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Abortions
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Ok, to be fair, I do think Amy was out of line in asking the question but...... I'm wondering if Amy wanted to know if Seana was considering aborting a CF child. (which <i><b>could</b></i> be relevent.) If that's the case, Amy, Seana has stated numerous times that her DD was not diagnosed until she was 10 or 11; therefore, CF wasn't a factor (and wouldn't be w/her youngest child either since her oldest child wasn't diagnosed when her youngest was born.) As far as why she wouldn't want to answer, think logically, Amy. Her family has access to this site. NO GOOD can come out of a child knowing the parent considered aborting him/her.
To the OP, I do NOT have CF and I have not had an abortion. I did consider one but not because of health. I was 18, in a commited relationship, away at college. I considered having the abortion in order to maitain my current lifestyle (college student). I chose not to have one and absolutely do not regret it and know I would have regretted it had I chosen the alternative. FWIW, I am now happily married to the father of that child and have 3 beautiful children 16, 8, & 6. That said, though, I don't know what I would do. I guess a lot depends on your PFTs and current health. If you care to share, I for one, would like to know your PFTs and any health info you care to share (that allows you to retain your anonymity). If you don't care to share, I fully understand and hope I haven't offended you. You are in a very tough position. No help except that you have to do what is right for <i><b>your family </b></i>regardless of what anyone else has to say. Good luck in your decision!
To the OP, I do NOT have CF and I have not had an abortion. I did consider one but not because of health. I was 18, in a commited relationship, away at college. I considered having the abortion in order to maitain my current lifestyle (college student). I chose not to have one and absolutely do not regret it and know I would have regretted it had I chosen the alternative. FWIW, I am now happily married to the father of that child and have 3 beautiful children 16, 8, & 6. That said, though, I don't know what I would do. I guess a lot depends on your PFTs and current health. If you care to share, I for one, would like to know your PFTs and any health info you care to share (that allows you to retain your anonymity). If you don't care to share, I fully understand and hope I haven't offended you. You are in a very tough position. No help except that you have to do what is right for <i><b>your family </b></i>regardless of what anyone else has to say. Good luck in your decision!
Ok, to be fair, I do think Amy was out of line in asking the question but...... I'm wondering if Amy wanted to know if Seana was considering aborting a CF child. (which <i><b>could</b></i> be relevent.) If that's the case, Amy, Seana has stated numerous times that her DD was not diagnosed until she was 10 or 11; therefore, CF wasn't a factor (and wouldn't be w/her youngest child either since her oldest child wasn't diagnosed when her youngest was born.) As far as why she wouldn't want to answer, think logically, Amy. Her family has access to this site. NO GOOD can come out of a child knowing the parent considered aborting him/her.
To the OP, I do NOT have CF and I have not had an abortion. I did consider one but not because of health. I was 18, in a commited relationship, away at college. I considered having the abortion in order to maitain my current lifestyle (college student). I chose not to have one and absolutely do not regret it and know I would have regretted it had I chosen the alternative. FWIW, I am now happily married to the father of that child and have 3 beautiful children 16, 8, & 6. That said, though, I don't know what I would do. I guess a lot depends on your PFTs and current health. If you care to share, I for one, would like to know your PFTs and any health info you care to share (that allows you to retain your anonymity). If you don't care to share, I fully understand and hope I haven't offended you. You are in a very tough position. No help except that you have to do what is right for <i><b>your family </b></i>regardless of what anyone else has to say. Good luck in your decision!
To the OP, I do NOT have CF and I have not had an abortion. I did consider one but not because of health. I was 18, in a commited relationship, away at college. I considered having the abortion in order to maitain my current lifestyle (college student). I chose not to have one and absolutely do not regret it and know I would have regretted it had I chosen the alternative. FWIW, I am now happily married to the father of that child and have 3 beautiful children 16, 8, & 6. That said, though, I don't know what I would do. I guess a lot depends on your PFTs and current health. If you care to share, I for one, would like to know your PFTs and any health info you care to share (that allows you to retain your anonymity). If you don't care to share, I fully understand and hope I haven't offended you. You are in a very tough position. No help except that you have to do what is right for <i><b>your family </b></i>regardless of what anyone else has to say. Good luck in your decision!
Ok, to be fair, I do think Amy was out of line in asking the question but...... I'm wondering if Amy wanted to know if Seana was considering aborting a CF child. (which <i><b>could</b></i> be relevent.) If that's the case, Amy, Seana has stated numerous times that her DD was not diagnosed until she was 10 or 11; therefore, CF wasn't a factor (and wouldn't be w/her youngest child either since her oldest child wasn't diagnosed when her youngest was born.) As far as why she wouldn't want to answer, think logically, Amy. Her family has access to this site. NO GOOD can come out of a child knowing the parent considered aborting him/her.
To the OP, I do NOT have CF and I have not had an abortion. I did consider one but not because of health. I was 18, in a commited relationship, away at college. I considered having the abortion in order to maitain my current lifestyle (college student). I chose not to have one and absolutely do not regret it and know I would have regretted it had I chosen the alternative. FWIW, I am now happily married to the father of that child and have 3 beautiful children 16, 8, & 6. That said, though, I don't know what I would do. I guess a lot depends on your PFTs and current health. If you care to share, I for one, would like to know your PFTs and any health info you care to share (that allows you to retain your anonymity). If you don't care to share, I fully understand and hope I haven't offended you. You are in a very tough position. No help except that you have to do what is right for <i><b>your family </b></i>regardless of what anyone else has to say. Good luck in your decision!
To the OP, I do NOT have CF and I have not had an abortion. I did consider one but not because of health. I was 18, in a commited relationship, away at college. I considered having the abortion in order to maitain my current lifestyle (college student). I chose not to have one and absolutely do not regret it and know I would have regretted it had I chosen the alternative. FWIW, I am now happily married to the father of that child and have 3 beautiful children 16, 8, & 6. That said, though, I don't know what I would do. I guess a lot depends on your PFTs and current health. If you care to share, I for one, would like to know your PFTs and any health info you care to share (that allows you to retain your anonymity). If you don't care to share, I fully understand and hope I haven't offended you. You are in a very tough position. No help except that you have to do what is right for <i><b>your family </b></i>regardless of what anyone else has to say. Good luck in your decision!
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Seana30</b></i>
Melissa,
I'm sorry you had to go through that at such a young age. As I read your post I pictured Lauren who is 15. Did your parents support you through it? I hope so. I hope your family was there to give you their love and support.
I have always told the girls if they get pregnant to come and talk to us about it. I want them to know that although we will not be happy about it, we will be there to support them 100% and help them make the best choice for them.
Seana</end quote></div>
Sadly during all this was when my Dad was bedridden inthe hospital after a massive stroke. Within the month of his dying is when I found out so I only had my Mom & my one sister who went with me to tell my Mom. I never told anyone else at the time.
AS TO THE ORIGINAL POSTER.....when I got pregnant with my daughter, Jazmine I never even thought of terminating. I wanted her & after 12 years of being lucky with no birth control I felt it was meant to be. My husband, However, wasnt as decisive. He wanted us to speak with my CF doctor before committing to this. Of course for me (emotionally anyway) I was already committed. I understood his view because he loved me, but the idea of terminating this time around made me want to vomit. It was a different time in my life & I knew in my heart that things would be OK or as OK as it gets with CF. If my health had been much worse I dont know if my mental outlook would have been as clear cut.
Melissa,
I'm sorry you had to go through that at such a young age. As I read your post I pictured Lauren who is 15. Did your parents support you through it? I hope so. I hope your family was there to give you their love and support.
I have always told the girls if they get pregnant to come and talk to us about it. I want them to know that although we will not be happy about it, we will be there to support them 100% and help them make the best choice for them.
Seana</end quote></div>
Sadly during all this was when my Dad was bedridden inthe hospital after a massive stroke. Within the month of his dying is when I found out so I only had my Mom & my one sister who went with me to tell my Mom. I never told anyone else at the time.
AS TO THE ORIGINAL POSTER.....when I got pregnant with my daughter, Jazmine I never even thought of terminating. I wanted her & after 12 years of being lucky with no birth control I felt it was meant to be. My husband, However, wasnt as decisive. He wanted us to speak with my CF doctor before committing to this. Of course for me (emotionally anyway) I was already committed. I understood his view because he loved me, but the idea of terminating this time around made me want to vomit. It was a different time in my life & I knew in my heart that things would be OK or as OK as it gets with CF. If my health had been much worse I dont know if my mental outlook would have been as clear cut.
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Seana30</b></i>
Melissa,
I'm sorry you had to go through that at such a young age. As I read your post I pictured Lauren who is 15. Did your parents support you through it? I hope so. I hope your family was there to give you their love and support.
I have always told the girls if they get pregnant to come and talk to us about it. I want them to know that although we will not be happy about it, we will be there to support them 100% and help them make the best choice for them.
Seana</end quote></div>
Sadly during all this was when my Dad was bedridden inthe hospital after a massive stroke. Within the month of his dying is when I found out so I only had my Mom & my one sister who went with me to tell my Mom. I never told anyone else at the time.
AS TO THE ORIGINAL POSTER.....when I got pregnant with my daughter, Jazmine I never even thought of terminating. I wanted her & after 12 years of being lucky with no birth control I felt it was meant to be. My husband, However, wasnt as decisive. He wanted us to speak with my CF doctor before committing to this. Of course for me (emotionally anyway) I was already committed. I understood his view because he loved me, but the idea of terminating this time around made me want to vomit. It was a different time in my life & I knew in my heart that things would be OK or as OK as it gets with CF. If my health had been much worse I dont know if my mental outlook would have been as clear cut.
Melissa,
I'm sorry you had to go through that at such a young age. As I read your post I pictured Lauren who is 15. Did your parents support you through it? I hope so. I hope your family was there to give you their love and support.
I have always told the girls if they get pregnant to come and talk to us about it. I want them to know that although we will not be happy about it, we will be there to support them 100% and help them make the best choice for them.
Seana</end quote></div>
Sadly during all this was when my Dad was bedridden inthe hospital after a massive stroke. Within the month of his dying is when I found out so I only had my Mom & my one sister who went with me to tell my Mom. I never told anyone else at the time.
AS TO THE ORIGINAL POSTER.....when I got pregnant with my daughter, Jazmine I never even thought of terminating. I wanted her & after 12 years of being lucky with no birth control I felt it was meant to be. My husband, However, wasnt as decisive. He wanted us to speak with my CF doctor before committing to this. Of course for me (emotionally anyway) I was already committed. I understood his view because he loved me, but the idea of terminating this time around made me want to vomit. It was a different time in my life & I knew in my heart that things would be OK or as OK as it gets with CF. If my health had been much worse I dont know if my mental outlook would have been as clear cut.
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Seana30</b></i>
Melissa,
I'm sorry you had to go through that at such a young age. As I read your post I pictured Lauren who is 15. Did your parents support you through it? I hope so. I hope your family was there to give you their love and support.
I have always told the girls if they get pregnant to come and talk to us about it. I want them to know that although we will not be happy about it, we will be there to support them 100% and help them make the best choice for them.
Seana</end quote></div>
Sadly during all this was when my Dad was bedridden inthe hospital after a massive stroke. Within the month of his dying is when I found out so I only had my Mom & my one sister who went with me to tell my Mom. I never told anyone else at the time.
AS TO THE ORIGINAL POSTER.....when I got pregnant with my daughter, Jazmine I never even thought of terminating. I wanted her & after 12 years of being lucky with no birth control I felt it was meant to be. My husband, However, wasnt as decisive. He wanted us to speak with my CF doctor before committing to this. Of course for me (emotionally anyway) I was already committed. I understood his view because he loved me, but the idea of terminating this time around made me want to vomit. It was a different time in my life & I knew in my heart that things would be OK or as OK as it gets with CF. If my health had been much worse I dont know if my mental outlook would have been as clear cut.
Melissa,
I'm sorry you had to go through that at such a young age. As I read your post I pictured Lauren who is 15. Did your parents support you through it? I hope so. I hope your family was there to give you their love and support.
I have always told the girls if they get pregnant to come and talk to us about it. I want them to know that although we will not be happy about it, we will be there to support them 100% and help them make the best choice for them.
Seana</end quote></div>
Sadly during all this was when my Dad was bedridden inthe hospital after a massive stroke. Within the month of his dying is when I found out so I only had my Mom & my one sister who went with me to tell my Mom. I never told anyone else at the time.
AS TO THE ORIGINAL POSTER.....when I got pregnant with my daughter, Jazmine I never even thought of terminating. I wanted her & after 12 years of being lucky with no birth control I felt it was meant to be. My husband, However, wasnt as decisive. He wanted us to speak with my CF doctor before committing to this. Of course for me (emotionally anyway) I was already committed. I understood his view because he loved me, but the idea of terminating this time around made me want to vomit. It was a different time in my life & I knew in my heart that things would be OK or as OK as it gets with CF. If my health had been much worse I dont know if my mental outlook would have been as clear cut.
Melissa,
I don't know what to say. I am sorry you had to go through all of that and right after you lost your dad. I appreciate you talking to us about it. I know it must have been difficult to bring those memories up again.
I DO NOT WANT THIS TO TURN INTO A DEBATE ON WHO'S RIGHT......AMY OR SEANA!
To clarify.......if anyone would have come on here and said "would you clarify why you were thinking about abortion" I would have no problems answering that.
Amy clearly stated in chat last night that she does not care what any of us think, does not care who she hurts, and will ask anything she wants no matter how rude it is, or who it hurts. She has stated she has no plans on stopping this, or changing her ways. Amy and I have already had a run in with each other so I knew the question of SO WHICH CHILD WERE YOU GOING TO ABORT was not a valid question. She just wanted to get me riled up which she succeeded doing.
If anyone has a valid question about why I was considering abortion, I have no problems answering it. If I feel it is something I do not want to post, I will PM you.
Seana
I don't know what to say. I am sorry you had to go through all of that and right after you lost your dad. I appreciate you talking to us about it. I know it must have been difficult to bring those memories up again.
I DO NOT WANT THIS TO TURN INTO A DEBATE ON WHO'S RIGHT......AMY OR SEANA!
To clarify.......if anyone would have come on here and said "would you clarify why you were thinking about abortion" I would have no problems answering that.
Amy clearly stated in chat last night that she does not care what any of us think, does not care who she hurts, and will ask anything she wants no matter how rude it is, or who it hurts. She has stated she has no plans on stopping this, or changing her ways. Amy and I have already had a run in with each other so I knew the question of SO WHICH CHILD WERE YOU GOING TO ABORT was not a valid question. She just wanted to get me riled up which she succeeded doing.
If anyone has a valid question about why I was considering abortion, I have no problems answering it. If I feel it is something I do not want to post, I will PM you.
Seana
Melissa,
I don't know what to say. I am sorry you had to go through all of that and right after you lost your dad. I appreciate you talking to us about it. I know it must have been difficult to bring those memories up again.
I DO NOT WANT THIS TO TURN INTO A DEBATE ON WHO'S RIGHT......AMY OR SEANA!
To clarify.......if anyone would have come on here and said "would you clarify why you were thinking about abortion" I would have no problems answering that.
Amy clearly stated in chat last night that she does not care what any of us think, does not care who she hurts, and will ask anything she wants no matter how rude it is, or who it hurts. She has stated she has no plans on stopping this, or changing her ways. Amy and I have already had a run in with each other so I knew the question of SO WHICH CHILD WERE YOU GOING TO ABORT was not a valid question. She just wanted to get me riled up which she succeeded doing.
If anyone has a valid question about why I was considering abortion, I have no problems answering it. If I feel it is something I do not want to post, I will PM you.
Seana
I don't know what to say. I am sorry you had to go through all of that and right after you lost your dad. I appreciate you talking to us about it. I know it must have been difficult to bring those memories up again.
I DO NOT WANT THIS TO TURN INTO A DEBATE ON WHO'S RIGHT......AMY OR SEANA!
To clarify.......if anyone would have come on here and said "would you clarify why you were thinking about abortion" I would have no problems answering that.
Amy clearly stated in chat last night that she does not care what any of us think, does not care who she hurts, and will ask anything she wants no matter how rude it is, or who it hurts. She has stated she has no plans on stopping this, or changing her ways. Amy and I have already had a run in with each other so I knew the question of SO WHICH CHILD WERE YOU GOING TO ABORT was not a valid question. She just wanted to get me riled up which she succeeded doing.
If anyone has a valid question about why I was considering abortion, I have no problems answering it. If I feel it is something I do not want to post, I will PM you.
Seana
Melissa,
I don't know what to say. I am sorry you had to go through all of that and right after you lost your dad. I appreciate you talking to us about it. I know it must have been difficult to bring those memories up again.
I DO NOT WANT THIS TO TURN INTO A DEBATE ON WHO'S RIGHT......AMY OR SEANA!
To clarify.......if anyone would have come on here and said "would you clarify why you were thinking about abortion" I would have no problems answering that.
Amy clearly stated in chat last night that she does not care what any of us think, does not care who she hurts, and will ask anything she wants no matter how rude it is, or who it hurts. She has stated she has no plans on stopping this, or changing her ways. Amy and I have already had a run in with each other so I knew the question of SO WHICH CHILD WERE YOU GOING TO ABORT was not a valid question. She just wanted to get me riled up which she succeeded doing.
If anyone has a valid question about why I was considering abortion, I have no problems answering it. If I feel it is something I do not want to post, I will PM you.
Seana
I don't know what to say. I am sorry you had to go through all of that and right after you lost your dad. I appreciate you talking to us about it. I know it must have been difficult to bring those memories up again.
I DO NOT WANT THIS TO TURN INTO A DEBATE ON WHO'S RIGHT......AMY OR SEANA!
To clarify.......if anyone would have come on here and said "would you clarify why you were thinking about abortion" I would have no problems answering that.
Amy clearly stated in chat last night that she does not care what any of us think, does not care who she hurts, and will ask anything she wants no matter how rude it is, or who it hurts. She has stated she has no plans on stopping this, or changing her ways. Amy and I have already had a run in with each other so I knew the question of SO WHICH CHILD WERE YOU GOING TO ABORT was not a valid question. She just wanted to get me riled up which she succeeded doing.
If anyone has a valid question about why I was considering abortion, I have no problems answering it. If I feel it is something I do not want to post, I will PM you.
Seana
just to clarify.... i will not be intimidated to change my opinion or silence my opinions or questions by others. so the fact that seana or others don't like my question isn't going to change my question asking in the future nor will it change my opinion making in the future.
there tends to still be a mentality on this site that you can't have an opinion that doesn't make others happy. or you can't ask a question that hurts someone else's feelings. every post must agree with the original poster and no question may be asked unless it makes someone feel good.
and finally, the question wasn't to rile seana up.... i would have asked it of anyone. it just so happens that seana was open enough to state that she considered abortion for one of her children. i would have asked it of anyone who posted.
there tends to still be a mentality on this site that you can't have an opinion that doesn't make others happy. or you can't ask a question that hurts someone else's feelings. every post must agree with the original poster and no question may be asked unless it makes someone feel good.
and finally, the question wasn't to rile seana up.... i would have asked it of anyone. it just so happens that seana was open enough to state that she considered abortion for one of her children. i would have asked it of anyone who posted.
just to clarify.... i will not be intimidated to change my opinion or silence my opinions or questions by others. so the fact that seana or others don't like my question isn't going to change my question asking in the future nor will it change my opinion making in the future.
there tends to still be a mentality on this site that you can't have an opinion that doesn't make others happy. or you can't ask a question that hurts someone else's feelings. every post must agree with the original poster and no question may be asked unless it makes someone feel good.
and finally, the question wasn't to rile seana up.... i would have asked it of anyone. it just so happens that seana was open enough to state that she considered abortion for one of her children. i would have asked it of anyone who posted.
there tends to still be a mentality on this site that you can't have an opinion that doesn't make others happy. or you can't ask a question that hurts someone else's feelings. every post must agree with the original poster and no question may be asked unless it makes someone feel good.
and finally, the question wasn't to rile seana up.... i would have asked it of anyone. it just so happens that seana was open enough to state that she considered abortion for one of her children. i would have asked it of anyone who posted.