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Marriage issues
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James - I completely understand what you are saying. No, my life has not been a bed of roses. There have been times that have been rough but to me the good times out weigh the bad. If I had the chance to live life without CF of course I would take that but that can't happen. I don't know life without CF so this is "normal" to me. With all that said, I understand what you are saying but I don't have to agree. Agree to disagree.
James - I completely understand what you are saying. No, my life has not been a bed of roses. There have been times that have been rough but to me the good times out weigh the bad. If I had the chance to live life without CF of course I would take that but that can't happen. I don't know life without CF so this is "normal" to me. With all that said, I understand what you are saying but I don't have to agree. Agree to disagree.
James - I completely understand what you are saying. No, my life has not been a bed of roses. There have been times that have been rough but to me the good times out weigh the bad. If I had the chance to live life without CF of course I would take that but that can't happen. I don't know life without CF so this is "normal" to me. With all that said, I understand what you are saying but I don't have to agree. Agree to disagree.
James, you have major issues and it is sad to read your posts. Your opinions have nothing to do with the topic. I am a 40 year old CFer and YES! I am glad to be alive. My life is great and although I do struggle more then the average person I am thankful for all the time and experience I have had on this earth. Let love into your heart and enjoy what god has given you---many have it much worse then us.
James, you have major issues and it is sad to read your posts. Your opinions have nothing to do with the topic. I am a 40 year old CFer and YES! I am glad to be alive. My life is great and although I do struggle more then the average person I am thankful for all the time and experience I have had on this earth. Let love into your heart and enjoy what god has given you---many have it much worse then us.
James, you have major issues and it is sad to read your posts. Your opinions have nothing to do with the topic. I am a 40 year old CFer and YES! I am glad to be alive. My life is great and although I do struggle more then the average person I am thankful for all the time and experience I have had on this earth. Let love into your heart and enjoy what god has given you---many have it much worse then us.
musclemania70
New member
There is obviously someone on here that is very mad at the world and wants everyone else to be mad at the world too.
Asking for help IS NEVER something that should be ridiculed or judged.
Some people are not as strong as others and it is difficult for them to handle challenges in life. So they get angry and cynical at the world and those around them and they don't want to get sympathy OR GIVE SYMPATHY.
Positivity is hard to maintain in the midst of struggle--it builds our character as we face challenges. And each one of us has a purpose AND a unique way we can help one another--doesn't matter if you have 1 kid with CF or 4 kids with CF or no kids.
Thank you for choosing life regardless of your babies health. You could have chosen to terminate your pregancy because you were afraid of the difficult road ahead of you. You are to be commended.
Asking for help IS NEVER something that should be ridiculed or judged.
Some people are not as strong as others and it is difficult for them to handle challenges in life. So they get angry and cynical at the world and those around them and they don't want to get sympathy OR GIVE SYMPATHY.
Positivity is hard to maintain in the midst of struggle--it builds our character as we face challenges. And each one of us has a purpose AND a unique way we can help one another--doesn't matter if you have 1 kid with CF or 4 kids with CF or no kids.
Thank you for choosing life regardless of your babies health. You could have chosen to terminate your pregancy because you were afraid of the difficult road ahead of you. You are to be commended.
musclemania70
New member
There is obviously someone on here that is very mad at the world and wants everyone else to be mad at the world too.
Asking for help IS NEVER something that should be ridiculed or judged.
Some people are not as strong as others and it is difficult for them to handle challenges in life. So they get angry and cynical at the world and those around them and they don't want to get sympathy OR GIVE SYMPATHY.
Positivity is hard to maintain in the midst of struggle--it builds our character as we face challenges. And each one of us has a purpose AND a unique way we can help one another--doesn't matter if you have 1 kid with CF or 4 kids with CF or no kids.
Thank you for choosing life regardless of your babies health. You could have chosen to terminate your pregancy because you were afraid of the difficult road ahead of you. You are to be commended.
Asking for help IS NEVER something that should be ridiculed or judged.
Some people are not as strong as others and it is difficult for them to handle challenges in life. So they get angry and cynical at the world and those around them and they don't want to get sympathy OR GIVE SYMPATHY.
Positivity is hard to maintain in the midst of struggle--it builds our character as we face challenges. And each one of us has a purpose AND a unique way we can help one another--doesn't matter if you have 1 kid with CF or 4 kids with CF or no kids.
Thank you for choosing life regardless of your babies health. You could have chosen to terminate your pregancy because you were afraid of the difficult road ahead of you. You are to be commended.
musclemania70
New member
There is obviously someone on here that is very mad at the world and wants everyone else to be mad at the world too.
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<br />Asking for help IS NEVER something that should be ridiculed or judged.
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<br />Some people are not as strong as others and it is difficult for them to handle challenges in life. So they get angry and cynical at the world and those around them and they don't want to get sympathy OR GIVE SYMPATHY.
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<br />Positivity is hard to maintain in the midst of struggle--it builds our character as we face challenges. And each one of us has a purpose AND a unique way we can help one another--doesn't matter if you have 1 kid with CF or 4 kids with CF or no kids.
<br />
<br />Thank you for choosing life regardless of your babies health. You could have chosen to terminate your pregancy because you were afraid of the difficult road ahead of you. You are to be commended.
<br />
<br />Asking for help IS NEVER something that should be ridiculed or judged.
<br />
<br />Some people are not as strong as others and it is difficult for them to handle challenges in life. So they get angry and cynical at the world and those around them and they don't want to get sympathy OR GIVE SYMPATHY.
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<br />Positivity is hard to maintain in the midst of struggle--it builds our character as we face challenges. And each one of us has a purpose AND a unique way we can help one another--doesn't matter if you have 1 kid with CF or 4 kids with CF or no kids.
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<br />Thank you for choosing life regardless of your babies health. You could have chosen to terminate your pregancy because you were afraid of the difficult road ahead of you. You are to be commended.
Some of you are pathetic, wishing to put children into this world against their will knowing full well the consequences. How selfish of you! I love how some of your first instincts are to turn this around and pull the "mad at the world" card. Some of you are living in a fantasy and are unwilling to face reality for what it is. Keep on living in your world of primroses. Keep on entitling and enabling abuse. Man some of you are pathetic.
Some of you are pathetic, wishing to put children into this world against their will knowing full well the consequences. How selfish of you! I love how some of your first instincts are to turn this around and pull the "mad at the world" card. Some of you are living in a fantasy and are unwilling to face reality for what it is. Keep on living in your world of primroses. Keep on entitling and enabling abuse. Man some of you are pathetic.
Some of you are pathetic, wishing to put children into this world against their will knowing full well the consequences. How selfish of you! I love how some of your first instincts are to turn this around and pull the "mad at the world" card. Some of you are living in a fantasy and are unwilling to face reality for what it is. Keep on living in your world of primroses. Keep on entitling and enabling abuse. Man some of you are pathetic.
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zeeannie
Guest
To get back on topic, and to second musclemania70, the team point of view has been crucial to how we recognize each other's contributions. You didn't say what specifically you argue about, so I can only speak to how we relate generally. I am also a SAHM, and we each recognize each other's contribution to keeping the family going. I recognize the stress that he feels commuting to work every day 2 hours round trip, worrying about the stability of his job (which = insurance) and providing and maintaining our home. My stressors, you're intimately aware of (times three!). As a team, we acknowledge that it's not always going to be equal, and our contributions will never look the same so they are difficult to compare anyway. I hope that helps you see it from a different direction. I hope you can find some relief, too.
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zeeannie
Guest
To get back on topic, and to second musclemania70, the team point of view has been crucial to how we recognize each other's contributions. You didn't say what specifically you argue about, so I can only speak to how we relate generally. I am also a SAHM, and we each recognize each other's contribution to keeping the family going. I recognize the stress that he feels commuting to work every day 2 hours round trip, worrying about the stability of his job (which = insurance) and providing and maintaining our home. My stressors, you're intimately aware of (times three!). As a team, we acknowledge that it's not always going to be equal, and our contributions will never look the same so they are difficult to compare anyway. I hope that helps you see it from a different direction. I hope you can find some relief, too.
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zeeannie
Guest
To get back on topic, and to second musclemania70, the team point of view has been crucial to how we recognize each other's contributions. You didn't say what specifically you argue about, so I can only speak to how we relate generally. I am also a SAHM, and we each recognize each other's contribution to keeping the family going. I recognize the stress that he feels commuting to work every day 2 hours round trip, worrying about the stability of his job (which = insurance) and providing and maintaining our home. My stressors, you're intimately aware of (times three!). As a team, we acknowledge that it's not always going to be equal, and our contributions will never look the same so they are difficult to compare anyway. I hope that helps you see it from a different direction. I hope you can find some relief, too.
mamaScarlett
Active member
To the original poster-I really hope that you can completely disregard the pathetic and wrong comments here and focus on the issue at hand, which is your marriage. 99% of the people that took the time to post to your thread do so out of care for another family that is affected by this lousy illness.
To James-if you'd like to continue your rant please start another thread an do so there. I hope that this thread isn't blocked due to YOU, bc this family needs help and support.
Your comments have nothing to do with this thread.
(It doesn't take Freud to figure out that you have some major issues stemming from your own battle with this illness/parents/family situation, whatever. You can deal with it in a healthy constructive way here, and if you can't do that-Then go to therapy and get help, like some of the rest of us have done.)
Regardless of how these children came into the world, whether their parents knew they'd have Cf or not-they are HERE now. And the best thing for them is to have a mom and dad working together, making it for their children.
My biological parents had severe drug issues which caused me to be put up for adoption. And yet they still had more children after that. That was irresponsible. WHY? Bc I had parents that DID NOT LOVE ME. It had (and has) nothing to do with 'was it fair or not fair for me to be born?' Coming from one of the worst starts a child could have in life and having personally lived it-I can't judge another family for having children with this illness. All I see is 2 parents that LOVE their children. And thats really all that a child needs.
To James-if you'd like to continue your rant please start another thread an do so there. I hope that this thread isn't blocked due to YOU, bc this family needs help and support.
Your comments have nothing to do with this thread.
(It doesn't take Freud to figure out that you have some major issues stemming from your own battle with this illness/parents/family situation, whatever. You can deal with it in a healthy constructive way here, and if you can't do that-Then go to therapy and get help, like some of the rest of us have done.)
Regardless of how these children came into the world, whether their parents knew they'd have Cf or not-they are HERE now. And the best thing for them is to have a mom and dad working together, making it for their children.
My biological parents had severe drug issues which caused me to be put up for adoption. And yet they still had more children after that. That was irresponsible. WHY? Bc I had parents that DID NOT LOVE ME. It had (and has) nothing to do with 'was it fair or not fair for me to be born?' Coming from one of the worst starts a child could have in life and having personally lived it-I can't judge another family for having children with this illness. All I see is 2 parents that LOVE their children. And thats really all that a child needs.
mamaScarlett
Active member
To the original poster-I really hope that you can completely disregard the pathetic and wrong comments here and focus on the issue at hand, which is your marriage. 99% of the people that took the time to post to your thread do so out of care for another family that is affected by this lousy illness.
To James-if you'd like to continue your rant please start another thread an do so there. I hope that this thread isn't blocked due to YOU, bc this family needs help and support.
Your comments have nothing to do with this thread.
(It doesn't take Freud to figure out that you have some major issues stemming from your own battle with this illness/parents/family situation, whatever. You can deal with it in a healthy constructive way here, and if you can't do that-Then go to therapy and get help, like some of the rest of us have done.)
Regardless of how these children came into the world, whether their parents knew they'd have Cf or not-they are HERE now. And the best thing for them is to have a mom and dad working together, making it for their children.
My biological parents had severe drug issues which caused me to be put up for adoption. And yet they still had more children after that. That was irresponsible. WHY? Bc I had parents that DID NOT LOVE ME. It had (and has) nothing to do with 'was it fair or not fair for me to be born?' Coming from one of the worst starts a child could have in life and having personally lived it-I can't judge another family for having children with this illness. All I see is 2 parents that LOVE their children. And thats really all that a child needs.
To James-if you'd like to continue your rant please start another thread an do so there. I hope that this thread isn't blocked due to YOU, bc this family needs help and support.
Your comments have nothing to do with this thread.
(It doesn't take Freud to figure out that you have some major issues stemming from your own battle with this illness/parents/family situation, whatever. You can deal with it in a healthy constructive way here, and if you can't do that-Then go to therapy and get help, like some of the rest of us have done.)
Regardless of how these children came into the world, whether their parents knew they'd have Cf or not-they are HERE now. And the best thing for them is to have a mom and dad working together, making it for their children.
My biological parents had severe drug issues which caused me to be put up for adoption. And yet they still had more children after that. That was irresponsible. WHY? Bc I had parents that DID NOT LOVE ME. It had (and has) nothing to do with 'was it fair or not fair for me to be born?' Coming from one of the worst starts a child could have in life and having personally lived it-I can't judge another family for having children with this illness. All I see is 2 parents that LOVE their children. And thats really all that a child needs.