Ha Emily, I was talking about this very thing just yesterday with my Dad.
I totally agree *surprise*. And I think it's funny the way so many people divided living and dying. Like they are two seperate things. They are the same, they are one. And I don't mean just for CFers, I mean everyone here today in the world is living today and dying today.
And I hate hate hate when people are sooo encouraged to "fight", Fight? Well thats all well and good but we need to also keep our eye on the fact that we will die, no one can fight their way out of that. So to me it like we have been in a life long battle and when the last scrimmage is imminent and I can see this time I'm probably going to get my as$ kicked for good, I can at least take a look around and pick which field I chose to die on (my couch <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">) And in doing so I DID NOT GIVE UP!!!!! I mean the way some peoples philosophy seems to go-everyone who is dead at some point gave up.? Or maybe only if you die in a hospital gasping painfully for your last breath trying some last ditch effort did you fight til the end? What a load of crap.
What about fighting to the end to meet life on your terms? That's what I'm talking about!
*side note- I also totally agree with Emily that it's whatever the person who is dying wants thats important. This isn't some anti-treatment, anti-Tx or whatevr sentiment. To me this is just about respecting peoples choices who chose to acknowledge where they are when they are in their final stage and finding words for them other than "keep up the fight" or "don't get depressed" whatever other version, just because it makes the person saying it feel better it's actually rather insulting and of no help at all to the person you're saying it to. In My Overstated Opinion anyway <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
