing about him but I know where you are coming from and how depressed I felt that no one would ever want me, since I was not a whole person and can't offer all the things a healthy person can.



I have a few blogs written about this subject if you want to check them out. Also feel free to PM me <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">



Dating sucks and then we get to add CF into the mix...oh joy oh bliss!</end quote></div>

I'm the same way. It seems like if I tell some women that I have CF, they don't want to deal with it and they run away. However, the last woman I dated is now my best friend despite the fact that we are now living about 300 miles apart. She's been very understanding of me and it feels great to know that you can tell people that you have CF if you so choose. It's like a cloud of shame leaves you, at least for the time being. I feel the same way you felt about not being able to offer the things that a healthy person can. Sometimes I just don't want to burden anyone with the CF part of my life.

Could you send me a link to your blogs so I could read them please? It's very relieving that there are other people in the world who are in similar circumstances that I can relate to.

 

[Brian1986]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>bittyhorse23</b></i>

Hi



This is something I struggle with all the time. I used to wait a few weeks or even a month before saying anything. I wanted the guy to get to know ME before he found out about CF. Unfortunatley it never helped and I always ended up heartbroken. Well this last time I decided on our first date I would tell him and if he didn't want to keep seeing me then no big deal. Nothing lost. I got sick three days before our first date and ended up in the hospital. So I HAD to tell him and he has been by my side ever since. We are getting along GREAT and I couldn't be happier. I think it is a comfort level with you and him. It is alot to deal with but if they care about you and want to get to know you then it won't matter. Everyone used to tell me this all the time. I would just laugh and say whatever. But with Pat, he proved to me that it is true. Sorry if it sounds like I am gushing about him but I know where you are coming from and how depressed I felt that no one would ever want me, since I was not a whole person and can't offer all the things a healthy person can.



I have a few blogs written about this subject if you want to check them out. Also feel free to PM me <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">



Dating sucks and then we get to add CF into the mix...oh joy oh bliss!</end quote>

I'm the same way. It seems like if I tell some women that I have CF, they don't want to deal with it and they run away. However, the last woman I dated is now my best friend despite the fact that we are now living about 300 miles apart. She's been very understanding of me and it feels great to know that you can tell people that you have CF if you so choose. It's like a cloud of shame leaves you, at least for the time being. I feel the same way you felt about not being able to offer the things that a healthy person can. Sometimes I just don't want to burden anyone with the CF part of my life.

Could you send me a link to your blogs so I could read them please? It's very relieving that there are other people in the world who are in similar circumstances that I can relate to.

 

[Brian1986]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>bittyhorse23</b></i>

Hi



This is something I struggle with all the time. I used to wait a few weeks or even a month before saying anything. I wanted the guy to get to know ME before he found out about CF. Unfortunatley it never helped and I always ended up heartbroken. Well this last time I decided on our first date I would tell him and if he didn't want to keep seeing me then no big deal. Nothing lost. I got sick three days before our first date and ended up in the hospital. So I HAD to tell him and he has been by my side ever since. We are getting along GREAT and I couldn't be happier. I think it is a comfort level with you and him. It is alot to deal with but if they care about you and want to get to know you then it won't matter. Everyone used to tell me this all the time. I would just laugh and say whatever. But with Pat, he proved to me that it is true. Sorry if it sounds like I am gushing about him but I know where you are coming from and how depressed I felt that no one would ever want me, since I was not a whole person and can't offer all the things a healthy person can.



I have a few blogs written about this subject if you want to check them out. Also feel free to PM me <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">



Dating sucks and then we get to add CF into the mix...oh joy oh bliss!</end quote>

I'm the same way. It seems like if I tell some women that I have CF, they don't want to deal with it and they run away. However, the last woman I dated is now my best friend despite the fact that we are now living about 300 miles apart. She's been very understanding of me and it feels great to know that you can tell people that you have CF if you so choose. It's like a cloud of shame leaves you, at least for the time being. I feel the same way you felt about not being able to offer the things that a healthy person can. Sometimes I just don't want to burden anyone with the CF part of my life.

Could you send me a link to your blogs so I could read them please? It's very relieving that there are other people in the world who are in similar circumstances that I can relate to.