Do I stay or do I go?

[Kelli]

Thank you ALL who responded. I feel like I can't really open up to many people near me and I appreciate this chance to 'talk' to you guys about it.
I am just so hurt and I literally feel dead inside. I feel like my insides were ripped out (mainly my heart) by his words and I'm just sitting here as a shell of a person.

I'm sure for anyone who has left a relationship, I have so many feelings and yet I don't even feel angry anymore. I feel like I don't really care (other than I feel hurt and could cry anytime).

I know he loves me but I know he is stubborn and won't admit when he's wrong (and I know I am wrong a lot of the time, but I can recognize that and apologize) but he has said things to me that literally crushed me. I gave him a couple days to cool off and asked for an apology, yet he repeated everything he said, and said that he meant every word of it. I cannot be with a man who thinks so horribly of me.

I work for him, I have no friends, I get an earful of crap if I hang out with my family, he makes all the $, etc. I just feel like I'm such an underdog right now. It jsut really stinks b/c I love him in my heart, but my brain is telling me that things shouldn't be this way.

Well I'm crying so I'm going to wrap this up. Thanks for listening and thanks for all of your support. Other than my sister and a few close friends, this is all I have. Well and my beautiful dog! I should consider myself lucky!

Thanks again,
KELLI

 

[Kelli]

Thank you ALL who responded. I feel like I can't really open up to many people near me and I appreciate this chance to 'talk' to you guys about it.
I am just so hurt and I literally feel dead inside. I feel like my insides were ripped out (mainly my heart) by his words and I'm just sitting here as a shell of a person.

I'm sure for anyone who has left a relationship, I have so many feelings and yet I don't even feel angry anymore. I feel like I don't really care (other than I feel hurt and could cry anytime).

I know he loves me but I know he is stubborn and won't admit when he's wrong (and I know I am wrong a lot of the time, but I can recognize that and apologize) but he has said things to me that literally crushed me. I gave him a couple days to cool off and asked for an apology, yet he repeated everything he said, and said that he meant every word of it. I cannot be with a man who thinks so horribly of me.

I work for him, I have no friends, I get an earful of crap if I hang out with my family, he makes all the $, etc. I just feel like I'm such an underdog right now. It jsut really stinks b/c I love him in my heart, but my brain is telling me that things shouldn't be this way.

Well I'm crying so I'm going to wrap this up. Thanks for listening and thanks for all of your support. Other than my sister and a few close friends, this is all I have. Well and my beautiful dog! I should consider myself lucky!

Thanks again,
KELLI

 

[Kelli]

Thank you ALL who responded. I feel like I can't really open up to many people near me and I appreciate this chance to 'talk' to you guys about it.
I am just so hurt and I literally feel dead inside. I feel like my insides were ripped out (mainly my heart) by his words and I'm just sitting here as a shell of a person.

I'm sure for anyone who has left a relationship, I have so many feelings and yet I don't even feel angry anymore. I feel like I don't really care (other than I feel hurt and could cry anytime).

I know he loves me but I know he is stubborn and won't admit when he's wrong (and I know I am wrong a lot of the time, but I can recognize that and apologize) but he has said things to me that literally crushed me. I gave him a couple days to cool off and asked for an apology, yet he repeated everything he said, and said that he meant every word of it. I cannot be with a man who thinks so horribly of me.

I work for him, I have no friends, I get an earful of crap if I hang out with my family, he makes all the $, etc. I just feel like I'm such an underdog right now. It jsut really stinks b/c I love him in my heart, but my brain is telling me that things shouldn't be this way.

Well I'm crying so I'm going to wrap this up. Thanks for listening and thanks for all of your support. Other than my sister and a few close friends, this is all I have. Well and my beautiful dog! I should consider myself lucky!

Thanks again,
KELLI

 

[Kelli]

Thank you ALL who responded. I feel like I can't really open up to many people near me and I appreciate this chance to 'talk' to you guys about it.
I am just so hurt and I literally feel dead inside. I feel like my insides were ripped out (mainly my heart) by his words and I'm just sitting here as a shell of a person.

I'm sure for anyone who has left a relationship, I have so many feelings and yet I don't even feel angry anymore. I feel like I don't really care (other than I feel hurt and could cry anytime).

I know he loves me but I know he is stubborn and won't admit when he's wrong (and I know I am wrong a lot of the time, but I can recognize that and apologize) but he has said things to me that literally crushed me. I gave him a couple days to cool off and asked for an apology, yet he repeated everything he said, and said that he meant every word of it. I cannot be with a man who thinks so horribly of me.

I work for him, I have no friends, I get an earful of crap if I hang out with my family, he makes all the $, etc. I just feel like I'm such an underdog right now. It jsut really stinks b/c I love him in my heart, but my brain is telling me that things shouldn't be this way.

Well I'm crying so I'm going to wrap this up. Thanks for listening and thanks for all of your support. Other than my sister and a few close friends, this is all I have. Well and my beautiful dog! I should consider myself lucky!

Thanks again,
KELLI

 

[NoExcuses]

I hope that all goes well. I have no additional advice to offer.

I hope other married CFers take note of this post though. This is a great lesson for us all to learn.

Suze Orman has great advice about marriage and money as well. Although none us will ever plan to divorce, things can happen that are not in your control and can leave you in this situation.

Making sure the house is in both of your names, bank accounts are in both of your names (why does hubbie have 100% control over money), etc. is a wise idea (not saying Kelli hasn't/has done any of this because I don't know... this is an 'in general' statement).

 

[NoExcuses]

I hope that all goes well. I have no additional advice to offer.

I hope other married CFers take note of this post though. This is a great lesson for us all to learn.

Suze Orman has great advice about marriage and money as well. Although none us will ever plan to divorce, things can happen that are not in your control and can leave you in this situation.

Making sure the house is in both of your names, bank accounts are in both of your names (why does hubbie have 100% control over money), etc. is a wise idea (not saying Kelli hasn't/has done any of this because I don't know... this is an 'in general' statement).

 

[NoExcuses]

I hope that all goes well. I have no additional advice to offer.

I hope other married CFers take note of this post though. This is a great lesson for us all to learn.

Suze Orman has great advice about marriage and money as well. Although none us will ever plan to divorce, things can happen that are not in your control and can leave you in this situation.

Making sure the house is in both of your names, bank accounts are in both of your names (why does hubbie have 100% control over money), etc. is a wise idea (not saying Kelli hasn't/has done any of this because I don't know... this is an 'in general' statement).

 

[NoExcuses]

I hope that all goes well. I have no additional advice to offer.

I hope other married CFers take note of this post though. This is a great lesson for us all to learn.

Suze Orman has great advice about marriage and money as well. Although none us will ever plan to divorce, things can happen that are not in your control and can leave you in this situation.

Making sure the house is in both of your names, bank accounts are in both of your names (why does hubbie have 100% control over money), etc. is a wise idea (not saying Kelli hasn't/has done any of this because I don't know... this is an 'in general' statement).

 

[NoExcuses]

I hope that all goes well. I have no additional advice to offer.

I hope other married CFers take note of this post though. This is a great lesson for us all to learn.

Suze Orman has great advice about marriage and money as well. Although none us will ever plan to divorce, things can happen that are not in your control and can leave you in this situation.

Making sure the house is in both of your names, bank accounts are in both of your names (why does hubbie have 100% control over money), etc. is a wise idea (not saying Kelli hasn't/has done any of this because I don't know... this is an 'in general' statement).

 

[NoExcuses]

I hope that all goes well. I have no additional advice to offer.

I hope other married CFers take note of this post though. This is a great lesson for us all to learn.

Suze Orman has great advice about marriage and money as well. Although none us will ever plan to divorce, things can happen that are not in your control and can leave you in this situation.

Making sure the house is in both of your names, bank accounts are in both of your names (why does hubbie have 100% control over money), etc. is a wise idea (not saying Kelli hasn't/has done any of this because I don't know... this is an 'in general' statement).

 

[LisaV]

All of the advice you have been given (such as, are you sure couples counseling won't help, get a lawyer, etc) is good. Additionally, since you are basically asking how does someone with CF who doesn't have any separate income, health insurance, living place, etc live alone, it probably wouldn't hurt to contact your closest Independent Living Center to see if they can help you identify the sources of all of those independent of your present husband. Even if you don't separate from your husband, understanding how you can live independently of him at any time you need to or want to certainly would change the balance of power in your marriage.

 

[LisaV]

All of the advice you have been given (such as, are you sure couples counseling won't help, get a lawyer, etc) is good. Additionally, since you are basically asking how does someone with CF who doesn't have any separate income, health insurance, living place, etc live alone, it probably wouldn't hurt to contact your closest Independent Living Center to see if they can help you identify the sources of all of those independent of your present husband. Even if you don't separate from your husband, understanding how you can live independently of him at any time you need to or want to certainly would change the balance of power in your marriage.

 

[LisaV]

All of the advice you have been given (such as, are you sure couples counseling won't help, get a lawyer, etc) is good. Additionally, since you are basically asking how does someone with CF who doesn't have any separate income, health insurance, living place, etc live alone, it probably wouldn't hurt to contact your closest Independent Living Center to see if they can help you identify the sources of all of those independent of your present husband. Even if you don't separate from your husband, understanding how you can live independently of him at any time you need to or want to certainly would change the balance of power in your marriage.

 

[LisaV]

All of the advice you have been given (such as, are you sure couples counseling won't help, get a lawyer, etc) is good. Additionally, since you are basically asking how does someone with CF who doesn't have any separate income, health insurance, living place, etc live alone, it probably wouldn't hurt to contact your closest Independent Living Center to see if they can help you identify the sources of all of those independent of your present husband. Even if you don't separate from your husband, understanding how you can live independently of him at any time you need to or want to certainly would change the balance of power in your marriage.

 

[LisaV]

All of the advice you have been given (such as, are you sure couples counseling won't help, get a lawyer, etc) is good. Additionally, since you are basically asking how does someone with CF who doesn't have any separate income, health insurance, living place, etc live alone, it probably wouldn't hurt to contact your closest Independent Living Center to see if they can help you identify the sources of all of those independent of your present husband. Even if you don't separate from your husband, understanding how you can live independently of him at any time you need to or want to certainly would change the balance of power in your marriage.

 

[LisaV]

All of the advice you have been given (such as, are you sure couples counseling won't help, get a lawyer, etc) is good. Additionally, since you are basically asking how does someone with CF who doesn't have any separate income, health insurance, living place, etc live alone, it probably wouldn't hurt to contact your closest Independent Living Center to see if they can help you identify the sources of all of those independent of your present husband. Even if you don't separate from your husband, understanding how you can live independently of him at any time you need to or want to certainly would change the balance of power in your marriage.

 

[KrazyKat]

Oh Kelli, i had no idea you're going through this, i'm so sorry <img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
Will email you.

 

[KrazyKat]

Oh Kelli, i had no idea you're going through this, i'm so sorry <img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
Will email you.

 

[KrazyKat]

Oh Kelli, i had no idea you're going through this, i'm so sorry <img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
Will email you.

 

[KrazyKat]

Oh Kelli, i had no idea you're going through this, i'm so sorry <img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
Will email you.