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Mommafirst

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Oh you are not alone and NOT a bad person. A mom with one or more medical needs kids learns a different kind of normal. And we don't have to like it. We just have to do it. I have days when I'd love to not have to think about cystic fibrosis, but I haven't had a day in over two years like that!!

I get super annoyed at trivial mom complaints. I would imagine that adult CFers get really aggravated when people discuss minor medical things like colds as if they were life threatening. Its really all about perspective. We have a different perspective. It's made me cynical and a bit bitter -- I wish I wasn't, but I am.
 
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Mommafirst

Guest
Oh you are not alone and NOT a bad person. A mom with one or more medical needs kids learns a different kind of normal. And we don't have to like it. We just have to do it. I have days when I'd love to not have to think about cystic fibrosis, but I haven't had a day in over two years like that!!

I get super annoyed at trivial mom complaints. I would imagine that adult CFers get really aggravated when people discuss minor medical things like colds as if they were life threatening. Its really all about perspective. We have a different perspective. It's made me cynical and a bit bitter -- I wish I wasn't, but I am.
 
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Mommafirst

Guest
Oh you are not alone and NOT a bad person. A mom with one or more medical needs kids learns a different kind of normal. And we don't have to like it. We just have to do it. I have days when I'd love to not have to think about cystic fibrosis, but I haven't had a day in over two years like that!!

I get super annoyed at trivial mom complaints. I would imagine that adult CFers get really aggravated when people discuss minor medical things like colds as if they were life threatening. Its really all about perspective. We have a different perspective. It's made me cynical and a bit bitter -- I wish I wasn't, but I am.
 
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Mommafirst

Guest
Oh you are not alone and NOT a bad person. A mom with one or more medical needs kids learns a different kind of normal. And we don't have to like it. We just have to do it. I have days when I'd love to not have to think about cystic fibrosis, but I haven't had a day in over two years like that!!

I get super annoyed at trivial mom complaints. I would imagine that adult CFers get really aggravated when people discuss minor medical things like colds as if they were life threatening. Its really all about perspective. We have a different perspective. It's made me cynical and a bit bitter -- I wish I wasn't, but I am.
 
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Mommafirst

Guest
Oh you are not alone and NOT a bad person. A mom with one or more medical needs kids learns a different kind of normal. And we don't have to like it. We just have to do it. I have days when I'd love to not have to think about cystic fibrosis, but I haven't had a day in over two years like that!!
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<br />I get super annoyed at trivial mom complaints. I would imagine that adult CFers get really aggravated when people discuss minor medical things like colds as if they were life threatening. Its really all about perspective. We have a different perspective. It's made me cynical and a bit bitter -- I wish I wasn't, but I am.
 
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DEES4

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Wow if I could have a dime for everytime I felt that way I'd be a rich woman. You are not alone....a few years ago I had a really hard time with this. I would get so irritated at some of my family members for complaining about trivial things with their kids. I just wanted to scream at them...WHAT ABOUT US..HOW DO YOU THINK IT IS FOR MY CHILD..I have to just step back and remember that they cannot possibly know what all we go through...not just the physical things but the mental toll having a child with special needs takes on the parents. I have some friends at church whose child was in the hospital for 6 days with pneumonia and he told me the other day that they have a whole new respect and outlook for me and my husband now...that they only had a little taste of what we've been through and how hard it was to see their child sick and in the hospital. Anyway just wanted to let you know you are not alone....I bet that every parent of a child with cf has felt this way at some point. You are not a bad person...just a normal human being with normal human feelings!!
 
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DEES4

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Wow if I could have a dime for everytime I felt that way I'd be a rich woman. You are not alone....a few years ago I had a really hard time with this. I would get so irritated at some of my family members for complaining about trivial things with their kids. I just wanted to scream at them...WHAT ABOUT US..HOW DO YOU THINK IT IS FOR MY CHILD..I have to just step back and remember that they cannot possibly know what all we go through...not just the physical things but the mental toll having a child with special needs takes on the parents. I have some friends at church whose child was in the hospital for 6 days with pneumonia and he told me the other day that they have a whole new respect and outlook for me and my husband now...that they only had a little taste of what we've been through and how hard it was to see their child sick and in the hospital. Anyway just wanted to let you know you are not alone....I bet that every parent of a child with cf has felt this way at some point. You are not a bad person...just a normal human being with normal human feelings!!
 
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DEES4

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Wow if I could have a dime for everytime I felt that way I'd be a rich woman. You are not alone....a few years ago I had a really hard time with this. I would get so irritated at some of my family members for complaining about trivial things with their kids. I just wanted to scream at them...WHAT ABOUT US..HOW DO YOU THINK IT IS FOR MY CHILD..I have to just step back and remember that they cannot possibly know what all we go through...not just the physical things but the mental toll having a child with special needs takes on the parents. I have some friends at church whose child was in the hospital for 6 days with pneumonia and he told me the other day that they have a whole new respect and outlook for me and my husband now...that they only had a little taste of what we've been through and how hard it was to see their child sick and in the hospital. Anyway just wanted to let you know you are not alone....I bet that every parent of a child with cf has felt this way at some point. You are not a bad person...just a normal human being with normal human feelings!!
 
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DEES4

New member
Wow if I could have a dime for everytime I felt that way I'd be a rich woman. You are not alone....a few years ago I had a really hard time with this. I would get so irritated at some of my family members for complaining about trivial things with their kids. I just wanted to scream at them...WHAT ABOUT US..HOW DO YOU THINK IT IS FOR MY CHILD..I have to just step back and remember that they cannot possibly know what all we go through...not just the physical things but the mental toll having a child with special needs takes on the parents. I have some friends at church whose child was in the hospital for 6 days with pneumonia and he told me the other day that they have a whole new respect and outlook for me and my husband now...that they only had a little taste of what we've been through and how hard it was to see their child sick and in the hospital. Anyway just wanted to let you know you are not alone....I bet that every parent of a child with cf has felt this way at some point. You are not a bad person...just a normal human being with normal human feelings!!
 
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DEES4

New member
Wow if I could have a dime for everytime I felt that way I'd be a rich woman. You are not alone....a few years ago I had a really hard time with this. I would get so irritated at some of my family members for complaining about trivial things with their kids. I just wanted to scream at them...WHAT ABOUT US..HOW DO YOU THINK IT IS FOR MY CHILD..I have to just step back and remember that they cannot possibly know what all we go through...not just the physical things but the mental toll having a child with special needs takes on the parents. I have some friends at church whose child was in the hospital for 6 days with pneumonia and he told me the other day that they have a whole new respect and outlook for me and my husband now...that they only had a little taste of what we've been through and how hard it was to see their child sick and in the hospital. Anyway just wanted to let you know you are not alone....I bet that every parent of a child with cf has felt this way at some point. You are not a bad person...just a normal human being with normal human feelings!!
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tammykrumrey

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Cheryl,
you would think that they just want time with me...but they are with me 24/7 during the summer PLUS I always sit with them even if doing the vest<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> And actually my younger one sleeps with me...I think they just are liking the change of pace.
 
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tammykrumrey

Guest
Cheryl,
you would think that they just want time with me...but they are with me 24/7 during the summer PLUS I always sit with them even if doing the vest<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> And actually my younger one sleeps with me...I think they just are liking the change of pace.
 
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tammykrumrey

Guest
Cheryl,
you would think that they just want time with me...but they are with me 24/7 during the summer PLUS I always sit with them even if doing the vest<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> And actually my younger one sleeps with me...I think they just are liking the change of pace.
 
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tammykrumrey

Guest
Cheryl,
you would think that they just want time with me...but they are with me 24/7 during the summer PLUS I always sit with them even if doing the vest<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> And actually my younger one sleeps with me...I think they just are liking the change of pace.
 
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tammykrumrey

Guest
Cheryl,
<br />you would think that they just want time with me...but they are with me 24/7 during the summer PLUS I always sit with them even if doing the vest<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> And actually my younger one sleeps with me...I think they just are liking the change of pace.
 
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momtoCory

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You are not alone in that thought. 22 years later and I still get that feeling. At least with my own family and I a little more blunt. I will tell them "feel like trading places with Cory" usually they shut up and quit whining. As far as non family members, I just change the subject quickly so I don't end up with a comment that I will regret. I actually cringe more when the statement starts out with " I am soo busy" I hold my breath so I don't scream "LET ME TELL YOU ABOUT BUSY"
 
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momtoCory

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You are not alone in that thought. 22 years later and I still get that feeling. At least with my own family and I a little more blunt. I will tell them "feel like trading places with Cory" usually they shut up and quit whining. As far as non family members, I just change the subject quickly so I don't end up with a comment that I will regret. I actually cringe more when the statement starts out with " I am soo busy" I hold my breath so I don't scream "LET ME TELL YOU ABOUT BUSY"
 
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momtoCory

New member
You are not alone in that thought. 22 years later and I still get that feeling. At least with my own family and I a little more blunt. I will tell them "feel like trading places with Cory" usually they shut up and quit whining. As far as non family members, I just change the subject quickly so I don't end up with a comment that I will regret. I actually cringe more when the statement starts out with " I am soo busy" I hold my breath so I don't scream "LET ME TELL YOU ABOUT BUSY"
 
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momtoCory

New member
You are not alone in that thought. 22 years later and I still get that feeling. At least with my own family and I a little more blunt. I will tell them "feel like trading places with Cory" usually they shut up and quit whining. As far as non family members, I just change the subject quickly so I don't end up with a comment that I will regret. I actually cringe more when the statement starts out with " I am soo busy" I hold my breath so I don't scream "LET ME TELL YOU ABOUT BUSY"
 
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momtoCory

New member
You are not alone in that thought. 22 years later and I still get that feeling. At least with my own family and I a little more blunt. I will tell them "feel like trading places with Cory" usually they shut up and quit whining. As far as non family members, I just change the subject quickly so I don't end up with a comment that I will regret. I actually cringe more when the statement starts out with " I am soo busy" I hold my breath so I don't scream "LET ME TELL YOU ABOUT BUSY"
 
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