Something to get off my chest...

[jennastroitzel]

There have been some interesting points made here and they have made me, for one, think a little deeper about the issue. Seana I really don't feel anyone is directing this at you or putting you or anyone else down - that's not the way I read it anyway. Unfortunately (depending on how you look at it!) I cannot understand first hand what you CF parents go through as we are unable to have children, but I do know that if we did have, we would raise them with the best intentions and belief that everything we do improves their long term health and happiness - as I am sure you will be doing. I feel the point of this post was to suggest that there is a balance between independence and wrapping kids up in cotton wool. I think its a delicate balance though and how you achieve this is obviously very personal to you. Good health to all <img src="">

 

[jennastroitzel]

There have been some interesting points made here and they have made me, for one, think a little deeper about the issue. Seana I really don't feel anyone is directing this at you or putting you or anyone else down - that's not the way I read it anyway. Unfortunately (depending on how you look at it!) I cannot understand first hand what you CF parents go through as we are unable to have children, but I do know that if we did have, we would raise them with the best intentions and belief that everything we do improves their long term health and happiness - as I am sure you will be doing. I feel the point of this post was to suggest that there is a balance between independence and wrapping kids up in cotton wool. I think its a delicate balance though and how you achieve this is obviously very personal to you. Good health to all <img src="">

 

[jennastroitzel]

There have been some interesting points made here and they have made me, for one, think a little deeper about the issue. Seana I really don't feel anyone is directing this at you or putting you or anyone else down - that's not the way I read it anyway. Unfortunately (depending on how you look at it!) I cannot understand first hand what you CF parents go through as we are unable to have children, but I do know that if we did have, we would raise them with the best intentions and belief that everything we do improves their long term health and happiness - as I am sure you will be doing. I feel the point of this post was to suggest that there is a balance between independence and wrapping kids up in cotton wool. I think its a delicate balance though and how you achieve this is obviously very personal to you. Good health to all <img src="">

 

[jennastroitzel]

There have been some interesting points made here and they have made me, for one, think a little deeper about the issue. Seana I really don't feel anyone is directing this at you or putting you or anyone else down - that's not the way I read it anyway. Unfortunately (depending on how you look at it!) I cannot understand first hand what you CF parents go through as we are unable to have children, but I do know that if we did have, we would raise them with the best intentions and belief that everything we do improves their long term health and happiness - as I am sure you will be doing. I feel the point of this post was to suggest that there is a balance between independence and wrapping kids up in cotton wool. I think its a delicate balance though and how you achieve this is obviously very personal to you. Good health to all <img src="">

 

[jennastroitzel]

There have been some interesting points made here and they have made me, for one, think a little deeper about the issue. Seana I really don't feel anyone is directing this at you or putting you or anyone else down - that's not the way I read it anyway. Unfortunately (depending on how you look at it!) I cannot understand first hand what you CF parents go through as we are unable to have children, but I do know that if we did have, we would raise them with the best intentions and belief that everything we do improves their long term health and happiness - as I am sure you will be doing. I feel the point of this post was to suggest that there is a balance between independence and wrapping kids up in cotton wool. I think its a delicate balance though and how you achieve this is obviously very personal to you. Good health to all <img src="">

 

[Seana30]

jenna,

I do not feel the post was directed at me at all. I was just stating how I feel. I don't like that the original poster would put down ANY parent from this site.

My point was:

Do parents of CFers make mistakes......YOU BET, but the nice thing about coming to this site is to get advice, not be put down.

Take care!

Seana

 

[Seana30]

jenna,

I do not feel the post was directed at me at all. I was just stating how I feel. I don't like that the original poster would put down ANY parent from this site.

My point was:

Do parents of CFers make mistakes......YOU BET, but the nice thing about coming to this site is to get advice, not be put down.

Take care!

Seana

 

[Seana30]

jenna,

I do not feel the post was directed at me at all. I was just stating how I feel. I don't like that the original poster would put down ANY parent from this site.

My point was:

Do parents of CFers make mistakes......YOU BET, but the nice thing about coming to this site is to get advice, not be put down.

Take care!

Seana

 

[Seana30]

jenna,

I do not feel the post was directed at me at all. I was just stating how I feel. I don't like that the original poster would put down ANY parent from this site.

My point was:

Do parents of CFers make mistakes......YOU BET, but the nice thing about coming to this site is to get advice, not be put down.

Take care!

Seana

 

[Seana30]

jenna,

I do not feel the post was directed at me at all. I was just stating how I feel. I don't like that the original poster would put down ANY parent from this site.

My point was:

Do parents of CFers make mistakes......YOU BET, but the nice thing about coming to this site is to get advice, not be put down.

Take care!

Seana

 

[lilismom]

I think our culture in general is too protective of kids. When I was 5+ we ran all over the neighborhood for hours without a parent for hours at a time. Now parents are so afraid of their kids getting abducted they don't want them out of their site. How are kids cf or not going to grow up to be independent if we are watching and controlling their every move.

I do find myself wanting to treat Lili differently at times, for instance when they are playing in a dirt pile. I bought them both gloves so she doesn't feel different. I need to let my children be kids and realize sometimes they'll get hurt in doing so.

We all want what is best for our children and we all do things differently. I think your points are valid Moses but a bit judgmental.

 

[lilismom]

I think our culture in general is too protective of kids. When I was 5+ we ran all over the neighborhood for hours without a parent for hours at a time. Now parents are so afraid of their kids getting abducted they don't want them out of their site. How are kids cf or not going to grow up to be independent if we are watching and controlling their every move.

I do find myself wanting to treat Lili differently at times, for instance when they are playing in a dirt pile. I bought them both gloves so she doesn't feel different. I need to let my children be kids and realize sometimes they'll get hurt in doing so.

We all want what is best for our children and we all do things differently. I think your points are valid Moses but a bit judgmental.

 

[lilismom]

I think our culture in general is too protective of kids. When I was 5+ we ran all over the neighborhood for hours without a parent for hours at a time. Now parents are so afraid of their kids getting abducted they don't want them out of their site. How are kids cf or not going to grow up to be independent if we are watching and controlling their every move.

I do find myself wanting to treat Lili differently at times, for instance when they are playing in a dirt pile. I bought them both gloves so she doesn't feel different. I need to let my children be kids and realize sometimes they'll get hurt in doing so.

We all want what is best for our children and we all do things differently. I think your points are valid Moses but a bit judgmental.

 

[lilismom]

I think our culture in general is too protective of kids. When I was 5+ we ran all over the neighborhood for hours without a parent for hours at a time. Now parents are so afraid of their kids getting abducted they don't want them out of their site. How are kids cf or not going to grow up to be independent if we are watching and controlling their every move.

I do find myself wanting to treat Lili differently at times, for instance when they are playing in a dirt pile. I bought them both gloves so she doesn't feel different. I need to let my children be kids and realize sometimes they'll get hurt in doing so.

We all want what is best for our children and we all do things differently. I think your points are valid Moses but a bit judgmental.

 

[lilismom]

I think our culture in general is too protective of kids. When I was 5+ we ran all over the neighborhood for hours without a parent for hours at a time. Now parents are so afraid of their kids getting abducted they don't want them out of their site. How are kids cf or not going to grow up to be independent if we are watching and controlling their every move.

I do find myself wanting to treat Lili differently at times, for instance when they are playing in a dirt pile. I bought them both gloves so she doesn't feel different. I need to let my children be kids and realize sometimes they'll get hurt in doing so.

We all want what is best for our children and we all do things differently. I think your points are valid Moses but a bit judgmental.

 

[Ratatosk]

I too draw the line at hot tubs. We used to have one and I KNOW how incredibly difficult it is to keep clean and how lax one can become with maintenance. We got rid of it before DS was born, before we even knew about CF because we weren't using it and also reading an article about how filthy those things can get.

DS pretty much does all the things children his age do, if not more. I've been criticised on this site for sending him to preschool/daycare. If his local doctor had his way, he wouldn't be allowed to go their either --- I think he actually told me to quit my job or hire a nanny. Also didn't support our decision to put DS in swimming lessons. Nor was he thrilled about vacation trips to the mountains, lakes country or mexico.

DS goes to swimming lessons, gymnastics, walks with me... He goes on field trips with his classmates to the fair, rodeo, zoo... Comes home FILTHY in the summers from playing in the playground. We want him to have a normal life, do normal things. Stay off the grass?! Heck he ATE some this summer!

Is he spoiled? Probably. However, we don't let him get away with rude behavior. We teach him good manners.

Right now he wants to be a spaceman when he grows up. Am I going to be cruel and heartless and tell him what the reality is? No, he's only 4. Besides, last week after attending a rodeo, he wanted to be a rodeo clown <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[Ratatosk]

I too draw the line at hot tubs. We used to have one and I KNOW how incredibly difficult it is to keep clean and how lax one can become with maintenance. We got rid of it before DS was born, before we even knew about CF because we weren't using it and also reading an article about how filthy those things can get.

DS pretty much does all the things children his age do, if not more. I've been criticised on this site for sending him to preschool/daycare. If his local doctor had his way, he wouldn't be allowed to go their either --- I think he actually told me to quit my job or hire a nanny. Also didn't support our decision to put DS in swimming lessons. Nor was he thrilled about vacation trips to the mountains, lakes country or mexico.

DS goes to swimming lessons, gymnastics, walks with me... He goes on field trips with his classmates to the fair, rodeo, zoo... Comes home FILTHY in the summers from playing in the playground. We want him to have a normal life, do normal things. Stay off the grass?! Heck he ATE some this summer!

Is he spoiled? Probably. However, we don't let him get away with rude behavior. We teach him good manners.

Right now he wants to be a spaceman when he grows up. Am I going to be cruel and heartless and tell him what the reality is? No, he's only 4. Besides, last week after attending a rodeo, he wanted to be a rodeo clown <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[Ratatosk]

I too draw the line at hot tubs. We used to have one and I KNOW how incredibly difficult it is to keep clean and how lax one can become with maintenance. We got rid of it before DS was born, before we even knew about CF because we weren't using it and also reading an article about how filthy those things can get.

DS pretty much does all the things children his age do, if not more. I've been criticised on this site for sending him to preschool/daycare. If his local doctor had his way, he wouldn't be allowed to go their either --- I think he actually told me to quit my job or hire a nanny. Also didn't support our decision to put DS in swimming lessons. Nor was he thrilled about vacation trips to the mountains, lakes country or mexico.

DS goes to swimming lessons, gymnastics, walks with me... He goes on field trips with his classmates to the fair, rodeo, zoo... Comes home FILTHY in the summers from playing in the playground. We want him to have a normal life, do normal things. Stay off the grass?! Heck he ATE some this summer!

Is he spoiled? Probably. However, we don't let him get away with rude behavior. We teach him good manners.

Right now he wants to be a spaceman when he grows up. Am I going to be cruel and heartless and tell him what the reality is? No, he's only 4. Besides, last week after attending a rodeo, he wanted to be a rodeo clown <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[Ratatosk]

I too draw the line at hot tubs. We used to have one and I KNOW how incredibly difficult it is to keep clean and how lax one can become with maintenance. We got rid of it before DS was born, before we even knew about CF because we weren't using it and also reading an article about how filthy those things can get.

DS pretty much does all the things children his age do, if not more. I've been criticised on this site for sending him to preschool/daycare. If his local doctor had his way, he wouldn't be allowed to go their either --- I think he actually told me to quit my job or hire a nanny. Also didn't support our decision to put DS in swimming lessons. Nor was he thrilled about vacation trips to the mountains, lakes country or mexico.

DS goes to swimming lessons, gymnastics, walks with me... He goes on field trips with his classmates to the fair, rodeo, zoo... Comes home FILTHY in the summers from playing in the playground. We want him to have a normal life, do normal things. Stay off the grass?! Heck he ATE some this summer!

Is he spoiled? Probably. However, we don't let him get away with rude behavior. We teach him good manners.

Right now he wants to be a spaceman when he grows up. Am I going to be cruel and heartless and tell him what the reality is? No, he's only 4. Besides, last week after attending a rodeo, he wanted to be a rodeo clown <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[Ratatosk]

I too draw the line at hot tubs. We used to have one and I KNOW how incredibly difficult it is to keep clean and how lax one can become with maintenance. We got rid of it before DS was born, before we even knew about CF because we weren't using it and also reading an article about how filthy those things can get.

DS pretty much does all the things children his age do, if not more. I've been criticised on this site for sending him to preschool/daycare. If his local doctor had his way, he wouldn't be allowed to go their either --- I think he actually told me to quit my job or hire a nanny. Also didn't support our decision to put DS in swimming lessons. Nor was he thrilled about vacation trips to the mountains, lakes country or mexico.

DS goes to swimming lessons, gymnastics, walks with me... He goes on field trips with his classmates to the fair, rodeo, zoo... Comes home FILTHY in the summers from playing in the playground. We want him to have a normal life, do normal things. Stay off the grass?! Heck he ATE some this summer!

Is he spoiled? Probably. However, we don't let him get away with rude behavior. We teach him good manners.

Right now he wants to be a spaceman when he grows up. Am I going to be cruel and heartless and tell him what the reality is? No, he's only 4. Besides, last week after attending a rodeo, he wanted to be a rodeo clown <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">