wedding ?

JazzysMom · Dec 29, 2008

I have had 2 weddings/marriages. Completely different in every way

My first one was HUGE. Over 500 guests with 5 bridesmaids etc. It didnt cost "much" considering the size because our guests contributed to the food instead of buying gifts. But we had 2 bands & the bar plus the meat we paid for & Bridesmaids dresses etc. We had a civil ceremony.

Now my second marriage which is to my daughters Daddy was quiet, quick, cheap & at my Moms house. No formal invitations sent, just phone calls with 2 weeks notice. My outfit was a fairly inexpensive suit which I have wore many times since & food was the basics supplied by my Mom. We were wed by a Minister. This time around that was important to me for some reason.

The first one was a total party, but the 2nd one was much more meaningful & about the marriage itself.

It costs a bloody fortune for weddings unless you can be unique, resourceful & do much yourself. My BFF from high school was able to get away cheaply with a GORGIOUS & unique wedding, but she busted her butt to find the deals & do the work.

Remember that the wedding will come & go,but the marriage is meant to last!

BTW first marriage lasted 5 years....relationship totalled 8 years. Current marriage will be 10 years on New Years Eve & total relationship is over 12 years.

JazzysMom · Dec 29, 2008

I have had 2 weddings/marriages. Completely different in every way

My first one was HUGE. Over 500 guests with 5 bridesmaids etc. It didnt cost "much" considering the size because our guests contributed to the food instead of buying gifts. But we had 2 bands & the bar plus the meat we paid for & Bridesmaids dresses etc. We had a civil ceremony.

Now my second marriage which is to my daughters Daddy was quiet, quick, cheap & at my Moms house. No formal invitations sent, just phone calls with 2 weeks notice. My outfit was a fairly inexpensive suit which I have wore many times since & food was the basics supplied by my Mom. We were wed by a Minister. This time around that was important to me for some reason.

The first one was a total party, but the 2nd one was much more meaningful & about the marriage itself.

It costs a bloody fortune for weddings unless you can be unique, resourceful & do much yourself. My BFF from high school was able to get away cheaply with a GORGIOUS & unique wedding, but she busted her butt to find the deals & do the work.

Remember that the wedding will come & go,but the marriage is meant to last!

BTW first marriage lasted 5 years....relationship totalled 8 years. Current marriage will be 10 years on New Years Eve & total relationship is over 12 years.

JazzysMom · Dec 29, 2008

I have had 2 weddings/marriages. Completely different in every way

My first one was HUGE. Over 500 guests with 5 bridesmaids etc. It didnt cost "much" considering the size because our guests contributed to the food instead of buying gifts. But we had 2 bands & the bar plus the meat we paid for & Bridesmaids dresses etc. We had a civil ceremony.

Now my second marriage which is to my daughters Daddy was quiet, quick, cheap & at my Moms house. No formal invitations sent, just phone calls with 2 weeks notice. My outfit was a fairly inexpensive suit which I have wore many times since & food was the basics supplied by my Mom. We were wed by a Minister. This time around that was important to me for some reason.

The first one was a total party, but the 2nd one was much more meaningful & about the marriage itself.

It costs a bloody fortune for weddings unless you can be unique, resourceful & do much yourself. My BFF from high school was able to get away cheaply with a GORGIOUS & unique wedding, but she busted her butt to find the deals & do the work.

Remember that the wedding will come & go,but the marriage is meant to last!

BTW first marriage lasted 5 years....relationship totalled 8 years. Current marriage will be 10 years on New Years Eve & total relationship is over 12 years.

JazzysMom · Dec 29, 2008

I have had 2 weddings/marriages. Completely different in every way

My first one was HUGE. Over 500 guests with 5 bridesmaids etc. It didnt cost "much" considering the size because our guests contributed to the food instead of buying gifts. But we had 2 bands & the bar plus the meat we paid for & Bridesmaids dresses etc. We had a civil ceremony.

Now my second marriage which is to my daughters Daddy was quiet, quick, cheap & at my Moms house. No formal invitations sent, just phone calls with 2 weeks notice. My outfit was a fairly inexpensive suit which I have wore many times since & food was the basics supplied by my Mom. We were wed by a Minister. This time around that was important to me for some reason.

The first one was a total party, but the 2nd one was much more meaningful & about the marriage itself.

It costs a bloody fortune for weddings unless you can be unique, resourceful & do much yourself. My BFF from high school was able to get away cheaply with a GORGIOUS & unique wedding, but she busted her butt to find the deals & do the work.

Remember that the wedding will come & go,but the marriage is meant to last!

BTW first marriage lasted 5 years....relationship totalled 8 years. Current marriage will be 10 years on New Years Eve & total relationship is over 12 years.

JazzysMom · Dec 29, 2008

I have had 2 weddings/marriages. Completely different in every way
 
 My first one was HUGE. Over 500 guests with 5 bridesmaids etc. It didnt cost "much" considering the size because our guests contributed to the food instead of buying gifts. But we had 2 bands & the bar plus the meat we paid for & Bridesmaids dresses etc. We had a civil ceremony.
 
 
 Now my second marriage which is to my daughters Daddy was quiet, quick, cheap & at my Moms house. No formal invitations sent, just phone calls with 2 weeks notice. My outfit was a fairly inexpensive suit which I have wore many times since & food was the basics supplied by my Mom. We were wed by a Minister. This time around that was important to me for some reason.
 
 The first one was a total party, but the 2nd one was much more meaningful & about the marriage itself.
 
 It costs a bloody fortune for weddings unless you can be unique, resourceful & do much yourself. My BFF from high school was able to get away cheaply with a GORGIOUS & unique wedding, but she busted her butt to find the deals & do the work.
 
 Remember that the wedding will come & go,but the marriage is meant to last!
 
 BTW first marriage lasted 5 years....relationship totalled 8 years. Current marriage will be 10 years on New Years Eve & total relationship is over 12 years.

pnhuffman · Dec 29, 2008

I am not a cf'er but when i got married we really didn't even discuss a Wedding ceremony. I just never cared having one. I am not into having all the attention focused on me. We just decided one day to go to the court house.

The first date we picked I could not get off of work. so we picked a different date. We didn't tell anyone. But when we got to the court house we found out we needed witnesses. So we stopped by me dads work (he was the boss) and asked if he could come to the court house with us and he asked what for and we told him. LOL! We asked if my brother was at work but he was out mowing somewhere so we asked my uncle to come along.

So my Daddy and My uncle were our witnesses. And actually that means more to me than a wedding. My father passed away about 10 years ago.

We will be married 23 years in April.

I too like you can not fathom spending that much money on one day. But to each his own. I also would rather take the money and put down on a house or something else.

I wish you the best in whatever you decide.

pnhuffman · Dec 29, 2008

I am not a cf'er but when i got married we really didn't even discuss a Wedding ceremony. I just never cared having one. I am not into having all the attention focused on me. We just decided one day to go to the court house.

The first date we picked I could not get off of work. so we picked a different date. We didn't tell anyone. But when we got to the court house we found out we needed witnesses. So we stopped by me dads work (he was the boss) and asked if he could come to the court house with us and he asked what for and we told him. LOL! We asked if my brother was at work but he was out mowing somewhere so we asked my uncle to come along.

So my Daddy and My uncle were our witnesses. And actually that means more to me than a wedding. My father passed away about 10 years ago.

We will be married 23 years in April.

I too like you can not fathom spending that much money on one day. But to each his own. I also would rather take the money and put down on a house or something else.

I wish you the best in whatever you decide.

pnhuffman · Dec 29, 2008

I am not a cf'er but when i got married we really didn't even discuss a Wedding ceremony. I just never cared having one. I am not into having all the attention focused on me. We just decided one day to go to the court house.

The first date we picked I could not get off of work. so we picked a different date. We didn't tell anyone. But when we got to the court house we found out we needed witnesses. So we stopped by me dads work (he was the boss) and asked if he could come to the court house with us and he asked what for and we told him. LOL! We asked if my brother was at work but he was out mowing somewhere so we asked my uncle to come along.

So my Daddy and My uncle were our witnesses. And actually that means more to me than a wedding. My father passed away about 10 years ago.

We will be married 23 years in April.

I too like you can not fathom spending that much money on one day. But to each his own. I also would rather take the money and put down on a house or something else.

I wish you the best in whatever you decide.

pnhuffman · Dec 29, 2008

I am not a cf'er but when i got married we really didn't even discuss a Wedding ceremony. I just never cared having one. I am not into having all the attention focused on me. We just decided one day to go to the court house.

The first date we picked I could not get off of work. so we picked a different date. We didn't tell anyone. But when we got to the court house we found out we needed witnesses. So we stopped by me dads work (he was the boss) and asked if he could come to the court house with us and he asked what for and we told him. LOL! We asked if my brother was at work but he was out mowing somewhere so we asked my uncle to come along.

So my Daddy and My uncle were our witnesses. And actually that means more to me than a wedding. My father passed away about 10 years ago.

We will be married 23 years in April.

I too like you can not fathom spending that much money on one day. But to each his own. I also would rather take the money and put down on a house or something else.

I wish you the best in whatever you decide.

pnhuffman · Dec 29, 2008

I am not a cf'er but when i got married we really didn't even discuss a Wedding ceremony. I just never cared having one. I am not into having all the attention focused on me. We just decided one day to go to the court house.
 
 The first date we picked I could not get off of work. so we picked a different date. We didn't tell anyone. But when we got to the court house we found out we needed witnesses. So we stopped by me dads work (he was the boss) and asked if he could come to the court house with us and he asked what for and we told him. LOL! We asked if my brother was at work but he was out mowing somewhere so we asked my uncle to come along.
 
 So my Daddy and My uncle were our witnesses. And actually that means more to me than a wedding. My father passed away about 10 years ago.
 
 We will be married 23 years in April.
 
 I too like you can not fathom spending that much money on one day. But to each his own. I also would rather take the money and put down on a house or something else.
 
 I wish you the best in whatever you decide.

debs2girls · Dec 29, 2008