shocked at how people talk to each other on this site

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katyf13

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Hey Vicki-
I've been thinking of you and praying the transplant comes soon! Two months ago, when Mike was not yet transplanted and in the worst health of his life (14% pfts) I was pretty fed up with a lot of people on this site. When you or a loved one is literally dying, people's arguments on here seem trivial and petty. I just wanted to scream at everyone, "Quit bitching, you are alive!!!!" (about stupid things obviously, not about health problems) This is why I do not visit this site daily. I check in every so often to see how everyone is doing, since I have grown to care about many people on here, or to get some info. I try not to read or respond to the posts about the same old tired arguments. I try not to get sucked into the muck. If I feel myself get fired up, I try to walk away from the computer, rather than pointlessly argue about issues that have more than one "right" and "wrong".
Life is too short to spend your life in front of a computer, and it is truly ridiculous and sad when people are condescending and rude to people they don't even know. I love this site, but I couldn't take a steady diet of it, so to speak <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> We are all affected by cf, and we all have something to offer, but that doesn't mean I'd invite everyone over for a slumber party.
 
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katyf13

New member
Hey Vicki-
I've been thinking of you and praying the transplant comes soon! Two months ago, when Mike was not yet transplanted and in the worst health of his life (14% pfts) I was pretty fed up with a lot of people on this site. When you or a loved one is literally dying, people's arguments on here seem trivial and petty. I just wanted to scream at everyone, "Quit bitching, you are alive!!!!" (about stupid things obviously, not about health problems) This is why I do not visit this site daily. I check in every so often to see how everyone is doing, since I have grown to care about many people on here, or to get some info. I try not to read or respond to the posts about the same old tired arguments. I try not to get sucked into the muck. If I feel myself get fired up, I try to walk away from the computer, rather than pointlessly argue about issues that have more than one "right" and "wrong".
Life is too short to spend your life in front of a computer, and it is truly ridiculous and sad when people are condescending and rude to people they don't even know. I love this site, but I couldn't take a steady diet of it, so to speak <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> We are all affected by cf, and we all have something to offer, but that doesn't mean I'd invite everyone over for a slumber party.
 
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katyf13

New member
Hey Vicki-
I've been thinking of you and praying the transplant comes soon! Two months ago, when Mike was not yet transplanted and in the worst health of his life (14% pfts) I was pretty fed up with a lot of people on this site. When you or a loved one is literally dying, people's arguments on here seem trivial and petty. I just wanted to scream at everyone, "Quit bitching, you are alive!!!!" (about stupid things obviously, not about health problems) This is why I do not visit this site daily. I check in every so often to see how everyone is doing, since I have grown to care about many people on here, or to get some info. I try not to read or respond to the posts about the same old tired arguments. I try not to get sucked into the muck. If I feel myself get fired up, I try to walk away from the computer, rather than pointlessly argue about issues that have more than one "right" and "wrong".
Life is too short to spend your life in front of a computer, and it is truly ridiculous and sad when people are condescending and rude to people they don't even know. I love this site, but I couldn't take a steady diet of it, so to speak <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> We are all affected by cf, and we all have something to offer, but that doesn't mean I'd invite everyone over for a slumber party.
 
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katyf13

New member
Hey Vicki-
I've been thinking of you and praying the transplant comes soon! Two months ago, when Mike was not yet transplanted and in the worst health of his life (14% pfts) I was pretty fed up with a lot of people on this site. When you or a loved one is literally dying, people's arguments on here seem trivial and petty. I just wanted to scream at everyone, "Quit bitching, you are alive!!!!" (about stupid things obviously, not about health problems) This is why I do not visit this site daily. I check in every so often to see how everyone is doing, since I have grown to care about many people on here, or to get some info. I try not to read or respond to the posts about the same old tired arguments. I try not to get sucked into the muck. If I feel myself get fired up, I try to walk away from the computer, rather than pointlessly argue about issues that have more than one "right" and "wrong".
Life is too short to spend your life in front of a computer, and it is truly ridiculous and sad when people are condescending and rude to people they don't even know. I love this site, but I couldn't take a steady diet of it, so to speak <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> We are all affected by cf, and we all have something to offer, but that doesn't mean I'd invite everyone over for a slumber party.
 
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greatbay

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Shoshanna.....I completely agree with both of your posts. Some of the treads on a particular subject seem like I am back listening to my kids and their friends squabble over something. I just want to keep posting the words: "ENOUGH already!! GROW UP!!!"

AND, I also believe if this site was so welcoming the last thing someone wants to read is:

"If you can't accept the fact that this is the way things work, then perhaps it is best if you go elsewhere." posted by Emily65Roses.

ALSO to Emily65Roses, your post was not too offending until the next to your last sentence: "It's just that we don't frickin know you. Simple as that." Why was the substitute for an obsenity necessary!?!

This site does support people who are down most of the time but IF you have done something that others think is not right, stupid/dumb or different from the norm and are looking for support to pick you up....forget it...people here can tear you apart for creating your own situations that make you feel down or depressed and asking for help.

People here can be direct, to the point in such a manner that they appear to be being hurtful but I have come to look to these same people for advice because I know I will get factful, direct, short, precise info and that is afterall what I am after.
There are others who try to pacify or be a peacemaker when threads are going wild and sometimes I find I get more angry at them for that then if I would if they just said....STOP .

I do agree there is lots of good information on this site and I feel I have spoken to some great people but I must state that you do not read any of the hurtful, mean, etc. statements on the teenagers and young people forum and everyone has heard the statement, "kids are cruel" well they don't seem to be that way on this site, just the adults are!!!

I am sorry this posting is so long and I wish I had started this thread myself, as I have been thinking about all this stuff for weeks and I am thankful Shoshanna did as it got me off my butt to put my two cents in.
 
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greatbay

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Shoshanna.....I completely agree with both of your posts. Some of the treads on a particular subject seem like I am back listening to my kids and their friends squabble over something. I just want to keep posting the words: "ENOUGH already!! GROW UP!!!"

AND, I also believe if this site was so welcoming the last thing someone wants to read is:

"If you can't accept the fact that this is the way things work, then perhaps it is best if you go elsewhere." posted by Emily65Roses.

ALSO to Emily65Roses, your post was not too offending until the next to your last sentence: "It's just that we don't frickin know you. Simple as that." Why was the substitute for an obsenity necessary!?!

This site does support people who are down most of the time but IF you have done something that others think is not right, stupid/dumb or different from the norm and are looking for support to pick you up....forget it...people here can tear you apart for creating your own situations that make you feel down or depressed and asking for help.

People here can be direct, to the point in such a manner that they appear to be being hurtful but I have come to look to these same people for advice because I know I will get factful, direct, short, precise info and that is afterall what I am after.
There are others who try to pacify or be a peacemaker when threads are going wild and sometimes I find I get more angry at them for that then if I would if they just said....STOP .

I do agree there is lots of good information on this site and I feel I have spoken to some great people but I must state that you do not read any of the hurtful, mean, etc. statements on the teenagers and young people forum and everyone has heard the statement, "kids are cruel" well they don't seem to be that way on this site, just the adults are!!!

I am sorry this posting is so long and I wish I had started this thread myself, as I have been thinking about all this stuff for weeks and I am thankful Shoshanna did as it got me off my butt to put my two cents in.
 
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greatbay

New member
Shoshanna.....I completely agree with both of your posts. Some of the treads on a particular subject seem like I am back listening to my kids and their friends squabble over something. I just want to keep posting the words: "ENOUGH already!! GROW UP!!!"

AND, I also believe if this site was so welcoming the last thing someone wants to read is:

"If you can't accept the fact that this is the way things work, then perhaps it is best if you go elsewhere." posted by Emily65Roses.

ALSO to Emily65Roses, your post was not too offending until the next to your last sentence: "It's just that we don't frickin know you. Simple as that." Why was the substitute for an obsenity necessary!?!

This site does support people who are down most of the time but IF you have done something that others think is not right, stupid/dumb or different from the norm and are looking for support to pick you up....forget it...people here can tear you apart for creating your own situations that make you feel down or depressed and asking for help.

People here can be direct, to the point in such a manner that they appear to be being hurtful but I have come to look to these same people for advice because I know I will get factful, direct, short, precise info and that is afterall what I am after.
There are others who try to pacify or be a peacemaker when threads are going wild and sometimes I find I get more angry at them for that then if I would if they just said....STOP .

I do agree there is lots of good information on this site and I feel I have spoken to some great people but I must state that you do not read any of the hurtful, mean, etc. statements on the teenagers and young people forum and everyone has heard the statement, "kids are cruel" well they don't seem to be that way on this site, just the adults are!!!

I am sorry this posting is so long and I wish I had started this thread myself, as I have been thinking about all this stuff for weeks and I am thankful Shoshanna did as it got me off my butt to put my two cents in.
 
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greatbay

New member
Shoshanna.....I completely agree with both of your posts. Some of the treads on a particular subject seem like I am back listening to my kids and their friends squabble over something. I just want to keep posting the words: "ENOUGH already!! GROW UP!!!"

AND, I also believe if this site was so welcoming the last thing someone wants to read is:

"If you can't accept the fact that this is the way things work, then perhaps it is best if you go elsewhere." posted by Emily65Roses.

ALSO to Emily65Roses, your post was not too offending until the next to your last sentence: "It's just that we don't frickin know you. Simple as that." Why was the substitute for an obsenity necessary!?!

This site does support people who are down most of the time but IF you have done something that others think is not right, stupid/dumb or different from the norm and are looking for support to pick you up....forget it...people here can tear you apart for creating your own situations that make you feel down or depressed and asking for help.

People here can be direct, to the point in such a manner that they appear to be being hurtful but I have come to look to these same people for advice because I know I will get factful, direct, short, precise info and that is afterall what I am after.
There are others who try to pacify or be a peacemaker when threads are going wild and sometimes I find I get more angry at them for that then if I would if they just said....STOP .

I do agree there is lots of good information on this site and I feel I have spoken to some great people but I must state that you do not read any of the hurtful, mean, etc. statements on the teenagers and young people forum and everyone has heard the statement, "kids are cruel" well they don't seem to be that way on this site, just the adults are!!!

I am sorry this posting is so long and I wish I had started this thread myself, as I have been thinking about all this stuff for weeks and I am thankful Shoshanna did as it got me off my butt to put my two cents in.
 
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greatbay

New member
Shoshanna.....I completely agree with both of your posts. Some of the treads on a particular subject seem like I am back listening to my kids and their friends squabble over something. I just want to keep posting the words: "ENOUGH already!! GROW UP!!!"

AND, I also believe if this site was so welcoming the last thing someone wants to read is:

"If you can't accept the fact that this is the way things work, then perhaps it is best if you go elsewhere." posted by Emily65Roses.

ALSO to Emily65Roses, your post was not too offending until the next to your last sentence: "It's just that we don't frickin know you. Simple as that." Why was the substitute for an obsenity necessary!?!

This site does support people who are down most of the time but IF you have done something that others think is not right, stupid/dumb or different from the norm and are looking for support to pick you up....forget it...people here can tear you apart for creating your own situations that make you feel down or depressed and asking for help.

People here can be direct, to the point in such a manner that they appear to be being hurtful but I have come to look to these same people for advice because I know I will get factful, direct, short, precise info and that is afterall what I am after.
There are others who try to pacify or be a peacemaker when threads are going wild and sometimes I find I get more angry at them for that then if I would if they just said....STOP .

I do agree there is lots of good information on this site and I feel I have spoken to some great people but I must state that you do not read any of the hurtful, mean, etc. statements on the teenagers and young people forum and everyone has heard the statement, "kids are cruel" well they don't seem to be that way on this site, just the adults are!!!

I am sorry this posting is so long and I wish I had started this thread myself, as I have been thinking about all this stuff for weeks and I am thankful Shoshanna did as it got me off my butt to put my two cents in.
 
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greatbay

New member
Shoshanna.....I completely agree with both of your posts. Some of the treads on a particular subject seem like I am back listening to my kids and their friends squabble over something. I just want to keep posting the words: "ENOUGH already!! GROW UP!!!"

AND, I also believe if this site was so welcoming the last thing someone wants to read is:

"If you can't accept the fact that this is the way things work, then perhaps it is best if you go elsewhere." posted by Emily65Roses.

ALSO to Emily65Roses, your post was not too offending until the next to your last sentence: "It's just that we don't frickin know you. Simple as that." Why was the substitute for an obsenity necessary!?!

This site does support people who are down most of the time but IF you have done something that others think is not right, stupid/dumb or different from the norm and are looking for support to pick you up....forget it...people here can tear you apart for creating your own situations that make you feel down or depressed and asking for help.

People here can be direct, to the point in such a manner that they appear to be being hurtful but I have come to look to these same people for advice because I know I will get factful, direct, short, precise info and that is afterall what I am after.
There are others who try to pacify or be a peacemaker when threads are going wild and sometimes I find I get more angry at them for that then if I would if they just said....STOP .

I do agree there is lots of good information on this site and I feel I have spoken to some great people but I must state that you do not read any of the hurtful, mean, etc. statements on the teenagers and young people forum and everyone has heard the statement, "kids are cruel" well they don't seem to be that way on this site, just the adults are!!!

I am sorry this posting is so long and I wish I had started this thread myself, as I have been thinking about all this stuff for weeks and I am thankful Shoshanna did as it got me off my butt to put my two cents in.
 
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NoExcuses

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Shoshanna</b></i>
Even the CF Idol posting was all about making it clear on this site who is liked/looked up to and, by default, who isn't. Call it by any other name, but it really was a popularity contest.


</end quote></div>


This comment goes to show that you just can't please everyone.

That thread was started to celebrate everyone's great qualities.

No matter what you post, there's always going to be someone who is going to twist it around and get offended.



<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote> When Jen threw up mucus and was sent to the hospital (by the way, I throw up mucus everyday and have been for 2 years now), everyone was in an uproar to help her. </end quote></div>

I know the girl personally, and she offers a ton of support to many people on this site. Like Emily said, she interacts with a ton of people (in chat, on the phone, through emails). So if you know people on that personal of a level, you're going to comment.
 
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NoExcuses

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Shoshanna</b></i>
Even the CF Idol posting was all about making it clear on this site who is liked/looked up to and, by default, who isn't. Call it by any other name, but it really was a popularity contest.


</end quote></div>


This comment goes to show that you just can't please everyone.

That thread was started to celebrate everyone's great qualities.

No matter what you post, there's always going to be someone who is going to twist it around and get offended.



<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote> When Jen threw up mucus and was sent to the hospital (by the way, I throw up mucus everyday and have been for 2 years now), everyone was in an uproar to help her. </end quote></div>

I know the girl personally, and she offers a ton of support to many people on this site. Like Emily said, she interacts with a ton of people (in chat, on the phone, through emails). So if you know people on that personal of a level, you're going to comment.
 
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NoExcuses

New member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Shoshanna</b></i>
Even the CF Idol posting was all about making it clear on this site who is liked/looked up to and, by default, who isn't. Call it by any other name, but it really was a popularity contest.


</end quote></div>


This comment goes to show that you just can't please everyone.

That thread was started to celebrate everyone's great qualities.

No matter what you post, there's always going to be someone who is going to twist it around and get offended.



<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote> When Jen threw up mucus and was sent to the hospital (by the way, I throw up mucus everyday and have been for 2 years now), everyone was in an uproar to help her. </end quote></div>

I know the girl personally, and she offers a ton of support to many people on this site. Like Emily said, she interacts with a ton of people (in chat, on the phone, through emails). So if you know people on that personal of a level, you're going to comment.
 
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NoExcuses

New member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Shoshanna</b></i>
Even the CF Idol posting was all about making it clear on this site who is liked/looked up to and, by default, who isn't. Call it by any other name, but it really was a popularity contest.


</end quote></div>


This comment goes to show that you just can't please everyone.

That thread was started to celebrate everyone's great qualities.

No matter what you post, there's always going to be someone who is going to twist it around and get offended.



<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote> When Jen threw up mucus and was sent to the hospital (by the way, I throw up mucus everyday and have been for 2 years now), everyone was in an uproar to help her. </end quote></div>

I know the girl personally, and she offers a ton of support to many people on this site. Like Emily said, she interacts with a ton of people (in chat, on the phone, through emails). So if you know people on that personal of a level, you're going to comment.
 
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NoExcuses

New member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Shoshanna</b></i>
Even the CF Idol posting was all about making it clear on this site who is liked/looked up to and, by default, who isn't. Call it by any other name, but it really was a popularity contest.


</end quote>


This comment goes to show that you just can't please everyone.

That thread was started to celebrate everyone's great qualities.

No matter what you post, there's always going to be someone who is going to twist it around and get offended.



<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote> When Jen threw up mucus and was sent to the hospital (by the way, I throw up mucus everyday and have been for 2 years now), everyone was in an uproar to help her. </end quote>

I know the girl personally, and she offers a ton of support to many people on this site. Like Emily said, she interacts with a ton of people (in chat, on the phone, through emails). So if you know people on that personal of a level, you're going to comment.
 
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NoExcuses

New member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Shoshanna</b></i>
Even the CF Idol posting was all about making it clear on this site who is liked/looked up to and, by default, who isn't. Call it by any other name, but it really was a popularity contest.


</end quote>


This comment goes to show that you just can't please everyone.

That thread was started to celebrate everyone's great qualities.

No matter what you post, there's always going to be someone who is going to twist it around and get offended.



<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote> When Jen threw up mucus and was sent to the hospital (by the way, I throw up mucus everyday and have been for 2 years now), everyone was in an uproar to help her. </end quote>

I know the girl personally, and she offers a ton of support to many people on this site. Like Emily said, she interacts with a ton of people (in chat, on the phone, through emails). So if you know people on that personal of a level, you're going to comment.
 
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