They just don't get it...

Cherylwithone · Jun 25, 2008

WOW! I would say she is clueless. You tried to make it right...grandma got pissed at you. You now have a daughter with cf. They need to deal with their owen issues and just leave it alone. I am the type of person I would just tell her grow up and get a life. I get crap from people because I don't date...Single mom here. THere is no time. After working 40 hours and doing everything that needs to be done for my daughter I just want to sleep. People don't get what life is like in a house with cf. It is another world. Your number one goal in life is to make your childs life as easy as it can be with cf. Your a mom and your doing right by your daughter. Your niece can just piss off. That is reality.

Cheryl mom to Malora 15 w/cf

Cherylwithone · Jun 25, 2008

WOW! I would say she is clueless. You tried to make it right...grandma got pissed at you. You now have a daughter with cf. They need to deal with their owen issues and just leave it alone. I am the type of person I would just tell her grow up and get a life. I get crap from people because I don't date...Single mom here. THere is no time. After working 40 hours and doing everything that needs to be done for my daughter I just want to sleep. People don't get what life is like in a house with cf. It is another world. Your number one goal in life is to make your childs life as easy as it can be with cf. Your a mom and your doing right by your daughter. Your niece can just piss off. That is reality.

Cheryl mom to Malora 15 w/cf

Cherylwithone · Jun 25, 2008

WOW! I would say she is clueless. You tried to make it right...grandma got pissed at you. You now have a daughter with cf. They need to deal with their owen issues and just leave it alone. I am the type of person I would just tell her grow up and get a life. I get crap from people because I don't date...Single mom here. THere is no time. After working 40 hours and doing everything that needs to be done for my daughter I just want to sleep. People don't get what life is like in a house with cf. It is another world. Your number one goal in life is to make your childs life as easy as it can be with cf. Your a mom and your doing right by your daughter. Your niece can just piss off. That is reality.

Cheryl mom to Malora 15 w/cf

Cherylwithone · Jun 25, 2008

WOW! I would say she is clueless. You tried to make it right...grandma got pissed at you. You now have a daughter with cf. They need to deal with their owen issues and just leave it alone. I am the type of person I would just tell her grow up and get a life. I get crap from people because I don't date...Single mom here. THere is no time. After working 40 hours and doing everything that needs to be done for my daughter I just want to sleep. People don't get what life is like in a house with cf. It is another world. Your number one goal in life is to make your childs life as easy as it can be with cf. Your a mom and your doing right by your daughter. Your niece can just piss off. That is reality.

Cheryl mom to Malora 15 w/cf

Cherylwithone · Jun 25, 2008

WOW! I would say she is clueless. You tried to make it right...grandma got pissed at you. You now have a daughter with cf. They need to deal with their owen issues and just leave it alone. I am the type of person I would just tell her grow up and get a life. I get crap from people because I don't date...Single mom here. THere is no time. After working 40 hours and doing everything that needs to be done for my daughter I just want to sleep. People don't get what life is like in a house with cf. It is another world. Your number one goal in life is to make your childs life as easy as it can be with cf. Your a mom and your doing right by your daughter. Your niece can just piss off. That is reality.
 
 Cheryl mom to Malora 15 w/cf

Daddy2Noah · Jun 25, 2008

I think you're doing the right thing. Just try not to let them hurt you with their own take on it all.

I feel it's just as important to surround yourself and your baby with loving, caring, gentle and amazing people as it is to continue the great, proactive healthcare that you've been providing her.

Nobody but you will know when the time is right to visit your Grandmother with your baby. It's exactyl like you said, you'll do it when it right for you... not when it's right for someone else... and their really couldn't be a better way to go about something like this.

I don't think you have anything to feel sorry for or to feel bad about. You're doing more than most people will ever understand. That's what is so great about these boards... we understand... we're all in this together.

Daddy2Noah · Jun 25, 2008

I think you're doing the right thing. Just try not to let them hurt you with their own take on it all.

I feel it's just as important to surround yourself and your baby with loving, caring, gentle and amazing people as it is to continue the great, proactive healthcare that you've been providing her.

Nobody but you will know when the time is right to visit your Grandmother with your baby. It's exactyl like you said, you'll do it when it right for you... not when it's right for someone else... and their really couldn't be a better way to go about something like this.

I don't think you have anything to feel sorry for or to feel bad about. You're doing more than most people will ever understand. That's what is so great about these boards... we understand... we're all in this together.

Daddy2Noah · Jun 25, 2008

I think you're doing the right thing. Just try not to let them hurt you with their own take on it all.

I feel it's just as important to surround yourself and your baby with loving, caring, gentle and amazing people as it is to continue the great, proactive healthcare that you've been providing her.

Nobody but you will know when the time is right to visit your Grandmother with your baby. It's exactyl like you said, you'll do it when it right for you... not when it's right for someone else... and their really couldn't be a better way to go about something like this.

I don't think you have anything to feel sorry for or to feel bad about. You're doing more than most people will ever understand. That's what is so great about these boards... we understand... we're all in this together.

Daddy2Noah · Jun 25, 2008

I think you're doing the right thing. Just try not to let them hurt you with their own take on it all.

I feel it's just as important to surround yourself and your baby with loving, caring, gentle and amazing people as it is to continue the great, proactive healthcare that you've been providing her.

Nobody but you will know when the time is right to visit your Grandmother with your baby. It's exactyl like you said, you'll do it when it right for you... not when it's right for someone else... and their really couldn't be a better way to go about something like this.

I don't think you have anything to feel sorry for or to feel bad about. You're doing more than most people will ever understand. That's what is so great about these boards... we understand... we're all in this together.

Daddy2Noah · Jun 25, 2008

I think you're doing the right thing. Just try not to let them hurt you with their own take on it all.
 
 I feel it's just as important to surround yourself and your baby with loving, caring, gentle and amazing people as it is to continue the great, proactive healthcare that you've been providing her.
 
 Nobody but you will know when the time is right to visit your Grandmother with your baby. It's exactyl like you said, you'll do it when it right for you... not when it's right for someone else... and their really couldn't be a better way to go about something like this.
 
 I don't think you have anything to feel sorry for or to feel bad about. You're doing more than most people will ever understand. That's what is so great about these boards... we understand... we're all in this together.

ReneeP · Jun 26, 2008

I think it it were me I'd send her a check and tell her that's payment in full... I understand that she wants the family to heal their relationships, but you can only make those decisions for yourself,not for someone else.

I feel guilty all the time because I hardly ever see or talk to any of my family. Granted I live 1500 miles away from all my family but even still, I will start thinking that I should call my dad or sister or brothers and I'll realize I haven't even spoken to them in 4 or 5 months... Life just goes by... I love them, I'm not angry or upset... just too darn busy.

ReneeP · Jun 26, 2008

I think it it were me I'd send her a check and tell her that's payment in full... I understand that she wants the family to heal their relationships, but you can only make those decisions for yourself,not for someone else.

I feel guilty all the time because I hardly ever see or talk to any of my family. Granted I live 1500 miles away from all my family but even still, I will start thinking that I should call my dad or sister or brothers and I'll realize I haven't even spoken to them in 4 or 5 months... Life just goes by... I love them, I'm not angry or upset... just too darn busy.

ReneeP · Jun 26, 2008

I think it it were me I'd send her a check and tell her that's payment in full... I understand that she wants the family to heal their relationships, but you can only make those decisions for yourself,not for someone else.

I feel guilty all the time because I hardly ever see or talk to any of my family. Granted I live 1500 miles away from all my family but even still, I will start thinking that I should call my dad or sister or brothers and I'll realize I haven't even spoken to them in 4 or 5 months... Life just goes by... I love them, I'm not angry or upset... just too darn busy.

ReneeP · Jun 26, 2008

I think it it were me I'd send her a check and tell her that's payment in full... I understand that she wants the family to heal their relationships, but you can only make those decisions for yourself,not for someone else.

I feel guilty all the time because I hardly ever see or talk to any of my family. Granted I live 1500 miles away from all my family but even still, I will start thinking that I should call my dad or sister or brothers and I'll realize I haven't even spoken to them in 4 or 5 months... Life just goes by... I love them, I'm not angry or upset... just too darn busy.

ReneeP · Jun 26, 2008

I think it it were me I'd send her a check and tell her that's payment in full... I understand that she wants the family to heal their relationships, but you can only make those decisions for yourself,not for someone else.
 
 I feel guilty all the time because I hardly ever see or talk to any of my family. Granted I live 1500 miles away from all my family but even still, I will start thinking that I should call my dad or sister or brothers and I'll realize I haven't even spoken to them in 4 or 5 months... Life just goes by... I love them, I'm not angry or upset... just too darn busy.

miesl · Jun 26, 2008

Here is an important message I was blessed to grow up understanding. Family is not about blood, it's about love. It's not worth spending (wasting) time with someone who doesn't care about you or your family. As you well know - we aren't granted unlimited time here - why spend it feeling obligated to visit someone who doesn't deserve to be your family?

I never met my father's parents and 2 of his siblings. They weren't the kind of people my parents wanted to have anything to do with (some were just toxic, others abusive). I grew up with "grandparents" - my father's best friend's (my "uncle") parents. I have no blood ties to them - but they are family. J's step-mother is the same. She's not married to J's father anymore, but she will always be family to us.

Just being related by blood doesn't give you a right to always be included in someone's life. It's just a starting point. One can make it work and be a wonderful addition to your family, they can simply be relatives or, they can screw it all up. If that person was just your friend, you would have no hesitation in never speaking to them again - why should it be different with family?

miesl · Jun 26, 2008

Here is an important message I was blessed to grow up understanding. Family is not about blood, it's about love. It's not worth spending (wasting) time with someone who doesn't care about you or your family. As you well know - we aren't granted unlimited time here - why spend it feeling obligated to visit someone who doesn't deserve to be your family?

I never met my father's parents and 2 of his siblings. They weren't the kind of people my parents wanted to have anything to do with (some were just toxic, others abusive). I grew up with "grandparents" - my father's best friend's (my "uncle") parents. I have no blood ties to them - but they are family. J's step-mother is the same. She's not married to J's father anymore, but she will always be family to us.

Just being related by blood doesn't give you a right to always be included in someone's life. It's just a starting point. One can make it work and be a wonderful addition to your family, they can simply be relatives or, they can screw it all up. If that person was just your friend, you would have no hesitation in never speaking to them again - why should it be different with family?

miesl · Jun 26, 2008

Here is an important message I was blessed to grow up understanding. Family is not about blood, it's about love. It's not worth spending (wasting) time with someone who doesn't care about you or your family. As you well know - we aren't granted unlimited time here - why spend it feeling obligated to visit someone who doesn't deserve to be your family?

I never met my father's parents and 2 of his siblings. They weren't the kind of people my parents wanted to have anything to do with (some were just toxic, others abusive). I grew up with "grandparents" - my father's best friend's (my "uncle") parents. I have no blood ties to them - but they are family. J's step-mother is the same. She's not married to J's father anymore, but she will always be family to us.

Just being related by blood doesn't give you a right to always be included in someone's life. It's just a starting point. One can make it work and be a wonderful addition to your family, they can simply be relatives or, they can screw it all up. If that person was just your friend, you would have no hesitation in never speaking to them again - why should it be different with family?

miesl · Jun 26, 2008

Here is an important message I was blessed to grow up understanding. Family is not about blood, it's about love. It's not worth spending (wasting) time with someone who doesn't care about you or your family. As you well know - we aren't granted unlimited time here - why spend it feeling obligated to visit someone who doesn't deserve to be your family?

I never met my father's parents and 2 of his siblings. They weren't the kind of people my parents wanted to have anything to do with (some were just toxic, others abusive). I grew up with "grandparents" - my father's best friend's (my "uncle") parents. I have no blood ties to them - but they are family. J's step-mother is the same. She's not married to J's father anymore, but she will always be family to us.

Just being related by blood doesn't give you a right to always be included in someone's life. It's just a starting point. One can make it work and be a wonderful addition to your family, they can simply be relatives or, they can screw it all up. If that person was just your friend, you would have no hesitation in never speaking to them again - why should it be different with family?

miesl · Jun 26, 2008

Here is an important message I was blessed to grow up understanding. Family is not about blood, it's about love. It's not worth spending (wasting) time with someone who doesn't care about you or your family. As you well know - we aren't granted unlimited time here - why spend it feeling obligated to visit someone who doesn't deserve to be your family?
 
 I never met my father's parents and 2 of his siblings. They weren't the kind of people my parents wanted to have anything to do with (some were just toxic, others abusive). I grew up with "grandparents" - my father's best friend's (my "uncle") parents. I have no blood ties to them - but they are family. J's step-mother is the same. She's not married to J's father anymore, but she will always be family to us.
 
 Just being related by blood doesn't give you a right to always be included in someone's life. It's just a starting point. One can make it work and be a wonderful addition to your family, they can simply be relatives or, they can screw it all up. If that person was just your friend, you would have no hesitation in never speaking to them again - why should it be different with family?

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