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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Mommy2Alysa</b></i>
Okay I can understand taht but how would you feel if your parents had another child after you, knowing you had CF when they got pregnant, and used EVERY precaution they could to make sure their next baby wasnt sick like you... wouldnt that make you feel like, for lack of a better term, an outsider? I just upset and frustrated that people are giving up hope they may find a cure someday.
Anyway I have had enough of this particular forum, it's a touchy subject for everyone and I have gotten myself upset and now I feel like my girls will grow up hating me.
Good luck to everyone and their decisions :0)</end quote></div>
As a CFer who has a non-CFer sibling, I don't feel like an outsider. Everyone has their own issues, medical, emotional, etc. I don't feel like an outsider because I know I am a loved member of my family.
Also, I don't hate my parents. There have been times when I have felt like a burden to them, but that was my own negativity talking, not theirs.
True story:
When I was little and I did something that would make my dad say "oh Bobber," (his nickname for me) "what are we going to do with you?" I would say "Um...throw me in the trash can?" Dad always said "We don't throw little girls in the trash can, no matter what. We love them too much." He'd give me a big hug that reassured me and let me know that although the trash can scenario was silly, still he wanted me to know that no matter what, I was NEVER unworthy or "trash" of any type.
I can honestly say that there has never been a single day when I have been jealous of my sister for not having CF. I'm pretty certain that she doesn't "feel sorry for me" for having CF. We are sisters. We have some genetic material in common, but above all, we're family. And quite an awesome one at that.
Okay I can understand taht but how would you feel if your parents had another child after you, knowing you had CF when they got pregnant, and used EVERY precaution they could to make sure their next baby wasnt sick like you... wouldnt that make you feel like, for lack of a better term, an outsider? I just upset and frustrated that people are giving up hope they may find a cure someday.
Anyway I have had enough of this particular forum, it's a touchy subject for everyone and I have gotten myself upset and now I feel like my girls will grow up hating me.
Good luck to everyone and their decisions :0)</end quote></div>
As a CFer who has a non-CFer sibling, I don't feel like an outsider. Everyone has their own issues, medical, emotional, etc. I don't feel like an outsider because I know I am a loved member of my family.
Also, I don't hate my parents. There have been times when I have felt like a burden to them, but that was my own negativity talking, not theirs.
True story:
When I was little and I did something that would make my dad say "oh Bobber," (his nickname for me) "what are we going to do with you?" I would say "Um...throw me in the trash can?" Dad always said "We don't throw little girls in the trash can, no matter what. We love them too much." He'd give me a big hug that reassured me and let me know that although the trash can scenario was silly, still he wanted me to know that no matter what, I was NEVER unworthy or "trash" of any type.
I can honestly say that there has never been a single day when I have been jealous of my sister for not having CF. I'm pretty certain that she doesn't "feel sorry for me" for having CF. We are sisters. We have some genetic material in common, but above all, we're family. And quite an awesome one at that.